The real reason why some may be block-trigger happy:

[TallMuscl37]

I'm addicted to blocking guys online... What does it mean about me? - Queerty

WWW.QUEERTY.COM

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Hi Jake, I’m 35 and haven’t had the best luck with dating, or hooking up for that matter. I grew up bullied a lot...

This is a follow up to another thread:

Which I felt ran its course…but I randomly been experiencing the same thing myself on the GoodWill app (aka Grindr 🚮). Of course I’ve also had it happen on my RM advertisements as well from clients. I don’t get phased by it but, it is perplexing and annoying for sure. Thats why I often try to move things away from online as soon as possible. You can spend days chatting here and there, and wind up blocked.
 

I find it especially common it seems from “certain type” (I won’t say who because it may be portrayed as race card-ish, and it isn’t just ONE that’s doing it) guys to do shit like that. To me it’s so immature. For adults to be on online platforms looking for pleasure, being unable to have the courtesy to speak their mind or say yes or no to something is just not good.

So yeah, anyone who feels blocking guys left and right, regardless of the platform or who’s side it’s coming from: should probably check themselves…into counseling 🤣 If someone can send me ass and dick pics or trade ass and dick pics and still block: that’s someone not being serious at all and is probably messy and grimy in how they go about their “fun” anyway. 

Edited October 23, 2024 by Jarrod_Uncut

[FaustOust]

38 minutes ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

I don’t get phased by it

*fazed

[+ DrownedBoy]

It's just technology making it easier.

I admit when I was muuuch younger, I got somewhat of a thrill telling off people who hit on me, but were too old or fat.

Like that guy in the article, an adolescence of bullying followed by jumping out of the closet will give anyone a big head. But you should outgrow it by 30....which many gay men don't.

[+ ApexNomad]

1 hour ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

I'm addicted to blocking guys online... What does it mean about me? - Queerty

WWW.QUEERTY.COM

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Hi Jake, I’m 35 and haven’t had the best luck with dating, or hooking up for that matter. I grew up bullied a lot...

This is a follow up to another thread:

Which I felt ran its course…but I randomly been experiencing the same thing myself on the GoodWill app (aka Grindr 🚮). Of course I’ve also had it happen on my RM advertisements as well from clients. I don’t get phased by it but, it is perplexing and annoying for sure. Thats why I often try to move things away from online as soon as possible. You can spend days chatting here and there, and wind up blocked.
 

I find it especially common it seems from “certain type” (I won’t say who because it may be portrayed as race card-ish, and it isn’t just ONE that’s doing it) guys to do shit like that. To me it’s so immature. For adults to be on online platforms looking for pleasure, being unable to have the courtesy to speak their mind or say yes or no to something is just not good.

So yeah, anyone who feels blocking guys left and right, regardless of the platform or who’s side it’s coming from: should probably check themselves…into counseling 🤣 If someone can send me ass and dick pics or trade ass and dick pics and still block: that’s someone not being serious at all and is probably messy and grimy in how they go about their “fun” anyway. 

When you mention a “certain type” of guys, are you referring to specific behaviors you’ve noticed on these platforms, or is there more to it?

[TallMuscl37]

11 hours ago, FaustOust said:

*fazed

Right…one of those their, there, they’re words that only come out properly when speaking 🙃 

10 hours ago, DrownedBoy said:

It's just technology making it easier.

I admit when I was muuuch younger, I got somewhat of a thrill telling off people who hit on me, but were too old or fat.

Like that guy in the article, an adolescence of bullying followed by jumping out of the closet will give anyone a big head. But you should outgrow it by 30....which many gay men don't.

 

Lord, tell me about it. I just had a deep conversation tonight with a gay friend of mine here in SoCal. I had to let him know: bruh, it was cute to talk about your sexual escapades and fantasies when you were 24/25: but above 35 going on 40? Keep that shit to yourself or the person you’re fucking…or channel it to an online forum unlike here, where other people are okay discussing that. I’m not the gay friend who wants to listen to someone talk about “my bussy is hungry”, but then want to act like they can’t have a friend’s with occasional benefits situation.
 

