Sensuous vs. Erotic Massage

[Milo Farnsworth]

Can someone explain the difference, please?

[CatDaddy]

I know it when I feel it........

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[+ poolboy48220]

it's just three points on a scale from 'totally therapeutic' to 'full on escort experience'. What it means specifically, where they end up on that scale and what they call it, will vary from masseur to masseur.

[wklukas]

The words sensual and sensuous are often used interchangeably, but careful writers would do well to think before using one or the other.

[jeezifonly]

Can someone explain the difference, please?

In the broadest of terms, the ‘sensual’ is with client undraped, consists of mostly body-work, on table or mat, with your release, and may or may not include nudity and/or mutual touching of the provider. ‘Erotic’ can be simply an enhanced version of their ‘Sensual’ with less body-work, but more contact with provider, who would more likely also be nude for all or part of service. Or it can include oral stimulation, reciprocal or not, full body contact, digital or penile penetration, or might even move to bed and basically be a full BFE. In short, the difference is whatever the provider says it is...

I sometimes really want the bodywork, and other times I want more full contact and access to the masseur’s body. I think it’s best to speak via phone, say “I’m looking for something like a legit spa massage but with release” or “I’d be interested in your most interactive service - can you tell me what might look like?” The nuance in his answers may be more telling if it’s not all via text. YMMV and as 45 often says, EMJOY!!!

[SamMiller213]

For me they breakdown as follows:

 

Sensual = Legitimate full body massage that slowly becomes more sensual towards the end. Includes release and the masseur is usually nude but not always

 

Erotic = Less of a trained massage and more focus on getting the client aroused. Both are nude and things can progress depending on limits.

 

For me, a legit sensual massage by a good therapist can be so much better than an erotic one if done correctly.

[Milo Farnsworth]

Thank you!! Although I love sucking cock, I do enjoy being taken care of now and then hence the question. I'm looking for more erotic!

[Luv2play]

I’ve had many massages over the years, from therapeutic, to sensual and erotic. I distinguish between sensual and erotic as follows and I make my expectations clear with the masseur before engaging him. Sensual is where the masseur may be scantily clad as in a jock strap or tiny briefs and I am fully nude on the table. I expect full touching on his part on all my body parts and stimulation but I do not expect to touch his private parts. I do like to caress his thighs, his arms and hands and belly and chest when in range. A happy ending should be included if requested by me. An erotic is at a higher level of contact. It includes all of the above plus can include kissing, not necessarily on the lips but for instance on my neck, back or other parts or vice versa. Does not include penetration but full body contact such as where the masseur lies on my back and rubs up and down. His penis may tease my butt cheeks. I think of erotic massage as like foreplay before the main event with a BFE. Hence I may caress his cock but not suck it. Some erotic massages end up as full service BFE but usually entails moving to a higher fee if the masseur requests and I agree on the amount. All massages should cover my entire body with good techniques. At the end I want to feel full body relaxation no matter what the level.

[Luv2play]

I should have also said erotic for me means the masseur is fully naked.

[+ keroscenefire]

Yeah, I feel erotic massage almost always means both masseur and client are fully naked and there is erotic mutual touching. I've definitely gotten full service (often oral and sometimes penetration) but not always in an erotic massage.

[maninsoma]

Luv2play's comment about making his expectations with the masseur clear in advance is spot on. If you're hoping you can find a definition of each term that every masseur will abide by, that's not going to happen. Some guys advertise erotic massage but then don't provide anything that I would interpret as an erotic massage, either because he has no intention of providing that kind of service or because he isn't sure what expectations the client has and is waiting for signals to go farther. Communication is key.

[orville]

I may caress his cock but not suck it.

Massage without cocksucking is not Erotic.

[+ Lucky]

Massage without cocksucking is not Erotic.

I disagree. I can think of many massages that were very erotic but did not involve the insertion of the male organ into an orifice on my body. Some masseurs are wonderful teases and when the climax comes it is as erotic as a backyard blowjob!

[+ Lucky]

Nowadays masseurs aren't supposed to advertise that they are sexual or even provide a HE. But back when they could, a NY masseur I saw advertised that he did NOT, and the client was NOT to even ASK! But, he came highly recommended so I hired him. By the time we got to where he was fucking me I realized that the ad was meant to screen those he wasn't attracted to. Your mileage may vary.

