Short-term "loans" to escorts

[Ichabod]

I did this once with a guy I had seen multiple times. We arranged it specifically as payment for our next meeting, and it worked out fine. I don't recommend it and would not do it often, but it went OK this one time.

[robberbaron4u]

I don't make cash loans to escorts in the expectation of repayment of the loans; rather, I have made cash gifts to escorts with a desperate need to keep a roof over their heads or medical expenses;, on occasion; for school tuition and books, and, very rarely, for a legitimate business enterprise, e.g., flipping a motor vehicle. I did make certain that the cash was going to the actual need or enterprise and not a momentary whim.In the course of thirty years, more or less, three of the lads, in my recollection, paid back the principal amount in cash.

[DallasClient]

I don't recommend it either but have done it. My guy I see on most Sundays has needed money in the past two weeks for medicine for a cold, groceries, Halloween costume and Uber fare to the party where it would be worn. He's coming over tomorrow and he won't back out because he knows what side his bread is buttered on and he does love that butter!

 

However, as others have said, don't give away more than you're willing to lose.

[Aaron James]

I’ve done it once on the agreement that it would cover our next meet... but before that meet he asked for another loan, some rambling post-midnight message about being in serious trouble and at risk of having his fingers cut off.

 

I didn’t reply.

 

Weirdly he messaged about 4 weeks later like nothing had happened. And still messages me every now and then to this day. Apparently his fingers are still working.

 

Never ever loan an escort money! As with a deposit or payment up front, I don’t do it and if that’s a problem they know where the door is.

[MikeBiDude]

No...because if this, this, this, and this:

An offering outside of a scheduled hobby meeting will likely end your contact with that provider

This is a NEVER scenario for me

I got a sense of resentment from them when trying to schedule the follow up meet.

In my experience these types of requests tend to finish off the...friendship, shall we say

[rvwnsd]

...I'm not looking for advice... I've already made an executive decision... but perhaps others may like to air their opinions on the subject in general.

[NJmusclelover]

My father used to tell me to only lend the amount that I was willing to lose.

Exactly you need to think of it as a gift if you get it back be pleasantly surprised

[marylander1940]

I‘ve given a visiting czech escort more than 6K as he kept on pestering me after our visits. He was very nice and apparently had lots of debts to pay. Anyhow, that is 6K gone. We still keep in touch, but he has never broached returning the cash...lol. Oh well, listen learned. And, by now, my interest in him has waned...

 

Have you thought about collecting your debt with several sessions with him?

 

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FUCK no.

Twice I had pretty regular guys, seeing them about once a week as long I was in town. I was out of town and one asked for an advance on the next session.....I agreed; that was April and he's been flakey or just ignored me since. He's pretty stupid because he lost a devoted regular client over $300....

 

Other Escort had gotten too close....was texting me daily about his life and regular job...friends etc and then when he was in a cash crunch wanted an advance. He eventually did make good on it but as soon as he performed for the prior "loan" in a couple days wanted another one. He still messages me and I don't even care to collect. Escorts can make a TON of money if they're good and reliable and can even put away money for the future. There's no need to reward the flakey ones who can't budget and who rather than treat their work as a business (work hard at the gym, respond to messages quickly, update their marketing regularly etc) spend too much time and money on traveling, shopping & partying.

 

crazy that in this buyers market some guys are short minded to do something like this. 300 a week = 1,200 a month... He grabbed 300 and lost thousands.

 

I don't recommend it either but have done it. My guy I see on most Sundays has needed money in the past two weeks for medicine for a cold, groceries, Halloween costume and Uber fare to the party where it would be worn. He's coming over tomorrow and he won't back out because he knows what side his bread is buttered on and he does love that butter!

 

However, as others have said, don't give away more than you're willing to lose.

 

I'm glad it worked out! How come he had to ask you for $ for medicine, groceries, a Halloween costume and Uber? Doesn't have a CC, some bank accounts and some money hidden somewhere for a rainy day and specially for his future?