I told him it’s not relevant to know when was the last dick he sucked or how big the last guy he fucked is. I have my own sex life to mull over. And as it relates to blocking people, I’ve also told him many men in the gay lifestyle aren’t “just” looking for friends. They want some action. If they feel sex isn’t going to happen, they’re going to eventually block out of their life. I’ve seen it many times in dating situations myself. But there’s a segment of gay guys out there who feel they can be a tease “friend” to another gay guy, and they’re okay with it. 

Even if someone does hang out platonically with many other gay guys, 9/10 if it’s a “new” man in their life not connected to their circle, they’re meeting for the potential of getting some. And even though it sounds like it implies gays only want sex: it makes sense in ways because many guys especially older men: don’t want to waste time hanging with a dude they don’t know too well: who isn’t putting out at least sometimes. Not in my experience. Straight men are pretty much the same way around women and vice versa. Unless it’s a co-worker, long time friend with history, mutual friends etc. 

Sometimes it takes growing and experience to understand those things. But it’s also why I prefer client friendships at various times because, they understand *** is available when needed, and there’s non of that juvenile “friend zone” games to contend with. Hell, I know dudes who 95% of their friend circle is composed of guys they Fuck or have fucked around with. Not that I condone it for everyone, as it breeds drama, but it’s just the reality.
 

10 hours ago, ApexNomad said:

When you mention a “certain type” of guys, are you referring to specific behaviors you’ve noticed on these platforms, or is there more to it?

I was not wanting to say but since you asked, I’ll try to say: I find that certain “ethnic” (not Black) guys are the ones who seem to block the most on the “free” platforms. I had one, we were chatting back and forth thru the day trying to arrange a meet, he was from South America or something I think. Sounded like he was using translation, Blocked me. Had 2 guys in San Diego, think one was Middle Eastern recently trying to arrange a time: blocked me. Again, these weren’t clients: but just free time meetups. 
 

Many of them hit me up first, versus other way around. I don’t always like to initiate on the hookup platforms because I already know I’m not necessarily what the “majority” are looking for, but it’s more likely I get blocked at some point by reaching out to them first. 
 

But circling back to how it relates to the hiring world: I have found some RentMen users pulling similar stunts here and there. “User is inaccessible” after discussing booking details or trying to confirm a visit.

Edited October 24, 2024 by Jarrod_Uncut

[+ ApexNomad]

9 hours ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

Right…one of those their, there, they’re words that only come out properly when speaking 🙃 

 

Lord, tell me about it. I just had a deep conversation tonight with a gay friend of mine here in SoCal. I had to let him know: bruh, it was cute to talk about your sexual escapades and fantasies when you were 24/25: but above 35 going on 40? Keep that shit to yourself or the person you’re fucking…or channel it to an online forum unlike here, where other people are okay discussing that. I’m not the gay friend who wants to listen to someone talk about “my bussy is hungry”, but then want to act like they can’t have a friend’s with occasional benefits situation.
 

I told him it’s not relevant to know when was the last dick he sucked or how big the last guy he fucked is. I have my own sex life to mull over. And as it relates to blocking people, I’ve also told him many men in the gay lifestyle aren’t “just” looking for friends. They want some action. If they feel sex isn’t going to happen, they’re going to eventually block out of their life. I’ve seen it many times in dating situations myself. But there’s a segment of gay guys out there who feel they can be a tease “friend” to another gay guy, and they’re okay with it. 

Even if someone does hang out platonically with many other gay guys, 9/10 if it’s a “new” man in their life not connected to their circle, they’re meeting for the potential of getting some. And even though it sounds like it implies gays only want sex: it makes sense in ways because many guys especially older men: don’t want to waste time hanging with a dude they don’t know too well: who isn’t putting out at least sometimes. Not in my experience. Straight men are pretty much the same way around women and vice versa. Unless it’s a co-worker, long time friend with history, mutual friends etc. 

Sometimes it takes growing and experience to understand those things. But it’s also why I prefer client friendships at various times because, they understand *** is available when needed, and there’s non of that juvenile “friend zone” games to contend with. Hell, I know dudes who 95% of their friend circle is composed of guys they Fuck or have fucked around with. Not that I condone it for everyone, as it breeds drama, but it’s just the reality.
 

