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Today, I had a no show from a provider.
We had communicated through RM message at first. I noticed he took days to answer any message. However,  thought he wasn't connected to RM 24 hours a day hence the delay. After a while, we switched to WhatsApp. His response time was marginally better, although still slow, I thought. Again, I thought he was not checking his phone 24/7- fair enough.

We arranged to meet at a hotel, which I paid for as I had family visiting  my place. I confirmed the date and time the day before and the morning of. I checked in and waited. 2pm came and went. I texted him after 20 minutes; no response. I tried calling 15 minutes later; no response. I texted and asked if he was coming or not at 3pm. I got a reply stating, "hi man, I might". I texted back, "what does that mean? No response.

I wanted another 30 minutes and still nothing. In the end, I texted this message.

Hey there, bummed you were a no-show. I was looking forward to meeting you. In the future, you should let someone know if you aren't gonna make it, as to not waste their time. Have a good night."

I get that things come up, but all he had to do was tell me. I thought about sending a review to RM, but as I understand it, they wouldn't publish it as we never actually met. I am not out for revenge or anything, and I suppose I should shrug this off and move on. It's just that I prepared all day and paid for a hotel room, and he didn't have the maturity to call me. This guy has excellent reviews on RM, and I was really looking forward to meeting him and, if not for the pandemic,  we would have met.  


Am I guessing this has happened to others? How did you handle it?

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I feel for you @agentgemini  It’s very frustrating when someone ‘no shows’. 
 

To answer your 1st question: this happened to me some years ago. I was left waiting on an overnight date in LA with a very well-reviewed muscleboy who was exactly ‘my type’. I was upset but stayed calm. I finally reached him by phone 4 hours after the time he’d set. He was very apologetic (but gave no reason) and begged for a second chance. A month later, I’d fixed another overnight from 6.30pm and I phoned him as arranged at 4pm with the WeHo hotel room number. He said he’d hurt himself and had to go to hospital. (I phoned him later on another phone to check how he was; he didn’t recognise my voice and instantly told me he was free to meet; I said I’d think it over) 

To answer your 2nd question: always have a Plan B. Because the well-reviewed versatile muscleboy had let me down once, I had the numbers of 4 other LA muscleboys with me. I phoned 3 and quickly set up dates. I saw a lovely guy for sex before dinner. Afterwards I had a well-muscled guy (later I discovered he was famous) for a great session before I slept. In the morning, I had the 3rd guy come and service me before breakfast. 
I had loads of fun with the 3 muscleboys and the 3 dates in total cost less than I’d agreed for the overnight with the ‘no show’. 

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1 hour ago, agentgemini said:

Am I guessing this has happened to others? How did you handle it?

No, you definitely are not "guessing...."  Write a review at the new site here as well as at RentMen.  I abhor flakes.  If it's happened to you with this man, it's more than likely has happened to others who had arranged to see him.  This particular escort and others of the same ilk, should learn to be responsible and to treat individuals with the utmost respect or get out of the business. 

They also should learn how to respect others, for If they choose NOT to connect, then DON'T commit and leave the client hanging and becoming rather, rather disappointed.

Lastly, resort to doing what MscleLovr suggested for Plan B.

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Once I get stood up by a provider, I NEVER give them a second chance. It's just my personal rule about this.

A while back I got stood up by a provider....and he texted me 3 days later to find out if I was still interested in meeting.  That was a new one on me. Of course I said yes and subsequently became nonresponsive.

 

 

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I never go back to a poisoned well. 

Once burned, twice shy. 

If there’s already a thread here about them (there almost always 
is because I rarely hire "unknowns") I briefly add a post saying that
they were a no-show to save others from wasting their time. 

Wasting my time is a cardinal sin.

I’d almost rather you showed up and were a lousy fuck….almost.

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My sangfroid usually allows me to brush these things off, considering that the vast majority of my interactions have been positive. That said, a gorgeous blond who I flew out for a weekend to LA from Detroit and with whom I had a marvelous time failed to appear for a weekend in Philadelphia months later, with no response. The fare was around a little over a hundred bucks, so I shrugged and called Premier and ordered in a doppelgänger.

