Hello Chicago can we not do this?

[colonexstacy]

I was in Chicago for a few days this past week when it hit 100 degrees for the first time in 25 years with a heat index of 118.  While some men are extremely hot in the physical runway department where every other guy wants a career in modeling or is in modeling with little side hustles here on our RM sites.

I have been thinking of several  experiences within 24 hours  having resulted from initial inquiries and I became amazed, hurt, angry, argumentative and most of all perplexed. I had conclusions but now after considerable reflection I may have a different viewpoint.

TrevorCHI on RentMasseur

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...exceptional experience with Trevor...gorgeous, skilled, talented, communicated very professional with humor while messaging to set up the appointment.

 Thank God because what follows is how my jaunt to the windy city began. If only Trevor had been available first.  

https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/1634/

Royce has noted on his profile on masseur finder that he is out of town currently and that may be due a lace filled tirad I had for him when he requested a pic, a request I honored, only to be told I am not his type and too heavy for him so he'll pass. 

https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/44742/

Toby of rentmasseur responded pronto upon my text arrival asking if he were available to which he asked for my stats and pic. I reluctantly obliged. He responded what happened to you? I responded, "cancer."  Gentlemen I would rather experience chemotherapy than ever experience another exchange with this man as the situation escalated.

Kingmidas on RentMasseur

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King Midas practically conducts an interview.....initial response from him as I questioned his rate informed me he desired to know....my age, stats, and ethnicity.

https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/39699/

Max stated he only offers massage and nothing at all sexual. At this point I had only asked if he were still in town and available? I explained I was not looking for sex but a little mutual touch I would welcome to which he texted moments later, "how old are you?"

Jxcktherapy - Male Escort, Gay massage - Chicago | Rent.Men

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Another one that really got me was jocktherapy who has since left town. My experience was not through text, but rather a live voice call. I told him I was looking for a nice encounter with body contact, good conversation, and not a session where within minutes of entering the room nothing transpires other than sexual aggressive behavior. He informed me how he appreciated  how I put that as opposed to being asked if he fucks or gets fucked. He is tired of the tacky queens who apply for erotic sessions without decorum. Immediately he asked if I were hung? Now gentlemen, what was this about sexual decorum? lol. I told him I was average and he said that would not work. And for some reason that damn Verizon tower on Lake Shore Blvd evidently faltered as the conversation abruptly halted. 

Finally for the most bizarre. And frightening. 

Mr_BIG on RentMasseur

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Mr. Big. Oh my god he is gorgeous which surprises me as his genetic linkage dates back to the beginning of time with direct connection to Satan.

We made our appointment for 2pm Thursday. This was set up after very little effort Wednesday evening at 9pm. He texted me once again to tell me he would keep the appointment but not to bother confirming as he had an overnight client and would sleep until 1:45. Now who hires someone with these boundaries. I told him I didn't want a massage from someone who woke up 15 minutes ago. And how is he going to get from the Hyatt on Wacker to my boutique hotel on Brompton by two pm? I told him I was hesitant. I was actually angry at myself that I allowed these perimeters but he looked so damn gorgeous and from the other incidents I shared above, who the hell else was there? 

I did call Mr. Big that morning at 11 to confirm. Straight to voice mail. I called again at 12:15.  Straight to voice mail (giving me more ammunition to despise the word straight). At 1:45 I texted. No response. At 2pm I left on foot to head to a fabulous restaurant called Calo. Omg. So good. The gnocchi gorgonzalo is to die for.  Then Walgreens was on the agenda for all the pepto bismal on display due to the 100 heat  temp with an index of 118. After walking 3/4 of a mile I was about ten pounds lighter upon my turning of the corner to my hotel and I saw a man with the hottest legs I have ever seen. As I was descending closer and closer to my hotel the vision became more focused and it was Mr. Big sitting on the wrought iron bench outside the hotel. I kept walking past him totally forgetting I had told described myself the night before so he would recognize me to be let in to the hotel as outsiders without keys are not welcome. He approached me demanding 300 dollars for my not being there upon his arrival and another 30 for the uber which brought him and another 30 for the uber to exit his ass from my frayed nerves. I just kept walking and hurried my pace. He blocked me from the hotel entrance. I was becoming tense with fear. I asked him to leave me alone. I eventually took off running. Literally running. He is 40 years younger than me but what could I do. He did not run as I glanced back. It would probably have made him look guilty. I found myself at a restaurant called Pancake. Half a mile away. 20 minutes later he walked by the front windows looking frantic. I went into the bathroom stall and stayed there at Pancake. The management probably thought the heat had affected  me as I stayed in that bathroom for twenty minutes. Never saw Mr. Big again.

