Scheduling - profile visits

[Andysquestions]

Does anyone have any suggestions for another way to check schedules without visiting a profile? I often check back at providers I’ve put on my RM Buddy list to see if and when they are coming to my area, before they get to town so I can adjust my schedule. The problem is that I’m afraid I’ll eventually look like a stalker, because I’m visiting their profile once a month. 
 

One provider reached out and told me he was coming to town, which totally impressed me. But others I don’t know about until they are here, and I can’t adjust to see them. Not everyone is proactive with their calendars.

What are your thoughts?

[mike carey]

On your RM dashboard there's an option that hides the fact that you have viewed escorts' profiles. Select that (as illustrated below from the laptop version of RM) and they won't know.

[Keenan]

I'd actually say quite the contrary.  If you are visiting a providers profile and they see it then it could show interest.  Rather than "lurk" let them know you have interest in them and you'd like to know when they are coming to your area.  

[Simon Suraci]

15 hours ago, Keenan said:

let them know you have interest in them and you'd like to know when they are coming to your area.

+1

I keep a long list of clients by city. Most of them I have seen at least once before. I proactively reach out ahead of my visits to alert them that I will be in their area, to give them priority booking.

Once in a great while a client will reach out doing what @Keenan described. I wish more clients would. Most of the time I am asking the client if they would like me to reach out to them ahead of visiting their area. Few clients say no.

[DznNYC]

On 2/26/2025 at 6:18 AM, Andysquestions said:

Does anyone have any suggestions for another way to check schedules without visiting a profile? I often check back at providers I’ve put on my RM Buddy list to see if and when they are coming to my area, before they get to town so I can adjust my schedule. The problem is that I’m afraid I’ll eventually look like a stalker, because I’m visiting their profile once a month. 
 

One provider reached out and told me he was coming to town, which totally impressed me. But others I don’t know about until they are here, and I can’t adjust to see them. Not everyone is proactive with their calendars.

What are your thoughts?

I would encourage you to never worry about ‘stalking’ escorts by visiting their page too often.  Speaking for myself, I’m happy to be ‘stalked’ in that way!  It shows that guys are interested in your profile.  

I tend to be proactive when it comes to profile visits.  If I see someone viewing my profile often - or if I see something in someone’s profile when they view me indicating I might be a good fit for them - I tend to reach out with a photo and say hi.  

Still navigating whether or not this is the best way to operate.  Not sure if guys are put off by it or if it comes across as too aggressive, but so far it’s yielded some excellent connections.  

But short answer:  This escort is happy to be stalked that way!  I wouldn’t give it a second thought. 

[+ Summerson]

14 hours ago, DamizzonNYC said:

I would encourage you to never worry about ‘stalking’ escorts by visiting their page too often.  Speaking for myself, I’m happy to be ‘stalked’ in that way!  It shows that guys are interested in your profile.  

I tend to be proactive when it comes to profile visits.  If I see someone viewing my profile often - or if I see something in someone’s profile when they view me indicating I might be a good fit for them - I tend to reach out with a photo and say hi.  

Still navigating whether or not this is the best way to operate.  Not sure if guys are put off by it or if it comes across as too aggressive, but so far it’s yielded some excellent connections.  

But short answer:  This escort is happy to be stalked that way!  I wouldn’t give it a second thought. 

I can only speak for myself as a client, but I like when an escort checks out my client profile on RM and then contacts me if he thinks we might be a good fit, whether I've looked at his ad or not. I've had a surprising number of providers do that and I always appreciate it. I've got a long list of things I enjoy as a client, some of which are on the kinkier side. I include at least some of those in my client profile.  It's been my experience that many providers are more discreet in their public lists of "Things They're Into" for reasons that absolutely make sense. Since I'm always wanting to respect their boundaries, I almost never ask unless they reach out to me first and open the conversation. Thankfully, many do and they've been some of my best hires. 

I know many clients feel absolutely the opposite about this. I know I'm probably not going to change and I doubt they will either. I guess it all comes down to which group is larger, is there a way to cater to both groups, and who tips better. 😂  As I was typing this, I realized I should probably review my RM client description and make sure it clearly states that I welcome first contact from those who like what they read.  

Edited February 28 by Summerson

[mike carey]

On 2/28/2025 at 2:02 AM, DamizzonNYC said:

I would encourage you to never worry about ‘stalking’ escorts by visiting their page too often.  Speaking for myself, I’m happy to be ‘stalked’ in that way!  It shows that guys are interested in your profile.  

I tend to be proactive when it comes to profile visits.  If I see someone viewing my profile often - or if I see something in someone’s profile when they view me indicating I might be a good fit for them - I tend to reach out with a photo and say hi. 

I sort of agree, but I'm sure there are escorts out there who see frequent visits as stalking, so as a client I'm careful.

Your response to profile visitors seems to me to be smart. If they weren't serious they'd likely disregard it but if they were interested they would most likely react positively. I know I wou ..... wait .... what have I just said .... ?

[italianboyph]

As others suggested you can go on your RM profile and have do not track so you can view them. Or you could also log out of your profile, search their profile, and look that way. 

[MikeBiDude]

17 minutes ago, italianboyph said:

As others suggested you can go on your RM profile and have do not track so you can view them. Or you could also log out of your profile, search their profile, and look that way. 

My default is “don’t show” my visits to a provider’s profile. But sometimes in a new city when I’m traveling I’ll turn that off for a bit and let the providers see I’m looking.