How much does it cost to be a sugar daddy?

[Archangel]

19 hours ago, Coolwave35 said:

When I read your use of “exclusive” I interpret it as being possessive. I am rallying against the possessiveness. I think you’re saying a guy on the payroll shouldn’t be on anyone else’s. Is that what you’re asking?  

I believe it’s a fair expectation. Maybe a sugar daddy is fine with it. In that case, who am I to judge.

The idea that a employer expects employees to stay out of the market with similar other employers is nothing new, if we want to be crude in our discussion. It’s very common for doctors to have non-compete clauses in their contracts.

 I’m not suggesting we get that petty about it. I just am saying that it just seems crazy to me that a sugar baby who is getting for all intents and purposes pampered and spoiled shouldn’t need – or really want? – to have anything but an exclusive relationship. If I were a sugar daddy and showering a guy with a good life with no real expectations other than companionship and sex, then I know if he felt he needed to go elsewhere for even more, I’d feel hurt and as if I were satisfying, enough, or acceptable. I’d also question the whole nature of the relationship. I don’t relish feeling like an ATM anymore than an escort relishes being a possession.

 

[Archangel]

$150,000 per year, tax free, plus a car allowance, plus guaranteed 4 annual vacations, one per season. Plus an expense allowance for clothing, personal appearance, plus contributions to an IRA in his name…

I just question why any sugar baby would need or want more if I were or any man were doing all that…If he can’t embrace exclusivity under those conditions (or conditions that are less than that because, let’s admit it, those are good terms of employment), I don’t think he’d be the right sugar baby for me because quite frankly it’s about him at that point, not the arrangement. It’s seeing me or whoever as the gravy train engineer.

We’re so worried that the sugar daddy would be possessive but we don’t care that the sugar baby doesn’t give a fuck about anything but himself. Trying so hard not to fall off the right side of the road we fall off the left side.

Edited July 29, 2023 by Archangel

[Guest]

I hear you and I understand a lot of it. One of the tenements to me of a sugar relationship is physical attraction of the daddy to the baby, often times not reciprocated. I wouldn’t feel comfortable asking someone to give up that sexual passion. I can agree that if I’m paying you that good, I should be the only one you’re taking money from. But I wouldn’t ever put the restriction that I’m the only one you’re intimate with. That’s a leap too far for me. 

[Guest]

Last night, we saw the movie Chris and Don: A Love Story, a documentary on the over 30-year relationship between Christopher Isherwood and Don Bachardy, who was 30 years his junior. The relationship lasted until Isherwood's death. Don, now 89, is still alive. They seemed to have a similar arrangement as that of my beau and I. Occasional trysts were OK, but not dating others (repeat encounters). That arrangement seemed to be healthy enough to last. My man's previous SD was, as he puts it "100% different" from myself. The man, who, due to nefarious financial engagements, was far wealthier than myself, showered him with private jet trips, front-row tickets and meetings with famous musical artists, and lavish spending sprees. He was also possessive as fuck, and wouldn't let my beau out of his sight, not even for a haircut (but the SD was unfaithful himself). That SD is now an inmate in a federal penitentiary. I told my fiance I can't provide him with that lavish lifestyle, but can promise him these things: honesty, reliability, and respect. Needless to say, my man compares the two relationships as "night and day." 

Edited July 29, 2023 by Unicorn

[BSR]

4 hours ago, Unicorn said:

He was also possessive as fuck, and wouldn't let my beau out of his sight, not even for a haircut

Who could endure such a psycho control freak?

Lemme guess, zero "severance package."  The sugardaddy spent money like a rock star as long as sugarbaby was under his thumb, but hyperposessive types make sure SB is penniless once it's over.

[Archangel]

5 hours ago, Unicorn said:

I can't provide him with that lavish lifestyle, but can promise him these things: honesty, reliability, and respect.

That’s huge, in my opinion. Worth far more than money and “stuff.”

[Guest]

17 hours ago, BSR said:

Who could endure such a psycho control freak?

Lemme guess, zero "severance package."  The sugardaddy spent money like a rock star as long as sugarbaby was under his thumb, but hyperposessive types make sure SB is penniless once it's over.

Well, in this case, the SD was yanked and sent to prison, so it left my man out in the cold. He was able to sell some gifts such as one of those super-expensive jewelry watches I wouldn't wear if I'd won the lottery. He'd been leaving messages to my man via intermediaries, which were annoying. I told him to let him know he'd found someone else, which he did, and the messages stopped. I suspect the feds cleaned out his bank accounts. I don't know if he'll be able to con his way into more money when he leaves prison? Apparently the SD made some of his money form sports betting. The casinos loved him for a while, until he won too much, then they banned him.  

Edited July 30, 2023 by Unicorn

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

I'm only looking to be a "Splenda Daddy".  I'll support a young cute guy a little, but not as sweet as a Sugar Daddy