Why are there so many tops only?

[orville]

its also my observation that most breeders avoid saying they are straight like the plague either as hookers or as strippers. go figure. they dont know that many of us prefer to see straight men when hiring. i think its the same thing for most of them then as saying they are tops. tops are usually more in control. its hard to imagine a real straight dude giving up his poonanny not knowing how hard or brutal he may get fucked knowing how hard he thrashes and tries on purpose to destroy a pussy to get his dick off.

That's a great explanation. I'm 100% with you. I prefer a guy who tells me upfront he's straight-ish. My only requirement is that he is or he looks like it.

[jeezifonly]

There was a guy I dated long ago who wore layered pastels with no shame, often quoted Bette Davis. Tallulah, Judy and Liberace and knew every Musical Ever

 

When he had finished with me I felt as if had been turned turned inside out, without fail. Straight -ish or not, I had never come harder or laughed more.

Packaging may not always guarantee a better result. For me, the only attraction in a straight man is if

A) I know it for a fact, and

B) I get to do something for/to him that his “girl” would Never Do. Ever.

[funvolta]

Oh if only most of them really topped...? unfortunately too many advertise as “tops” but in fact it’s just a soft comedy

[rvwnsd]

Interesting. In my area it's 4 pages of Versatile (and its variations), 1 Page of Bottoms, 1 Page of Ask Me, and 2 Pages of Tops - 26 profiles in Total - from which only 2 are straight.

What did we tell you about presenting research and facts?

[orville]

What did we tell you about presenting research and facts?

Sorry, I'm lost. Did I miss something?

[rvwnsd]

Sorry, I'm lost. Did I miss something?

I was being facetious. There were a lot of assumptions based on nothing and you actually gathered facts about the positions favored by escorts in your area.

[Wanderoz]

What is a Helden-Bottom?

A hero bottom?

A sponge bottom?

Like Spongebob Squarepants in a passive role? Lol.

[former lurker]

I know its a persons right to to be who they are sexually. But, my concern is, there seems to be a glut of tops on RM most recently. You can go through pages upon pages and you will see the rare verse top. I have even seen guys who were previously verse now exclusively Tops.

 

Yes, I am a top only, but I just can’t picture myself giving away Benjamins just to get on all fours. A dildo and some free porn would be more cost effective. Why I say this too, those who are saying they are top only, come across as potentially the the bare minimum type: no actual interaction with the client, probably texting his next bottom client while screwing you.

 

Would you say the same things about yourself (as you've described yourself as top only)?

[jeezifonly]

What is a Helden-Bottom?

A hero bottom?

A sponge bottom?

Like Spongebob Squarepants in a passive role? Lol.

It’s a joke for opera queens I guess...

The voice category of a the big romantic male roles Wagner wrote is Heldentenor or, heroic tenor, characterized by big sound that can go all night. Make correlation as you will.

[rustyrex]

I know its a persons right to to be who they are sexually. But, my concern is, there seems to be a glut of tops on RM most recently. You can go through pages upon pages and you will see the rare verse top. I have even seen guys who were previously verse now exclusively Tops.

 

Yes, I am a top only, but I just can’t picture myself giving away Benjamins just to get on all fours. A dildo and some free porn would be more cost effective. Why I say this too, those who are saying they are top only, come across as potentially the the bare minimum type: no actual interaction with the client, probably texting his next bottom client while screwing you.

 

I understand your frustration. I'm a top as well and I tend to gravitate toward roided out super muscle but 99% of the time they only top or worse, do the bare minimum with "muscle worship." It's par for the course, you just have to look at the wording in the ads, negotiate, and be prepared to be disappointed or pay a little more for what you want.

 

I had been keeping my eye on this roided out guy from Vegas who moved to NYC who was pretty much a bottom. A few weeks later he says he's a top with a domination fetish. All the pics of his beautiful ass have been removed. I was crushed.... If I"m ever in NYC I'm still contacting him to see if he'll give up that ass, you never know...he may just say yes.