I was not wanting to say but since you asked, I’ll try to say: I find that certain “ethnic” (not Black) guys are the ones who seem to block the most on the “free” platforms. I had one, we were chatting back and forth thru the day trying to arrange a meet, he was from South America or something I think. Sounded like he was using translation, Blocked me. Had 2 guys in San Diego, think one was Middle Eastern recently trying to arrange a time: blocked me. Again, these weren’t clients: but just free time meetups. 
 

Many of them hit me up first, versus other way around. I don’t always like to initiate on the hookup platforms because I already know I’m not necessarily what the “majority” are looking for, but it’s more likely I get blocked at some point by reaching out to them first. 
 

But circling back to how it relates to the hiring world: I have found some RentMen users pulling similar stunts here and there. “User is inaccessible” after discussing booking details or trying to confirm a visit.

As an older man, I can say I’ve never crossed that line with my inner circle of friends, which includes both gay and straight guys. Even with men I’ve gone on dates with, we usually knew within about 10 minutes that it wasn’t going to lead to sex. Many of them have become friends—not my closest, but still good friends.

With the free platforms, it really is a jungle out there. I’d suggest lowering all expectations when it comes to those. I’m curious though, what do you think the “majority” of men are actually looking for? If you’re getting blocked, it feels like there’s little hope for the rest of us. To be blunt, you’re a tall top with a big dick—seems like that would please 95% of the bottoms out there!

[soloyo215]

I had never gotten a thrill by rejecting or telling people off, although I [definitely] do know how to do it when I feel that the situation merits it. I normally progress from polite no, to a firm no, to NO!, to... depending on the setting.

I know that my approach can be, and has been, a problem with predatory men who still seem to think that a polite no is flirting, but soon they find that it's not. I also make sure that my body language matches my words of rejection.

I do remember in the early days of social media, I learned about this couple who had in their profile: "We have rejected thousands of requests for friendship and access to our private pictures", as if that's supposed to be some kind of badge of honor. That made me change my profile to include "If you are one of those 'I'll block you if you are this, I'll block you if you like that' kind of people, do me a favor and block me. I have no time for your petty bullshit". Suddenly there were several profiles that "disappeared" (sure I was blocked), but there was also a noticeable increase in friends requests.

I never understand that thrill of publicly rejecting people. Not sure I want to understand it either.

[TallMuscl37]

12 hours ago, ApexNomad said:

As an older man, I can say I’ve never crossed that line with my inner circle of friends, which includes both gay and straight guys. Even with men I’ve gone on dates with, we usually knew within about 10 minutes that it wasn’t going to lead to sex. Many of them have become friends—not my closest, but still good friends.

With the free platforms, it really is a jungle out there. I’d suggest lowering all expectations when it comes to those. I’m curious though, what do you think the “majority” of men are actually looking for? If you’re getting blocked, it feels like there’s little hope for the rest of us. To be blunt, you’re a tall top with a big dick—seems like that would please 95% of the bottoms out there!

Thanks, I feel blushed ☺️ 

But otherwise: Key word, “we”. But when 1 person is open and the other is on the fence, that’s when it becomes an issue. However, I still feel that most every guy I meet that’s not an organic “meet at work/thru friends/kickball” is almost always looking for someone they can get it in with. I see the same thing with my friends. Every time they say, “I’m hanging out with a friend” and I’m not invited, I already know it’s someone they’re hooking up.
 

I don’t necessarily encourage every Gay friendship be sex involved. Some people do operate like that, but it’s not condoned by me. However, I find many dudes from online and at the bars already have enough platonic friends: so when they put the effort to meet someone of the preferred gender, they’re trying to get some Dick or ass. Even if they go to dinner, or movie, or this and that: it still has the end game of “getting some”. 
 

As for why some block me: idk. Sometimes I think when they don’t read what they want to read, they block. If it’s anything that conflicts with their desires, they block. It’s petty, selfishness. And I’m not talking about someone harassing or plain no attraction causing blocking. I’m talking cases where mutual attraction was established, pics exchanged, maybe a suggestion to meet: and then block. They’re control freaks, trying to dismiss before being dismissed. 

