How common is to hire an escort just to escort.

[+ 7829V]

I scheduled a meeting with an escort. But not sure if I’ll be in the mood for sex. And I was thinking maybe just go out to have something to eat and spend time together. How common is this? To hire an escort and not have sex? Should I let the escort know in advance?

[gersonides]

Sounds like a lovely night to me!

[hypothetically]

I scheduled a meeting with an escort. But not sure if I’ll be in the mood for sex. And I was thinking maybe just go out to have something to eat and spend time together. How common is this? To hire an escort and not have sex? Should I let the escort know in advance?

 

It is common. There’s no blueprint for what an evening with an escort should look like. While the majority of the forum may potentially scoff at you for not having sex. It’s not their money nor their evening, now is it?

 

You do what you’re in the mood for and what feels most comfortable for you. Just ensure you communicate this to your provider ahead of time. It’s okay to say “I’d like to hire you for your time, I’m not sure i’ll be in the mood, let’s start with (insert activity/activities) and we’ll take it from there”. Ask him for a quote of roughly how much time out of his schedule you’re likely to occupy.

[MrMattBig]

It is common. There’s no blueprint for what an evening with an escort should look like. While the majority of the forum may potentially scoff at you for not having sex. It’s not their money nor their evening, now is it?

 

You do what you’re in the mood for and what feels most comfortable for you. Just ensure you communicate this to your provider ahead of time. It’s okay to say “I’d like to hire you for your time, I’m not sure i’ll be in the mood, let’s start with (insert activity/activities) and we’ll take it from there”. Ask him for a quote of roughly how much time out of his schedule you’re likely to occupy.

 

Agree!

As another input, it's always refreshing when there is not the added pressure to perform at 110% within an hour time and to let things flow organically. As escorts, we are still human. Drinks + appetizers + sexual tension, count me in!?

[+ BuzzBuddy]

Amazing...this just happens to be a major blip on my radar. Currently scheduling a few long range plans with my regular escort for early 2020 events requiring advance ticket purchases. He is unable to attend one event, so I suggested the option of hiring an escort only to accompany me to the event and on to dinner afterwards...no sex, just companionship for a hopefully mutually enjoyed evening. My regular is kindly arranging a shortlist of options for me to approach and inquire. If all of my investments had generated such dividends, I’d be an even happier mature man than I am. ?

[+ nycman]

I love the idea. I’m just not willing to pay $300/hour for it.

Same way I feel about overnights. In theory, I love the

idea of a relaxed romantic evening that involves a

beautiful man sleeping next to me in bed and ends

with a beautiful hotel breakfast.

 

$2,000 for it though?....yeah no, I’m good.

Edited June 29, 2019 by nycman

[+ poolboy48220]

I love the idea. I’m just not will to pay $300/hour for it.

+1 to that

[bendable2019]

Very common I love boyfriend experiences, talking, cuddling, making out, fondling one another

we eat a little something prior then we have one another for dessert

 

Oucher! Love that!

[+ 7829V]

+1 to that

Well. This is a masseur I hired for 160/hr for 90 min, he comes to my place. After the second visit, session went beyond massage. And he asked me if he could stayed overnight. Because we had been drinking and had dinner. I said yes, but I had no budget to pay an overnight fee. He said no worries the basic masseur rate was cool. So everytime I see him is the same dynamic. We drink a little. Have dinner and go to the bedroom. So if I just see him to hang out it would be cool with me.

[Cali_Otter]

I have had a few clients hire me for companionship, as I am a very sweet man and quite a wonderful conversationalist. It is not very common, though. I really enjoy these experiences; they allow me to be intimate on an intellectual level with the person I am with.

 

Spending quality time with someone is important, even if there is no sex. Human connection has a high value with me.

 

I hope hearing this helps!

 

-Cali

[+ 7829V]

I have had a few clients hire me for companionship, as I am a very sweet man and quite a wonderful conversationalist. It is not very common, though. I really enjoy these experiences; they allow me to be intimate on an intellectual level with the person I am with.

 

Spending quality time with someone is important, even if there is no sex. Human connection has a high value with me.

 

I hope hearing this helps!

 

-Cali

This x 1000. Connection on a personal level is important.

[Rudynate]

I scheduled a meeting with an escort. But not sure if I’ll be in the mood for sex. And I was thinking maybe just go out to have something to eat and spend time together. How common is this? To hire an escort and not have sex? Should I let the escort know in advance?

 

 

 

I have a fantasy involving an escort and no sex. I love Christmas Eve Mass-have since I was a kid. My husband won't go. I want to hire some fabulous arm candy to go to Christmas Eve mass at Grace Cathedral. Wed be in suits, have a late bite before and I would go home to my irreligious husband.

[Bucky]

What's going on in the minds of people who are paying for public display of arm candy?

Perceptions from those viewing it ranges all along the spectrum of "I'm so jealous" to "How ridiculous and sad".

But what is the intent of the client here? What's the real motivation behind "Here, look what I've got" ??

Edited June 29, 2019 by Bucky

[Rudynate]

What's going on in the minds of people who are paying for public display of arm candy?

