How often (or seldom) do you feel you need to take a booking the same day it’s requested?

[Jarrod_Uncut]

I ask because as of lately: it often seems like I’ll get appointment requests asking to meet “today”. At times I’m able to do so, but the majority of times there’s no sort of notice. It’s so many occasions lately that if I don’t take the appointment on the day they contact, the same day they contact, it often won’t happen at all.

People have contacted me at 10, or 11 pm, or just at random throughout the day when I’ve not anticipated any appointments to be set up. I always ensure in my ad that I mention I meet only on advanced notice, and if it is a same day request, they need to be able to reach me a couple or few hours ahead…because, I have life and the city I’m in is very spread out: even with a car, I’m not usually ready to run out and take a booking. 
 

Ironically enough, when I do post in the city for a few hours, I get NOTHING. Just as soon as I start to wrap up the day and head home, someone wants to meet RIGHT NOW. And a lot of times I’m like, if I say no…I’ll probably never end up meeting them. But if I say yes, that may mean another long drive across town, that goes well into the evening hours. Majority of the time, they either don’t want to wait, or we agree to reschedule the next day, but they don’t return messages or cancel.

Edited August 4, 2021 by Jarrod_Uncut

[sjmuktop]

I'm a client but thought I'd give my two pennies worth. 

When I contact an escort to arrange a session with him, I will usually do so at least the day before I want to meet. Sometimes even a few days before or up to a whole week before.

I did have one escort say to me once, something along the lines of: "You're getting in touch with me now about a meeting you want to have in a week's time!? WTF? Are you crazy? Man, don't waste my time. Just message me on the day you wanna meet." I was stunned. That was many years ago in my early days of hiring and he is, to date, the only escort to have responded in that way.

Seldom do I contact an escort asking to meet him on the same day that i want to meet. Though I have done it in the past - but always with escorts who were on RentMen with 'Available Now' statuses. Sometimes when I message an escort he will send me a message saying, 'I'm available now'. So I assume that such ones must get a lot of clients who are very spur of the moment and just contact them just shortly before the time that they want to meet. 

 

[Jamie21]

Book in advance!! Please!! First of all I hate to disappoint and someone asking for a booking on the day or even in the next couple of hours is likely to be disappointed because I’m busy.

Secondly I like to prepare properly. I prefer to spread out clients rather than see them close together so that I can make sure I’m able to give them my best. Last minute appointments don’t allow for that. 

Contrary to what I’m sure some people think about guys who do sex work I’m not sitting around all day naked and semi hard waiting for a client to call. I’ve got other work, personal things to do and of course clients who booked ahead to see. So if you ask “are you free this evening” the answer is usually “no, sorry I’m not”. 

And those 10pm requests “free now?” will always get a “no”. They’re usually from guys who aren’t my kind of client if you know what I mean.

That said, if you’re a regular client and you ask for a same day booking I’ll do my best to accommodate you. Of course I will, you’re a regular and as I said, I like to please. 

 

 

[Lazarus]

I always book for the same day. Usually as soon as possible. I tend to wait until the person is “Available Now” on RM.  9 times out of 10 they are available within a few hours. 

[Alexphilly]

I kinda like same day appointments more than planning, because planning gives the client a chance to search more or change his mind I've had clients wanting to book a session 2-3 months in advance which I don't know what I would be doing in 2-3 months. Granted there are some clients from overseas that wants to plan ahead and I can work with that,but if you're living a few miles from me and you want to plan a session 2-3 months come on really?.

That's why some ads say "call/text when you are ready", but same days can get overwhelming because a few times two clients wanted to come at the same time frame . Also same day appointments can burn you out too , but I learned how to adapt and adjust through all of it . 

Edited August 5, 2021 by Alexphilly

[LJinSouthFlorida]

First post here (though I posted here years ago!)

I definitely prefer when a client schedules in advance so I can guarantee I’ll be able to make it happen. My favorite clients so far have done that. But I’ve also had many schedule something and then cancel/ghost when the scheduled time is to happen. The clients who want it the same day tend to actually follow through. It’s a sucky feeling when you have to say you’re not available and know it probably means you’re not going to end up seeing the person.

