Anyone into large age gaps?

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1 hour ago, shadowcatzxxx said:

It makes lots of things easier if/when things get tough for one reason or another ... joint property, right of survivorship power of attorney/health care proxy, etc

All that can be handled legally without a marriage contract. Your only real benefit in marriage is taxation. For gay couples, owning property in common was always insulting when their life partner would pass and you'd need to pay inheritance tax on something that was already yours!  With this fellow, you haven't built a life together so protecting him from inheritance tax isn't the same priority.  Your home is NOT his home. He IS inheriting it. I would suggest a few years living together and see how that goes before entertaining a marriage contact that could lead to an expensive divorce if the "taking out the garbage" lifestyle isn't as appealing as the vacations together.

[shadowcatzxxx]

UPDATE by OP

Well, we're still at it ... still in love and living together half a world apart! Have been spending somewhat longer times together ... 2 weeks at a time,more or less, as often as possible. He's just finished his long-term obligations on the other side of the world, and now has more freedom to move around. Unfortunately, my/our original idea for him to come to the U.S. so we could live together is out the window, thanks to the current U.S. political situation. It's infuriating ... he's from a Latin American country, and the risks of him getting snatched/incarcerated/deported for no reason seem too high right now for both of us. So we're looking to establish residence together abroad. It will be interesting  indeed to see how things develop over the next few months.

[Gilfson]

My ex who is now my roommate and I have an age gap. I was 23 when I met him and he was 48. We dated for 2 years but had a lot of fun and ended things cordially. We’re now best friends without benefits! He is an ex pornstar muscle daddy! But funny enough neither of us are remotely attracted to each other anymore. Funny how relationships evolve.

[TryItAllTwice]

I love it. Especially when i'm the older one. Haha.

When I was younger I loved it too. Like passing the seed from generation to generation. Let's fill those boys with our wisdom!

[+ Charlie]

When I met my future spouse, I was 25 and he was 33, which seemed like a big age gap to me then. I was the same age of one of his younger brothers (he was the oldest of four brothers, and he had one younger brother who was older than I was). However, I was actually more sexually experienced than he was, because I had come out at a much earlier age than he had. By the time we were both middle-aged, however, I looked older than he did (like my own father, I lost my hair in my late 30s, while my partner still had a full head of hair on his deathbed), and the age gap didn't seem noticeable at all, until he retired and I was still working. But even after I had retired also, the age gap soon became noticeable, because he lapsed into Alzheimer's and it was almost like I was his child taking care of him. In other words, age gaps are malleable factors that work in many different ways.

Edited 1 hour ago by Charlie