A question of decency

[Trixie]

Opinions, please.

 

If you were receiving veiled signals that one of your younger, not-too- bright, but quite gorgeous co-workers was looking for a blow job, would you make the move? Mind you, you are not his boss or anything, just a co-worker.

 

La Trix

[GloriousGodfrey]

If it's something you both want, why not?

[Lookin]

Only if my secretary was at lunch. :-)

[RockHard]

The smartest answer to your question really depends on so many variables.

 

If you're working for a porn studio or a porn distribution business or any pop-n-pop shop in the Castro, I doubt there'd be much problem. But if the business is more conservative, more corporate, where professional behavior matters, especially if an HR department exists, and you're looking to climb the business success ladder and/or make a name for yourself within the same or similar business, an on-the-job blow job may cause you to invite unwanted risk, leaving yourself open for betrayal, manipulation, a lawsuit, and a whole bunch of P.R. ugliness, especially if you suck the wrong guy (or aren't as good a sucker as you think you are).

 

I've never been a fan of sex in the corporate workplace because I've never met anyone in a corporate environment whom I could trust. And these litigious days, even gay guys have to be very careful when it comes to sex in the workplace with co-workers.

 

Now, if you don't care about your job and your reputation if and when the shit hits the fan, and only you and the suckee get to determine "decency," then suck away.

[+ Lucky]

Suck it.

[+ Hoover42]

I would certainly flirt a lot in that situation, but I wouldn't actually blow any co-worker. Even if the guy wasn't in my chain-of-command, I would think there would be too much potential for bad feelings and a hostile work environment later if the relationship changed for the worse.

 

...Hoover

[+ Hoover42]

I would certainly flirt a lot in that situation, but I wouldn't actually blow any co-worker. Even if the guy wasn't in my chain-of-command, I would think there would be too much potential for bad feelings and a hostile work environment later if the relationship changed for the worse.

 

...Hoover

[Guest ReturnOfS]

>Opinions, please.

>

>If you were receiving veiled signals that one of your younger,

>not-too- bright, but quite gorgeous co-workers was looking for

>a blow job, would you make the move? Mind you, you are not

>his boss or anything, just a co-worker.

>

>La Trix

 

Tie him up and have your way with him! }(

 

Then send videos of you two together to the cell phones of all of your co-workers :+

[Guest ReturnOfS]

>Opinions, please.

>

>If you were receiving veiled signals that one of your younger,

>not-too- bright, but quite gorgeous co-workers was looking for

>a blow job, would you make the move? Mind you, you are not

>his boss or anything, just a co-worker.

>

>La Trix

 

Tie him up and have your way with him! }(

 

Then send videos of you two together to the cell phones of all of your co-workers :+

[+ purplekow]

Ask him out for a drink after work or to the nearest gay bar.

If you get that far, the rest should be easy

[+ purplekow]

Ask him out for a drink after work or to the nearest gay bar.

If you get that far, the rest should be easy

[Justice]

This is one of those "it depends" questions.

 

Some companies have a "no fraternization" policy which prohibits "relationships" between all employees and not just managers and subordinates. Even without a no fraternization policy, an unwanted advance (despite any signals to the contrary) could lead to a sexual harrassment complaint. (Same sex sexual harrassment complaints are rare but not unheard of.) You don't have to have a manager/subordinate relationship to be hit with sexual harrassment complaint. Even if you're found to be innocent of any harrassment, it's still going to be placed in your personnel file and even though personnel actions are supposed to be confidential word (usually in the form of gossip and/or rumor) almost always spread like wildfire. That said, I've worked in the same place for over 20 years and I work with about a dozen str8 couples who met their spouses at the office. (All but one of them are still together and all but two of them still work with us.)

 

Justice

[ValleyDwellerNorth]

Hell to the no! That will lead to nothing but trouble. You don't know what kind of talker he is. If he shares that fact with someone at work, and the wrong person hears it ... well, BJs and your request for more Post-It Notes might come into conflict. Just say NO to office head.

[Kevin Slater]

Two weeks after you blow him (and totally unrelatedly, it's just how these things work) the rumor is going to go around the office that he has a small cock: Murphy's Law. Of course he's going to think you started it. Drama will ensue. (If this doesn't work for you, insert "the next morning", "a panty fetish" and switch the pronouns "you" and "he". Or try your very own variation; it's fun!)

 

Don't shit where you eat.

 

Kevin Slater

[+ Charlie]

Do you really long to give him a blowjob? Or are you just fascinated by the the possible opportunity? (From your tone, I suspect it's the latter, like buying something attractive that you really don't need, but it's on sale.)

[Sparky12]

Don't shit where you eat. In this economy, don't even fart!

[JT Brooklyn]

VDN..Totally Agree! This "Co-Worker Blow-Job" referred to could come back to Blow Up in his Face!

 

You should always think with the Big Head and NOT the little ONE!

 

Especially where you are Employed! Unless "Fluffing" is a Job Requirement??? I'd check with Human Resources First! ;-)

[RockHard]

"Two weeks after you blow him...the rumor is going to go around the office..."

 

Speaking of Murphy's Law, Slater brings up a good point: No one can keep a secret, not in absolute terms. You can count on at least one other person finding out soon after you spit or swallow. So another question to ask yourself: Do you care who knows? And do you care if those who hear the gossip speculate on the truth? Gossip rarely holds onto the finer details.