[orville]

I disagree. I can think of many massages that were very erotic but did not involve the insertion of the male organ into an orifice on my body. Some masseurs are wonderful teases and when the climax comes it is as erotic as a backyard blowjob!

Then I would expect a lower rate for that "erotic" massage. More important, if I'm getting an erotic massage and the masseur doesn't get hard, it's not worthy. Of course I'm saying this from the POV of a bottom.

[+ Lucky]

Then I would expect a lower rate for that "erotic" massage. More important, if I'm getting an erotic massage and the masseur doesn't get hard, it's not worthy. Of course I'm saying this from the POV of a bottom.

I could easily accept your premises if you were speaking about an escort.

[orville]

screen those he wasn't attracted to.

This has been widely discussed in this forum. This kind of providers only means bad service/business.

[+ Lucky]

This has been widely discussed in this forum. This kind of providers only means bad service/business.

If you say so. I had a great time with him!

[orville]

I could easily accept your premises if you were speaking about an escort.

Negative. Especially with erotic massage, there is something called "interaction" (both ways).

If you like being touched by an emotionless robot, that's ok. I and the majority will expect to "get and see" arousal.

[NYSlim]

Negative. Especially with erotic massage, there is something called "interaction" (both ways).

If you like being touched by an emotionless robot, that's ok. I and the majority will expect to "get and see" arousal.

 

I don't know, I feel like because the nature of the job isn't that of an escort, it shouldn't be expected that the masseur will be aroused during an erotic massage. We are human, after all. To me, erotic goes beyond gently touching certain areas, it is more interactive, but doesn't necessarily have to involve the masseur getting hard. It could involve fingers, body contact, simulation, but I wouldn't fault a masseur for offering erotic and not popping a boner. An escort not popping a boner however, whose job it is to penetrate (if hired in an active role) would be an issue for me. But even then, I would still understand to a certain extent that some level of attraction (or Viagra) needs to be involved.

[orville]

erotic goes beyond gently touching certain areas, it is more interactive, but doesn't necessarily have to involve the masseur getting hard. It could involve fingers, body contact, simulation, but I wouldn't fault a masseur for offering erotic and not popping a boner.

If I only wanted to get what you describe I would go to any cheap massage parlor where that would cost me a fraction of what I pay for EROTIC massage to any guy on Rentmasseur and then jerk myself at home if that's all I wanted. I don't expect getting fucked when getting erotic massage. Again, I'm saying this from a bottom POV: If the provider is unable to get aroused by the interaction, his service is not worthy of my time and money.

[NYSlim]

If I only wanted to get what you describe I would go to any cheap massage parlor where that would cost me a fraction of what I pay for EROTIC massage to any guy on Rentmasseur and then jerk myself at home if that's all I wanted. I don't expect getting fucked when getting erotic massage. Again, I'm saying this from a bottom POV: If the provider is unable to get aroused by the interaction, his service is not worthy of my time and money.

 

I'm also a bottom, but I also understand that I can't make someone's dick hard if they aren't remotely interested (unless a pill is involved). Plain and simple.

 

But fair enough if that's your point of view, I just wonder how many times you are actually 100 percent satisfied, unless you have a knack for choosing guys that are into you.

[orville]

I'm also a bottom, but I also understand that I can't make someone's dick hard if they aren't remotely interested (unless a pill is involved). Plain and simple.

 

But fair enough if that's your point of view, I just wonder how many times you are actually 100 percent satisfied, unless you have a knack for choosing guys that are into you.

I've been disappointed quite a few times and in those cases, I have not repeated. A good erotic masseur or escort should be able to show arousal to his client (naturally or chemically, I don't care) unless the client is total top or doesn't like to see/feel/suck a hard-on (quite rare). I said it before and I will say it again: This is a somewhat expensive hobby, and not a cheap service we're paying for.

Edited August 2, 2020 by orville

[Redwine56]

Nowadays masseurs aren't supposed to advertise that they are sexual or even provide a HE. But back when they could, a NY masseur I saw advertised that he did NOT, and the client was NOT to even ASK! But, he came highly recommended so I hired him. By the time we got to where he was fucking me I realized that the ad was meant to screen those he wasn't attracted to. Your mileage may vary.

Is that why you are "Lucky" or are you a real stud? ?

[+ Lucky]

Is that why you are "Lucky" or are you a real stud? ?

I was lucky that day!