Opining on the appearance of escorts

[pubic_assistance]

On 6/20/2022 at 1:00 PM, KensingtonHomo said:

Some people like a thick guy. I prefer a little thickness over 2% body fat. 

Interesting.

I just always assumed that people PAY for what they can't get on their own

Moderator's note:  I split this side conversation off from this thread.  Post your comments about forum members opining on the appearance of escorts here.  Keep the other thread about the specific escort at hand.  Thx.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

1 minute ago, pubic_assistance said:

Interesting.

I just always assumed that people PAY for what they can't get on their own

Oh really? I guess some people do. For us, it's really more about convenience. We can meet guys on Grindr or Scruff, but it's a bit more difficult for a couple. Some guys aren't into it. Some guys are only into one of us. And some guys are offended by the idea of a couple of who plays together. Hiring eliminates all of those issues and probably saves hours of scrolling and "sup?" conversations. 

And as a couple in our 40s, we get approached a LOT by much younger men (18-25) who have a daddy fantasy, which really isn't our thing. We prefer 35 and up, as well as guys who can carry on a conversation. So there are a couple in NYC who are younger but they're like "old souls" or something. 

[pubic_assistance]

As they say..."to each his own".

For me....I'm not going to pay for someone's company who's LESS good looking than myself .

 

[BaronArtz]

1 hour ago, pubic_assistance said:

As they say..."to each his own".

For me....I'm not going to pay for someone's company who's LESS good looking than myself .

 

You must look pretty hot.  Mind posting a picture of yourself?  

Let US be the judge ...

[+ KensingtonHomo]

1 hour ago, pubic_assistance said:

As they say..."to each his own".

For me....I'm not going to pay for someone's company who's LESS good looking than myself .

 

Good looking is subjective. I have friends falling over for 23 year old twunks and I'm over here like "What's Christopher Meloni in these days?" 

[pubic_assistance]

4 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

Good looking is subjective

This is true.

[guru68]

5 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

Good looking is subjective. I have friends falling over for 23 year old twunks and I'm over here like "What's Christopher Meloni in these days?" 

Meloni does have that "gonna take you apart now" thing going on.

[guru68]

7 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

As they say..."to each his own".

For me....I'm not going to pay for someone's company who's LESS good looking than myself .

 

It makes me wonder, though, if there are any cases of that going to other direction. Are there providers who ONLY accept clients that they find attractive? Or perhaps I should say, are there such providers who are also successful?

Yes, I'm being lazy and not searching for such a discussion - mea culpa.

[pubic_assistance]

8 hours ago, guru68 said:

Are there providers who ONLY accept clients that they find attractive?

Yes.

It's been a subject of conversation here .

I must say I sympathize with the providers.

Such an intimate type of encounter can't always be successful with every type of customer

[+ DynamicUno]

When this thread veered into "mean girl" territory, this was the first thing that came to mind...

 

[guru68]

8 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

Yes.

It's been a subject of conversation here .

I must say I sympathize with the providers.

Such an intimate type of encounter can't always be successful with every type of customer

Particularly in the case of very intense activities.

[pubic_assistance]

3 hours ago, guru68 said:

Particularly in the case of very intense activities.

I don't know how most of these guys do it.

Although I have multiple "types" I know there are many people who I couldn't possibly get excited over. I am a fitness freak and the slightest bit of fat sends me into limp dick territory. So kudos to these guys who can get it up no matter how unattactive people may be .

[guru68]

On 7/6/2022 at 4:35 PM, KensingtonHomo said:

This person does not have a "fat belly." He has quite a tight waist actually, but this angle highlights the definition of his pelvis. And since his waist is smaller than his abdomen, it gives the illusion that he has a belly. In other pictures, he clearly has a four-pack. 

Everyone is entitled to their particular tastes, but you have no idea if you could get this guy "off the street." Judging people for their appearance is toxic. Many people who use this forum have bellies or are overweight, so think about how we feel when you show a muscular fit man and describe him as a "turn off" due to his "fat belly." 

And as someone with a belly, I frequently hook up with fit muscular or toned guys 15-20 years younger than me.  

I understand why it isn't necessarily a popular thing, but it isn't unreasonable to acknowledge that prospective clients do make judgments about a provider's appearance - it's the nature of the business.