 

Don't give up hope and don't let hearing no discourage you, just move on to the next guy and maybe be a little more open to trying guys who aren't necessarily your first choice. I have met some great guys that don't fit my first choice and they are totally worth the time and effort to meet.

[+ Lucky]

Has crystal meth changed the percentage of men who want to bottom? It was supposedly so wide spread that tops became in huge demand and were hard to find. I don't know if the drug remains popular these days, I hope not.

[MidwestCoastal]

I know its a persons right to to be who they are sexually. But, my concern is, there seems to be a glut of tops on RM most recently. You can go through pages upon pages and you will see the rare verse top. I have even seen guys who were previously verse now exclusively Tops.

 

Yes, I am a top only, but I just can’t picture myself giving away Benjamins just to get on all fours. A dildo and some free porn would be more cost effective. Why I say this too, those who are saying they are top only, come across as potentially the the bare minimum type: no actual interaction with the client, probably texting his next bottom client while screwing you.

 

Wow.... Are you high Clairee?

 

I find the 'skill level' in tops varies WILDLY. Some can't find the hole, some don't know how to treat a hole, some don't know how to pound, some don't know what to do with their hands, some don't know how to get the bottom in the best position so they both experience pleasure..... I mean I could go on for hours..... Bottoms can just 'lay there'....grunt, groan, and moan....and easier for a bottom to fake an orgasm. And why can't a bottom provider be texting his next client..... face down, ass up, head under a pillow.... he could be texting his next pounding!

 

My personal preference is to be total bottom and I like finding people who can be 'total tops' with skills to match. The sexual chemistry can be out of this world if you both know what you are doing.

[+ JEC]

My personal preference is to be total bottom and I like finding people who can be 'total tops' with skills to match. The sexual chemistry can be out of this world if you both know what you are doing.

Flip that /\ /\ /\ /\ /\ /\ /\ ????????

[vaurien]

supply and demand

[+ Coolwave35]

I find the 'skill level' in tops varies WILDLY. Some can't find the hole, some don't know how to treat a hole, some don't know how to pound, some don't know what to do with their hands, some don't know how to get the bottom in the best position so they both experience pleasure.....

 

Woot woot! I got a shout out!!!! Not to derail the thread but do you have a suggestion for how to improve this?

[MidwestCoastal]

Woot woot! I got a shout out!!!! Not to derail the thread but do you have a suggestion for how to improve this?

 

Say what now? Like how to create chemistry? Feel free to PM me, but overall I find there is one huge factor in getting 'sexual chemistry' - getting to know one another - physically and mentally.

 

I only tend to hire providers who, once we get through the basics and 'administrative' discussions, spend 10-30 text exchanges discussing what I like about sex. I also get more into a provider that can share openly 'what gets him off' because for me, as a sub bottom, pleasing a top gets me off mentally as well as physically. (Side note - I LOVE talking about sex, but find many providers don't, maybe because they think of it as a 'time waster'; totally valid point, but you may be losing out on a long term regular client.)

 

As a recent example, when getting fucked doggie or on my stomach, I've noticed a.... feeling.... that if I can zero in on, I may be able to shoot a load without touching myself..... A regular fuck bud and I have started exploring that. Its all about communication and setting up expectations.... If I get that feeling, I want to pursue it with focus, even it means the fucking only lasts 10 minutes.....but we also edge for 30 minutes before we start fucking. Again, we communicated.

 

Chemistry is not a mystery. Like any science, it just takes study, but that means investing time, and possibly money to pursue your desired areas of study!

[+ RJD]

I only tend to hire providers who, once we get through the basics and 'administrative' discussions, spend 10-30 text exchanges discussing what I like about sex. I also get more into a provider that can share openly 'what gets him off' because for me, as a sub bottom, pleasing a top gets me off mentally as well as physically. (Side note - I LOVE talking about sex, but find many providers don't, maybe because they think of it as a 'time waster'; totally valid point, but you may be losing out on a long term regular client.)

 

This x 100. I have a steady regular provider and nothing gets me off more than getting him off. I may be the client, but there’s no reason our sessions can’t be mutually pleasurable.