[MiamiLooker]

Short-notice clients contact an escort because they’re horny NOW. My advice to escorts is to simply politely state you’re not available (if that’s the case), and let the client move on and find an escort that is available. You may be able to get the client to reschedule to a future time, but don’t have high expectations that they’re going to follow through; he may be well-intentioned, but If the client isn’t horny then it’s likely he’s going to cancel.

[mike carey]

6 hours ago, Alexphilly said:

Granted there are some clients from overseas that wants to plan ahead and I can work with that,but if you're living a few miles from me and you want to plan a session 2-3 months come on really?.

I think you have hit on an important point there, and not just overseas. If a client is travelling a significant distance they will want to lock in a time in advance. I have done so, sometimes for a particular time, but also for a window of a few days with a specific time agreed closer to the day.

[Jamie21]

Yes I get the horny now thing…it’s like booking a few weeks ahead who knows if you’ll feel like a session then? I totally understand the horny now situations but to be honest those guys are not my type of client. 
I do massage, ok so it’s sensual massage…you’ll end up hard and cumming, you might get fucked, you might fuck me, but if you’re just looking for sex then that’s not my market. I’ve done a few sessions like that and I discovered I’m not very good at it. What I am good at is sensual massage, giving someone a sensory experience that at once relaxes and arouses them. So my client might not feel especially horny when they turn up…maybe they feel say 3 out of 10 horny, but they want a relaxing massage that goes to places normal massage doesn’t reach. They lay on the table, the massage starts and over the time they go from 3 out of 10 to 5, then 6…then 7… then by the end it’s 10 and they’re shooting cum everywhere :-). 
That’s my kind of service, and it can be booked in advance. I guess I like the challenge of turning someone on. It’s too easy if they walk through the door with a hard on! (Although that can be dealt with……and then we start the massage).

[sjmuktop]

Can I ask for your opinions on something please, @Jamie21 and @Jarrod_Uncut?

It's my birthday this month. At the start of this month, I decided that I wanted to hire an escort for the occasion.

Now, my birthday is actually on the 11th and I had been hoping to hire a guy on the actual day itself, but that isn't possible for a couple of reasons. Never mind. So I'm now looking to hire on the 28th (so the escort will be a belated birthday present from me to myself!). That's the earliest date I can get down to London (I'm an hour away by train and I always hire there).  I have a hotel room booked for the occasion, as I'd like the escort to come to me. 

After a lot of looking around on various escort websites (RM, Sleepyboy, HUNQZ, etc.) I've finally made my decision...

The guy I've chosen to hire is actually one I've hired once before, two years ago in 2019. But I don't know if he will remember me or not when i contact him or when I meet up with him. I hope he does.

Anyway my question is, would it be far too early to contact him right now to arrange a booking for the 28th of this month, considering that we're only on the 5th today? Will that be considered way too far in advance/too long away? Would he be likely to think if I booked a date so far ahead, that I might just cancel or ghost him on the day? (Like @LJinSouthFloridasaid some of the clients who contacted him well in advance have done). 

Or should I wait until, say, a week before the 28th? Normally that's what I do, I usually book at least a day or so in advance. But my only worry is he will make plans if I don't book him now and I might miss out on him. Since this time the escort is for my birthday, I want it to be a particularly enjoyable session with someone I already know I have chemistry with and enjoy.

Would appreciate thoughts. Cheers.

Edited August 5, 2021 by sjmuktop

[Jamie21]

4 hours ago, sjmuktop said:

Can I ask for your opinions on something please, @Jamie21 and @Jarrod_Uncut?

It's my birthday this month. At the start of this month, I decided that I wanted to hire an escort for the occasion.

Now, my birthday is actually on the 11th and I had been hoping to hire a guy on the actual day itself, but that isn't possible for a couple of reasons. Never mind. So I'm now looking to hire on the 28th (so the escort will be a belated birthday present from me to myself!). That's the earliest date I can get down to London (I'm an hour away by train and I always hire there).  I have a hotel room booked for the occasion, as I'd like the escort to come to me. 

