Disabilities

[Thomas_Belgium]

Because this topic is closed:

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/121686-clients-with-disabilities

& I don't want to go too much off topic in this topic:

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/152328-the-effect-of-on-porn-and-availability-of-quality-providers/#comment-2303689

 

Yes, indeed, I'm looking for a guy (to hire) for years. My search started befor covid, I always write in de first message I'm in a wheelchair because I have a muscle disease. All guys I contacted didn't reply or didn't want to meet. Last year a guy replied "I don't do diseases"....

 

 

[marylander1940]

4 minutes ago, Thomas_Belgium said:

Because this topic is closed:

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/121686-clients-with-disabilities

& I don't want to go too much off topic in this topic:

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/152328-the-effect-of-on-porn-and-availability-of-quality-providers/#comment-2303689

 

 

Yes, indeed, I'm looking for a guy (to hire) for years. My search started befor covid, I always write in de first message I'm in a wheelchair because I have a muscle disease. All guys I contacted didn't reply or didn't want to meet. Last year a guy replied "I don't do diseases"....

 

 

I'm sorry to hear that, I know escort who see clients with different kinds of disabilities and never had a problem about it. 

Thank you for sharing, 

[Simon Suraci]

That’s horrible providers respond to you this way. Pervasive ignorance around disabilities makes life much harder.

I see clients with disabilities, both physical and neurodivergent. One of my regulars has cerebral palsy. Another is on the autism spectrum. One has parkinson’s disease. Some others use a wheelchair, cane, or other assistive devices for various conditions.

My studio is not 100% accessible by California standards, but I chose it in part because it has accessibility features. Everyone benefits because it makes things easier to use, whether you have a disability or not. My architect background informs so much of what I do! I like my disabled clients and want them to feel comfortable and welcome. Any provider worth your time will do the same.

Disabled clients want escort services and massages the same as everyone else. I see accommodating them no differently than accommodating other needs and preferences. I help them on and off the table, transferring to the shower, and getting dressed. Many times they don’t want help with things like getting dressed, as this is a way for them to maintain their autonomy. In that case I allow more time for them to do what they need to do, and remain patient while a client does tasks a little slower than others.

Andrew Gurza puts out a lot of interesting content around being gay and disabled. He talks frankly about sexuality and openly about hiring. Anyone interested in these topics might check out his podcast Disability After Dark.

Disabilities manifest in so many different ways. You don’t always know by looking at someone that they are disabled. My partner, for instance, suffers from many chronic conditions. I won’t get into it all of the medical specifics here, but basically he has physical limitations, like he can’t sit, stand, walk, or drive for long periods. No step ladders or anything requiring balance or significant coordination. No heavy lifting. He works half time from home because that’s the most he is able to do. He spends a lot of his time recovering from physical exertion, even from basic daily life activities when he pushes himself too hard. You would never tell by meeting him for a few minutes or passing by him in a grocery store. He started using a cane recently, so maybe you would see that, but he is embarrassed to use it outside our home. He’s only 43 years old.

We need more compassion and understanding toward one another. This work requires empathy, respect, and adaptability. We serve everyone. Online we focus so much on how different we are on the surface. At the end of the day, we’re all just people. People with people needs. I may not be saving the world, but approaching this work the way I do gives me a strong sense of purpose.

Good providers will not shun clients with disabilities. Try to shake off cruel commentary as best you can. Keep looking. We exist, and we care.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

Hey Thomas, 

I'm sorry you're having this experience. I don't know where you're located but I do know some providers in NYC who are happy to see disabled clients. Perhaps if you share the city you're in, members can help identify some good providers. 

[+ DrownedBoy]

I recall an escort who was proud that he could please a wheelchair bound man with cerebral palsy. 

If they give an answer like the OP received,  block them and report it here. My opinion. 

[+ Jamie21]

2 hours ago, Simon Suraci said:

One has parkinson’s disease.

A few of my clients have this. Massage helps. 
 

[Thomas_Belgium]

Thanks for the replies, I don't live in a city but I added in my profile that I live in Belgium, I live about twenty miles from Brussels. For the first "pay & playdate(s)" I would meet in a four star hotel (from DayRooms.com) that I pay for so if a guy doesn't live nearby I would choose the hotel that is closest for him.

[soloyo215]

On 5/31/2024 at 12:23 PM, Thomas_Belgium said:

Because this topic is closed:

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/121686-clients-with-disabilities

& I don't want to go too much off topic in this topic:

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/152328-the-effect-of-on-porn-and-availability-of-quality-providers/#comment-2303689

 

Yes, indeed, I'm looking for a guy (to hire) for years. My search started befor covid, I always write in de first message I'm in a wheelchair because I have a muscle disease. All guys I contacted didn't reply or didn't want to meet. Last year a guy replied "I don't do diseases"....

 

 

I'm so sorry that you have gotten such horrible responses or no responses. Some people are just cruel.

Other than that I'm afraid I don't have much more to suggest. I wish I could.

Best.

[acks0104]

I'm not an escort but if I was, I would much rather see a client with a physical disability than one who was rude but without disability. It's a shame that there are guys who will treat you that way but I bet there are some great ones who will be able to give you what you're looking for