why did you start being an escort

[nate_sf]

It's interesting seeing this thread from 8+ years resurrected, and seeing the responses from guys who had been frequent contributors at the time. Also great to see the new guys here chiming in.

 

As for me, the idea of escorting had first come to mind in my first year of college when I’d read an article in the SF Weekly titled “It’s a Living: True stories from the working lives of ‘middle class’ prostitutes.” The story made the whole thing sound intriguing, but also something I could relate to. The guys interviewed in the story sounded intelligent and thoughtful, and instead of sounding seamy or threatening the idea sounded reasonable.

 

As I began to run through the last of my student loan money in the last year of college, I thought back to that SF Weekly article decided to take the plunge and place an “erotic masseur” ad in the Bay Area Reporter. With those first appointments money was a big motivation, and I have to admit I loved the feeling of depositing cash into the ATM rather than pulling it out all the time. It was great to be able to pay my bills without having to contemplate more loans, let alone having to hit up my parents. But I found I also really liked the encounters themselves, and enjoyed meeting the different guys. After a few appointments I abandoned the erotic masseur role in favor of going straight-up escort, since what I really liked was the full-on escort experience and all that entailed.

 

College is far behind me now, but I kept up escorting when I could balance it with my day jobs. While the extra cash was always helpful, I also really truly enjoyed the encounters themselves - meeting interesting guys and the fun that would come with it.

[jjkrkwood]

I couldnt wake up and decide I wanted to be an escort. I just dont have the "goods". It requires alot of self-assessment, tough skin and an open mind. I would be curious on the statistics

of how many guys enter the field and FAIL ? And of course all this is based on DEMAND. Without IT, even the best escort can go hungry.

[TopTierTop]

For me, it is just as simple as it is something I am good at and like. The sexual talent came first, then I built the body around it to suit the clients I want to attract. I see my self as a specialist in this particular field.

[+ OliverSaks]

I consider escorting "on the job training " for my future professional life in the mental health field.

 

I get to meet men who are more often than not my type (e.g. significantly older, heavy set, grey, etc), and I get paid for my time. Pretty lucky position that I'm in...

(Believe me, I do not take this for granted)

 

Finally, I am able to (hopefully) help clients make better lifestyle choices when it comes to health, fitness, and charitable giving. Men who hire are more likely to have the extra resources to give to charitable efforts, and so by instilling my clients with some ideas about effective charities to donate to, I am able to expand the overall "good" that I can do in the world, beyond what I contribute individually as a portion of my donations from clients.

[+ Keith30309]

I consider escorting "on the job training " for my future professional life in the mental health field.

 

I get to meet men who are more often than not my type (e.g. significantly older, heavy set, grey, etc), and I get paid for my time. Pretty lucky position that I'm in...

(Believe me, I do not take this for granted)

 

Finally, I am able to (hopefully) help clients make better lifestyle choices when it comes to health, fitness, and charitable giving. Men who hire are more likely to have the extra resources to give to charitable efforts, and so by instilling my clients with some ideas about effective charities to donate to, I am able to expand the overall "good" that I can do in the world, beyond what I contribute individually as a portion of my donations from clients.

 

 

Excellent answer!

 

Perhaps you could make your way from the barren, frozen tundra of Michigan to the balmy, tropical Shangri-La of Georgia for some field research.

[marylander1940]

Responses I've gotten:

 

"Money".

"Free time".

"Paying for college".

"I just kept wondering why not doing it".

[JuniorNYC]

I was initially curious about sex work in more of an academic and advocacy perspective. I had read a lot and having a psychology background I was particularly interested in learning more about both the external and internal stigma sex workers experience. After assisting a colleague in some of his sex work research at the research center I work for, I decided to try it out (after a few months of my own informal research). I used to do counseling work and am trained in a few intervention/counseling methods from working within the public health sector. Now I'm more focusing on sexual health research (which is what I currently do for my full-time job). I found that those previous experiences were not only helpful in how I approached the work, but also satisfied an itch that I forgot was still there. There's a special dynamic that was both familiar and incredibly new and exciting when I started. Something that's unique to these types of encounters.

