How do I gay/queer?

[hotsaw0666]

I'm queer. I'm happy about it. I'm new and guess what? Other than the physical which is amazing,I don't have a clue. I am having no success turning heads or making friends etc. I don't know how to gay and I wonder if I should ever even fuck or suck cock or want to femme it up or mingle with the colorful crowd etc. Maybe I just go no human contact period?

[Luv2play]

My advice is just be yourself. And welcome to the forum. 

[hotsaw0666]

Thanks but ya OK fine. Being myself isn't working. I mean don't get me wrong the college guy dick has been unforgettable and amazing if only a handful. The trans nurse in Seattle who brought me in her home as a revenge night xxxxx daughter smoke pNp and fuck while moms out of town was unforgettable and I'm getting better at giving head and want to show off in porn. But I still have cis male writing all over me. I want to scream I'm queer and colorful and meet lots of colorful queer people all day etc. I know I'm a cry baby right

Edit: no discussion of minors

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[MscleLovr]

First, welcome.

Second, it sounds as if you’re newly ‘out’. I don’t know where you’re based (Seattle?) but I feel you should join a social group or join in an activity that appeals so that you mix with other gay men and make friends.

Last, gratuitous advice I know, but I don’t know your occupation or profession. You want to bear in mind that online photos can always be discovered. So if you post your pics online or send them to other men, you may want to obscure/pixilate your face first.

Edited July 16 by MscleLovr

[hotsaw0666]

Thank you. As far as my pictures go I don't really sweat it. For one it gets me off knowing millions could see me. For two when I'm not on my knees gagging on a sloppy wet deep throat getting my sissy cock slut on,I'm kinda a bad ass logger,cowboy, bar room back alley back yard back 40 back woods brawling ass borderline psychopath when the shit hits the fan. Especially if the shit involves heterosexual white males or any guy or guys who wants to verbally or physically assault an already marginalized or targeted demographic. So I kind of put myself public in a way hoping if there is a threat nearby I'll draw them out. From the get go that idea was one that kept coming to mind as a place to fit in. Because 40 something ultra masculine cis til now white guy has their work cut out as far as not projection themselves as a threat by proxy. Which brings us back to your inquiry. Number one and two largest factors are I am very likely to be met with suspicious eyes and minds by a very finite and cautious fraternity or group. And I can't do that. I can't be a source of negative emotions just because I had to wait until almost 50 to wake up. Also I'm hyper sexual times 1000 since age 7. Everyone I've ever in my life had been met with the eye test and would I fuck them or not? And it hasn't stopped with age. In fact it's exponentially expanded now that not only am I eye testing the women in the room  but also every male. Add on to that sexy smile trans women abound now,femmboy is in and the aesthetic is fuckin powerful plus college boys are usually always gorgeous with endowment for the depth of pleasure and of course about a gazillion other micro climates of the male human sex appeal. It's fuckin busy in Gay town and I don't know where to start or if I should just say fuckin give up go straight and back to snatch?

[hotsaw0666]

Truth please.  Do gay men find me desirable? Am I attractive to sexy beautiful colorful queer guys? Or am I a lost cause?

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

23 hours ago, hotsaw0666 said:

I wonder if I should ever even fuck or suck cock

 

23 hours ago, hotsaw0666 said:

Maybe I just go no human contact period?

That's something only you can figure out.  If cock interests you, but you don't have any friends as you say, then find a man to hire.  You've come to the right place to find info on that!

22 minutes ago, hotsaw0666 said:

Do gay men find me desirable?

When you hire a man, he'll find your money desirable.  No need to sweat about self-imposed labels.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

On 7/16/2025 at 8:06 PM, hotsaw0666 said:

Truth please.  Do gay men find me desirable? Am I attractive to sexy beautiful colorful queer guys? Or am I a lost cause?

Overall, I think you're an attractive guy. That said, I feel like you have to pick a lane. In photos you're giving a pretty masculine aura, but then you have a pink bra on. Sissies, feminine dress, etc., is a definite niche that some gay men love. But it is a niche and not broadly popular.

I recommend that you explore what makes YOU feel the most desirable or sexually powerful. Because that will make you attractive to the people who want what you authentically are. If you adopt a persona because you think it's cool now, it will likely read as phony, and that's not attractive.