Perceptions from those viewing it ranges all along the spectrum of "I'm so jealous" to "How ridiculous and sad".

But what is the intent of the client here? What's the real motivation behind "Here, look what I've got" ??

 

 

I don't think most people think that much about it. It's just two men together. When there's a disparity in age, I wonder what's up, but I don't spend a lot of time on it.

[hypothetically]

What's going on in the minds of people who are paying for public display of arm candy?

Why things like this matter to people always baffles me.

Perceptions from those viewing it ranges all along the spectrum of "I'm so jealous" to "How ridiculous and sad".

But what is the intent of the client here?

The spectrum isn’t just comprised of negative reactions. There are more perceptions other than those who are envious or projecting.

What's the real motivation behind "Here, look what I've got" ??

Everyone’s motive is individual and that should be of no one’s concern. What’s anyone’s motivation toward spending money on anything they like/enjoy? It’s not our business.

[Rudynate]

How can you be sure that your premise is correct-that the reason for hiring a great-looking guy to escort you in public is necessarily always to show off? Couldn't it be for the sheer enjoyment of spending time with him?

[RyanDean]

I just had an encounter that was 90% "non intimate" -- dinner, a show, walking around the city -- and, for me, it was mostly about enjoying the time together (and to give him the opportunity to see a show he truly loves)... I suspect very few folks noticed us or me (though I did see some folks clocking him) but I got no "armcandy" jollies out of the experience, nor was I seeking any.

[jawjateck]

Oh yes, every engagement. Y'all know good company is all that matters to me.

[+ oldNbusted]

While I don't like most people, I am a very keen observer of them. So I certainly enjoy observing someone I find interesting (for whatever reason, including physical attraction) in different scenarios, including being out in public.

 

Also, shared experiences (even if they are not experienced together) are a foundation of interpersonal interactions. As a fan of the BFE, a diversity of activities enhances the experience.

 

The spectrum isn’t just comprised of negative reactions.

 

I enjoying observing reactions, in real time, good, bad, or indifferent. My impression is that people who are prone to be disapproving is it almost always revolves around the monetary aspect, which I wouldn't expect to be a factor in this forum. For example, in a scenario where where an older guy connects with a genuine 'daddy-chaser', and finances are not a factor, many times the same people who tut-tut over public displays of escorting will say 'how lucky you are!'.

 

Having said that, here on the forum, I've always found the disapproving puzzling, as it denies the escorts their own agency, which is to say, that there is something wrong with an escort agreeing to such an public engagement, 'they are only doing it for the money'. I know when I was younger, as most of the escorts tend to be, I sure as hell didn't want to hear some old dude tell me what I should and should not be doing based what they personally approved of, so their advice was not based on my own best interests.

[hypothetically]

Having said that, here on the forum, I've always found the disapproving puzzling, as it denies the escorts their own agency,

 

100%, and I’d imagine there are a large number of users on the forum who are escorts, that refrain from participating in active discussions for this reason. I see very little commentary from escorts aside from the very few who engage regularly.

[TruthBTold]

It is a funny situation. I have seen the same escort for many years. There have been times however when I just wanted him to experience something (e.g., a band or a play) because I knew he would enjoy it and it would make me happy to take him. So we would do these things. In some ways it was hard to make sure that the non-sexual experiences would stay that way but it always happened. Except for one time. We watched a movie that I wanted him to see at my place and then we started to drink some wine. Then some quasi-cuddling started and it then became what I did not want to happen. I felt awful and actually kept saying each step of the way, "Don't do that because then this is going to happen." And of course it did. But that was the only time.

[mike carey]

@TruthBTold I don't know if it's possible to have an escort-not-sex session with a gentleman if you have met before. I would say do the movie/theatre thing whether you intend to have sex or not, but if sex happens, just roll with it. I'm looking at meeting an escort who suggests cuddle only sessions (as well as other 9.5 inch activities). Maybe the cuddle-only meeting would happen, maybe not.

[TruthBTold]

@TruthBTold I don't know if it's possible to have an escort-not-sex session with a gentleman if you have met before. I would say do the movie/theatre thing whether you intend to have sex or not, but if sex happens, just roll with it. I'm looking at meeting an escort who suggests cuddle only sessions (as well as other 9.5 inch activities). Maybe the cuddle-only meeting would happen, maybe not.

 

Oh, I'm sorry, I obviously confused things. The other person and I had met many times and then when things outside our sex world came up I would just ask. It was difficult sometimes but we were able to separate the two different agendas. As I said, there was one time when it slipped and emotionally I felt bad about it. However, I would still offer to do something outside our escort/client world.

[mike carey]

Oh, I'm sorry, I obviously confused things. The other person and I had met many times and then when things outside our sex world came up I would just ask. It was difficult sometimes but we were able to separate the two different agendas. As I said, there was one time when it slipped and emotionally I felt bad about it. However, I would still offer to do something outside our escort/client world.

No, I obviously misunderstood you. If you have an established relationship clearly you can plan a non-sex session. Sometimes it may go there anyway but sometimes not.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Sure, it happens. Every client has different needs and many of those needs aren't sexual.