NY Hotels catering to gay men

[Ali Gator]

I remember when I first started going to Manhattan in the 90s, there was talk about hotels catering to gay men - to be more exact, there were usually gay escorts hanging out in the lobby or lounge (and very approachable).  I never went to any of these hotels, as I was travelling on business and usually travelled with coworkers - so we all stayed in the same hotel. 

Now that I can travel for leisure (and usually solo), are these hotels still in existence in NYC ? I never hear anything about them any longer. I believe they were mostly in the Times Square / Hells Kitchen area. Did they all get 'cleaned out' like some of the gay strip clubs in TS / HK areas ? 

Thanks in advance for any info. Looking to go to Manhattan in the fall. 

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

No.  They don't exist anymore because they don't need to.

You have a ton of good hotels in Manhattan....  Pick one of those for a better experience.

You go to the bathhouse and then leave.  You don't stay there for your whole trip.

[pubic_assistance]

On 9/22/2023 at 9:23 PM, Ali Gator said:

Did they all get 'cleaned out' like some of the gay strip clubs in TS / HK areas ? 

Manhattan is too expensive for sleazy hotels with hookers in the lobby. The 1970s are over. Besides ....Everyone's on their phone looking for dick now

[Ali Gator]

5 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

Manhattan is too expensive for sleazy hotels with hookers in the lobby. The 1970s are over. Besides ....Everyone's on their phone looking for dick now

Sometimes I prefer meeting them in person and see if there's any chemistry between us before the meeting, rather than texting on the phone and meeting them after. 

[BuffaloKyle]

I don't really even know how a hotel would cater to gay men? Douching stations in the shower? 🚿

[56harrisond]

Try:

https://www.misterbandb.com/

[Ali Gator]

20 hours ago, BuffaloKyle said:

I don't really even know how a hotel would cater to gay men? Douching stations in the shower? 🚿

There's much more to catering to a gay clientele than that. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

22 hours ago, BuffaloKyle said:

I don't really even know how a hotel would cater to gay men? Douching stations in the shower? 🚿

Yes, and a clothing optional pool, with a men-only policy.  There are a few hotels like that in Ft Lauderdale and Palm Springs.

[pubic_assistance]

On 9/27/2023 at 11:00 AM, Vegas_Millennial said:

...a clothing optional pool, with a men-only policy.  There are a few hotels like that in Ft Lauderdale

I once booked a gay hotel with a clothing optional policy, many years ago, in Fort Lauderdale. BIG mistake. 

Nothing in that pool that I wanted to see.

[Marc in Calif]

8 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

I once booked a gay hotel... 

Well, you know how the gays are! 🤷‍♂️

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

32 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

I once booked a gay hotel with a clothing optional policy, many years ago, in Fort Lauderdale. BIG mistake. 

Nothing in that pool that I wanted to see.

It's less about being there to view others and more about enjoying being comfortable with yourself while you're there.

[+ tassojunior]

5 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

I once booked a gay hotel with a clothing optional policy, many years ago, in Fort Lauderdale. BIG mistake. 

Nothing in that pool that I wanted to see.

Orleans House in Key West the same even though they're right behind the great strip club with privates Bourbon Pub. 

[+ tassojunior]

trying to remember the last hotel I stayed at that where the male staff wasn't mostly gay...

[pubic_assistance]

20 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

It's less about being there to view others and more about enjoying being comfortable with yourself while you're there.

Is it ?
well...I was completely uncomfortable.

But that's because I was the only hot guy in the place...so it was like being the fresh kill for a pack of (old and ugly) wild dogs.

Wasn't fun at all.

Will never do THAT again.  (Even at 50-something I'm still probably in far better shape than any of those old-farts were )

[Penn7]

On 9/29/2023 at 3:03 PM, pubic_assistance said:

Is it ?
well...I was completely uncomfortable.

But that's because I was the only hot guy in the place...so it was like being the fresh kill for a pack of (old and ugly) wild dogs.

Wasn't fun at all.

Will never do THAT again.  (Even at 50-something I'm still probably in far better shape than any of those old-farts were )

With that profile pic, I bet you are Mmmmmuscle!

[Ali Gator]

On 9/29/2023 at 3:03 PM, pubic_assistance said:

Is it ?
well...I was completely uncomfortable.

But that's because I was the only hot guy in the place...so it was like being the fresh kill for a pack of (old and ugly) wild dogs.

Wasn't fun at all.

Will never do THAT again.  (Even at 50-something I'm still probably in far better shape than any of those old-farts were )

So why did you choose to go into the pool naked ? If you saw the pool was filled with unattractive men, why didn't you turn around and leave ? Maybe go at another time ? Why make your time KNOWINGLY uncomfortable ?  I mean whenever I survey a situation to socialize, and I see I'm not going to be comfortable (and I'm not just talking a naked pool with gay men: I'm talking holiday gatherings and other events, as well) , I turn around and leave. It's happened many times in my adult life. Life is too short to knowingly subject yourself to this. 

[+ nycman]

8 hours ago, Ali Gator said:

So why did you choose to go into the pool naked ?

Because he’s a vain little bitch who wants to be the "prettiest girl in the room"…..grin. 

I feel a song coming on…..

"Cause everyone harbors a secret hatred
For the prettiest girl in the room"

 

[pubic_assistance]

9 hours ago, Ali Gator said:

why did you choose to go into the pool naked ?

Who said I did ?  🤔

[pubic_assistance]

18 minutes ago, nycman said:

Because he’s a vain little bitch who wants to be the "prettiest girl in the room"…..grin. 

I may have been a "pretty little bitch" back then but my motivations were more.borne of naivete, than vanity.

I saw "clothing optional" hotel and naively envisioned a place full of naked hot men. (This of course was pre-internet). Rather than being the center of attention, I waa hoping for more handsome sexual prospects to oggle. The reality of the situation was more of a sad retirement home vibe with men so fat you couldn't see their dick. (Which was maybe a blessing). 😉

[Ali Gator]

2 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

Who said I did ?  🤔

You talked about being uncomfortable with the unattractive guys in the pool, and then you said you were the only hot guy 'in the place'.  Logic dictates 'place' referred to 'pool'.  If you were referring to the hotel itself as 'place', and you were the only hot guy staying there - that's even worse.  Why would you even spend half a day there if you were that uncomfortable ?  Many excuses you could use to leave without any fees. 

[pubic_assistance]

3 hours ago, Ali Gator said:

Logic dictates 'place' referred to 'pool

But logic doesn't dictate that if I saw a pool full of ugly old men, I'd be dropping my drawers and wandering about.

In fact ...I stayed only one night and moved to another hotel after I realized I was the only attractive person in the entire hotel. Lesson learned. I was very young and just learning how things worked in gay culture. You learn from your mistakes.

Edited October 6, 2023 by pubic_assistance