Imagine, if you will, an escort approaching you…

[+ José Soplanucas]

4 hours ago, xyz48B said:

Why would you expect an answer to a rhetorical question?

I’m quite happy. I disagree with people here and they interpret that as complaining. I do see a lot of hypocrisy here as well, and I point it out. That’s not complaining. It’s just telling the truth.

I just had breakfast with a friend who told me I am one of the happiest people they know and I make them want to be a better person. So anyone’s impression of me as miserable is off target. Apparently I’m a joy to be around in person. Is it possible, rhetorically speaking, that because I have the temerity to point out how some people are wearing no clothes that it’s easier to write me off as miserable to save face? 🤔 

[+ purplekow]

On 3/10/2022 at 6:21 PM, xyz48B said:

What?

Wow…Maybe escorts should remember that clients….are still humans?

The grace we afford an escort for doing what is bitched about as far as clients? The irony is rich…

I was decent, too. The point I’m making is that for all the righteous posturing about proper etiquette on approaching the holy of holies here, the rules of engagement don’t apply the other way. The guy is fine as far as I’m concerned. The point is that escorts will say that such a message from a potential client (“Hey 👋🏻“) wastes their time. It doesn’t take more than 3 seconds to fire off a response…

I’m still looking for the Miss Manners etiquette book that provides the exact verbiage required to contact an escort.

Perhaps if you were being approached dozens of times a day every day and every hour of the day, you might feel differently.  

As it is, one "hey" which did not end with a role in the hay, for you seems to indicate that polite interaction when trying to obtain a service. from an escort for this discussion,  is too much to ask when it is not reciprocal in a first approach from every provider.   For all you know, that "hey" could have been pre programmed and it could beenrmeant as an indication that I am around if you want to talk more after your visit to my page.  

When I walk into a store, as I approach a clerk I have a clear idea of where the encounter is going to go and I make that clear.  Similarly with an escort.  My first interaction is a very short but straight forward indication of what I want, when I want it and an inquiry as to whetherthis is a service that is within the realm of the provider's services.  

A person aimlessly coming to the counter or passing by a web site, may need to be prompted to focus on the intent of the interaction.  "May I help you" at a counter would be too formal at a passing web site visit.  "Hey" seems unobtrusive and could have been responded to many hours later, which is when you responded, with a simple, "Just Browsing".  Not quite as harsh as your response and equally informative.  

When one is approached many times a day, expecting an adult client to act both as an adult and as a client is not too much to ask.   I assume you are an adult, by now you should have been able to figure our how a behave as a client in all its incarnations.  Why this is, as you suggested,  a mystery to you, is a mystery to me.   

Edited March 11, 2022 by purplekow

[+ WilliamM]

4 hours ago, xyz48B said:

That wouldn’t be objectionable! This guy was from LA…I’m outside of Boston. That would a pricey Uber! 

Lexington, Massachusetts?

[xyz48B]

21 minutes ago, purplekow said:

an indication that I am around if you want to talk more after your visit to my page

Reasonable…if I didn’t have my RM settings such that I’m not visible when I visit a profile. Also – I had never seen the guy’s profile before he messaged me.

Look – I was polite. The problem isn’t this guy; the problem is the incessant talk here that such a message from clients is inappropriate but when a provider does it, we have folks who will find a host of explanations for why it’s acceptable. Both providers and clients will engage in apologetics about it. It seems to me, if you’re soliciting someone for sex, you’re a client. The one who makes the first move in the transaction is the client. If a guy who’s normally a provider approaches someone for sex, in a transactional sense, he’s a client.

If a guy wants to come up to me and ask me to fuck him, I’m likely to say no. If he offers to pay me, I may reconsider.

The lines of what makes a client and a provider aren’t nearly as defined as some might like. If you’re horny, bored, and hit someone up for sex with an expectation that it’s transactional, why would I pay you to satisfy your boredom and libido? It seems to me that’s the very definition of being a client…approaching a potential guy for transactional sex. I’m not paying a provider to satisfy his needs; I’m paying him to satisfy mine. 

Edited March 11, 2022 by xyz48B

[xyz48B]

11 minutes ago, WilliamM said:

Lexington, Massachusetts?

Los Angeles, California 

[xyz48B]

27 minutes ago, latbear4blk said:

[xyz48B]

2 hours ago, Coolwave35 said:

I learned the meaning of vicissitudes and temerity from this thread. 
 

thank you. 

At the risk of going off topic, I am a lexophile. I love words. They have personalities…each of them. There’s always a good word for every situation…You just have to know it – or create it. Language is a living thing and neologisms are the mutations of its DNA.

[FewBricksShy]

On 3/11/2022 at 6:54 PM, xyz48B said:

At the risk of going off topic, I am a lexophile. I love words. They have personalities…each of them. There’s always a good word for every situation…You just have to know it – or create it. Language is a living thing and neologisms are the mutations of its DNA.

Maybe you could make friends with a dictionary?

[Gadfly22]

On 3/11/2022 at 6:34 PM, purplekow said:

Perhaps if you were being approached dozens of times a day every day and every hour of the day, you might feel differently.