Ho hummer

[+ purplekow]

I have several regular escorts, but of the four most frequent, three are a distance away and as such the frequency of my interactions with them is limited though very satisfying  The fourth gentlemen, lives close to me and arrangements can be made with little notice.   I have been seeing him for several years and frankly the sex which started out a good but not great has become perfunctory.  His personal limitations are several which makes adding spice to the sessions difficult.  I do love me some spice.   So it comes down to being able to conveniently arrange acceptable if bland sex.  

The one area where this escort excels however is in providing a terrific oral experience.  Over the last 5 to 10 encounters, him providing me with oral has been the extent of the encounter and  during these sessions, I find myself fantasizing about other men and much more exotic escapades.  This works well enough but ultimately my question is:  

 Is so so sex enhanced by my own fantasies better than no sex at all?     And to answer two questions I think will be asked, the encounters are better than masturbation.  New escorts are available but not nearly as convenient.  

[dbar123]

IMHO the anticipation of much better sex trumps paying for a mediocre experience. It’s also cheaper.

I have a similar situation with a local provider who is becoming less and less adventurous and the sessions have become pretty bland. I’m letting him “time out “ and saving the money for a future, more interesting adventure 

[jeezifonly]

Consciously or not, fantasies, even in the form of memories, creep in and out of sexual encounters all the time, don’t they? 

If the provider’s level of interest wanes over time, you’re actually paying for a HE. (Husband Experience…)

[+ Pensant]

This is common, unless you’ve developed a sexual rapport with them that amplifies the erotic experience over time. I’ve been seeing a young local who will accommodate most of my desires and is a deep kisser, but he’s a little out there in his presentation and I’d be hesitant to be seen with him in public. A taller and more emo provider has now taken up my interests and we are passionate with each other and enjoy being out in public as well. He’s androgynous and even wore a pair of high black riding boots over skinny black jeans to a nice restaurant with me the other night, so I’m certainly not nervous about any flamboyance. He also has a sparkling smile and personality. 

You’re best advised to let the so-so local provider recede into your rear-view mirror and take a chance on someone new and exciting. Refreshing one’s wardrobe is essential.

[spider]

This has happened to me as well. The guy was hot as hell and we had a few great times. Then, gradually, it sort of became that was fun time to go. They he started talking about his family, etc., and the good times were less so, we just gradually grew apart, and that was fine. Still miss the good times, but they don't last.

[pubic_assistance]

On 3/12/2023 at 9:42 AM, spider said:

This has happened to me as well. The guy was hot as hell and we had a few great times. Then, gradually, it sort of became that was fun time to go. They he started talking about his family, etc., and the good times were less so, we just gradually grew apart, and that was fine. Still miss the good times, but they don't last.

Welcome to what the rest of us call "marriage".