saying hello when you see an escort out socially

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

1 hour ago, CJK said:

Seriously, common sense should guide anyone who finds himself in this predicament. 

Ah, but you're assuming that people have common sense, understand proper behavior and recognize social cues.

Many don't.  And it's gotten worse through COVID sequestering. 

It only took two years for people to begin acting like total animals.

Edited August 26, 2022 by BenjaminNicholas

[Jamie21]

Has happened to me a few times and is awkward. Not because I’m embarrassed; most of my friends know what I do and I’m quite open about it in my social groups, so on the few occasions clients have recognised me I’ve not been anxious about what they might say.

The awkwardness comes from me not recognising them as a client in a different setting. Obviously I know my regulars but the occasional client or once off I wouldn’t remember their face if approached at a pub or on the street.

A few occasions guys have smiled or acknowledged me and I’ve really not known who the hell they are. I kind of recognise the face but struggle to say where from? Is it that guy at the gym? Or some former work associate? Or is it the massage client who likes his prostate worked over? Awkward… I just smile back and pretend I know them while desperately hoping they’ll give me a clue if conversation starts:

Him “hi! how are you?”

Me “oh hi, good thanks how’s you?”

Him “good session last time”

Me (thinking ah yes it’s prostate guy) “yes I’m glad you enjoyed it”

Him “er…yes I needed it”

Me (it’s definitely prostate guy) “absolutely, I was impressed how you shot your load  so far when I gave your prostate a press!”

Him (looking suddenly confused) “what?”

Me (oh fuck, it’s the guy from the gym) “er I said I was impressed by the load on the bar as you lay prostrate on the bench press”

Him (looking at me like I’m a weirdo) “yeah mate, see you around”

Me (dying inside) “yeah, see you”

Can’t visit that gym anymore…

 

[Vulgarii]

I was mortified when a client came up to me and grabbed me at the Abbey and my friends laughed at me. 

 

If he didn't look like George Washington, and had I actually liked him, and was drunk enough I would not have minded so much.

[ruminant]

In 30+ years, I've only run into providers twice in the wild. 1:  At Whole Foods. The man walked up to me and I stood frozen holding my cart. He picked up a jar of coconut oil, turned on his "let's fuck" grin, and said it was for my next visit. Instant boner for me and I made our next appointment before leaving the parking lot.  2: In a theater. A guy who had told me he was an actor turned out to be telling the truth. My seat was second row center. I was worried he would spot me and lose focus, so I ducked my head and snuck out during the first act.  

Discretion is good manners.

[TorontoDrew]

1 hour ago, ruminant said:

In 30+ years, I've only run into providers twice in the wild. 1:  At Whole Foods. The man walked up to me and I stood frozen holding my cart. He picked up a jar of coconut oil, turned on his "let's fuck" grin, and said it was for my next visit. Instant boner for me and I made our next appointment before leaving the parking lot.  2: In a theater. A guy who had told me he was an actor turned out to be telling the truth. My seat was second row center. I was worried he would spot me and lose focus, so I ducked my head and snuck out during the first act.  

Discretion is good manners.

Well done.  I don't know how many would have done the same.

[Strafe13]

As a client, I find that the proper response varies greatly on the individuals involved.  For my repeat guys, I tend to hire guys who have lots of positive intangible qualities beyond just being great in bed.  As such, I trust myself that I've chosen good guys, whose judgment I also trust.  That being said, I've communicated clearly to these guys that if we should see each other out in public that they should certainly feel free to say hello.  They wouldn't be my regulars if they didn't have the tact and class to have a simple, polite, casual conversation.  If i'm with someone else, I'll just acknowledge the provider as a friend or acquaintance.  I also tend not to socialize with those who would look down on or disparage sex workers, so that greatly reduces the potential stigma.  Plus, I'm not exactly the hunchback of Notre Dame, so I wouldn't see the need to concoct an elaborate backstory to explain why a hot guy might speak to me in public.

I rarely hire for just a "wham bam, thank you ma'am" session.  In my experience, those guys who I'd associate with that kind of service would be the closeted ones who'd I never have to worry about acknowledging me in public anyway.

One of my former regulars, with whom I thought I'd developed a kind of friendship beyond our professional sessions, abruptly quit the biz, took down his ad, and ghosted me sometime in late 2018/early 2019.  In fact, this occurred right around the time that we were making tentative plans to meet up for a future session right around the holidays.  It was hurtful for quite some time, but I accept that he probably just needed to make a change in his life that he thought was for the better.  Cut to this July of 2022, when I see him randomly on the subway during the morning rush hour in NYC.  Then, a few days later, I saw him again during the evening commute at the same station, on the platform just a few feet away.  This time, we ended up taking the same train.  Rather than approach him to say hello, I sent him a text saying that I saw him, I was glad to see he looked as though he was doing well, and that I wished him the best.  I got off the train at the next stop, so I don't know if he ever got the message or if he even had the same number.  But it felt in that moment that I finally got some closure, as though fate had intervened to do something kind for me.  Sorry to digress, but I haven't told this story to anyone, so I kind of needed to get that off my chest.

 

[TT3690]

I actually just ran into one of my regulars who was at a restaurant with his friend, we talked briefly and hugged. Wasn't awkward at all, but no one is married and we're not that far in age so might be a bit different than some situations.