Might be time to stop...

[+ harey]

It may be time to stop the escort hobby..

 

Every time I finish with a visit or a weekend - like a trip I took with an escort this weekend – i feel empty. It just makes me feel like 'I am only good enough, worthy enough, because I am paying...not even worth affection without it being bought."

 

Just makes me feel EMPTY and it depresses me...

 

Anyone else?

Yes, I’ve also considered stopping, even before the quarantine. Your post here is very open and brave. In my opinion, if you decide to stop hiring, that doesn’t mean there is a problem or that you should look for a different escort strategy. It just means you are stopping.

 

You also mentioned feeling empty and depressed. I hope you are taking care of yourself and have someone to talk to.

[lanyc]

I found that it might "be time to stop the escort hobby" when a GLOBAL PANDEMIC BROKE OUT.

 

Are people really hiring since mid-March? That seems insane.

[+ 7829V]

Once you realize ALL RELATIONSHIPS imply some sort of transaction (with providers is just more explicit) you'll start feeling better.

This x100

[Monarchy79]

It may be time to stop the escort hobby..

 

Every time I finish with a visit or a weekend - like a trip I took with an escort this weekend – i feel empty. It just makes me feel like 'I am only good enough, worthy enough, because I am paying...not even worth affection without it being bought."

 

Just makes me feel EMPTY and it depresses me...

 

Anyone else?

 

Entertaining escorts isn’t the issue... just one of the symptoms.

 

Seek some therapy, figure out the root cause to your emptiness, and get better.

[+ 7829V]

I found that it might "be time to stop the escort hobby" when a GLOBAL PANDEMIC BROKE OUT.

 

Are people really hiring since mid-March? That seems insane.

I haven't, and don't plan to hire until we have a vaccine.

I was hiring almost every week. It was part of my "routine".

Due to pandemic I feel more relaxed. Don't feel pressured to go out, hire and plan social gatherings. I'm enjoying this new state of mind.

I might not hire that often anymore, if at all. Still have some FWB that I might resume seeing and also giving some free massages.

[Monarchy79]

I’ve found that people often feel “empty”, when they are looking for others to “fulfill” that emptiness.

 

Whether it’s an escort, masseur, lover, spouse, friend, family member, or colleague....

 

Expect nothing from them... especially not emotional validation.

 

Enjoy your experiences with all of them for the moment, read nothing into it, make no assumptions, and be happy.

[+ sync]

It may be time to stop the escort hobby..

 

Every time I finish with a visit or a weekend - like a trip I took with an escort this weekend – i feel empty. It just makes me feel like 'I am only good enough, worthy enough, because I am paying...not even worth affection without it being bought."

 

Just makes me feel EMPTY and it depresses me...

 

Anyone else?

It may be that there is just so much negativity surrounding us these days (C19, tanking economy, skyrocketing unemployment, pending evictions, toxic political environment, social unrest) that, for now, the hiring experience is just not as uplifting as it once was. "This too shall pass."

[Becket]

Yep. You are paying for it. Don't ever forget that. But......it is possible to develop something a bit more. It takes a ton of work on your part, a good sense of humor, and a huge forgiving attitude. Lots of good thoughts herein.

[+ WilliamM]

It may be that there is just so much negativity surrounding us these days (C19, tanking economy, skyrocketing unemployment, pending evictions, toxic political environment, social unrest) that, for now, the hiring experience is just not as uplifting as it once was. "This too shall pass."

 

I agree. Covid19 alone is very tough even if everything is relatively alright. Perhaps some time away from hiring would help.

 

I hope you are doing better tonight.

[Lazarus]

Go to your local shelter & get a rescue dog. It will end up being the best thing you can do for yourself & you will be helping out a dog that has been abandoned for one reason or another.

[curiousbynature12]

Find a good therapist and explore why you feel empty and feel like you need this hobby to feel self worth.

 

Easier said than done, but worth it for the eventual peace and happiness with yourself. Good luck OP.

[+ WilliamM]

Go to your local shelter & get a rescue dog. It will end up being the best thing you can do for yourself & you will be helping out a dog that has been abandoned for one reason or another.

 

Or a rescue cat.

[Lazarus]

You get more interaction from a dog than a cat.

[builder boy]

Well interesting topic to be sure. As one who really one has done weekend or longer stays I understand completely.....

I really only see guys I know quite well as I have grown tired of searching out how many different ways I can entertain a new guest lol. I often felt I was providing the vacation, seems like something gets lost in translation....