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There's nothing anyone on this forum can say that'll make you feel better.  We've all been there and it sucks.  Honestly it'll probably happen again to all of us at some point.  Just like if you fly enough you're bound to have a bad flight experience now and again.  Best thing you can do is move on to someone more reliable.

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I almost 100 percent of the time have all my meetups at one of the casino hotels in Atlantic City because I have complimentary rooms at several casinos so when I schedule a meeting with a provider I always have that fear of a no show 

I do have a couple very professional and reliable regulars.....but once in awhile I like to try someone new who catches my eye 

Hence back in November 2020 I was messaging on RM with a provider named theoneandonly and we set up a potential meetup 

We ironed out the date, time, and his rate I even told him that I would cover tolls gas and parking 

Well you can guess what happened.  He was texting that he was getting ready to leave then that he got a later start but was on his way, that he was a certain number of hours away 

Then that was it and he went silent on me.....never showed up.  Left me with no backup guy at all 

Would never consider him again !!!!

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18 hours ago, MscleLovr said:

I feel for you @agentgemini  It’s very frustrating when someone ‘no shows’. 
 

To answer your 1st question: this happened to me some years ago. I was left waiting on an overnight date in LA with a very well-reviewed muscleboy who was exactly ‘my type’. I was upset but stayed calm. I finally reached him by phone 4 hours after the time he’d set. He was very apologetic (but gave no reason) and begged for a second chance. A month later, I’d fixed another overnight from 6.30pm and I phoned him as arranged at 4pm with the WeHo hotel room number. He said he’d hurt himself and had to go to hospital. (I phoned him later on another phone to check how he was; he didn’t recognise my voice and instantly told me he was free to meet; I said I’d think it over) 

To answer your 2nd question: always have a Plan B. Because the well-reviewed versatile muscleboy had let me down once, I had the numbers of 4 other LA muscleboys with me. I phoned 3 and quickly set up dates. I saw a lovely guy for sex before dinner. Afterwards I had a well-muscled guy (later I discovered he was famous) for a great session before I slept. In the morning, I had the 3rd guy come and service me before breakfast. 
I had loads of fun with the 3 muscleboys and the 3 dates in total cost less than I’d agreed for the overnight with the ‘no show’. 

Thanks very much.  Sorry it happened to you too but you have given me some great advice going forward.  Best wishes.

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18 hours ago, Axiom2001 said:

No, you definitely are not "guessing...."  Write a review at the new site here as well as at RentMen.  I abhor flakes.  If it's happened to you with this man, it's more than likely has happened to others who had arranged to see him.  This particular escort and others of the same ilk, should learn to be responsible and to treat individuals with the utmost respect or get out of the business. 

They also should learn how to respect others, for If they choose NOT to connect, then DON'T commit and leave the client hanging and becoming rather, rather disappointed.

Lastly, resort to doing what MscleLovr suggested for Plan B.

I hate flakes as well. I wouldn't have minded so much if he had just been upfront with me. I understand that something may have come up, but all he had to do was say so. Oh well, lesson learned, and I will have a plan B from now on.  Thanks.

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18 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

I would never book a hotel room for a meet up with someone I don't know.

The industry has it's fair share of flakes.

You need to wade through some muck to find the gems. If you prefer variety then you're going to be disappointed frequently by scammers, flakes and fakes.

Yes, normally I wouldn't have booked a room.  In this instance it was someone I had wanted to meet for a long time but couldn't because of the pandemic.  Also I have family staying at my place so a hotel seemed the logical solution.   on RM he has near excellent reviews.  I take your point though and if nothing else I have learned a valuable lesson.

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20 hours ago, agentgemini said:

Today, I had a no show from a provider.
We had communicated through RM message at first. I noticed he took days to answer any message. However,  thought he wasn't connected to RM 24 hours a day hence the delay. After a while, we switched to WhatsApp. His response time was marginally better, although still slow, I thought. Again, I thought he was not checking his phone 24/7- fair enough.

We arranged to meet at a hotel, which I paid for as I had family visiting  my place. I confirmed the date and time the day before and the morning of. I checked in and waited. 2pm came and went. I texted him after 20 minutes; no response. I tried calling 15 minutes later; no response. I texted and asked if he was coming or not at 3pm. I got a reply stating, "hi man, I might". I texted back, "what does that mean? No response.