Gentleman is cock worth all this?

I thought the requests for a clients stats and pics bordered discrimination. The more I have thought about it, they really do have the right to do that. Though it is disappointing. 

[soloyo215]

45 minutes ago, colonexstacy said:

Gentleman is cock worth all this?

I thought the requests for a clients stats and pics bordered discrimination.

No, cock is not worth all that. At least not to me. And yes, to me it is discrimination, not bordering discrimination. Legal, allowed, can't do anything about it, but discrimination nonetheless.

I'm sorry you went through all that. Seems like Trevor saved the day for you.

[colonexstacy]

5 minutes ago, soloyo215 said:

No, cock is not worth all that. At least not to me. And yes, to me it is discrimination, not bordering discrimination. Legal, allowed, can't do anything about it, but discrimination nonetheless.

I'm sorry you went through all that. Seems like Trevor saved the day for you.

yes Trevor did. And you are correct. It is discrimination. No doubt.  And sadly they can do it.  I have only encountered a pic request once years ago in Columbus Ohio. But Chicago was outrageous. I love the city and its people. Hold it with great affection. These interactions will not deter that. lol. And it is true that cock is not worth this. That was a little tongue in cheek. After days and weeks of travel and more flights than I care to acknowledge, I really put up with a lot for a massage. lol 

trevor is very worth checking out 

 

[soloyo215]

Thanks. I haven't been to Chicago in ages, but I'll keep him in mind. Hopefully he travels to places I do too.

I have gotten requests for pictures, and only one gave me the impression that he was looking to discriminate, but it seems like he found me pleasant to look at or something, so I saw him for a massage. However, the experience was not that great. I wish he discriminated and I saved the money. The others were very clear, stating that they wanted my picture just to know who they were talking to, or for safety reasons. Both experiences were great (I guess they did like what they saw).

[TennisPro35]

@colonexstacy big hugs from me! When they ask for a picture…i just say, my weight fluctuates like the tides. If they still balk and ask for vital statistics …I say thanks but I will be bring my business to someone else.  We are hiring off of RMasseur and not RMen (even still), this is not the hook-up app.  

Edited August 28, 2023 by TennisPro35

[colonexstacy]

2 minutes ago, TennisPro35 said:

@colonexstacy big hugs from me! When they ask for a picture…i just say, my weight fluctuates like the tides. If they still balk and ask for vital statistics …I saw, thanks but I will be bring my business to someone else.  We are hiring off of RMasseur and not RMen (even still, this is not the hook-up app).  

Exactly. And thank you. Your point is the same as how I feel that if I am asking for somebody to simply massage me then why they discrimination? I understand you might not want to crawl up my ass on the sister site. LOL

[MikeThomas]

So you had an appointment with Big at 2pm and when he wasn’t exactly on time you left?

[calstrin]

 

yikes.  you took off at the appointed time?  then hid from him and didn't pay him?  your own story is not a good look for you.  frankly, i think you owe him both money and an apology.

[MikeBiDude]

Wow lots of drama, not fun!
 

13 hours ago, colonexstacy said:

He texted me once again to tell me he would keep the appointment but not to bother confirming as he had an overnight client and would sleep until 1:45

Sounds like he made it clear the appointment was on and he wouldn't confirm? You left hotel right at appointment time?🤷🏻‍♂️

[colonexstacy]

6 hours ago, MikeThomas said:

So you had an appointment with Big at 2pm and when he wasn’t exactly on time you left?

I actually left at 2:15. of course I waited a little while as I did not want to miss someone that hot. Yet he was not answering and all indications were he was not coming. Do not even think of holding me accountable MikeThomas.  I did my part.  You seem to operate from a different standpoint.

[colonexstacy]

55 minutes ago, MikeBiDude said:

Wow lots of drama, not fun!
 