Edited November 2, 2019 by marylander1940

[+ Keith30309]

I‘ve given a visiting czech escort more than 6K as he kept on pestering me after our visits. He was very nice and apparently had lots of debts to pay. Anyhow, that is 6K gone. We still keep in touch, but he has never broached returning the cash...lol. Oh well, listen learned. And, by now, my interest in him has waned...

As your attorney I recommend that you mitigate your credit default risk by partitioning this $6k financial interest into marketable tranches of, perhaps, a dozen $500 lots to be marketed at a 50% discount.

[liubit]

I’ve done it once on the agreement that it would cover our next meet... but before that meet he asked for another loan, some rambling post-midnight message about being in serious trouble and at risk of having his fingers cut off.

Like I said, the boys show amazing creativity in fabricating terribly tragic stories. ??

Weirdly he messaged about 4 weeks later like nothing had happened. And still messages me every now and then to this day. Apparently his fingers are still working.

I rest my case ?

[Tonyko]

I have done this ONCE with a struggling young actor I'd been seeing for a few years in LA starting when he was 20-21 (legit actor since his teens professional performing children's school he had Bway and TV credits I found his demo reel and resume online) who I met in a non-escort chat room but hinted he was open to financial assistance etc and that's how we began. After two years of meetings he asked for an advance against our next several sessions. He said he was strapped he'd been in a accident and couldn't work, (TELL ME IF YOU'VE EVER HEARD OR SEEN THIS) he said the airbag deployed in his face and when he showed up to collect his advance he had two black eyes, NOT like you would from a fight, mostly under the eyes and completely uniform, more like after plastic surgery after having your eyes done) *this was a 20-something beautiful boy he didn't have an eye-job lol) So I gave him the money. He did show up twice over the next several months and I got two sessions for "free". (I'd advanced him the equivalent of 6) But after that he made excuses. Soooooo not wanting to lose him (think your LEGAL AGE 90210/Dawson's Creek esque dream boy, one of those ones, though slight, is HUGELY endowed) I suggested that I'd just start paying him again at next session and miraculously he was available.

 

But I never fully trusted him again, and I ignore casual catch-up emails and texts where he doesn't ask for money but hints how dire he situation is - rent - vet bills -everything in between and I simply suggest a meet-up when we're on the same coast if that will help etc. (he's in his mid-30's now, our last hook up was 2 years ago when he was flown to NYC by producers for a Bway audition)

 

The hardest thing is resisting the urge to just send this boy money, especially when you get addicted to someone like him and think with your dick lol, it's a flaw of mine, and a constant struggle.

[Rick M]

As an addendum to my original post, and in the same category of taking a risk to perform an act of kindness, I should mention that several years ago I sheltered a career alcoholic after hearing his story of woe (roommate locked him out; no money in his pocket) at a bar. The night was bitterly cold and he had no other place to go. I wasn't attracted to him, nor did we seem to have much in common, nor did I know he was an alcoholic at the time, but I gave him a week to recover. He stayed 2 months. I still have some of his stuff stored in my basement. He may still be on the streets for all I know (we don't communicate often), but he's a nice guy, yet weak and unable to organize himself, and probably never will return to what we might call normalcy. Do I regret helping him out, even though it had no net positive effect? Nah.

[DallasClient]

I'm glad it worked out! How come he had to ask you for $ for medicine, groceries, a Halloween costume and Uber? Doesn't have a CC, some bank accounts and some money hidden somewhere for a rainy day and specially for his future?

 

He currently has no car and no job. But, his biggest problem is that he lives at home with his parents where his dad works a part time job and the mom is on disability. I am the only one pushing him to get an education. He needed a computer for online classes so I helped with that. I am hoping we can save for a car next. He's in his early 20's and a very bright young man. He's also very responsible - he house sits for me a lot. He just needs to get out of that house where doing nothing is kind of the norm. Aside from a few odd jobs, I'm currently his only income.

