Why did providers / masseurs retire?

[Callas]

Why did they retire?

how many years do providers / masseurs stay in business until they retire?

do they still see some regulars after retiring?

 

thank you! reading a few comments about other members’ favorite / top ones retired has made me feel a bit worried — lots of providers / masseurs in NYC, but great ones can be counted by fingers…

 

[+ ApexNomad]

Because like most things in life… it’s time.

[Whippoorwill]

One of my favorites got his university degree (paid for by years of excellent work), has a new profession, and retired from massage. Happily, he still sees me and a few other regulars. 

Edited December 23, 2024 by Whippoorwill

[Storm4U]

I left the business when the things I liked about it no longer outweighed the things I disliked about it. The pros no longer outweighed the cons.

Edited December 23, 2024 by Storm4U

[Vin Marco]

[big-n-tall]

On 12/22/2024 at 2:09 AM, Callas said:

Why did they retire?

how many years do providers / masseurs stay in business until they retire?

do they still see some regulars after retiring?

 

thank you! reading a few comments about other members’ favorite / top ones retired has made me feel a bit worried — lots of providers / masseurs in NYC, but great ones can be counted by fingers…

 

They retire for various reasons.
Of the ones I have known/know who have, they retired because...
- they found love/a sugar daddy/etc.
- only did it for quick cash or make enough to put themselves through school.
- even though they love what they do they get worn out and want to do something else
- some just abruptly quit cold turkey and drop off the face of the earth
- some just feel it's time to retire.

The work span for each individual provider/masseur is up to that particular person. There is no set time frame.

Some retired providers/masseurs do see at least some of their regulars. While others, once retired, they will cut all their regulars off and move on to the next phase of their life/career. In my experience, I am in contact with a number of retired/semi-retired mostly providers and one masseur. My interactions with these guys varies. Some I've formed friendships with and talk to them on and off each year. Some I even go on trips together. Others I still get to hire on occasion.

The best you can hope for is that you meet a great provider/masseur and you get to see him regularly for more than a couple years. If more comes out if it... that's a huge bonus.

 

 

Edited December 24, 2024 by big-n-tall

[Callas]

Wow you guys have experience 👀

thank you  

[Simon Suraci]

On 12/23/2024 at 5:10 AM, Storm4U said:

I left the business when the things I liked about it no longer outweighed the things I disliked about it. The pros no longer outweighed the cons.

You get it! Some here could read this post, take it to heart, and escape their misery. Not everyone is so sensible, unfortunately.

[Callas]

4 hours ago, Simon Suraci said:

You get it! Some here could read this post, take it to heart, and escape their misery. Not everyone is so sensible, unfortunately.

I thought the majority of clients are nice and polite. At least for those i talked with

[Simon Suraci]

23 hours ago, Callas said:

I thought the majority of clients are nice and polite. At least for those i talked with

Maybe this was a misunderstanding. I was quoting a provider presumably, not a client. I agree, most clients are good people.

Providers should stay in business because they truly enjoy what they do, and leave the profession when it no longer suits them. When the negatives outweigh the positives, that’s certainly a strong reason to retire.

Clarification: by escape their misery, I simply meant leave the profession. Work doing something else for the right balance of positives to negatives to make it work for their life.

Edited December 25, 2024 by Simon Suraci
Clarification

[BuffaloKyle]

I've seen providers "retire" too if they build up enough of a regular client base and no longer need to attract new clients.

[BaronArtz]

On 12/23/2024 at 7:27 PM, big-n-tall said:

They retire for various reasons.
Of the ones I have known/know who have, they retired because...
- they found love/a sugar daddy/etc.
- only did it for quick cash or make enough to put themselves through school.
- even though they love what they do they get worn out and want to do something else
- some just abruptly quit cold turkey and drop off the face of the earth
- some just feel it's time to retire.

The work span for each individual provider/masseur is up to that particular person. There is no set time frame.

Some retired providers/masseurs do see at least some of their regulars. While others, once retired, they will cut all their regulars off and move on to the next phase of their life/career. In my experience, I am in contact with a number of retired/semi-retired mostly providers and one masseur. My interactions with these guys varies. Some I've formed friendships with and talk to them on and off each year. Some I even go on trips together. Others I still get to hire on occasion.

