This is such an interesting topic! I have got to say that I was not even aware of this, and it almost always seems on my end that my clients want more time with me.
I have never asked for less money for my time, as the OP said the escort in his story did. I would have expected that if I was physically in the room, that I am on the clock. My time is my most precious resource, and once it’s gone, that’s it! My time deserves it’s appropriate rate even if it’s filled with conversation only.
I also have a great respect for the person’s finances who is hiring me. I understand and empathize with financial domination effects of client-escort relationships as well. I am always appreciative of the time and financial expenses of my client.
I am a good conversationalist, and I encourage clients reaching out to me to be direct with their intentions. For example: I would be devastated if I found out I was the escort that thought he was helping the OP, but made the situation not the best in the end. Since he tried to tell the escort he wanted to pay for all of it, and the escort did not accept the communication, the problem can be summarized as miscommunication.
Since the topic is now something I’ll actively think about, I will now make sure I am paying closer attention to communications like this. Thank you all for your thoughts, experiences, and insight!