CuriousByNature Posted October 24, 2023 Share Posted October 24, 2023 (edited) Hello all - probably a stupid question, but what does it mean if someone says they're a side? I've heard of top and bottom, but is side a position or is it a role? Edited October 24, 2023 by CuriousByNature Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Solution Your Man in Arlington Posted October 24, 2023 Solution Share Posted October 24, 2023 "Sides, for those who may be unfamiliar, represent the queer men who do not enjoy giving or receiving anal penetration." More at: https://xtramagazine.com/power/sides-sexual-identity-anal-sex-200790 + DrownedBoy, CuriousByNature, MikeBiDude and 3 others 3 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamie21 Posted October 24, 2023 Share Posted October 24, 2023 I’ve a client who is a side. In his case it literally is that he likes laying alongside and cuddling. Some hand work on his cock but that’s it, no sucking, nothing internal. He likes watching me have sex with other guys, but doesn’t want to participate. I think there can be all sorts of reasons for this. Perhaps it’s a fear of catching something, or it’s some past trauma or bad experience of being penetrated. Some guys are very small so it’s difficult for them to top or to get pleasure from it. Sometimes it’s just a fear of things being ‘dirty’. Religious issues or social conditioning can also make some guys rule out penetrative sex. Maybe it’s not gay if they don’t penetrate. All sorts of reasons exist. With my client we don’t explore why, we just accept it and enjoy the time because it does help you to find other ways to be intimate. DWnyc, CuriousByNature, Your Man in Arlington and 2 others 2 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simon Suraci Posted October 24, 2023 Share Posted October 24, 2023 Sides are a minority, but they exist. I have some side clients. Not every man interested sexually and/or romantically in other men wants to have penetrative sex. Often they only like oral play, or sometimes not even that, but find other ways to be intimate and sexual. The reasons for their preferences are both wide and complex. It’s not always about trauma or avoiding STIs. Some just find anal sex to be generally gross. For some, it’s a practical matter rather than a preference. For example, he can’t bottom, for medical reasons. Or he can’t top, because he is a trans man and doesn’t enjoy strap-on play. Or like Jamie mentioned, his size makes it impractical to penetrate, even if he otherwise would want to. thomas, CuriousByNature, DWnyc and 1 other 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DWnyc Posted October 26, 2023 Share Posted October 26, 2023 All of the above … and perhaps reserving topping or bottoming for “special” experiences / people - like kissing for some people Your Man in Arlington, CuriousByNature and liubit 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
liubit Posted October 27, 2023 Share Posted October 27, 2023 Anal sex is definitely NOT important to me, but I do not totally exclude it. I can be anally versatile, with a preference towards bottoming, but what really turns me on and keeps me going is mutual deep kissing, licking, sucking and rimming, rimming, rimming. So, I guess I could label myself as “side-leaning anal versatile”, or “vegetarian but not vegan” 😂😂 Your Man in Arlington, JamesB, Jamie21 and 2 others 1 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ DrownedBoy Posted October 27, 2023 Share Posted October 27, 2023 As a side, I fall into the "little guy" category. A well-endowed man could split me in half if he pushed hard enough. I concentrate on oral. I actually prefer smaller, as then I can get brutally face-fucked without any chance of gagging. Also, I don't deny that I mainly hire for my fetish, which doesn't involve anal penetration. But hard spanking is fine. Simon Suraci, Your Man in Arlington, thomas and 3 others 4 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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