Wisdom prevailed and one thing to remember they are being paid, and typically once the money stops, or they move on to other things the “friendship” tends to be over as well... It is rare to meet a guy that is a genuine person in that the connection was made and a friendship remains.

Your real friends are the ones you don’t pay ?

[+ harey]

Once you realize ALL RELATIONSHIPS imply some sort of transaction (with providers is just more explicit) you'll start feeling better.

That’s really cynical. It reminds me of a conversation I had with a former porn star who had recently retired and was desperately trying to find a normal job. Over dinner we talked about the life he’d led, travel and fun but no savings or real friends. All his relationships had been transactional and unhealthy.

[The_Impeccable_G]

It may be time to stop the escort hobby..

 

Every time I finish with a visit or a weekend - like a trip I took with an escort this weekend – i feel empty. It just makes me feel like 'I am only good enough, worthy enough, because I am paying...not even worth affection without it being bought."

 

Just makes me feel EMPTY and it depresses me...

 

Anyone else?

Don't be such a drama queen. We pay for everything including love and affection. Since the problem is how you feel when you finish the session, why don't you find a permanent sugar boy?

Edited August 5, 2020 by The_Impeccable_G

[The_Impeccable_G]

 

ALL RELATIONSHIPS imply some sort of transaction (with providers is just more explicit)

 

???

[D21howie]

Good morning. When I first started using escorts I was nervous because not knowing if I was going to get a good guy or a guy who was a dud. Then I got real lucky I found a guy I been using for the past ten years and it all started with a two hour session in 2010 in LA. We become real close. We found out that we had a lot in common. He is the first I call or text for events or trips. Now I have five escorts I used on a regular basis. Great guys with a mutual respect for each other. Each has their own personality and that what makes us get a long. I use to have an account on Rentmen until I met the duds who wanted money first before the date more than genuine men.

[The_Impeccable_G]

@Bearman out of curiosity what did you find insulting in my post?

[+ Pensant]

I found that it might "be time to stop the escort hobby" when a GLOBAL PANDEMIC BROKE OUT.

 

Are people really hiring since mid-March? That seems insane.

They clearly are, and, yes, there’s probably a degree of insanity involved.

[MidwestCoastal]

I found that it might "be time to stop the escort hobby" when a GLOBAL PANDEMIC BROKE OUT.

 

Are people really hiring since mid-March? That seems insane.

 

This is about degrees of risk, what risk you are willing to take, and the trust level you have in a provider. I have a provider I have seen regularly for four years. I trust him.

 

The COVID reality is that this could be with us FOREVER. Vaccines may not work beyond a few months. Just because you had it once doesn't necessarily mean you can't/won't catch it again. We're all going to have to come out of our caves at some point. Some will do it sooner than others.

[adventurous old guy]

This is about degrees of risk, what risk you are willing to take, and the trust level you have in a provider. I have a provider I have seen regularly for four years. I trust him.

 

The COVID reality is that this could be with us FOREVER. Vaccines may not work beyond a few months. Just because you had it once doesn't necessarily mean you can't/won't catch it again. We're all going to have to come out of our caves at some point. Some will do it sooner than others.

And remember its not just about Covid. I made the decision to retire in December pre-Covid after worrying for several months about rising risks of antibiotic resistant STDs coupled with the astounding -- at least to me -- devolution of safe sex practices by providers prompted by PreP.

 

Just to be clear, I don't blame the providers and certainly don't mean to profile all providers as being unsafe. It was more my own temptation to relax caution -- let's face it, raw DOES feel better and IS hotter -- that made me do a hard stop as self-discipline.

 

I miss this hobby though!!!

[marylander1940]

Don't be such a drama queen. We pay for everything including love and affection. Since the problem is how you feel when you finish the session, why don't you find a permanent sugar boy?

 

Sugar boys are usually expensive but some on here have been able to trade a room for sex.

 

"drama queen" has been used on here but not about such a personal subject like loneliness.

[Todd Jenkins]

I really appreciate the kind replies with helpful and hopeful information.

To the hateful, "drama queen," replies, I'd be justified in responding with a vile reply, but I am bigger than that. I just wish you could be happy as to not spew hatred to someone who is already feeling down about something.

[The_Impeccable_G]

I really appreciate the kind replies with helpful and hopeful information.

To the hateful, "drama queen," replies, I'd be justified in responding with a vile reply, but I am bigger than that. I just wish you could be happy as to not spew hatred to someone who is already feeling down about something.

"drama queen" was not meant to be an insult. I said it in a light humorous way. Maybe because I have been listening to the Drama Queen album in Spotify with Maria Callas the one and only drama queen.