[marylander1940]

He currently has no car and no job. But, his biggest problem is that he lives at home with his parents where his dad works a part time job and the mom is on disability. I am the only one pushing him to get an education. He needed a computer for online classes so I helped with that. I am hoping we can save for a car next. He's in his early 20's and a very bright young man. He's also very responsible - he house sits for me a lot. He just needs to get out of that house where doing nothing is kind of the norm. Aside from a few odd jobs, I'm currently his only income.

 

I'm glad you're helping him but he can always escort. Wait he's already doing it with you, right?

[DallasClient]

I'm glad you're helping him but he can always escort. Wait he's already doing it with you, right?

 

Yes. He isn't interested in doing it with others at the moment.

[marylander1940]

Yes. He isn't interested in doing it with others at the moment.

 

Can you offer him a bedroom at your place in exchange for his services?

 

Is he even applying for regular jobs?

[DallasClient]

Can you offer him a bedroom at your place in exchange for his services?

 

Is he even applying for regular jobs?

 

He's not aware there are others I like to help out and that just wouldn't be an option at this time.

 

He is not. Unfortunately, we live in an area where you really need a car to go anywhere. That's our next step.

[marylander1940]

He's not aware there are others I like to help out and that just wouldn't be an option at this time.

 

He is not. Unfortunately, we live in an area where you really need a car to go anywhere. That's our next step.

 

Dallas? Of course.

 

I'm glad things are working out for the 2 of you.

[+ Marky7832]

I’ve loaned money to young acquaintances twice and it didn’t end well either time.

In both cases I got a sense of resentment from them when trying to schedule the follow up meet. I started to feel like a bill collector: “Hey, are you available next Tuesday to meet?”.... “No, I have other plans.”

 

This has been exactly my experience, where advancing-- even when I don't expect to see it again-- leads to a feeling of weirdness and ultimately resentment on their side. Avoid.

[+ purplekow]

To all the posters who have a story, what the hell. If my doctor called and said he was strapped for cash to pay his golf club due, I would not lend him money. If my lawyer called and he asked to borrow money to have his eye teeth sharpened. I would not lend him money. So why in the world would you lend money to a stranger who has sex with you for money? Stop and remember, these are not your friends. And if a friend called and asked to borrow money with a half assed story, I would say no. Don't confuse it. They love the money not you.

I must admit,I once lent money to a Nigerian Prince who texted me and asked to borrow some money and said he would supply me with a huge bounty when the funds from Nigeria were transferred. He hasn't called back.

Edited November 10, 2019 by purplekow

[liubit]

Off topic: your avatar is beautiful, @Marky7832, very hot.

 

Now, back to our regular scheduled program.

[30somethingsexybear]

If money isn't really much of a concern then I wouldn't care too much, Also I too adhere to the idea of "Don't lend money that you care about getting back." When you do get paid back it's like a nice lil' bonus (even though it's your money to begin with) lol.

[Realalist]

Unfortunately, for me at least, once they even make the offer the relationships is over. They are not going to pay it back and it's going to get weird when they don't. Once they ask.....CUT THEM OFF!

[+ Keith30309]

Unfortunately, for me at least, once they even make the offer the relationships is over. They are not going to pay it back and it's going to get weird when they don't. Once they ask.....CUT THEM OFF!

Yeah...I‘ve found that when I’ve turned someone down for a loan it usually does get weird.

 

I got this a couple of weeks ago from a guy I met once: “Hey this is xxx and I really need help getting a tire and a rim for my car. I know u won't help and will be very suspicious of my simply asking for help but this is my last alternative.”

 

There‘s no way things wouldn’t be at least a little off if we met again.

[Guest]

" I would gladly pay you Tuesday for a hamburger today."

 

"Positively NO CREDIT. This means YOU, Wimpy."