How do you like first contact?

[TopBunk]

So I read your profile. I'm interested in meeting. Maybe I want to see a recent photo first. Maybe I want to know your rates. Maybe I want to know if you're hosting now or tonight or tomorrow. Maybe I want to know if you're down with the details of what I want to do.

How do you like getting the initial contact? Do you want one long letter? Do you want several messages, starting with greetings? Do you want contact in rm chat? Do you prefer a text or a call? Do you want my photos or my stats or...? 

I'm interested in what you like, not what you think others might like. I wish you all shared links to your rm profile in your info here.

[Jamie21]

Ask it all in a message, but read my profile or website first because that answers most of the normal questions.

Then ask whatever else you need, no question is silly. I’m not looking for pics of you, it doesn’t matter what you look like. Stats aren’t needed either unless they pertain to how I should treat you (are you 7ft tall? Do you have one leg?… that sort of thing). 

And if you want to endear yourself be polite. 

[italianboyph]

10 hours ago, TopBunk said:

So I read your profile. I'm interested in meeting. Maybe I want to see a recent photo first. Maybe I want to know your rates. Maybe I want to know if you're hosting now or tonight or tomorrow. Maybe I want to know if you're down with the details of what I want to do.

How do you like getting the initial contact? Do you want one long letter? Do you want several messages, starting with greetings? Do you want contact in rm chat? Do you prefer a text or a call? Do you want my photos or my stats or...? 

I'm interested in what you like, not what you think others might like. I wish you all shared links to your rm profile in your info here.

I usually try to put everything in my profile just to give an idea. I usually prefer everything to be asked in one message.  But again ask away for anything you need to know prior to meeting. 🥰

[Guest]

19 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

Ask it all in a message, but read my profile or website first because that answers most of the normal questions.

Then ask whatever else you need, no question is silly. I’m not looking for pics of you, it doesn’t matter what you look like. Stats aren’t needed either unless they pertain to how I should treat you (are you 7ft tall? Do you have one leg?… that sort of thing). 

And if you want to endear yourself be polite. 

completely agree

[Jarrod_Uncut]

20 hours ago, TopBunk said:

So I read your profile. I'm interested in meeting. Maybe I want to see a recent photo first. Maybe I want to know your rates. Maybe I want to know if you're hosting now or tonight or tomorrow. Maybe I want to know if you're down with the details of what I want to do.

How do you like getting the initial contact? Do you want one long letter? Do you want several messages, starting with greetings? Do you want contact in rm chat? Do you prefer a text or a call? Do you want my photos or my stats or...? 

I'm interested in what you like, not what you think others might like. I wish you all shared links to your rm profile in your info here.

I admire your inquisitive nature, but this can be a lot for one provider to answer in an actual contact. You might get a response from someone, but it’s likely some are going to pick up clues that you might be sending the same messages to everyone. 
 

In my case, I prefer to start contact over Cash App, Apple Pay or Zelle….and then we can talk about everything else afterwards. I decided for me personally, I no longer have the desire to “work” every inquiry that comes thru to my phone. I don’t really get paid enough per session (it’s not like a lawyer who does multi thousand and million dollar cases) to continue offering free consultations. 
 

I know some people out there get instantly frustrated and end the convo. But, I decided maybe it’s better that way, because they probably 50/50 wouldn’t follow thru anyway. So that saves us both time. Sitting around texting at random to strangers on a whim with the ”possibility” they’ll come thru with some money…isn’t entertaining anymore. I’m more eager to chat when I’m able to get some initial incentive.
 

20 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

I’m not looking for pics of you, it doesn’t matter what you look like. Stats aren’t needed either unless they pertain to how I should treat you (are you 7ft tall? Do you have one leg?… that sort of thing). 

Interesting you say that. I hope that you’re saying it in a way as “it doesn’t matter to you”, not that it shouldn’t matter to “anyone”. 
 

I’d say I’m open to all types of clients, however I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a provider having sone degree of “vetting” or asking. I mean, I feel the idea of a provider not knowing NOTHING about a client, is so 1980s, 90s and early 2000s magazine ads. These days (atleast in America) many clients don’t mind to volunteer photos. Not that’s it’s needed, but even a faceless one takes 5 seconds. 
 

Not to mention: I had a client the other week who I felt very bad having to do…but I couldn’t get thru the session because he had several “questionable” looking skin ailments, despite him not being a bad shape guy.
 

I also have had clients with injuries or other things, and I decided: I’m not willing to take that on anymore. Escorts/Masseurs are (generally) not doctors, like I said elsewhere. I’m not fit to be exposed to grotesque physical ailments, sores, weird rashes and all. I had even had one who came in awhile back with HPV warts all over his rear, and wanted to “play” before his surgery. I was like, absolutely not even with a condom. 
 

There’s only so much I’m open to work with, but if someone has something going on…it’s better to inform or hold off. I’m not trying to be “punk’d” into an uncomfortable situation

 

That said, I’m usually pretty comfortable with 10/10 of the bookings I see. I usually just ask basic info like age/stats/ethnicity simply because I don’t like the shock factor of opening the door not knowing who/what. Clients don’t like to open the door to someone completely unexpected than the pictures showing up, so the fair thing to do is to give us some sort of introduction about them too. Especially since most bookings are arranged over text without ever a phone call.

Edited April 13, 2022 by Jarrod_Uncut

[Jamie21]

2 hours ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

Interesting you say that. I hope that you’re saying it in a way as “it doesn’t matter to you”, not that it shouldn’t matter to “anyone”. 

He asked ‘I’m interested what you like not what you think others like’ so that’s how I answered. 

When I said I don’t need pics unless it pertains to how I should treat you then that means I need to know of any injuries or conditions because that affects how I’d treat my client. Example if he has varicose veins in legs then I’m not going to massage his legs. I’ve disabled clients, one is profoundly deaf…I need to know that, another has cerebral palsy so I need to understand that too. But what I mean is I don’t care about physical shape or looks, no need to send pictures for that. Just be healthy, clean and respectful. 

[Rudynate]

On 4/12/2022 at 11:51 PM, Jamie21 said:

example if he has varicose veins in legs then I’m not going to massage his legs

That's curious - what is your concern - dislodging a clot, maybe?

[Jamie21]

Yes that’s exactly it. Can be very dangerous. That’s why it’s always advised to hydrate properly after a massage too. 
 

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