My friend found out I escort

[Rudynate]

On 6/22/2024 at 1:06 PM, socurious said:

He had the nerves to text me a screenshot of my profile and called me out telling me that he cares about me and that he can't believe I'm doing it. I was in shocked. It shows that anonymity it's not a thing on the RM platform.

He's the second person I know that finds out and tell me (the other one was a gym buddy who also escorts but doesn't have a profile on RM).

If you are going to make your living escorting, you have to face the fact that some of the people close to you are going to find out, unless you are very secretive.  That level of secretiveness is hard to maintain for any length of time.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

14 hours ago, Rudynate said:

If you are going to make your living escorting, you have to face the fact that some of the people close to you are going to find out, unless you are very secretive.  That level of secretiveness is hard to maintain for any length of time.

True. 

And @socurious , you have mentioned in previous questions that most people you would like to hookup with think you're straight.  On the plus side, with your escorting advertisements available, they probably will find out that you're gay after all.

 

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

14 hours ago, Rudynate said:

If you are going to make your living escorting, you have to face the fact that some of the people close to you are going to find out, unless you are very secretive.  That level of secretiveness is hard to maintain for any length of time.

It's not only difficult, but it comes with an immense amount of personal stress. 

Hiding anything like that for a long amount of time can't be mentally healthy for anyone.

This is why you find a circle of friends who support your decisions, trusting you know what you're doing.

[SouthOfTheBorder]

11 minutes ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

you have mentioned in previous questions that most people you would like to hookup with think you're straight

this is a common delusion - “people think Im straight”.  
usually before full self-acceptance and an indicator of internalized homophobia.  it’s a common crutch 

people in full-acceptance of self don’t really spend much time dwelling in how they are perceived by others because they feel authentic 

[Redwine56]

On 6/23/2024 at 6:36 AM, socurious said:

Exactly. That's actually what I've done with the few friends I discovered on RM. He wants me to get out of the business. 

Ask him if he will offer to pay your bills.  That's your choice to make and not his!  You didn't ask him for his opinion so he shouldn't offer it.  

[Rod Hagen]

On 6/23/2024 at 10:20 PM, CuriousByNature said:

I'm going to take a different approach here.  Just to clarify, was he being judgemental, or do you think he might actually be concerned about your safety/wellbeing?  It sounds from what you've shared that he's the last person who should be judging anyone, so perhaps he's genuinely concerned about you?  I once saw someone I knew advertising on RM, and my first reaction was concern for him.  It was not a moral judgement at all, just concern for his safety.  He wasn't on the site for very long and I'm not sure what happened to him, but I hope he's doing well well with whatever he's doing.

I'm with you.  This is an escort forum, so it makes sense that users here would consider his friend judgemental.  Truth is, most people think escorting is bad, the friend's reaction shouldn't surprise anyone.  Maybe the friend might gain a new perspective. 

Also, I just fucking hate the word judgemental (so much so that I still can't spell it, I guess.)  Judgmental is what people throw around now because they disagree with someone.  My shitheal neighbors with the idiot untrained dogs thinks I'm judgmental for ratting them out to the landlord everytime they start barking at 3am.

Edited June 26, 2024 by Rod Hagen

[LookingAround]

Your friend is a jerk. That said, anyone with a profile on rentmen should anticipate being "discovered" by friends or acquaintances. Was bound to happen sooner or later. This won't be the last time it happens. 

Edited June 29, 2024 by LookingAround

[dbar123]

Sounds more like your friend is secretly jealous of you, if he found you on RM.

You do you…  Congrads on taking control of your own life.

[Monarchy79]

On 6/23/2024 at 6:41 AM, socurious said:

He told me he cares about me. He is gay and parties a lot. I'm surprised he sees escorting that way. 

In terms of his “partying” you should tell him that you also care about him, can’t believe he’s doing this, and recommend him to a drug treatment program.

Never allow anyone to thrown stones at you from their glass house. 
 

This guy is no friend. 

 

 

Edited July 3, 2024 by Monarchy79

[dutchal]

There's a good quote from Ed Cunningham, the sportscaster:  "Friends are those rare people who ask how we are, and then wait to hear the answer."  If this guy is a real friend, he might have begun the discussion with a question along the lines of:  "Mind if I ask why you started doing this?" and then also wait to hear your answer.

 

 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 6/23/2024 at 12:46 PM, MeatHead said:

I don't consider him a very close friend to be honest and he doesn't know a lot of people in my circle anyways. 

 

On 6/23/2024 at 12:57 PM, MeatHead said:

...We fucked a few times and ended up becoming friends. But we aren't that close. I ghosted him at one point because he was only texting me when he was horny...

A more appropriate title for this thread would be "My occasional Fuck Buddy found my advertisement".  Maybe he's worried that he can't get it for free after you ghosted him.

[+ friendofsheila]

tels you who your friends arre!

[Peter Eater]

On 6/26/2024 at 8:10 AM, Rod Hagen said:

My shitheal neighbors with the idiot untrained dogs thinks I'm judgmental for ratting them out to the landlord everytime they start barking at 3am.

Some judgments are good. This one, for example.

[Andysquestions]

Sounds to me like your former fuck buddy got a little possessive, and now has concerns for himself since you’re getting paid and laid when he’s not around. He should be 100% supportive, championing you and your journey.