[adventurous old guy]

Say what now? Like how to create chemistry? Feel free to PM me, but overall I find there is one huge factor in getting 'sexual chemistry' - getting to know one another - physically and mentally.... I also get more into a provider that can share openly 'what gets him off' because for me, as a sub bottom, pleasing a top gets me off mentally as well as physically. (Side note - I LOVE talking about sex, but find many providers don't, maybe because they think of it as a 'time waster'; totally valid point, but you may be losing out on a long term regular client.)...Chemistry is not a mystery. Like any science, it just takes study, but that means investing time, and possibly money to pursue your desired areas of study!

Really enjoying this thread, and MidwestCoastal's post in particular. As a hardwired top, my pleasure as a client also is optimized "physically and mentally" when I can see that the provider is enjoying the experience. It can be tricky setting expectations with someone new over text. I totally agree that one should try, but there's variation in communication styles and comfort among providers about discussing specifics. I try to set the tone by texting the potential date to tell me what he really enjoys and what he really doesn't, because my goal is to make sure we both enjoy ourselves, and then see what he says. Another approach that has worked well for me, even though its old school, is to suggest an actual pre-meeting phone conversation. Another basic approach is just to reserve time at the beginning of a session to break the ice and get to know somebody a bit, exploring again what they like and what they don't. I usually text about an hour before the appt that I'm going to have a glass of wine when we meet and ask if I can order them something.

 

And then you just have to be resilient and play it by ear. One person who ended up being a great (and repeat) hire for me became worried by the specifics I was teeing up in our texts that I was law enforcement. Also, he didn't want to do a phone call, I think because his English language skills were very basic. For our first date, he asked that I meet him outside my hotel to check me out in person because of that concern. I did that, passed that test, and we chatted a bit upstairs too, but language was still a challenge. This guy is almost always hired as a top, and we just had to try things to figure out our own win/win. All that took time, and when we started to go over the planned time I reminded him of that. He grinned and said "yes, but we were much time talking, besides I'm not ready to go." Ding ding ding, mental payoff as well as physical lol!

 

When I look back, I honestly can say that I've learned a lot from these conversations about what my partner enjoys that has made me a better top. Plus, I'm with Midwest Coastal again in saying that I love talking about sex, and its totally interesting to me how what someone likes varies so much from man to man.

[marylander1940]

Let's see in DC.

 

• Tops 25
  
• Versatile tops 24
  
• Versatile 25
  
• Versatile Bottom 13
  
• Bottom 4
  

[adventurous old guy]

Let's see in DC.

 

• Tops 25
  
• Versatile tops 24
  
• Versatile 25
  
• Versatile Bottom 13
  
• Bottom 4
  

Love this dashboard! Can you update daily, lol?

[DallasClient]

I understand people should only do what they enjoy doing but from a business or profit perspective I would think they would have the most success being versatile.

[asntop74]

I find plenty of bottoms on rm. What find is that the guys I stumble across who I want to fuck the most on the site are tops. ?

 

I will say I have had some success with professed tops willing to bottom but that’s after cultivating relationship of trust. However, I don’t chase after the ones listed as tops anymore. If they list as top, I don’t inquire if they are willing to bottom. Now if they change there position listing I’d go for.

I totally agree with you, or once in a while if the guy is really hot, I would reach out and ask if he is a top only, I have had some luck where they would be willing to bottom, I like top vers guys too.

[sincitymix]

I know its a persons right to to be who they are sexually. But, my concern is, there seems to be a glut of tops on RM most recently. You can go through pages upon pages and you will see the rare verse top. I have even seen guys who were previously verse now exclusively Tops.

 

Yes, I am a top only, but I just can’t picture myself giving away Benjamins just to get on all fours. A dildo and some free porn would be more cost effective. Why I say this too, those who are saying they are top only, come across as potentially the the bare minimum type: no actual interaction with the client, probably texting his next bottom client while screwing you.

sorry im strictly a bottom, and i do not like to use toys.. nothing to me says hot like a muscular guy pounding into me like he wants to destroy me.. and i get lots of interaction with the tops i hire

[LTH]

I know its a persons right to to be who they are sexually. But, my concern is, there seems to be a glut of tops on RM most recently. You can go through pages upon pages and you will see the rare verse top. I have even seen guys who were previously verse now exclusively Tops.