After a lot of looking around on various escort websites (RM, Sleepyboy, HUNQZ, etc.) I've finally made my decision...

The guy I've chosen to hire is actually one I've hired once before, two years ago in 2019. But I don't know if he will remember me or not when i contact him or when I meet up with him. I hope he does.

Anyway my question is, would it be far too early to contact him right now to arrange a booking for the 28th of this month, considering that we're only on the 5th today? Will that be considered way too far in advance/too long away? Would he be likely to think if I booked a date so far ahead, that I might just cancel or ghost him on the day? (Like @LJinSouthFloridasaid some of the clients who contacted him well in advance have done). 

Or should I wait until, say, a week before the 28th? Normally that's what I do, I usually book at least a day or so in advance. But my only worry is he will make plans if I don't book him now and I might miss out on him. Since this time the escort is for my birthday, I want it to be a particularly enjoyable session with someone I already know I have chemistry with and enjoy.

Would appreciate thoughts. Cheers.

My first observation is you didn’t book me 😂😂😂.  But seriously if you’ve made your choice and your dates aren’t flexible then I think you should book him now. Tell him you’re visiting and want to be sure he’s available for your visit. He’ll understand that. I bet also that if you haven’t changed your number he will know that you booked previously. I keep notes of guys who’ve booked me before so that I know that they’re genuine and I know what they like etc. I bet he does same if he’s any good.

I get clients booking up to two months ahead and they’re almost always people visiting London from abroad or far away and they’re planning their trip. It’s better than them turning up in London and contacting me on the day they want only to find I’m away on holiday myself or already booked up.

It makes sense in your situation to book ahead and let your escort know why. If he’s a problem with that then he will tell you. 

I hope you picked a good guy and that you have a great birthday celebration. 

[Jarrod_Uncut]

On 8/4/2021 at 11:55 PM, Lazarus said:

I always book for the same day. Usually as soon as possible. I tend to wait until the person is “Available Now” on RM.  9 times out of 10 they are available within a few hours. 

And this is okay too. You say available within a few hours...however for some, they'll text at noon and then get bent out of shape if I say I can't meet until like 3 or 4.

I had one guy earlier this week in a city who sounded like the "lunch time brigade". That is: guys who can only meet between 12 and 2 usually. When I'm traveling, I don't work those hours usually. I don't want to book an extra day or pay extra to check into a hotel, because of 1 client who can't meet at any other time. I told him send me a deposit, which he didn't trust doing from a "stranger" (a stranger with like 50+ A+ reviews across the net). I said forget it.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

21 hours ago, Alexphilly said:

I kinda like same day appointments more than planning, because planning gives the client a chance to search more or change his mind I've had clients wanting to book a session 2-3 months in advance which I don't know what I would be doing in 2-3 months. Granted there are some clients from overseas that wants to plan ahead and I can work with that,but if you're living a few miles from me and you want to plan a session 2-3 months come on really?.

That's why some ads say "call/text when you are ready", but same days can get overwhelming because a few times two clients wanted to come at the same time frame . Also same day appointments can burn you out too , but I learned how to adapt and adjust through all of it . 

Yah, see I don't do appointments 3 and 4 months in advance. Back in the days of Rentboy and men4rent, I used to get those requests more often and they'd stick. Nowadays, unless it's a long time regular or overnight who's asking to meet in a different city...I'll tell them to contact me 1 to 2 days prior.

I'm not a stickler for scheduling by the minute and hour on the dot, but taking the time to coordinate a visit, finding out when the provider can come is better than trying to haphazardly get someone to arrive...when there may have been no expectation of that happening. 

Yes, I'm available today. No I'm not available to arrive (or have you arrive) in 5 minutes. Like let's talk about that. People want to come over asap like I'm running a barbershop. I'm not a barbershop lol. I even noticed my barber got irritated today when a client called him too close to the time he leaves. I'm like, i feel your frustration lol. 

Edited August 6, 2021 by Jarrod_Uncut

[Jarrod_Uncut]

14 hours ago, sjmuktop said:

Can I ask for your opinions on something please, @Jamie21 and @Jarrod_Uncut?

