Number of Questions Proportionate to the Likelihood They Will Schedule?

[+ Lance_Navarro]

I encourage an inquiring client to ask whatever questions they need to feel comfortable before scheduling, but I've certainly noticed that those who go back and forth, wanting to know exactly what to expect, often wanting to talk on the phone for 15-20 minutes, etc, 90% of the time they never schedule or will schedule and within 24 hours say they need to cancel (suddenly they have to make a work trip). Has anyone else noticed this direct correlation? How do you balance giving someone the time they need to make a decision and how not to waste time on someone that is just wasting yours?

[Kevin Slater]

The number of questions, calls, texts beforehand are inversely proportional to the likelihood of them ever booking.

 

I answer the first few, but when he hits me back with another slew of questions (is my right testicle larger than my left...) or tries to initiate phone sex, I tell him I'll need a small deposit to keep this conversation going. Most often that ends the conversation, but he was never going to book in the first place. Inevitably, the jacker off moves to the next guy down on rentmen and starts the process all over again and has never actually paid an escort in his life. I could spend untold hours jacking these guys off over the phone and perhaps get one single booking out of it, but that's not a productive use of my time.

 

Kevin Slater

[bnm73]

The number of questions, calls, texts beforehand are inversely proportional to the likelihood of them ever booking.

 

I answer the first few, but when he hits me back with another slew of questions (is my right testicle larger than my left...) or tries to initiate phone sex, I tell him I'll need a small deposit to keep this conversation going. Most often that ends the conversation, but he was never going to book in the first place. Inevitably, the jacker off moves to the next guy down on rentmen and starts the process all over again and has never actually paid an escort in his life. I could spend untold hours jacking these guys off over the phone and perhaps get one single booking out of it, but that's not a productive use of my time.

 

Kevin Slater

 

Sometimes the "too many questions/texts" is not always on the clients. I'll cheerfully acknowledge that there are those who "chat," and those who have several questions about services, limits, etc., but only ask them 1 at a time (that would apply more to testers than emailers, I imagine). And sometimes the answers you get back don't match the questions that are asked.

 

Once last year, for example, I was interested in hiring 2 escorts at the same time as a treat to myself. I contacted the first, and -- after making sure he was amenable to a 3-way since some are not -- I asked if rates would be different if there were a 2nd escort involved even if I was the only one being "serviced," as it were. His answer was that he didn't perform rim jobs. A total non-sequitur..

 

As a former escort, I get that "time is money" and that you can't spend all day talking to one person. As a client, though, I want to make sure I'm signing up for what I want, especially if I have something particular in mind. If someone says 3 texts is all they're doing (and I've seen that...on folks who don't list rates, so "how much" is one of the questions you have to ask), then I doubt I'll have enough information to feel comfortable hiring them.

 

(Just another drawback to trying to hire someone without ever having met or laid eyes on them first....back in the day, you could at least get a drink or something while talking/negotiating...*chuckle*)

[OneFinger]

I encourage an inquiring client to ask whatever questions they need to feel comfortable before scheduling, but I've certainly noticed that those who go back and forth, wanting to know exactly what to expect, often wanting to talk on the phone for 15-20 minutes, etc, 90% of the time they never schedule or will schedule and within 24 hours say they need to cancel (suddenly they have to make a work trip). Has anyone else noticed this direct correlation? How do you balance giving someone the time they need to make a decision and how not to waste time on someone that is just wasting yours?

Lance, don't mean to possibly hijack this thread but I'd be interested in some clarification. When people are asking you questions is this thru e-mail or text message? In the past few years I've noticed more escorts moving away from e-mail and preferring text messages. That frustrates me because if I have questions it usually requires multiple texts instead of a short, concise e-mail with bullet point questions. And, I didn't get a personal smart phone with text capabilities until 3 years ago.

 

Does the manner of communication become a factor? IMHO, the easier the communication the quicker it is for me and the more likely I am to hire. And, I can't imagine a 15-20 minute phone call just to set up a meeting or make a decision.

[+ IronMaus]

The majority of clients I talk on the phone with schedule and keep their appointments. As long as they understand that the nature of the message (friendly versus scheduling inquiry) and the method of delivery (email versus text) determines how quickly and thoughtfully I respond, I love chatting with clients.

 

It's amazing how often a client has forgotten they've spent a good amount of time chatting with me before. I save all of my messages, all phone numbers, and all emails. I even make notes on the communication between me and my clients in case messages are lost. So when someone hits me up and I've already answered their questions, sent them a photo, and even had to remind them of who I am only an hour after first contacting me, I have a good idea of whether or not it's going to be a waste of time.

[Rudynate]

Time wasters are a common problem for any service professional. I talk to at least one person every day who is looking for free legal advice. At 15 minutes, I tell them I will need a consulting fee to keep talking.

