One of My Go-To Masseurs Added Me on Facebook

[MsgFantasy]

He’s a masseur I’ve been going to for years, but lately I’ve been frequenting another one, lol.

I learned his real name years ago, and his Facebook account has always been on my radar, but I’ve always called him by his masseur name, so I wasn’t even sure if he remembered that I knew his real name…

I know he’s very liberal, and I’m more centrist like Bill Maher, so I had to delete a few recent posts before confirming him, which is the reason why I never added him, but I guess I should feel a little flattered that he wants to have a relationship beyond masseur-and-client.

[big-n-tall]

I’m not on facebook but doesn’t it add/follow people automatically if there is some shared information… i.e. phone numbers… facial recognition via pictures?

I know there have been posts on the forum about various social media accounts adding providers against the clients wishes.

Edited November 4 by big-n-tall

[mike carey]

Did he 'add you' on FB, something that I'm not sure you can do unilaterally, or a) did he ask you to friend him, or b) did FB suggest him as a friend?

[starman05]

there are ways you can unfriend someone without blocking them.

It's tempting to follow someone I've been naked in front of, but it could backfire. 

 

[MsgFantasy]

On 11/3/2025 at 8:59 PM, mike carey said:

Did he 'add you' on FB, something that I'm not sure you can do unilaterally, or a) did he ask you to friend him, or b) did FB suggest him as a friend?

He added me without asking, and I eventually confirmed it. He’s been suggested to me by Facebook, but I never added him; he probably added me because I was suggested to him.

Edited Wednesday at 07:50 PM by MsgFantasy

[+ azdr0710]

Reconfirmation that I'm glad I never joined FB. All this melodrama!  Yes, I do know it has some advantages and I miss out on what some friends are doing. 

[Nightowl]

Being friends on FB with a provider would probably change my relationship with them.  I like that the only things we know about each other are the things we do and talk about when we’re together.  

[jeezifonly]

Once you accept them as a FBFriend, then RL friends, family and coworkers might see your interactions. And wouldn't you be surprised if some mutuals popped up? 

[MsgFantasy]

31 minutes ago, jeezifonly said:

Once you accept them as a FBFriend, then RL friends, family and coworkers might see your interactions. And wouldn't you be surprised if some mutuals popped up? 

I think what I forgot to mention was that I barely use Facebook anymore: I added most people on there during college plus a few years after that in S.F. Bay Area, and I graduated in 2011. I have no family on Facebook at all, and I now live in L.A. All the stuff I ever post on there nowadays are duplicates from Instagram, which I do use, so I was glad he didn’t request to follow me there.

So far, he only liked one of my photos; I may like his photos there, but that as much interaction I plan to have with him on Facebook, lol.

Edited Thursday at 04:17 AM by MsgFantasy

[+ JamesB]