The best you can hope for is that you meet a great provider/masseur and you get to see him regularly for more than a couple years. If more comes out if it... that's a huge bonus.

 

 

I agree!

In addition, I have seen a few providers that had an escort and a massage ad, retire their escort and but keeping the massage ad.  When I asked them about it, they said that escorting was a whole different game they didn't want to deal with at least not with new clients.  

I had my very favorite masseur in NYC ask me to please not write a review on Rentmasseur or mention him on this forum.  He is happy with the clients he has and does not want to attract new clients.  I respect that request.  He is keeping his ad with his many positive reviews active 'just in 'case'.

[Vin Marco]

9 hours ago, BuffaloKyle said:

I've seen providers "retire" too if they build up enough of a regular client base and no longer need to attract new clients.

That's not exactly retired....  those providers you speak of are still working but not having to rely on the advertising sites, nor do they do anything they don't wanna do, they don't see anyone they don't truly want to see ( no more strangers) ....that level of operation is a luxury that borders opulence...

[+ JamesB]

On 12/23/2024 at 7:27 PM, big-n-tall said:

They retire for various reasons.
Of the ones I have known/know who have, they retired because...
- they found love/a sugar daddy/etc.
- only did it for quick cash or make enough to put themselves through school.
- even though they love what they do they get worn out and want to do something else
- some just abruptly quit cold turkey and drop off the face of the earth
- some just feel it's time to retire.

The work span for each individual provider/masseur is up to that particular person. There is no set time frame.

Some retired providers/masseurs do see at least some of their regulars. While others, once retired, they will cut all their regulars off and move on to the next phase of their life/career. In my experience, I am in contact with a number of retired/semi-retired mostly providers and one masseur. My interactions with these guys varies. Some I've formed friendships with and talk to them on and off each year. Some I even go on trips together. Others I still get to hire on occasion.

The best you can hope for is that you meet a great provider/masseur and you get to see him regularly for more than a couple years. If more comes out if it... that's a huge bonus.

 

 

 

I would add another reason: I know two providers who retired once they had raised enough money to start their own businesses. In both instances, that was their goal, and I must say, I was genuinely impressed by their discipline and commitment in achieving it.

[BuffaloKyle]

2 hours ago, Vin Marco said:

That's not exactly retired....  those providers you speak of are still working but not having to rely on the advertising sites, nor do they do anything they don't wanna do, they don't see anyone they don't truly want to see ( no more strangers) ....that level of operation is a luxury that borders opulence...

That's why I put retired in quotes. They are retired from advertising I guess.

[alrajee]

I am social media friends with two guys who I hired in the past. Both of them are retired.

One opened his own fitness center and fathered a child with his wife of a few years. The other finished school.

I still hang out with them on occasion. Nothing sexual. I don’t even bring my hiring history with them.

[Vin Marco]

3 hours ago, alrajee said:

I am social media friends with two guys who I hired in the past. Both of them are retired.

One opened his own fitness center and fathered a child with his wife of a few years. The other finished school.

I still hang out with them on occasion. Nothing sexual. I don’t even bring my hiring history with them.

I absolutely love everything you just shared... thank you for sharing. Not only do people love comeback stories but who doesn't love an awesome escort story with a real happy ending?? I've been doing it long enough to know the endings aren't always  pretty nor are they soft.  I applaud both lifers and the stepping stone folks. 
 

I know someone that in the the early 2000's who did it for MAYBE 1 to 1.5 years who was able to pay off his entire student loan and still had  a substantial and I mean substantial amount left over after the loan was paid off. He also ended up with a closet of sartorial excess that I tease him about ( shoes and cool watches; probably mostly gifts )  

By all accounts another success story,  no tragic ending. Someone who offered a service and met a lot of really good people in a rather short amount of time who kind of rode off into the sunset 🌅 😜🙌🏽👏🏽 
I love hearing about when people retire happy, achieved what they set out to do and "retired" truly retired from the biz on their terms ☺️

Edited December 27, 2024 by Vin Marco