[BtmBearDad]

35 minutes ago, guru68 said:

I understand why it isn't necessarily a popular thing, but it isn't unreasonable to acknowledge that prospective clients do make judgments about a provider's appearance - it's the nature of the business.

It’s not unreasonable at all for hobbyists to judge providers based on our likes/preferences. It’s the manner in which it’s done that’s issue. 

The OP asked for feedback on this particular provider - totally normal. What I think is unnecessary is when other hobbyists chime in -when they have no experience with the provider, and have no intention to engage them - picking apart the provider’s body, appearance AND talking down to hobbyists about our choices, about how this must be the best we can hope to get, AND THEN proceeds to go on about how sexy, hot they are. It’s just so condescending, so patronizing, and so unnecessary. 

Now if someone asks for feedback on a provider, and a hobbyist replies they’ve engaged them, and the pictures are out of date, the body is not what the pics show, etc. that’s different. 

The former is rude, the latter is informative. 

How many times have I opened a “411” thread, clicked the link, and seen a provider that’s not my type, that I don’t think is attractive? Plenty. But I don’t add a comment to the thread expressing any of that, or any faults I find with his appearance, or any judgement I have for hobbyists who go for that type. I just close the thread, and move on. That’s how this is supposed to work. 

Just my two cents. I will add a third cent - in anonymous forums when people start talking about how worldly they are, how well heeled they are, how desirable, hot, and sexy they are, my experience has been chances are, they’re none of the above. 
 

BBD

[Guest MikeThomas]

36 minutes ago, BtmBearDad said:

It’s not unreasonable at all for hobbyists to judge providers based on our likes/preferences. It’s the manner in which it’s done that’s issue. 

The OP asked for feedback on this particular provider - totally normal. What I think is unnecessary is when other hobbyists chime in -when they have no experience with the provider, and have no intention to engage them - picking apart the provider’s body, appearance AND talking down to hobbyists about our choices, about how this must be the best we can hope to get, AND THEN proceeds to go on about how sexy, hot they are. It’s just so condescending, so patronizing, and so unnecessary. 

Now if someone asks for feedback on a provider, and a hobbyist replies they’ve engaged them, and the pictures are out of date, the body is not what the pics show, etc. that’s different. 

The former is rude, the latter is informative. 

How many times have I opened a “411” thread, clicked the link, and seen a provider that’s not my type, that I don’t think is attractive? Plenty. But I don’t add a comment to the thread expressing any of that, or any faults I find with his appearance, or any judgement I have for hobbyists who go for that type. I just close the thread, and move on. That’s how this is supposed to work. 

Just my two cents. I will add a third cent - in anonymous forums when people start talking about how worldly they are, how well heeled they are, how desirable, hot, and sexy they are, my experience has been chances are, they’re none of the above. 
 

BBD

... and the unnecessary tattoo comments.

[former lurker]

2 hours ago, BtmBearDad said:

It’s not unreasonable at all for hobbyists to judge providers based on our likes/preferences. It’s the manner in which it’s done that’s issue. 

The OP asked for feedback on this particular provider - totally normal. What I think is unnecessary is when other hobbyists chime in -when they have no experience with the provider, and have no intention to engage them - picking apart the provider’s body, appearance AND talking down to hobbyists about our choices, about how this must be the best we can hope to get, AND THEN proceeds to go on about how sexy, hot they are. It’s just so condescending, so patronizing, and so unnecessary. 

Now if someone asks for feedback on a provider, and a hobbyist replies they’ve engaged them, and the pictures are out of date, the body is not what the pics show, etc. that’s different. 

The former is rude, the latter is informative. 

How many times have I opened a “411” thread, clicked the link, and seen a provider that’s not my type, that I don’t think is attractive? Plenty. But I don’t add a comment to the thread expressing any of that, or any faults I find with his appearance, or any judgement I have for hobbyists who go for that type. I just close the thread, and move on. That’s how this is supposed to work. 

Just my two cents. I will add a third cent - in anonymous forums when people start talking about how worldly they are, how well heeled they are, how desirable, hot, and sexy they are, my experience has been chances are, they’re none of the above. 
 