 

I probably don't need to do this, but I enjoy it. The extra money is great, but more than that it's an adventure. I go a few weeks, and more recently a whole month, without doing it. Whenever I do return to it after a break, there's always a little bit of anxiety that I get – a good kind though – like when you start a new job, or move into a new place. If that excitement starts to dwindle, I’ll stop for a period of time. When I start again, like seeing a new client for the first time after a long break, it’s like the first time - it's quite thrilling, really. Overall, it’s just incredibly interesting, exciting and often more intimate about the experience beyond just sex - something you don't get with your average hook-up.

[AdamSmith]

I was initially curious about sex work in more of an academic and advocacy perspective. I had read a lot and having a psychology background I was particularly interested in learning more about both the external and internal stigma sex workers experience. After assisting a colleague in some of his sex work research at the research center I work for, I decided to try it out (after a few months of my own informal research). I used to do counseling work and am trained in a few intervention/counseling methods from working within the public health sector. Now I'm more focusing on sexual health research (which is what I currently do for my full-time job). I found that those previous experiences were not only helpful in how I approached the work, but also satisfied an itch that I forgot was still there. There's a special dynamic that was both familiar and incredibly new and exciting when I started. Something that's unique to these types of encounters.

 

I probably don't need to do this, but I enjoy it. The extra money is great, but more than that it's an adventure. I go a few weeks, and more recently a whole month, without doing it. Whenever I do return to it after a break, there's always a little bit of anxiety that I get – a good kind though – like when you start a new job, or move into a new place. If that excitement starts to dwindle, I’ll stop for a period of time. When I start again, like seeing a new client for the first time after a long break, it’s like the first time - it's quite thrilling, really. Overall, it’s just incredibly interesting and exciting. The deviant nature of it is sexually stimulating and it's a lot more diversely stimulating than your average hook-up.

A great description. Mirrors very much how I as a client experience it likewise.

[Zman]

I'm glad we brought this thread back to life. I'll read through the back posts out of curiosity. But I'm loving many of the new answers so far. It's nice to hear from escorts that they do it because they choose to and like the work. In my experience, escorts like that provide the best experience for the client.

[Bargara Leatherboy]

It goes hand in hand as to why we hire

[+ Ace]

GREAT thread...I was hoping that I had replied to it originally. When I found my post, I found myself nodding in agreement with the last line. (and THAT was more than a few years ago!).

I'm comfortable in my skin...I know where I fit in & I LOVE what I do!!!!

 

Still in the game & loving it!

[+ Tygerscent]

I am very curious what was the reason that you escort guys started being an escort. Was it because you needed money, you are addicted to having sex or something else. Did you start in a club or as a private escort. Was it because you had a friend or friends being an escort. I hope that you can give me some stories and also how you experienced the first times as an escort.

I thought about it a good year before starting.

Previously I was teaching and doing research in oncology/HIV/Hep C...

I was also doing masters work and pursuing several master's degrees~

I just didn't feel that I was using all of my knowledge and skills teaching, doing research and whatever...

So, I thought long and hard about what profession I could pursue that would allow me to utilize all of my skills and knowledge~

The answer: Geisha~

So, I researched Geisha history~

The original Geisha in the Edu period were male. It's interesting history...

I decided that my entire life, I have been a Male Geisha and that I needed to accept that completely and nurture that not just nurture the parts of being a Geisha~

So, this is now my Life, my identity and my being as well as my profession~ Not just a way of life but my LIFE completely~ It's who I am not what I am~

I am a Male Geisha Escort Companion Intimate~

There is nothing more nor less of my Life~

Geisha is a completely it~

Tyger~

tygerkink@yahoo.com

971.400.2633

[Rudynate]

I thought about it a good year before starting.

Previously I was teaching and doing research in oncology/HIV/Hep C...

I was also doing masters work and pursuing several master's degrees~

I just didn't feel that I was using all of my knowledge and skills teaching, doing research and whatever...

So, I thought long and hard about what profession I could pursue that would allow me to utilize all of my skills and knowledge~

The answer: Geisha~

So, I researched Geisha history~

The original Geisha in the Edu period were male. It's interesting history...

I decided that my entire life, I have been a Male Geisha and that I needed to accept that completely and nurture that not just nurture the parts of being a Geisha~

So, this is now my Life, my identity and my being as well as my profession~ Not just a way of life but my LIFE completely~ It's who I am not what I am~

I am a Male Geisha Escort Companion Intimate~

There is nothing more nor less of my Life~

Geisha is a completely it~

Tyger~

tygerkink@yahoo.com

971.400.2633

 

And there is no finer Geisha.