Sounds like he made it clear the appointment was on and he wouldn't confirm? You left hotel right at appointment time?🤷🏻‍♂️

About 2:15? Do I owe you any more explanation? Should I apologize to you? To Mig Big? Should I apologize for being who I am and making decisions I see fit. How long would you wait for someone who you can not get to reach and he does not inform you he is late. You may wait 2 or 3 hours but I concluded he ain't coming due to his responses in our communications the night before. He showed me clearly he is not responsible. Now go take  yourself and wait wait wait wait 

[colonexstacy]

1 hour ago, MikeBiDude said:

Wow lots of drama, not fun!
 

Sounds like he made it clear the appointment was on and he wouldn't confirm? You left hotel right at appointment time?🤷🏻‍♂️

About 2:15? Do I owe you any more explanation? Should I apologize to you? To Mig Big? Should I apologize for being who I am and making decisions I see fit. How long would you wait for someone who you can not get to reach and he does not inform you he is late. You may wait 2 or 3 hours but I concluded he ain't coming due to his responses in our communications the night before. He showed me clearly he is not responsible. Now go take  yourself and wait wait wait wait 

[colonexstacy]

The entire point of me making this thread was to share information and offer insight for you guys who may attempt to make an appointment with a provider in the Chicago area or anywhere else these guys may happen to travel to. I was sharing experience. You can disagree with me or agree with me. But I would really appreciate not attacking I'm getting some rude private messages and I don't understand that.I have some fabulous experiences that I have shared in order to encourage people with their decision making yet maybe I will just keep it all to myself at this point. You know what couple of you on here have sent me some vicious vicious private messages.I don't think I will ever understand the gay culture that screen scrims for straight people to respect us and that we crave diversity yet wecat fight with each other when it's just not necessary.

[MikeBiDude]

1 minute ago, colonexstacy said:

About 2:15? Do I owe you any more explanation?

OK but in your original post you say;

14 hours ago, colonexstacy said:

At 2pm I left on foot to head to a fabulous restaurant called Calo. Omg

Which is it?

[colonexstacy]

1 hour ago, calstrin said:

 

yikes.  you took off at the appointed time?  then hid from him and didn't pay him?  your own story is not a good look for you.  frankly, i think you owe him both money and an apology.

Frankly I don't think you understood all the context. 

[colonexstacy]

Just now, MikeBiDude said:

OK but in your original post you say;

Which is it?

2:15

[colonexstacy]

1 minute ago, MikeBiDude said:

OK but in your original post you say;

Which is it?

I do voice text because if you think I'm typing all this you would be out of your mind. Lol and I may horrible autocorrect mistakes all the time. And I also don't proofread because I say too much. Lol2:00 came and I was downstairs for him because of like I said I could not let him in because of the security to the building I sat on a bench in front of the hotel and left around 2:15 because he was not answering and what I don't understand is why am I being held accountable when I called him and he did not answer.

[colonexstacy]

Look it is no surprise to me nor is it news that I am absolutely hated and despised on this site. I know that I get that I know you guys hate me and I know that I also had explained not long ago that I am dealing with brain cancer which is why I have been trying to find one great final experience sexually and that's why I go to those sites. This is the last time I will ever communicate anything on this site because I cannot handle the constant attacks. You guys look for reasons to point out what you consider to be faults of mine. I waited on a guy and yet you blame me for leaving because I didn't not wait long enough. I came downstairs at 2:00 and I waited till 2:15 the former time frame was an auto correct whether you believe me or not. The thing is I called him prior to his arrival and he did not answer. Yet none of you want to pay attention to that you just want to pay attention to the fact that I left. He was irresponsible by Not answering or telling me he was running late. Yet because you guys are so biased with your hatred for me to all you can goddamn do is focus in on what I did.So you have finally won and I surrendered I am off this site for good.

At the beginning when I came to this site I was really enjoying it because I got some good information I thought I would contribute some to hopefully enlighten you from some of my experiences.Ones that I would recommend as well as ones I would steer away from. I will never understand the contempt which which this community here on this website has held for me. I don't get it and I'm not asking to be told why and if you do I won't know cuz I'm not coming back.

Actually I will come back to read from the search bar of other guys I may search out but I will not read any more contributions to this thread nor will I engage in ever posting anything.

My experience here has not been a good one other than occasionally getting some good information that led me to certain men I hired. Overall the experience of has been harmful to my emotional health and I never felt welcomed by the majority of those there were a couple people here who've been exceedingly kind to me. In spite of my anger and my heart I soon searly wish you all contentment and continued success in all your future endeavors  God bless and I do mean that sincerely

[Swazca]

I’m chiming in for the mere fact that it’s okay for you to attack users like me in other threads, post incoherent babble and then post your attempts at scheduling but you never actually used their service.  When we all question you or respond then it’s called ‘vicious’ attacks on you.  We point out the obvious to you because this is in fact a forum — for ‘discussion.’  

