Hiring an escort to meet out in public?

[pubic_assistance]

On 12/19/2024 at 9:45 PM, Starlight77 said:

Thank you.  And thank you for not being judgey like other commenters on this thread.  It's shocking to me on a forum where we discuss paying men for sex.  

Ask the question = get an answer. You don't want to be judged, then you could consider keeping your private life private. Once you share your thoughts you will get opinions that you may not like.

I don't judge people for how they run their sex life. But I do draw an ethical line at deliberately lying to people who you consider to be your friends.

Edited December 21, 2024 by pubic_assistance
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[Vin Marco]

I'd venture to say that a LARGE percentage of people here have had to not tell the truth about where they spent the last hour, 2 hours, night and weekend... I think we're dealing with a  tempest in a tea pot here and it's a FANTASY after all... it's not high treason or the ultimate betrayal ... let's remember that "nobody's perfect"

 

[Peter Eater]

14 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

I agree.  This is the last place someone should judge you.

But we have a contingent of people here who use the anonymous nature of this board to make themselves feel important by shitting on others.

You do you.  It's your time, your money.  

If it makes you happy, it can't be that bad.

 

Well, judgment has always been necessary for our survival to assess safety versus danger. (That’s how it’s being used here, regarding the relationship between the OP and his best friend.) It is impossible to stop judging.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

28 minutes ago, Peter Eater said:

Well, judgment has always been necessary for our survival to assess safety versus danger. (That’s how it’s being used here, regarding the relationship between the OP and his best friend.) It is impossible to stop judging.

You're using a strawman now.

Much of the judgement exhibited on this thread was not judgement for safety sake.  It was just mean girl shit.

That was the social judgement that has no place here. 

People know when they're being assholes.

Edited December 21, 2024 by BenjaminNicholas

[Peter Eater]

7 minutes ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

You're using a strawman now.

Much of the judgement exhibited on this thread was not judgement for safety sake.  It was just mean girl shit.

That was the social judgement that has no place here.  People know when they're being asshoels.

Nah. Even the OP expressed concern about his relationship with his best friend if he did the set-up. Try reading the “judgmental” replies again, and many (most?) refer to that.

[+ ThroatCummer]

I think the relationship between the OP and his best friend is pretty damned awesome based on all of the posts. They both want to help the other get what they need, and he has gone to gay bars to help out the OP.  

No need to pay an escort in this scenario really. He's already your best friend, you don't have to impress him. He loves you for who you are.

Now, take that money you would spend and figure something REALLY FUN to do with it.  

[nate_sf]

I've been the "dinner date" for guys a few times, where we've met with their friends but he did not disclose the nature of our relationship. We'd agree to a cover story. I don't think this is a hugely unusual scenario, probably happens more than one might imagine.

I'll admit these situations can be a bit weird, particularly the deceptive part. I know for the clients, they honestly want me to meet people they're close to, and I enjoy meeting them for sure, but I also wonder what those people are thinking of who this person (me) is and where did I really come from. Perhaps I'm just the latest guy to sit at the table, part of a long line of others before and after me 😉

I don't think those critical here are being judgy as much as they're just focusing on what happens if the best friend buddy finds out he's been deceived. I know when I've discovered when a friend has deceived me, it's put a damper on the relationship.

Could there be a scenario where the hiring was more out in the open, along the lines of the Big Bang Theory clip? Probably not, unless you guys are really good friends, and he wouldn't be put off by the idea of hiring a guy.

Another thought... impress your friend by approaching a guy you like in the bar and saying hello. For me, it's taken years to get the guts to do that myself... kinda like jumping into the chilly swimming pool, don't think about it, just dive in and do it.

[pubic_assistance]

3 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Much of the judgement exhibited on this thread was not judgement for safety sake.  It was just mean girl shit.

Was it ?

I think everyone said the same thing.

Don't lie to your friends.

Hardly "mean girl" territory.

[+ ThroatCummer]

The message might be the same but the delivery could have been better in some cases. 

[marylander1940]

On 12/19/2024 at 6:21 PM, afterfallhours1 said:

I've asked many providers this and 99% they would, I would just have to order their Uber. Plus you pay for the time they spend with you 

I would also suggest meeting them first so they know you are for real and not just someone jerking off while texting.

[GTMike]

On 12/19/2024 at 2:39 PM, Starlight77 said:

Has anyone hired a provider you already been with (I wouldn't do this with a new hire) to have them casually walk into  a bar that you are out with your friends and kind of stage a setup or role-play where he walks in to the bar and takes a seat next to you and "organically" start having a convo with him but its all planned out between you and him.   Then it escalates into becoming flirty with each other and hitting it off in front of your friends.   Ive been thinking about this when I go out with my straight friend and I'm his wingman getting him girls and he's hitting it off with them....I thought it might be kind of cool if he saw me hitting it off with some guy and taking him home with me....even if it's setup.   I'm just wondering how guilty I would feel lying to my best friend that it's not real and I'm paying the escort to do all that.     I hope this made sense.   

It does make sense to me and is understandable. It's not cringe.  Everyone's friendships and relationships are different and unique to each other.

For me I wouldn't do something like that for a variety of completely different and personal reasons. But with that said I know that in the moment and during the time my friend (and/or friend group) would be trying not to whoop and holler too much and would be fist pumping happily egging me on!  

Friends would be telling the essence of the story laughing joking for weeks, months, etc.. And in the future at hopefully some perfectly timed opportune moment, I'd come clean and tell them the goof was on him/them!

We'd all further keep giving each other shit like we always do, laugh about another funny story/situation and happily move on to collecting more funny life stories.

Years later i could hear them saying/laughing "remember that time when "GT Mike" was so desperate he hired someone! hahaha"

Don't get me wrong though! A different friend and friend group could be bummed that I thought i needed to do that. Their ultimate reaction would be to give advice and try and help find partners.

My point here is that something like that comes down to unique situations and personal dynamics.

Edited December 21, 2024 by GTMike
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[Guest]

I’ve actually done this more than once, usually a bath house or adult theater (Tokyo something in Atlanta was an amazing experience), and twice the ramble in Central Park.  There’s something about “landing” the hottest guy in the room in front of many watching eyes that is a huge turn on for me. In the ramble, while I’m on my knees sucking dick, one muthafucka tried aggressively pushing me out of the way. The escort kept repositioning so only I had access and finally I shoved the guy to get him to stop. lol. 
 

don’t be ashamed for having desires. Go get it! 

[Guest]

There’s also a cruisy rest area near my house, and more than once I’ve met grinder hook ups there. He pulls up, I pull up closely behind. We sit in our cars for a little bit, then get out in front of everyone sure to make a scene, walk into the woods and go have our fun. The other people waiting for someone to come to them don’t realize we’ve already set it up and instead it looks like we’re perverts that act really quickly. 
 

occasionally, I will get a text from some friend that was also cruising that he saw me takeoff into the woods and how lucky I am. These aren’t typically paid providers, but some of the regulars I play with from the apps.