I wanted another 30 minutes and still nothing. In the end, I texted this message.

Hey there, bummed you were a no-show. I was looking forward to meeting you. In the future, you should let someone know if you aren't gonna make it, as to not waste their time. Have a good night."

I get that things come up, but all he had to do was tell me. I thought about sending a review to RM, but as I understand it, they wouldn't publish it as we never actually met. I am not out for revenge or anything, and I suppose I should shrug this off and move on. It's just that I prepared all day and paid for a hotel room, and he didn't have the maturity to call me. This guy has excellent reviews on RM, and I was really looking forward to meeting him and, if not for the pandemic,  we would have met.  


Am I guessing this has happened to others? How did you handle it?

Been there so many times, guy. I try to just chalk it up to a sometimes-shit-happens experience, not let it affect me in a personal way, and move ahead in hiring others who may turn out to be an amazingly good time and potentially become a regular provider for me. This isn’t necessarily advice as it is—after much trial and error—what happens to be working for me. Cheers 🙂

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Trust me I have had a few and very recently one that has become rather popular on “Only Fans”

He couldn’t get to the airport apparently due to weather so decided to turn around and go home.   
Now while he did let me know he obviously didn’t make the flight.   
Upon trying to reschedule the visit I was met with “Well I am really to busy at this point”  So I obviously said “Well since your so busy reimbursing me for the ticket should not be an issue”. How many of you think I saw my 400 plus LOL.  
This is a prime example of someone who thinks he now “Famous” and has no regard for his clients or responsibilities.     
This however is the same guy that taken out to Dinner and Brunch on a previous visit chooses to pick his plate up and lick it clean in Public.     

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6 minutes ago, FrankR said:

Getting the review site up and running would be a good start! We can add a flag for “Reported as a no show” and “Frequently reported as a no show”. 🤦‍♂️

That is not a bad idea! I mean if we can get Daddies Review back up we could add the flag you proposed and save all of us some trouble.  A separate list or thread sounds cumbersome and hard to navigate in forum format. IMG_8476.jpg.77ff93ac16f0e986e309e1f76ceac7dc.jpg

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On 11/27/2021 at 7:52 AM, agentgemini said:

Today, I had a no show from a provider.
We had communicated through RM message at first. I noticed he took days to answer any message. However,  thought he wasn't connected to RM 24 hours a day hence the delay. After a while, we switched to WhatsApp. His response time was marginally better, although still slow, I thought. Again, I thought he was not checking his phone 24/7- fair enough.

We arranged to meet at a hotel, which I paid for as I had family visiting  my place. I confirmed the date and time the day before and the morning of. I checked in and waited. 2pm came and went. I texted him after 20 minutes; no response. I tried calling 15 minutes later; no response. I texted and asked if he was coming or not at 3pm. I got a reply stating, "hi man, I might". I texted back, "what does that mean? No response.

I wanted another 30 minutes and still nothing. In the end, I texted this message.

Hey there, bummed you were a no-show. I was looking forward to meeting you. In the future, you should let someone know if you aren't gonna make it, as to not waste their time. Have a good night."

I get that things come up, but all he had to do was tell me. I thought about sending a review to RM, but as I understand it, they wouldn't publish it as we never actually met. I am not out for revenge or anything, and I suppose I should shrug this off and move on. It's just that I prepared all day and paid for a hotel room, and he didn't have the maturity to call me. This guy has excellent reviews on RM, and I was really looking forward to meeting him and, if not for the pandemic,  we would have met.  


Am I guessing this has happened to others? How did you handle it?

I'm sorry to hear about this.

Something very similar happened to me a few years ago. I documented it in the forums and Daddy's (#15 in the link below).

https://archive.m4m-forum.org/cruise/2016-06-13/kerry_slate_la

To summarize, Kerry was well-reviewed but didn't show up to the meet and didn't respond to my messages. I documented it here in the forums and he apologized. Turns out he had suffered a death and his head was not in the right place.

We ended up meeting eventually and he made up for it by giving me four hours for the price of one.  I ended up seeing him a couple of time after that.

It's helpful to all of us, if you do mention the name, and in my case, it may have prompted some action on his part.

 

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