[Lohengrin1979]

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[+ Vegas_Millennial]

3 hours ago, colonexstacy said:

of course I waited a little while as I did not want to miss someone that hot.

So, it is acceptable to wait less for someone not that hot?  That logic sounds discriminatory to me

Edited August 28, 2023 by Vegas_Millennial

[CuriousByNature]

4 hours ago, colonexstacy said:

I actually left at 2:15. of course I waited a little while as I did not want to miss someone that hot. Yet he was not answering and all indications were he was not coming. Do not even think of holding me accountable MikeThomas.  I did my part.  You seem to operate from a different standpoint.

For what it's worth, I think you were quite reasonable in your assessment of the situation.  Right from the get-go it seemed like his commitment was 'iffy' at best because he told you he would be sleeping until 15 minutes before your appointment time, and you knew it was not likely he could be there by that time.  IMHO, if he was serious about meeting you (and not just after he rolled out of bed) he should have asked to meet you at 3pm instead of 2pm, OR... maybe he could have been a grown up and not slept into the afternoon.  This is his career, apparently.  Sorry you are getting nasty personal messages - I think that's completely uncalled for regardless of whether anyone thinks you were somehow in the wrong.

[CuriousByNature]

4 hours ago, colonexstacy said:

Look it is no surprise to me nor is it news that I am absolutely hated and despised on this site. I know that I get that I know you guys hate me and I know that I also had explained not long ago that I am dealing with brain cancer which is why I have been trying to find one great final experience sexually and that's why I go to those sites. This is the last time I will ever communicate anything on this site because I cannot handle the constant attacks. You guys look for reasons to point out what you consider to be faults of mine. I waited on a guy and yet you blame me for leaving because I didn't not wait long enough. I came downstairs at 2:00 and I waited till 2:15 the former time frame was an auto correct whether you believe me or not. The thing is I called him prior to his arrival and he did not answer. Yet none of you want to pay attention to that you just want to pay attention to the fact that I left. He was irresponsible by Not answering or telling me he was running late. Yet because you guys are so biased with your hatred for me to all you can goddamn do is focus in on what I did.So you have finally won and I surrendered I am off this site for good.

At the beginning when I came to this site I was really enjoying it because I got some good information I thought I would contribute some to hopefully enlighten you from some of my experiences.Ones that I would recommend as well as ones I would steer away from. I will never understand the contempt which which this community here on this website has held for me. I don't get it and I'm not asking to be told why and if you do I won't know cuz I'm not coming back.

Actually I will come back to read from the search bar of other guys I may search out but I will not read any more contributions to this thread nor will I engage in ever posting anything.

My experience here has not been a good one other than occasionally getting some good information that led me to certain men I hired. Overall the experience of has been harmful to my emotional health and I never felt welcomed by the majority of those there were a couple people here who've been exceedingly kind to me. In spite of my anger and my heart I soon searly wish you all contentment and continued success in all your future endeavors  God bless and I do mean that sincerely

I hope you don't disappear from posting.  A forum is only as rich as the diversity of thought and opinions it encourages. 

I've looked at your post and I see someone who was really hoping for great experiences in Chicago, but was unfortunately let down time and time again.  By the time you were to meet Mr. Big, I think it is completely understandable to have gotten into a negative headspace and perhaps lost patience wondering if Mr. Big would bother showing up.  Especially with everything else you happen to be dealing with, and the fact that he couldn't bother returning your calls.   I doubt I would have waited more than 15 minutes myself, and if I did I probably wouldn't have been in much of a mood to meet with anyone. 

You are dealing with a hellish experience with brain cancer.  I can only imagine that time is all the more precious to you, than it is for many of the people on this forum.  Perhaps Mr. Big can afford to take time for granted, but I understand that you cannot, and God forbid I ever judge you for that.  

[djwhfxoxo]

It's unfortunate what you had to experience, and you have my empathy. So a few providers treated you poorly. Why drag Chicago down with it though? Your bad experience was between you and the providers. What’s Chicago got to do with that?

Edited August 28, 2023 by djwhfxoxo