Is it a known risk to schedule for an hour?

[Rand]

On 7/12/2023 at 12:23 PM, Jamie21 said:

People book an hour to see whether they like you. It’s a more cost effective way to try out before booking longer. I’d rather have a regularly returning 1 hour client than a once off longer client. So I think it’s good business to be respectful and honour those who have already booked, even if it’s an hour because you never know: they could become a regular.

100% agree! Profile pics might be great but real interaction can really disappoint. I don't want to be stuck on 2+ hour session with someone I don't find attractive in person. Solution for me: first booking is 1-hour session to see if we hit it off and then next sessions are longer to allow us fully experience each other. That's my rule for massage and escort.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

On 6/24/2023 at 8:24 PM, Kevin Slate said:

I have suspected that some providers canceled on the day of because they got a better (I.e., longer) offer, but I’ve rarely had someone be that direct about it.  How common do people think this happens and is there any way to try to prevent it? 

I’ve never had to do anything like that before. Especially for an hour visit, assuming it doesn’t involve “multiple loads” (which is usually never). I’ve done overnights and accommodated clients the next day or beforehand. 

Not something I’d normally do, but…I know the inconvenience of being cancelled/stood up on, so wouldn’t want to do the same. But anyone who does, they can consider themselves “privileged” for being able to drop one client for another. I never find that to be good “dick energy”. There’s ways to value and include bookings without leaving anyone hanging

[Jarrod_Uncut]

On 6/26/2023 at 12:42 AM, Simon Suraci said:

This happens to me too. A client texted me today to schedule a shorter, lower cost session right in the middle of a big block of availability where I could otherwise schedule two longer, higher value sessions. 

I honored the shorter session because he booked first. I give priority to those who book ahead, or whoever books first. I keep my word after I book them. In this case I had to turn down two higher session value clients because the resulting two blocks of time were each too short to fulfill either of the higher fee session requests.

Then….the low value client no shows. No cancellation message, nothing, just ghosts. So now I’m out of the lower value fee AND the two higher value fees. Frustrating. Sometimes this happens, especially with new clients, and I accept that. I don’t let it bother me anymore.

If I had canceled on the low value client to accommodate the two higher value clients, the two higher value clients may have canceled or no-showed as well. You never know with new clients what they are going to do. You can’t win, and there’s no way to game the system. Some clients are real jerks sometimes and there’s no escaping that. I honor my first booked, first priority policy because it’s the only objective, low stress way to handle these matters. It also rewards and encourages clients booking ahead, which I prefer anyway.

This is the reason a lot of providers behave the way they do. I’m not saying it’s right, but our schedules are constantly changing. It feels like we’re reacting to a dozen things out of our control and trying to make the best of all the moving parts each hour of the day as it changes. And we’re trying to make good money and use our time most effectively.

The occasional unusual circumstance outside of my control pops up requiring me to cancel or reschedule on a client, but I never cancel because I got a “better offer”. Unusual circumstances are things like my whole building fire alarm is sounding.

I think too that’s the main hurdle with same day bookings…it’s too hurried and rushed to be able to plan anything. However I like to secure it with a deposit to be sure. And that’s exactly why I do it, so yeah: that’s the only way to game the system. It’s the incentive and screening, and weeding out the curious from the serious. 
 

It’s also easier for clients to no show incalls versus outcalls. Even though getting stood up for outcalls is much more inconvenient, I still ask deposit for both. 
 

I think the key is, to not be afraid or intimidated or even persuaded to feel you will lose/not get business if you ask a deposit. Even if clients talk about being ripped off before. That’s unfortunate but, clearly this client was “ripped off” and didn’t even send a deposit. So it’s not the deposit that’s the scam, it’s the provider who’s the scam.

Edited July 27, 2023 by Jarrod_Uncut

[Jason Dutch]

I can't imagine doing this to a regular without plenty of lead time. Before you changed flights/arrived for sure, or otherwise within 24 hours is a must. I wish I could say clients had the same grace but they often drop off the face of the earth. It sounds like you were communicating clearly however, and that must especially sting coming from a provider you've built some level of a relationship with.

[blck37]

Know your worth gents....this applies to both clients and providers.

[Guest]

On 6/24/2023 at 7:24 PM, dbar123 said:

When traveling I try to keep a few options open in terms of scheduling. Shit happens but it sucks that he bumped you. At least he was honest about it.

Find someone else, hopefully…..or see him another night. 

See him another night? WTF? Are you assuming the OP is a masochist? And what do you mean, you keep a few options open? Do you schedule different people for the same time and accept the one you like best? The OP may have been able to schedule someone at the last minute, but doing that can be difficult, especially with a lot of escorts who aren't diligent about responding to texts. I remember 2 years ago an escort I'd scheduled an in-call for several days in advance while I was at a medical conference, and confirmed the day before, cancel on me at the last minute because he'd "overslept and forgotten about it." He asked me if I wanted to reschedule, and I said no way. Shit didn't happen. The OP got dumped because his escort thought he could make more money. This is not an auction. The OP & escort made an agreement on the price and time. The escort simply reneged after the fact. 

(I will also comment that in a prior string, sometime back, a poster asked how long one should wait for an escort to answer a text. While some agreed with me, some disagreed when I said it's wisest to move on if there's been no response after 3 waking hours. How can one make a same-day appointment with such response times?)

[dbar123]

7 hours ago, Unicorn said:

See him another night? WTF? Are you assuming the OP is a masochist? And what do you mean, you keep a few options open? Do you schedule different people for the same time and accept the one you like best? The OP may have been able to schedule someone at the last minute, but doing that can be difficult, especially with a lot of escorts who aren't diligent about responding to texts. I remember 2 years ago an escort I'd scheduled an in-call for several days in advance while I was at a medical conference, and confirmed the day before, cancel on me at the last minute because he'd "overslept and forgotten about it." He asked me if I wanted to reschedule, and I said no way. Shit didn't happen. The OP got dumped because his escort thought he could make more money. This is not an auction. The OP & escort made an agreement on the price and time. The escort simply reneged after the fact. 

(I will also comment that in a prior string, sometime back, a poster asked how long one should wait for an escort to answer a text. While some agreed with me, some disagreed when I said it's wisest to move on if there's been no response after 3 waking hours. How can one make a same-day appointment with such response times?)

I also use A4A and whenever I hit a foreign city I often get a handful of inquiries from various people. If my planned escort session falls through I will sometimes go for a random chance meet. Quite often they are just as satisfying….and don’t cost me anything.

Ive had a few occasions where the escort bailed at last minute for understandable reasons and I’ve met up a few days later but they are rare