Improved Performance over time

[MuscleDaddyRWC]

5 hours ago, jmichaeliii said:

This sounds so familiar.  Are you from the Philly area?

Nope.  West Coast.

[ShortCutie7]

9 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

You wouldn't know until you meet them.

There's definitley a difference between the way most bisexual men approach their sex life than that of men who are long-term active members of the gay community.  Just look at Grindr. Nobody even bothers to share a name, know anything about you or ever see you again after you share a load of semen inside each other. I am not saying there's anything wrong with this kind of behavior ..I've certainly indulged in it myself...but..I DO notice that many gay men have ZERO interest in socializing within their ring of sexual conquests. While anyone whos truly bisexual, knows that this kind of quick-hook-up is virtually unobtainable with women, (outside the world of escorts). So we (in MY opinion) tend to normalize socializing and sex as going hand-in-hand, while many gay men normalize ANONYMOUS sex as the gold standard.

It’s funny, I’m a 100% gay millennial and am not generally a social person (and don”t date), but I do prefer to connect with hookups beyond sexually and am now friends on Facebook with both of the hookups I had the best chemistry with.

[marylander1940]

1 minute ago, ShortCutie7 said:

It’s funny, I’m a 100% gay millennial and am not generally a social person (and don”t date), but I do prefer to connect with hookups beyond sexually and am now friends on Facebook with both of the hookups I had the best chemistry with.

Many young guys nowadays are into friends with benefits. Pretty much everyone I know is in an open relationship now that having sex without a condom is no longer playing Russian roulette.

 

I'm not trying to drag this into another subject but considering your age, have you ever thought about escorting?

[ShortCutie7]

41 minutes ago, marylander1940 said:

Many young guys nowadays are into friends with benefits. Pretty much everyone I know is in an open relationship now that having sex without a condom is no longer playing Russian roulette.

 

I'm not trying to drag this into another subject but considering your age, have you ever thought about escorting?

I’m frankly not hot enough to escort, and even if I were, I would be terrible at it because of my fear of STIs, lack of sexual experience/skill, and general prudence… but yes, I have absolutely thought about it in a “what if” context.

[+ DrownedBoy]

11 hours ago, ShortCutie7 said:

It’s funny, I’m a 100% gay millennial and am not generally a social person (and don”t date), but I do prefer to connect with hookups beyond sexually and am now friends on Facebook with both of the hookups I had the best chemistry with.

Older millennial, but yeah, that's been my experience too. I also prefer the cuddling and conversation during hookups and sessions. And it's common to end up FaceBook friends even if you don't become FWB.

The key word here is "listen". Anyone who doesn't let their partner talk, and at least get to know them, is not going to have good experiences. It works both ways, and if you just kick the guy out of the bed after sex, you're not going to make any friends. This applies to Grindr as well as providers, although there are always people you're not going to click with no matter what.

Edited May 26 by DrownedBoy

[Rod Hagen]

One smart tactic in finding a long term escort who stays excited to see you, pick those who smile and laugh a lot in the first few sessions.  Enthusiasm over sullenness (even a sexy sullenness) will serve you well in the long run.

[Rod Hagen]

One smart tactic in finding a long term escort who stays excited to see you, pick those who smile and laugh a lot in the first few sessions.  Enthusiasm over sullenness (even a sexy sullenness) will serve you well in the long run.

[Whippoorwill]

Who hasn’t had a fabulous hairdresser who was fabulous…until he wasn’t? Same with providers. I am a two-boy guy. If I try a provider who is fabulous, I repeat in a couple of weeks, introducing him into the rotation. They generally keep getting more and more fabulous until they don’t. Then I can do something different to try to reintroduce the spark that was there at first, or move on to the next hottie I have been wanting to try. My experience has been good…several years of good times before it goes stale. But isn’t that one of the virtues of our hobby? If I wanted to have forever I could have sex with my husband…but we are both too bored with that. 

[dbar123]

I had to ditch a provider I’d been seeing nonroutinely over the past 5 years. He had been becoming more and more lackluster and I felt I was being taken for granted. It’s not the people you fire that make you nuts, it’s the people you don’t fire. 

[+ Alabastrine]

On 5/26/2025 at 10:57 AM, Rod Hagen said:

One smart tactic in finding a long term escort who stays excited to see you, pick those who smile and laugh a lot in the first few sessions.  Enthusiasm over sullenness (even a sexy sullenness) will serve you well in the long run.

I had reached out to reviewers on RM on a provider I was interested in, and their feedback about him (enthusiasm/personality) is what convinced me to book, so I hope I was on the right track with finding a good provider. The date is upcoming but I'm really hopeful things go well. 

Edited June 9 by Alabastrine

[+ ApexNomad]

58 minutes ago, Alabastrine said:

I had reached out to reviewers on RM on a provider I was interested in, and their feedback about him (enthusiasm/personality) is what convinced me to book, so I hope I was on the right track with finding a good provider. The date is upcoming but I'm really hopeful things go well. 

Good luck!!

[viewing ownly]

I fully agree with p_a's comment that if the introductory experience is mind-blowing, I'll likely never see that provider again. There's no way that an encore could be better.

I do stop seeing men when the sensuality takes a nose-dive. I'm taken aback and frustrated that the engagement with me is being reduced, likely because they're saving real fun for someone after me. Sometimes middle-of-the-day is all they or I could do, so that's simply unfortunate circumstance. 

As for things improving over time, I have fond memories from when I first started, and it's amusing to think back on them - "OMG this stud is entirely naked, I can't believe I'm deep between his cheeks, I've never had a guy jerk me and him off simultaneously!, etc.. Doing more and more as they know I've become a regular and the (because it's paid) enjoyment they get out of me is reason to return time and time again. 

[Bokomaru]

There’s a reason “demisexual” and “sapiosexual” commonly pop up on Grindr profiles these days. While anon sex might still be the gold standard for hooking up, many guys are tired of it and want a deeper connection, even for casual encounters. 
 

[Thelatin]

This has happened to me on quite a few occasions.  All of a sudden I get switched over to the boyfriend experience without me knowing lol.  It's very rare for me to see anyone that doesn't end up on my whatsapp chatting daily.  Which I enjoy, but it does change the dynamic.  

 

Most recently at the end of the night I was hit up for double the amount because of the time we spent together.  Hanging out, some food, drinks etc.  Previously he never counted this time.  He had some liquor in him and was pretty dramatic about it - I didn't argue, was polite and paid.  I did ask if he was sure and didn't want to just message me the next day.

 

I'm not sure how to handle the next visit as I do enjoy his company.  But I'm perfectly capable of eating at the bar and chatting with random folks.