 

Edited October 25, 2024 by Jarrod_Uncut

[+ ApexNomad]

4 hours ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

Thanks, I feel blushed ☺️ 

But otherwise: Key word, “we”. But when 1 person is open and the other is on the fence, that’s when it becomes an issue. However, I still feel that most every guy I meet that’s not an organic “meet at work/thru friends/kickball” is almost always looking for someone they can get it in with. I see the same thing with my friends. Every time they say, “I’m hanging out with a friend” and I’m not invited, I already know it’s someone they’re hooking up.
 

I don’t necessarily encourage every Gay friendship be sex involved. Some people do operate like that, but it’s not condoned by me. However, I find many dudes from online and at the bars already have enough platonic friends: so when they put the effort to meet someone of the preferred gender, they’re trying to get some Dick or ass. Even if they go to dinner, or movie, or this and that: it still has the end game of “getting some”. 
 

As for why some block me: idk. Sometimes I think when they don’t read what they want to read, they block. If it’s anything that conflicts with their desires, they block. It’s petty, selfishness. And I’m not talking about someone harassing or plain no attraction causing blocking. I’m talking cases where mutual attraction was established, pics exchanged, maybe a suggestion to meet: and then block. They’re control freaks, trying to dismiss before being dismissed. 

 

Calling them “control freaks” is generous—they sound like major time-wasters. In the end, it’s better for you; they’re clearly not worth your time. Unfortunately, it does waste your energy, but I guess that’s part of the business. You have to treat each prospective client as genuine and legit, because you never know who actually is.

Or maybe they block because they realize they can’t handle all of your dick. 😂

[misterhumphries]

The REAL reason why someone is block trigger-happy?

... because they can.

The internet has crippled many men from approaching or conversing with each other in any significant way. The block feature on apps or webpages supports the growing fear of awkward social online situations. One click, and it's like it never happened.

Edited October 26, 2024 by misterhumphries

[marylander1940]

28 minutes ago, misterhumphries said:

The REAL reason why someone is block trigger-happy?

... because they can.

The internet has crippled many men from approaching or conversing with each other in any significant way. The block feature on apps or webpages supports the growing fear of awkward social online situations. One click, and it's like it never happened.

Exactly, besides blocking is just a click away. One more thing, the online world in most cases is NOT real life. 

[TallMuscl37]

On 10/25/2024 at 4:09 AM, ApexNomad said:

Calling them “control freaks” is generous—they sound like major time-wasters. In the end, it’s better for you; they’re clearly not worth your time. Unfortunately, it does waste your energy, but I guess that’s part of the business. You have to treat each prospective client as genuine and legit, because you never know who actually is.

Or maybe they block because they realize they can’t handle all of your dick. 😂

yes, well according the article: We should have an understanding that it’s probably more to do with them than it is with a particular person. Their insecurities which lead them to become an impulsive blocker.

I don’t get fazed by it but, it’s the exact reason why I don’t meet anyone in person without a phone number. I scolded one of my friends about that last week. I don’t care how discreet they claim or horny you are for NSA: blocking is the best case scenario. Getting swindled, whatever that may be: is worse case scenario. 
 

Some guys be like: “why does it matter, why? I don’t need their number, I can just set it up on the platform.” Well: when you experience something like, a guy pulling an armed robbery on you after just sucking each other off less than an hour ago: And then having no way to trace them, I don’t like to take chances (true story, but wasn’t related to escort work). 

 

On 10/26/2024 at 10:13 AM, misterhumphries said:

The REAL reason why someone is block trigger-happy?

... because they can.

The internet has crippled many men from approaching or conversing with each other in any significant way. The block feature on apps or webpages supports the growing fear of awkward social online situations. One click, and it's like it never happened.

Well I’ll add: hookup apps in particular. Though there were other sites like A4A that: at least they let you know you were blocked. Some hookup apps: you go to check if someone responded, you see the conversation but then it glitches for a sec, and the WHOLE CONVERSATION disappears. Person and all. But I think some do that to destroy their picture exchanges. It’s silly.

It would be hilarious if a site had an “approval” process to block members. And part of the approval process would be  to write to the other member, a kind message stating why they feel the need to block or what could be done to avoid being blocked. And it can only be approved IF the other person gets a chance to respond back. Sort of like RentMasseur reviews 🤣 

Edited October 29, 2024 by Jarrod_Uncut

[jeezifonly]