Are some potential clients sometimes too sensitive?

[DWnyc]

For some clients it’s an extreme form of the emotions attached to reaching out to a potential hookup online - anything that seems like a rejection (ie a delay) from a provider is sort of the worst kind for these guys - it’s like even when I’m paying I’m so undesirable etc. Not that they are - but I think there is this very fragile ego in a lot of clients on this matter.

Smart providers pick up on it. Nice ones put that awareness to good use. The other ones … 

 

[Monarchy79]

Question:

Why is it a surprise that some of these potential clients have poor communication issues, or are overly sensitive, or are just simply socially inept? 
 

For some of these guys, that’s why they are reaching out to hire… Just imagine them communicating in real life with men outside of the realm of hiring. 

[NYXboy]

On 2/18/2024 at 4:14 PM, marylander1940 said:

The client didn't even say he's in Gaithersburg now. 

 

"Where and when", if the escort doesn't take a hold of the conversation specially by text and get the details that matter God knows how long it would take to make plans. 

no need for the potential client to be passive-aggressive and overreact. 

 

 

are you a provider or is this "friend" of yours the provider?

[viewing ownly]

On 2/23/2024 at 8:03 PM, Jarrod_Uncut said:

I’m still trying to figure out: what color bubble is the client and which is the escort?? I assume the client is the one saying he doesn’t want to waste his time?

Yeah that’s passive aggressive client behavior I see often…(I’m in blue)

My vote is YES: and I was going to post a topic about this exact thing but, I promised I’d make less threads and just respond to others, but it’s like practically revealing itself😂 

My topic was going to be: THE FRAGILE CLIENT EGO. It’s a very real thing. I’ve dealt with it twice in the past week: 

 

Then a couple messages later:

 

And I’m paying $49 and $79 a month to deal with this shit? This is an obscene. I’ve been dealing with shit like this ALL YEAR. People wonder why I ask deposits and charge to be contacted: because 90% of tripe from RM is all nonsense and flakes, I can’t run a biz that requires SPENDING MONEY on hotels, travel, etc. relying that unreliable, dishonest fake clients are going to show up. 

I’ve made sure going forward in my ads I make it very very clear what’s to be expected, and I’m not taking excuses because it’s all in writing! I feel like I’ma teacher of middle school students some days!!! We need to be getting paid an actual salary, this commission shit isn’t working 🤦🏾‍♂️ 

After the person's nasty "Can't take rejection" comment, it would've been best to completely cut off any further contact with him. You clearly knew by that point he was wasting your time, and that wasn't changing. It's truly horrible that you seem to get a far larger percentage of jerkwads than other traveling providers. 

[marylander1940]

9 hours ago, NYXboy said:

are you a provider or is this "friend" of yours the provider?

I have a few providers that are personal friends of mine, Sir!

[marylander1940]

9 hours ago, viewing ownly said:

After the person's nasty "Can't take rejection" comment, it would've been best to completely cut off any further contact with him. You clearly knew by that point he was wasting your time, and that wasn't changing. It's truly horrible that you seem to get a far larger percentage of jerkwads than other traveling providers. 

Some people like this potential client feed on controversy/fights, etc. as long as it happens in their phones. They feel powerful being mean to others and playing with their time, sad but true!

[DWnyc]

9 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

Some people like this potential client feed on controversy/fights, etc. as long as it happens in their phones. They feel powerful being mean to others and playing with their time, sad but true!

Some just thrive on conflict wherever and however if manifests. Psychiatrists text book examples. Borderline personality or narcissist who feel numb and invisible unless in conflict.

A giveaway is when some report back consistently on all the fights they’re recently had, how many people were rude to them that day etc  

 

[Jarrod_Uncut]

20 hours ago, Monarchy79 said:

Question:

Why is it a surprise that some of these potential clients have poor communication issues, or are overly sensitive, or are just simply socially inept? 
 

For some of these guys, that’s why they are reaching out to hire… Just imagine them communicating in real life with men outside of the realm of hiring. 

I say +1 on that, but not all guys who hire behave that way. However, even if they aren’t off their rocker normally… the reasons people come to us might make them turn into undesirables. Though it’s no excuse.

I don’t want someone being rude and disrespectful towards me just because they can’t be transparent in their marriage/relationship situation, or tried to to hookup with other guys and it didn’t work out. Those are all valid reasons, but not reasons to take it out on me.
 

18 hours ago, viewing ownly said:

After the person's nasty "Can't take rejection" comment, it would've been best to completely cut off any further contact with him. You clearly knew by that point he was wasting your time, and that wasn't changing. It's truly horrible that you seem to get a far larger percentage of jerkwads than other traveling providers. 

Ha, funny you mention. He actually reached out to me again the other night 🤦🏾‍♂️ That’s why sometimes I don’t block people, because I just want to see how far their stupidity goes…for future reference. Another example of a client who “blocked me”, contacts me again, then forgets I’m blocked:

 

I’m convinced the guy is either off his rocker, or he’s just intentionally trolling. It’s just sad that he’s actually someone I MET (once and only once).

Then again, that’s just how it is. In my case, the area wasn’t a traveling city…it’s the nearest major city to the area I reside. I addressed this extensively in a now closed thread, but some cities in this country (America) just simply hold animosity towards sex workers/Escorts/RentMen whatever. My area is one of them. Even some of the clients who pay…will do so grudgingly. And a lot of disrespect, unreliability, attitudes, etc.

That’s why I’m often traveling, but I’ve been starting to enjoy it less lately. Probably because I haven’t been hitting places I really want to go lately: Like somewhere tropical but, that’ll be changing soon.
 

I don’t know if I deal with more Jackwads than others, but I definitely don’t have an issue bringing it up more than others. Lot of these guys who pull the crap behavior, they have reports from other guys saying the same thing. So I know it’s not just me. However I know I’m dealing with it more just because the area I reside in isn’t escort friendly. 

I know “relocation” is the ultimate solution however, In the meantime I try to travel as often as I can: and stay with deposits and keep my phone number off my ads except for registered clients who can READ. 

 

 

Edited April 9 by Jarrod_Uncut