[+ not2rowdy]

...So, I researched Geisha history~

 

So, this is now my Life, my identity and my being as well as my profession~ Not just a way of life but my LIFE completely~ It's who I am not what I am~

I am a Male Geisha Escort Companion Intimate~

There is nothing more nor less of my Life~

Geisha is a completely it~...

 

Eitaro - possibly the last remaining, formally trained, male Geisha in Japan.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2243392/Japans-male-geisha-Eitaro-following-dead-mothers-foot-steps.html

[Kevin Slater]

In the end, it was the 401(k) match that got me.

 

Kevin Slater

[Bearofdistinction]

I thought about it a good year before starting.

Previously I was teaching and doing research in oncology/HIV/Hep C...

I was also doing masters work and pursuing several master's degrees~

I just didn't feel that I was using all of my knowledge and skills teaching, doing research and whatever...

So, I thought long and hard about what profession I could pursue that would allow me to utilize all of my skills and knowledge~

The answer: Geisha~

So, I researched Geisha history~

The original Geisha in the Edu period were male. It's interesting history...

I decided that my entire life, I have been a Male Geisha and that I needed to accept that completely and nurture that not just nurture the parts of being a Geisha~

So, this is now my Life, my identity and my being as well as my profession~ Not just a way of life but my LIFE completely~ It's who I am not what I am~

I am a Male Geisha Escort Companion Intimate~

There is nothing more nor less of my Life~

Geisha is a completely it~

Tyger~

tygerkink@yahoo.com

971.400.2633

 

And at least one of those Master Degrees is in Kink! Grrrrrrrrrr

[Rod Hagen]

In 2006 The Advocate magazine asked me to discuss this topic, here it is. It seems archaic and pretentious to me now.

 

http://www.advocate.com/politics/commentary/2006/07/17/your-service

 

At your service

Curiosity

compelled this L.A. resident to experiment with a new

persona: Rod Hagen, male escort. His first

client’s heartfelt gratitude led him to the

conclusion that Rod was here to stay.

 

 

BY ROD HAGEN

JULY 17 2006 12:00 AM EDT

 

If you want to

find me—or some other happy

hooker—you’ll have better luck pounding

the keyboard than the pavement. Prostitution now booms over

the Internet for the simple reason that it is needed.

As Gore Vidal wrote in 1966, “If most men and

women were forced to rely upon physical charm to

attract lovers, their sexual lives would be not only meager

but in a youth-worshipping country like America

painfully brief.” Add to that group men in

“Brokeback marriages,” diffident

virgins, and all those requiring discretion, and you

have a community of men with two options: keep it in

their pants or use the power of their wallets.

 

I didn’t

enter prostitution on such noble pretenses; nobody does.

These reflections came later. In the beginning there

was only curiosity.

 

Several years ago

(never mind how many) on a red-eye from LAX to JFK, I

read one of the numerous how-to books on prostitution, only

because some genius had slapped a half-naked man on

the cover. By the last chapter I thought, This

actually sounds fun. When I returned home to Los

Angeles, curiosity compelled me to create my working name,

Rod Hagen, and father a Web site. Curiosity then led

me to ring the doorbell of my first client.

 

Forty-five and

living alone, he was just back from a weeklong gay cruise,

during which—to his by-now raging

disenchantment—none of the 1,000 bronzed bucks

had volunteered to rub oil on his less-than-perfect bod. He

told me he’d never been with an escort before

(insecure myself, I kept my professional cherry a

secret). Two cathartic hours later I accepted his

money and thanked him. It was only in the car that I

realized I’d just committed Rod Hagen to

something more than a one-shot test run. At home was

an embarrassingly grateful e-mail. I hadn’t imagined

how much better a little attention would make him

feel.

 

Every hookup

since then has distilled the essence of that first time, as

in an Updike short story where nothing much happens yet by

the end everything is changed.

 

My testimony from

the trenches won’t change everyone’s

preconceptions about prostitution. But if I’ve

portrayed myself as happy, generous, healthy, and

reasoned, then I’ve succeeded in giving readers

grounds to reconsider.

[mike carey]

Rod, you've portrayed the sweet side of you profession perfectly. I only hope that others will sign up to meet you.