 

Yes, I am a top only, but I just can’t picture myself giving away Benjamins just to get on all fours. A dildo and some free porn would be more cost effective. Why I say this too, those who are saying they are top only, come across as potentially the the bare minimum type: no actual interaction with the client, probably texting his next bottom client while screwing you.

 

I think I know what you meant... To clarify for other readers, I found guys that are 195+ lbs & under 30 (my favorite demo) are now mostly listed as TOPS... Other observations... They also darkened their skin and/or defiled it with gibberish and most of them also cultivated a sophisticated BACTERIA FARM/COVID TRAP on their faces...

 

... However, I don’t chase after the ones listed as tops anymore. If they list as top, I don’t inquire if they are willing to bottom ...

 

From my experience, every listed-top has his price, excluding the obvious DELUSIONAL ONES, of course. Just start out by asking if he's willing to bottom

 

Remember, listed-top-only guys usually come in three flavors...

 

• There are ones that think listing as TOPS will bring them more business... In that case, he will tell you he can bottom for the same price and you're on your way... If he seems to hesitant that means he may belong to the next case below...
  

 

• There are ones that had a TRAUMATIZED first-time bottoming experience... mostly from an oversized cock they shouldn't have taken for the first time in the first place. In that case, don't tell him that you have a beer can sized cock and when you're done with him, he's gonna walk funny for a whole month! The answer is an obvious NO... Stress that you're willing to play an extra fee and that you have an under-average tallywacker and he wouldn't feel a thing... If that fails, then he may belong to the 3rd case below
  

 

• There are ones that link bottoming/topping with their reputations... In that case, pose as an out-of-town/out-of-country tourist as an out-of-towner wouldn't be sticking around gossipping and ruining their reputations (eyeroll). You'll need a different phone number for this 3rd try... That's what Google Voice is for...
  

 

In any case, stress that you're willing to pay an extra fee and you'll be surprised how affordable the extra fee is...

 

Unlike the fees I got quoted for them to get rid of their COVID-TRAP... One guy quoted me $10,000 to shave his EFFING BEARD on top the $700 session... Come to think of it, being a bottom is much much easier than shaving your beard... It'll take 3 months at least to regrow the beard but to be a bottom, you only have to bend over for 1, 2 hours and you're done...

 

I understand your frustration. I'm a top as well and I tend to gravitate toward roided out super muscle but 99% of the time they only top or worse, do the bare minimum with "muscle worship." It's par for the course, you just have to look at the wording in the ads, negotiate, and be prepared to be disappointed or pay a little more for what you want.

 

I had been keeping my eye on this roided out guy from Vegas who moved to NYC who was pretty much a bottom. A few weeks later he says he's a top with a domination fetish. All the pics of his beautiful ass have been removed. I was crushed.... If I"m ever in NYC I'm still contacting him to see if he'll give up that ass, you never know...he may just say yes.

 

Don't give up hope and don't let hearing no discourage you, just move on to the next guy and maybe be a little more open to trying guys who aren't necessarily your first choice. I have met some great guys that don't fit my first choice and they are totally worth the time and effort to meet.

 

I think I know who you're talking about... Most likely he thinks listing as top will bring him more business... as in his private pics still have one with him hogtied with a leather hood over his head... Just ask him if he can bottom... You'll be surprised... Also, he listed ελληνικά as one of his spoken languages... He doesn't look Greek to me....

[orville]

most of them also cultivated a sophisticated BACTERIA FARM/COVID TRAP on their faces...

100% agree. It can be attractive, a good-looking thing depending on the guy, but when you think of all the bacteria getting trapped there, ugh.

The depiction below shows something commonly seen on the streets when a bearded guy wears a face mask, not the safest thing COVID-wise.

 

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