It's my birthday this month. At the start of this month, I decided that I wanted to hire an escort for the occasion.

Now, my birthday is actually on the 11th and I had been hoping to hire a guy on the actual day itself, but that isn't possible for a couple of reasons. Never mind. So I'm now looking to hire on the 28th (so the escort will be a belated birthday present from me to myself!). That's the earliest date I can get down to London (I'm an hour away by train and I always hire there).  I have a hotel room booked for the occasion, as I'd like the escort to come to me. 

After a lot of looking around on various escort websites (RM, Sleepyboy, HUNQZ, etc.) I've finally made my decision...

The guy I've chosen to hire is actually one I've hired once before, two years ago in 2019. But I don't know if he will remember me or not when i contact him or when I meet up with him. I hope he does.

Anyway my question is, would it be far too early to contact him right now to arrange a booking for the 28th of this month, considering that we're only on the 5th today? Will that be considered way too far in advance/too long away? Would he be likely to think if I booked a date so far ahead, that I might just cancel or ghost him on the day? (Like @LJinSouthFloridasaid some of the clients who contacted him well in advance have done). 

Or should I wait until, say, a week before the 28th? Normally that's what I do, I usually book at least a day or so in advance. But my only worry is he will make plans if I don't book him now and I might miss out on him. Since this time the escort is for my birthday, I want it to be a particularly enjoyable session with someone I already know I have chemistry with and enjoy.

Would appreciate thoughts. Cheers.

Same as what @Jamie21 said. This situation is different. It's also overseas travel. 

As for clients cancelling an advanced arranged booking...that too can be disappointing as well, and I even get clients who will say, "I don't book in advance because I don't want to look like a flake if I end up having to cancel". 

That's all in good faith, but I still believe even a little planning is better than non. Again: I understand the typical stereotype of gay sex and prostitution, is last minute...on the spot sex. Even many porn videos portray sex as easy as picking up the phone, or giving a stranger a winky 😉 eye. And boom, awesome sex just happens that instant. And sometimes it does. I've had great sessions that were not made in advance. 

But, people gotta let go of the fantasy part when scheduling us. I don't buy the "Idk when I'll be horny" excuse. You know if someone you like pulls out a dick, you'll be horny and want it in you. 

Then again, I understand a good majority of my client base are bi-married men in their 50s and 60s with fluctuating libidos. Maybe they do have to feel some external or internal trigger to want to have sex with another guy, which may happen spur of moment. I wouldn't know how it is to be programmed like that. I can be horny on the spot or in advance, it doesn't matter. What does matter is, finding out which I can accommodate at the moment of contact. Horny now does not equate to, ready to see a man who I've never met, at a hotel 20 miles away...or coming to my hotel when I just arrived and haven't had time to properly groom myself and get ready. 

Edited August 6, 2021 by Jarrod_Uncut

[Keenan]

On 8/4/2021 at 2:13 PM, Jarrod_Uncut said:

I ask because as of lately: it often seems like I’ll get appointment requests asking to meet “today”. At times I’m able to do so, but the majority of times there’s no sort of notice. It’s so many occasions lately that if I don’t take the appointment on the day they contact, the same day they contact, it often won’t happen at all.

People have contacted me at 10, or 11 pm, or just at random throughout the day when I’ve not anticipated any appointments to be set up. I always ensure in my ad that I mention I meet only on advanced notice, and if it is a same day request, they need to be able to reach me a couple or few hours ahead…because, I have life and the city I’m in is very spread out: even with a car, I’m not usually ready to run out and take a booking. 
 

Ironically enough, when I do post in the city for a few hours, I get NOTHING. Just as soon as I start to wrap up the day and head home, someone wants to meet RIGHT NOW. And a lot of times I’m like, if I say no…I’ll probably never end up meeting them. But if I say yes, that may mean another long drive across town, that goes well into the evening hours. Majority of the time, they either don’t want to wait, or we agree to reschedule the next day, but they don’t return messages or cancel.

