Helping Clients during their "Blue" Holiday season

[ICTJOCK]

So the holidays are fastly approaching.   I've noticed that clients,   especially those who are regulars,  spend a greater amount of time than typical just chatting with me about

their lives,  families,  friends and their state of affairs.    I always take the time to visit with them.   I ask questions that are appropriate for good conversation.   Some seen very appreciative of that time spent.   Just visiting,  generally after our regular activities.    I've found most are very generous with me and the time spent.     One had an incredible flower arrangement and gift sent to my home.   I didn't know for 3 months who had sent it.

For the clients,   do you show a greater degree of appreciation during the holidays?   For the providers,  any difference with your clients over the rest of the year?

[+ Coolwave35]

I am separated from my family. I have traditionally hated Thanksgiving weekend. I always used to treat a regular provider extra well to take me out Wednesday night, ride mopeds through the empty streets of nyc on Thursday, shop til we drop on Friday, have sexcapades on Saturday, and sweet good byes on Sunday. I always felt providers should be better compensated for holidays.  I don’t desire intimate, or consistent phone or text communication and rarely give a provider my number so they can’t “check in.” I want them to be present when they’re on the clock though. I find myself hiring less and less lately. 

Edited November 5, 2023 by Coolwave35

[+ nycman]

The holidays can be rough. I would imagine many clients are single middle aged gay men. Certainly not all, or perhaps even most, but many. My professional life is always so chaotic and unpredictable that I’ve learned to treat every day of the year as just "another day”. Be it December 25th or July 16th. Nonetheless, when everyone else is with family and the world outside is empty, it can be rough. I can see why clients would want to spend some extra time just talking or being with someone.  

Nonetheless, personally I tend to do the opposite of @Coolwave35. I tend to withdrawal. I love his approach (as usual) but it’s not for me. Do I show a "greater appreciation" during the holiday’s? Yes, but I tend to do that for everyone on my payroll. In general, I try to calculate what "2 weeks pay" is and give them that as a bonus. If anything, I hire less than normal. It’s not that I don’t "love" the regulars in my life. I just assume that they have lots of family duties around the holidays and I tend to leave them to it. 

Funny enough, after "family time” some of them still find a way into my bed. Am I grateful, generous, and affectionate? Of course. 

[ICTJOCK]

3 hours ago, nycman said:

The holidays can be rough. I would imagine many clients are single middle aged gay men. Certainly not all, or perhaps even most, but many. My professional life is always so chaotic and unpredictable that I’ve learned to treat every day of the year as just "another day”. Be it December 25th or July 16th. Nonetheless, when everyone else is with family and the world outside is empty, it can be rough. I can see why clients would want to spend some extra time just talking or being with someone.  

Nonetheless, personally I tend to do the opposite of @Coolwave35. I tend to withdrawal. I love his approach (as usual) but it’s not for me. Do I show a "greater appreciation" during the holiday’s? Yes, but I tend to do that for everyone on my payroll. In general, I try to calculate what "2 weeks pay" is and give them that as a bonus. If anything, I hire less than normal. It’s not that I don’t "love" the regulars in my life. I just assume that they have lots of family duties around the holidays and I tend to leave them to it. 

Funny enough, after "family time” some of them still find a way into my bed. Am I grateful, generous, and affectionate? Of course. 

You sound like a great guy,  thanks for sharing!

[pubic_assistance]

20 hours ago, ICTJOCK said:

I always take the time to visit with them.   I ask questions that are appropriate for good conversation.   

Putting the.pro in professional.

This demonstrates an excellent command of the role that a professional escort plays in the life of men who's homosexuality has somehow separated them from family.

I think that's a dwindling community but certainly my older gay friends still suffer.

 

[BuffaloKyle]

I'm too busy to hire during the holidays between work and family. I actually don't hire until Spring now. Because once January comes, I'm just not horny when it's in the teens outside and windy and snowing.

[ICTJOCK]

16 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

Putting the.pro in professional.

This demonstrates an excellent command of the role that a professional escort plays in the life of men who's homosexuality has somehow separated them from family.

I think that's a dwindling community but certainly my older gay friends still suffer.

 

Thanks very much for your comments.   Some of my clients are in fact lonely people,  but I do think that the holidays are a time of "reflection"  and I happen to be one some feel comfortable in sharing.    I like to listen and give positive input based on what I'm hearing.    I don't ask intrusive questions,  but enough to carry the conversation.   I hope at the conclusion they feel the time spent was more valuable and helpful to them.

[pubic_assistance]

9 minutes ago, ICTJOCK said:

I hope at the conclusion they feel the time spent was more valuable and helpful to them.

A class act.

I'm sure you will do well in business with this attitude.

[ICTJOCK]

15 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

A class act.

I'm sure you will do well in business with this attitude.

Your awesome and much appreciate the input.   Thank you.

[pubic_assistance]

55 minutes ago, ICTJOCK said:

Your awesome and much appreciate the input.   Thank you.

Where are you based @ICTJOCK? I don't see a link to your pro account(s). I'm sure people may want to know where to find you. There's a shortage of true professionals in this business. Plus the holidays are coming up! 🦃✡️🎄

[+ purplekow]

I am not a big fan of the holidays and it seems to me that escorts also have additional family obligations and friends to visit so their schedules tend to be a little tight.  So while I might enjoy some time with  them, they have a personal life to which they need to attend.  

As far as generosity at the holidays, I do try to be generous with those providers I encounter.  

BuffaloKyle, I lived in Buffalo for 4 years in my younger days.  It seems to me those cold days are a perfect time to in a warm bed with a hot man.  Don't let your libido go on vacation, enjoy it while you have it.  Getting an escort to come to Buffalo in the winter may be a different issue.  

[pubic_assistance]

5 minutes ago, purplekow said:

It seems to me that escorts also have additional family obligations

You could always shop for foreigners with different holiday schedules from your own. 😉

[+ purplekow]

13 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

You could always shop for foreigners with different holiday schedules from your own. 😉

I am more a serial polygamist than a new shopper.