 

No matter what sexual preference, sex in the workplace changes every work relationship. It's inevitable and it's unavoidable. Once words gets around, the change affects everyone in different ways. No matter what, news about sex will threaten some and anger others. It's the nature of the "getting some" beast. A small percentage will shrug their shoulders and say they don't care.

 

I hear there is a lawsuit pending in a tony Manhattan beauty salon (of all places, go figure) between a male hairdresser and his younger male assistant. Apparently, the hairdresser thought the assistant was a true friend worthy of trust. And the assistant thought that by turning a blind eye to the hairdresser's sexual advances his own styling chair would soon appear. When the chair never materialized, the assistant found a lawyer. The hairdresser stands to lose six figures and the salon stands to lose much more. Not a pretty situation and the gossip just keeps on coming.

 

Good luck with temptation.

[Guest MickeyMoosie]

I find many of the responses ironic.

 

I suspect many of the people who are telling you "HELL NO" are the same people who said: "What's the big deal? Everybody does it!" when Clinton has having sex with a young thing - or was she having sex with him? It was all so confusing.

 

My advice is: unless you're the President of the United States and you're a Democrat, DON'T DO IT.

[best hotel]

....i had an experience with a straightish co-worker who made it apparent that he wanted me to make a move...only to turn me down....think about his motives...is he trying to establish some type of superiority?..are you a potential competitor for a promotion?..is he just "curious".as they say... or perhaps youare misreading his signals....i agree with the statement "it depends"...i wish i did what you are doing here before having been so quick to suck in so many situations.....

[+ Axiom2001]

To the thread maker: Heed the advice that was so saliently presented by Rockhard, purplekow, Justice, ValleydwellerNorth, Charlie, and Kevin Slater. All made much sense, and as one writer related, "Think with your "BIG HEAD," not the little one!"

[nate_sf]

It will bring you nothing but trouble, or at least a lot of awkwardness. Yes, for Clinton and others it was "not a big deal" in the greater scheme of things, but look how much trouble it caused him and other politicians caught thinking with the wrong head. Not worth it!

 

It makes me think of sitcoms where two characters have a longstanding chemistry but don't act on it, until they do, and then the excitement is gone. It can be exciting to have some chemistry at work, but in the long run I think it's better to leave it as innocent (non-provocative) flirtation rather than venture into all the possible negative consequences. Blow jobs are easy enough to come by with out messing up your career!

[+ Hoover42]

>Blow jobs are easy enough to come by

 

Only for some, but not in general. Otherwise, some of us wouldn't be hiring.

 

...Hoover

[RockHard]

RE: A question of getting some.

 

>>Blow jobs are easy enough to come by

>

>Only for some, but not in general. Otherwise, some of us

>wouldn't be hiring.

>

>...Hoover

 

This might be a good time to take two appointments worth from your escort stash and go out and buy yourself a gym membership. Make sure the gym offers some sort of sauna facility. Even in places where one might not expect it -- actually, especially in such places, health clubs offer more cock-sucking possibilities than most people can imagine.

 

I have very fond memories from my days "on-the-road," when a visit to the local gym turned out to be a wet dream for my cock. Never one to initiate action, especially when I'm away from home, a simple towel removal and a slight open of the legs seemed to send the message of OK to quite a few men. Most of them wore a wedding ring and needed to suck some mean cock. Fond memories, indeed.

[Trixie]

Lovely Lucky, although I revere your enthusiasm, I think I have to agree with the "Don't Do It!" crowd. At least, I won't do it yet.

 

In my current workplace, I am the only homosexual- at least, the only "known homosexual", and over the past two years, the range of my co-worker's behaviour toward me has gone from polite-to-chilly upwards to friendly-to-polite. But still, my sexuality engenders some social neuroses, such as certain men not wanting to be seen by cerain other men when they're talking with me. (Oh, that's an awkward sentence, but you know what I mean.)

 

I might mention also at this point that nearly the entire staff with whom I work are from Mexico, and nearly all of them are from the same very small village in the state of Zacatecas. In other words, a quite close-knit community. Thus, I do worry, not so much for my own reputation, but for that of those who may be entertaining the idea of getting their rocks off in my service.

 

And truly, the thrill of the hunt is largely what makes it enticing to me. The individual in question is unlikely to be gay, and even if he were, is too young and too green to be "relationship material". And if he were to follow through with some indiscrete proposition (our X-mas party is coming up, the beer will be flowing freely; I expect to know what's on his mind then), and IF he ended up enjoying it... well, I imagine I'd be expected to perform as needed. I've been placed in that role before, and I do not enjoy giving head nearly as often as a randy young macho enjoys receiving head. Thus, before long, words will be exchanged, and sore feelings will arise.

 

My intention is to be a friend, if that's what he wants, and let time pass. If, after time, it turns out that oral sex is what he really desires, and if I sense he can be level-headed and mature about it, and IF he can give me what I want in return (snuggle time!) then it might be worth a try.

 

That's a lot of if's. But if the "sit-com sexual tension" that one poster mentioned can survive all that, then we might eventually have a merry time indeed.

 

La Trix