I too get many last minute requests.  If I am available I will take them if I am not I will suggest an alternative time or date  Lately though I seem to get a lot of late night after midnight requests on Friday and Saturday evenings so I will try to keep myself available for an appointment then but in general I too prefer advanced notice so I can properly plan and be ready for the appointment.

 

Keenan

[David1024]

I always book at least a day or two in advance, or if I’m traveling and want to book time with an escort while I’m in his city, I usually book about a week ahead. I did have a surprising experience last time I was in Madrid. I had booked a great guy fir Wednesday night and had a great time with him, could not meet on Thursday so tried to book him for Friday but he was going out of town. Late on the Thursday night I contacted another guy to ask if he was available the next night. He responded that “I am not available tomorrow night. But I’m free now if you like”. He got to my hotel within an hour and it was another great session. So those short bookings do work, but I wouldn’t rely on them. 

[Jarrod_Uncut]

3 hours ago, David1024 said:

I always book at least a day or two in advance, or if I’m traveling and want to book time with an escort while I’m in his city, I usually book about a week ahead. I did have a surprising experience last time I was in Madrid. I had booked a great guy fir Wednesday night and had a great time with him, could not meet on Thursday so tried to book him for Friday but he was going out of town. Late on the Thursday night I contacted another guy to ask if he was available the next night. He responded that “I am not available tomorrow night. But I’m free now if you like”. He got to my hotel within an hour and it was another great session. So those short bookings do work, but I wouldn’t rely on them. 

That can happen too, as well. I know last week I drove to a city and a client contacted me the 1st day I arrived. I was SOOO grateful because my other 2 contacts flaked and left me high and dry. It was a well reimbursed session, and I left town the next day because I didn’t expect anymore bookings. In fact, this guy had apparently seen me for years, but we were never in the same city.

So by no means should anyone feel rude for asking if an escort is available “today”. But don’t do it if you have the option to plan ahead though. 
 

Of course, I’m probably wasting breath speaking of it. Some people intentionally don’t plan anything in advance. And I find Kansas City is an all time worse place to expect it. I’ve even had hookups with guys who are like, “I don’t plan hookups in advance”. It translates to: I don’t actually give a shit about the guys I meet, but I want them when I’m ready. The sad byproduct of repressed and shunned homosexuality.

[Guest davebk]

With very rare exception, I never book in advance.  I might briefly touch base with someone in a town where I'll be to see if it seems like a match.  But I travel for work and rarely know the times I won't be expected to be at work or at meals, etc., for work.  So when I am looking, I typically see if there is anyone listing Available Now (which they rarely actually are), or shoot a couple of text messages.  If someone says they aren't, or there is no reply, I move on.  Sometimes this prevents me from getting the guy I most want, but it also prevents me from being a flaky client who cancels on people.

Part of hiring instead of the endless Grindr routine is that I name the time I'm available and it is a yes or no - it isn't hours of back and forth shit before someone finally pulls the trigger.

Totally understand the escorts who want to plan - but that's not the kind of client I am, so I'll find the ones who are open to last minute bookings.

[sjmuktop]

@davebkRM lists escorts who are 'Available Now' for clients such as yourself who prefer spur of the moment bookings.  

[Guest davebk]

1 minute ago, sjmuktop said:

@davebkRM lists escorts who are 'Available Now' for clients such as yourself who prefer spur of the moment bookings.  

Correct.  Though research indicates, they rarely are actually Available Now.  But still, it is helpful.

Particularly after around 10pm, I won't text someone (even if it says text any time).  But I will make a contact via RM to see if they are still open to meet.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

15 hours ago, davebk said:

With very rare exception, I never book in advance.  I might briefly touch base with someone in a town where I'll be to see if it seems like a match.  But I travel for work and rarely know the times I won't be expected to be at work or at meals, etc., for work.  So when I am looking, I typically see if there is anyone listing Available Now (which they rarely actually are), or shoot a couple of text messages.  If someone says they aren't, or there is no reply, I move on.  Sometimes this prevents me from getting the guy I most want, but it also prevents me from being a flaky client who cancels on people.

Part of hiring instead of the endless Grindr routine is that I name the time I'm available and it is a yes or no - it isn't hours of back and forth shit before someone finally pulls the trigger.

