Request you haven't made to a provider or client

[jackcali]

I have a suggestion for the OP or for others who don't "know what they want".  I think that really think means more that you haven't come into the session with a planned scenario to direct or stage-manage and you're not sure how to get started.  My suggestion is to start with kissing (if you're into kissing, of course).  That's how most (of my, anyway) unpaid encounters have begun.  Better from my perspective to start kissing before the clothes come off, as undressing while kissing is exciting for me.  Then, once you're past the "how do we start" speed bump, if the kissing revs your engine), your desires for what happens next will make themselves apparent to you.  THEN you can direct where things go, even if that's to tell the escort to take charge from there. 

[Nikba]

On 11/14/2025 at 3:29 AM, MscleLovr said:

I enjoy giving a light spanking before topping, especially if it’s to a muscleboy with a bubble-butt.

I love getting my cock worshipped fully but initially I had a provider who didn’t like the taste of cum. So I had to concentrate on pulling out before climax. It was very frustrating for me.

So on later hirings, I decided to speak about it in advance. I simply related how I wanted to get oral to completion, and not have to worry about pulling out. I offered some flexibility by saying I didn’t care if a guy swallowed my load or not. 

Luckily I met a couple of muscleboys who were skilled oralists. Each of them told me they enjoyed pleasing a top by swallowing loads. 

It is so endearing when the guy showing a mouthful of cum before swallowing it.  

[Nightowl]

12 hours ago, Simon Suraci said:

I want you all here to know you can ask ME for anything. I won’t judge you.

I’m going to remember this if I get a chance to see you when you’re in my area!

[Wings246]

On 11/18/2025 at 7:00 PM, purplekow said:

It is unfair to expect the escort to guess what is going to work for you as he has lots of clients with lots of different preferences.

 

On 11/18/2025 at 7:02 PM, Simon Suraci said:

asking for things ahead helps us make sure we can do what you want us to do. We can’t read minds, and we don’t want to disappoint you.

I am fully aware that my I-don’t-know response is childish, unproductive, and toxic.  Thank you to @purplekow, @Simon Suraci, and @jackcali for your suggestions.  I will keep them in mind and be a more responsible person in the future.

Ironically though, it seems like all of the providers that I have met understand me way better than I understand myself.  They can deliver & perform miraculously without any explicit directions from me.  Regardless, I do see why I need to be more vocal.  Some of the ideas in this thread, albeit wild, are rather tantalizing.