BBD

For reasons beyond my imagination, a lot of posters answer inquiries directed at those with first-hand knowledge of a provider when all they have to offer is their reaction to the provider's ad which we can all see for ourselves.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

18 hours ago, BtmBearDad said:

How many times have I opened a “411” thread, clicked the link, and seen a provider that’s not my type, that I don’t think is attractive? Plenty. But I don’t add a comment to the thread expressing any of that, or any faults I find with his appearance, or any judgement I have for hobbyists who go for that type. I just close the thread, and move on. That’s how this is supposed to work. 

This is it. A lot of "hobbyists" (my new favorite term) find a very specific type of guy (late 20s, ripped body, conventionally "hot", and look like actors from a teen melodrama) that - for the most part - I do not find very appealing. I wasn't drawn to men in their 20s when I was in in MY 20s. But I do not say "Ew, why are are you interested in someone so young? Are you emotionally stunted?" Because it's none of my business what two consenting adults do together, and if people want "a model", that's good for them. I also try not to yuck other people's yum. 

If I'm directly asked by a hobbyist about my experience, then I will share details in a PM, clarifying what I'm into, now it went, my perspective, etc. There's two guys I get asked about all the time. One, I think its absolutely wonderful and cannot recommend enough. The other, who is in the "type of guy" most folks on here seem to desire, was really not for me. But I have never badmouthed that provider bc he was professional, he met our expectations, and - since i hire almost exclusively with my husband - I can't speak to what a one-on-one encounter would be like. So I'm not going to fuck with this guy's business because I didn't love the experience. 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

17 hours ago, Gymowner said:

What we are doing less and less in society is to allow others with differing views or opinions to express them. This woke "cancelling" society will do just that if given the opprotunity... cancel society.

I don't think this has anything to do with being "woke." Just like honoring someone pronouns, or being a good neighbor, not making negative comments on a provider you've never met, or judging their body harshly, is just being a decent, respectful person. I feel like online anonymity gives people license to behave in ways they never would in person. My general rule is if I wouldn't say this in person, I don't say it online. 

[Gymowner]

kensington... good words to follow. my point was more that disparaging someone that isnt to ones way or liking is trying to shut them down in a sense from future business. its not really woke and not political. it just aligns with a "cancelling" of a person per se.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

48 minutes ago, Gymowner said:

kensington... good words to follow. my point was more that disparaging someone that isnt to ones way or liking is trying to shut them down in a sense from future business. its not really woke and not political. it just aligns with a "cancelling" of a person per se.

Oh, I misread you. That makes sense now. 

[MikeBiDude]

20 hours ago, MikeThomas said:

... and the unnecessary tattoo comments.

Or if a provider is slim…the unnecessary “buy him a sandwich” comments.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

42 minutes ago, MikeBiDude said:

Or if a provider is slim…the unnecessary “buy him a sandwich” comments.

Yeah, I don't care if someone likes tattoos or not, or if they think someone is too thin or too heavy. The only time I think a comment about a provider's appearance is warranted is if you meet them and they look significantly different from their photos. Because in that case, they are being deceptive. Even then, you can simply say "when we met,  the provider was heavier, smaller, etc. than his pics." 

[Luv2play]

23 hours ago, former lurker said:

For reasons beyond my imagination, a lot of posters answer inquiries directed at those with first-hand knowledge of a provider when all they have to offer is their reaction to the provider's ad which we can all see for ourselves.

Sometimes the ads are worth commenting on even if one has never met the provider. But some restraint is called for, I agree.

Edited July 8, 2022 by Luv2play

[FewBricksShy]

5 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

The only time I think a comment about a provider's appearance is warranted is if you meet them and they look significantly different from their photos. Because in that case, they are being deceptive. Even then, you can simply say "when we met,  the provider was heavier, smaller, etc. than his pics." 

This is an important point. I’ve actually asked providers who post pictures of themselves with different hair color what it is right now. I don’t think that’s unfair. We’re cataloging through these guys to find something that potentially pleases us. It’s already a marker, and provider’s should know they’re going to be assessed on things that might be superficial. We’re not looking to become soulmates or life partners here. We’re looking for a business transaction. The business is intimate and personal, but it’s still business. So it’s okay to assess based off likes and dislikes, but there’s definitely a way to do that which is professional and polite. No need to be rude or hateful about it.  

[pubic_assistance]

On 7/7/2022 at 5:59 PM, BtmBearDad said:

That’s how this is supposed to work. 

You were the hall monitor in elementary school weren't you ?