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I love receiving replies to private messages sent on here, but overall get only about a 15% reply rate. From those I enjoy private messaging here and there, it's a bummer when on their end it's "too much" and contact gets discontinued, or worse, completely blocked.

 

Being on here for over 4 years, I'm surprised that I can count on my fingers how many times a private message was originated to me by someone else. I feel like a death knell saying to anyone is "I'll always reply!" because perhaps that looks sorry and desperate.

 

I'm not one to sit around and wait for my landline phone to ring to talk to a stranger for some company - even they hang up on me because they can't tolerate me!

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I for one am not a big fan of unsolicited messages, BUT I have been know to initiate a few here and there. I think for me it has to do with the subject matter... And I will "usually" respond when messaged, but from personal experience, the messages I often receive are people telling me how much they HATE me, and what an awful person I am..... Those types of messages dont usually Inspire my response. ?

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I respond to most PM's but certainly not all. When I don't respond, it's usually because what the person is asking is something I refuse to answer or the person comes across as belligerent (which thankfully hasn't happened often). Also sometimes I don't respond or take awhile to respond because I don't see the alert or I haven't accessed site in awhile.

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I love receiving replies to private messages sent on here, but overall get only about a 15% reply rate. From those I enjoy private messaging here and there, it's a bummer when on their end it's "too much" and contact gets discontinued, or worse, completely blocked.

 

Being on here for over 4 years, I'm surprised that I can count on my fingers how many times a private message was originated to me by someone else. I feel like a death knell saying to anyone is "I'll always reply!" because perhaps that looks sorry and desperate.

 

I'm not one to sit around and wait for my landline phone to ring to talk to a stranger for some company - even they hang up on me because they can't tolerate me!

It really depends on the topic. I enjoy this community. I do refuse to answer a question that is vague, for example: Can you tell me about Alex? No link provided, so I end up scratching my head about which Alex and what particulars would be useful. ?

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Interesting topic! ? It sent me back to my history of PM's and it was fun reading through them, including some old ones with posters who are no longer here.

 

The first one was fourteen years ago, and it was an exchange of info on a couple of Bay Area masseurs.

 

It's hard to do statistics as the PM software seems to have separated old "conversations" into separate entries, while the newer ones remain grouped in "conversations", each with multiple entries.

 

If I had to guess, I'd say I've averaged one PM conversation every three or four months. Each conversation has been two - four exchanges. In a few cases, a PM conversation has led to an exchange of email addresses. And a couple of those have led to in-person meetings.

 

I've initiated about half the conversations, and someone else has initiated the other half. For me, it's been a pleasure to see the message alert lit up.

 

I've always responded to messages I got on this site and, with one exception, I've got a response to messages I sent. For the one exception, the other person responded with an emoji, which is a nice way to respond and one I hadn't thought of before.

 

I've never sent a "nasty" message to someone else, as I don't want a connection to somebody I don't care for. I've received only one "nasty" message from a poster on the 'other' site who didn't like one of my posts. Of course, I didn't respond.

 

Most of my communications with fellow posters are through posts on the public forums, but sometimes a PM seems appropriate.

 

All-in-all, my time on the internet is limited and, while I enjoy social interactions on the forums, and the occasional PM exchange, PM's are pretty rare for me. If that's true of others, it may be a reason why someone who sends a lot of PM's might not get a high percentage of responses.

 

Again, thanks for the opportunity to recall some old conversations! ? ?

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I respond to everyone who writes to me which is very infrequently. I think only one or two messages went unanswered but a few took more than a couple of days. Not surprised at that since I usually am asking people about hiring experiences to gauge whether I want to hire that person.

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... the messages I often receive are people telling me how much they HATE me, and what an awful person I am.....

Now why do you think you often get messages from people telling you how much they hate you and what an awful person you are???

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I like the private message feature and I appreciate the like/dislike options on posts. It's always good to get some feedback on a post. I don't have an opinion for everything and at times I surely make mistakes with posts. I enjoy the conversations on this site almost as much as the hot guys. Never understood why guys sometimes reply to a post with something like, "Screw you, you're a ___________. (Choose your favorite slur). In the end most of it is just chatter, not UN or Congressional debate. But it's fun, mostly.

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Now why do you think you often get messages from people telling you how much they hate you and what an awful person you are???

 

It figures YOU would ask that question ! ? But since you know me so well, you probably also know that.....

 

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I usually respond to PMs or "conversations" only from regular posters whose personas I feel familiar with. However, in the early years of the site I met two of my closest personal friends as a result of PMs I received from members whom I had not previously paid much attention to, so whenever I get an unexpected PM from someone, I go back and look at their posts to get a feel for them before I respond, and sometimes I decide to simply not respond. As Cooper reminds us in another thread today about scams, one should be cautious about conversation invitations from new and unfamiliar posters.

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I usually respond to PMs or "conversations" only from regular posters whose personas I feel familiar with. However, in the early years of the site I met two of my closest personal friends as a result of PMs I received from members whom I had not previously paid much attention to, so whenever I get an unexpected PM from someone, I go back and look at their posts to get a feel for them before I respond, and sometimes I decide to simply not respond. As Cooper reminds us in another thread today about scams, one should be cautious about conversation invitations from new and unfamiliar posters.

 

What is curious to me are those posters whose names I am familiar with, but who havent paid any attention to me, then sending me a PM, just to call me an asshole.... Hey dude, why not just call me an asshole "publicly" ? I think perhaps its more about THEM than it is about me ?

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I find it shockingly ill mannered to ask a question about an escort, get a response, and never an acknowledgement in return. I try to answer all my emails, but i think might be better to refrain unless I know the poster well, or just post as much as allowed in the general forum and not have to entertain such rude behavior.

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I haven't initiated too many messages since I've been on here unless it was for specific feedback on someone, but normally I could piece it together what I needed to know well enough from what was written in the forum.

 

I do relatively frequently have folks reach out to me for various reasons. In general, all have been kind. I enjoy receiving kind messages or inquiries where I can be helpful, and try to take the time to reply. I don't think I have failed to reply unless it became clear that the other party was gratifying themselves in someway and made it feel like a hook up on Grindr or something. I appreciate communication that is reciprocal - both contributing. Starting off the convo with, "Got any more pics..." or, "I wanna see your face," especially with little to no introduction is where I have typically declined responding further.

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I can't really remember ever not responding to a PM. I suppose if someone were to send me a "nastygram" I wouldn't respond. Most of my messages seem to be supportive, encouraging me to ignore certain other members. Occasional requests for medical advice.

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