Terminology

[jtwalker]

When your profile says Dominant, what does that mean?  Should I be expecting whips and handcuffs, or does it just mean you can take the lead?

 

Also, what does passionate mean?  I’ve seen some profiles say dominant OR passionate, and I’m not sure why that is either or?

[Storm4U]

My answers are in bold italics below:

 

Should I be expecting whips and handcuffs, or does it just mean you can take the lead?

Im a masseur but what I  think that “dominate” in the context of sex means to sexually exert control  or dominance over one’s partner. One can apply control physically with his body, and verbally with his words.  It doesn’t have to involve some sort of Physical apparatus...  but they can be included if you want them to be. In short, there are many ways to sexually dominate someone.

Also, what does passionate mean?
If someone is sexually passionate, it means  that what they do sexually is done with a feeling of  deep intensity...so that there would be an intense feeling aka passion  behind everything that is being done, hopefully resulting in a heightened connectedness during sex.

I’ve seen some profiles say dominant OR passionate, and I’m not sure why that is either or?

One can be passionate without being dominant, and someone can be dominant without being passionate, so the two definitely aren’t synonymous and don’t always go hand in hand.

On 8/21/2021 at 6:14 PM, jtwalker said:

When your profile says Dominant, what does that mean?  Should I be expecting whips and handcuffs, or does it just mean you can take the lead?

 

Also, what does passionate mean?  I’ve seen some profiles say dominant OR passionate, and I’m not sure why that is either or?

 

Edited August 25, 2021 by Storm4U

[Lamusclevip]

Passionate, as far as I am concerned, means their interaction is intense. This could mean in a non romantic or romantic manner. Basically, if someone is passionate you will likely feel a greater connection mentally or emotionally during the experience as opposed to someone who is disconnected and void of intensity. 

 

Dominant, means being in control BUT it does not indicate S&M exclusively. A lot of dominant partners don't understand that communication and trust needs to be established in some aspect before asserting your dominance. Don't be fooled into someone saying they are dominant but don't treat you good or please you. 

[Jamie21]

I’ve always been surprised by the use of ‘passionate’ in a profile. To me passionate is a minimum requirement for a provider whether they’re an escort or masseur. 

Most of my work is as a masseur and I would like to think that I’m passionate with all of my clients (of course it’s for them to decide that), but passionate is what I aim for. A sensual massage delivered without passion is not a sensual massage, it’s just a perfunctory massage and hand job. Likewise an escort session delivered without passion is reduced to a bodily function.

If you’re unsure what the provider means by ‘passionate’ in their profile and want to check I think it’s worth asking them about kissing. I think sometimes passionate is used as a synonym for kissing. 
 

[jtwalker]

Thank you.  That does help clear things up.

Based on these definitions, I too was surprised that everyone is not passionate.  However, I also realize people have different taste, so maybe everyone doesn’t like that after all.

[jeezifonly]

Passion comes from chemistry, doesn’t it? One can perform as “passionate,” but acting skills have to be top-notch. It’s real when it arises out of physical, intellectual or emotional attraction. It sure can accelerate quickly for some, as that’s part of their nature. But as a useful description in our world here, it’s definitely a YMMV one. 
Also a quick item for those who are “dominate”: Dominate is the verb. Dominant is the adjective.

Sorry, when it comes to grammar, I’m rather passionant.

[+ IronMaus]

For me, "passionate" means making out, making eye contact, enjoying it as much as they are. Escorts can do fine without this because many men aren't looking for passion.

[Shawn Monroe]

I find the more difficult one to define here is “dominant”. A lot of times I’ll specifically ask someone what they’re looking for when they say they want someone to dominate them. Usually what they’re looking for, when it boils down, is to be choked while giving head and to be asked “you like that?” In an authoritative tone While giving head or bottoming. Maybe an ass slap if they’re into that. 

[rvwnsd]

Given the subjectivity of "passionate," the best approach is to ask the escort who advertises as such what they mean. 

[marylander1940]

On 8/21/2021 at 9:14 PM, jtwalker said:

When your profile says Dominant, what does that mean?  Should I be expecting whips and handcuffs, or does it just mean you can take the lead?

 

Also, what does passionate mean?  I’ve seen some profiles say dominant OR passionate, and I’m not sure why that is either or?

is more like assertive, confident, in charge, etc.