Totally understand the escorts who want to plan - but that's not the kind of client I am, so I'll find the ones who are open to last minute bookings.

Thanks for sharing your perspective. May I ask: how often do you find looking for “now” works out versus booking in advance? 
 

I am going thru my phone currently, as I’m now going to have (3) phones: 1 for personal use, one for clients, and one for my ads that I’ll be separating from the 2. One thing I noticed: I have 105 blocked numbers. 105! It may sound crazy and I’m considering redeeming all of these and starting fresh, but some of them are blocked because they refuse to book with any sort of notice even when suggested to do so.

And I’m not just talking about being contacted the same “night”. But contacting me at like 7 a.m. asking if I can meet now. One guy kept messaging me at odd hours, and even though we had a fun 1st session..I blocked him because he would constantly contact me at the last minute, and each time it was an inconvenient time. I was like, if he can’t bother to use some common sense and find out a mutually agreeable time, I don’t want to deal with that. 

 

[sjmuktop]

 

8 hours ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

I blocked him because he would constantly contact me at the last minute, and each time it was an inconvenient time. I was like, if he can’t bother to use some common sense and find out a mutually agreeable time, I don’t want to deal with that

Hey Jarrod, I'm by no means trying to make excuses for all clients who behave in this way when trying to arrange a session, but there will doubtless be some clients who are on the autistic spectrum or who have things like Asperger's syndrome. Their brains work a bit differently to most other people (through no fault of their own), and they will just expect that when they feel horny and contact you for a spur of the moment booking, that you'll be ready to go.  Not because they're rude or inconsiderate or don't assume you have a life to live other than your life as an escort and sometimes require planning, but because their brains just don't process that. 

[Guest davebk]

13 hours ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

Thanks for sharing your perspective. May I ask: how often do you find looking for “now” works out versus booking in advance? 

 

Typically, I will have reached out to the guy in advance, but simply leaving it with "I'll be in town the next couple of days and might reach out to see if you happen to have availability, but it might be last minute."  I know that if he takes a booking or just doesn't reply, I miss out.  And I might also say "I'm hoping for Tuesday around 9 but can't book it in, so please don't hold a space for me."  I find that is pretty effective, and sometimes has the guy reaching back out to me to see if I'm still interested.  I'd say 1/3 the time I ended up out later with a colleague or client and I'm just not up for it or it is too late, and 1/3 the provider is booked, and 1/3 it works out great.

What typically is not effective is a "cold call" where I get back to the hotel at the end of a long day, find someone who lists available or send a text and it works out within a few hours.  It happens sometimes, and when it does it can be great, but that's less common.

The difference might also be that I don't treat the provider like a pizza delivery (as it sounds many guys have done to you) where I send a text and expect a guy to show up at my door in half an hour.  I reach out, if he happens to be available sometime that evening at a reasonable time, I will pull the trigger.  If he isn't, I move on to another guy, or rub one out and take my sleep.

If a provider has a strict advance notice and wants a firm booking, I politely tell him I'm not able to give a firm booking in advance and thank him and move on.

Edited August 8, 2021 by davebk
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[Guest davebk]

It is also worth noting that my experience is that the overwhelming number of escorts who list on RM as "Available Now" have set it like that and walked away from the computer and are not, in fact, available at all.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

49 minutes ago, davebk said:

It is also worth noting that my experience is that the overwhelming number of escorts who list on RM as "Available Now" have set it like that and walked away from the computer and are not, in fact, available at all.

I can imagine. And this is not to be judgmental because I’ve been there: literally AVAILABLE NOW and all day/all week waiting and waiting for a client to call. It’s not a good place to be, and actually had it occur last week when I was posted in a hotel in Arkansas. I shoulda stayed at my friend’s place, but it was a Friday night and a previous visit to the town got me a couple of clients. 
 

But to see someone “available now” all the time does make me feel like maybe business is slow for that guy or they are really in need of a client. Which again, not judging…nothing wrong with being available now. But if every time I log on I see the same escort “available now”, it does make me wonder.