[David1024]

I encourage an inquiring client to ask whatever questions they need to feel comfortable before scheduling, but I've certainly noticed that those who go back and forth, wanting to know exactly what to expect, often wanting to talk on the phone for 15-20 minutes, etc, 90% of the time they never schedule or will schedule and within 24 hours say they need to cancel (suddenly they have to make a work trip). Has anyone else noticed this direct correlation? How do you balance giving someone the time they need to make a decision and how not to waste time on someone that is just wasting yours?

 

When I contact an escort for the first time, I always make sure I've read their profile first, seen their pictures and read reviews if there are any, so asking questions that I've already seen online are a time waster and just make me look stupid. It's always a gamble when meeting someone for the first time, but that's part of the excitement, and except for a couple of mediocre sessions, I've always been very happy with the guys I've hired. I generally start out by saying where I've seen his profile and asking about his availability, then I'll offer a few details about myself and the rest I find out when we meet.

[Wolfer]

As a client, I find myself frustrated about this issue also because I feel caught between a rock and a hard place here. I don't want to waste anyone's time (including my own) but experience has taught me that what an escort says in their text ad or their preferences doesn't necessarily accurately reflect the reality of what they are really into. So I have to check with the escort everything I would like to happen to make the encounter a success. Now, my list isn't very long, but it is a bit of a list nonetheless. I try to be as straight to the point as I can but I do find it slightly frustrating that they demand "not long chat!" in their profile, knowing that I have to double check everything anyway. I also learned to ask them to confirm in their own words that they have read my preferences and are okay with them (a guy once agreed to seeing me after I had told him that no kissing was a dealbreaker. Big surprise, I arrive and he doesn't kiss!)

 

As a client, though, I want to make sure I'm signing up for what I want, especially if I have something particular in mind.

Exactly. And I find escort profiles to be of little use in trying to figure out what they are into. Okay, I won't be contacting a "top only" to ask him to bottom for me, but some guys list "kissing" in their ad but when you ask them they say they don't. I also don't want to hire blind and just hope for the best. I don't have that kind of disposable income to just eat the cost of a bad session. I've learned that if a guy gets (even slightly) annoyed at me wanting to confirm he's a match with my preferences it's a no-go for me.

 

When I contact an escort for the first time, I always make sure I've read their profile first, seen their pictures and read reviews if there are any, so asking questions that I've already seen online

But my experiences has been that not everything they put on their profile they are necessarily into. For instance just recently a guy had put in his profile for safer sex: "needs discussion". While discussing he says he only does safe sex. So he's inviting unneeded questions about this. He could just put "only safe" in his profile (granted, some clients will still try).

I see a lot of this type of discrepancies, even between profiles of the same guys on Rentmen and Planetromeo. On Rentmen they identify as a vers/top, on Planetromeo they identify as a pure bottom. So... What is it? Again, as a client I will need to spend more time asking for clarification.

 

Now, having said all that, my experiences have been largely very good on communicating with the escorts on initial contact. Only one guy outright ignored my first text.

 

Are you guys still using traditional texting instead of online texting services like Whatsapp? Because Whatsapp doesn't have the character limit that traditional texting has. I can see how that could be a problem. My first Whatsapp text would only fit in about four or five traditional texts. Which can give a wrong first impression, I guess.

 

What also irks me is that after we've established a date and confirmed it I send some extra info about me and my likes a little before our meeting but every time it has been obvious they have not read a single word of that text. And it isn't even that long, it just says: "I'm a little submissive so I like it when you take the lead somewhat and really actively touch, fondle and kiss me all over my body, especially my back and neck. It drives me wild!"

You know which area's of my body they don't touch and kiss? Yeah...

[TruthBTold]

As relates to the above, I am sure that escorts realize (hopefully) that there will be more questions (and I think really needless) the more "Ask me-s" are strewn through the profiles. Just tell everybody like it is and as a client I won't have to ask you. If you have a particular stipulation then put it in your written profile (if that is allowed). For example, if you will BB but only if the client is on PrEP and negative, you could just click "Safe Only" knowing that it is fairly safe to do BB when the other party is on PrEP and is negative. I am not saying you won't have no questions but I think you will have less. Or don't make me "Ask" what position you will take up when we are together. If you will get fucked but would rather be on top most of the time, just choose vers/top and surprise me when you offer up your hole pretty quickly. The same if you are mostly a bottom. Click "Vers/bottom" but rim me and then ask me nicely if I want to get fucked. Chances are I am going to say yes and going to be glad I did. So at any rate, my point is use less "Ask me-s".

[+ nycman]

I ask one question.....”are you available tonight for an out call in NYC at 8pm”

 

Everything else is meaningless to me.

 

If your profile is vague....I skip you.

If you’re a top....I skip you.

If you only have 1-2 pics....I skip you.

If I can’t vet you on here....I skip you.

 

Everything else is chemistry and I’m not gonna figure that

part out until I see, smell, and talk to you in person, so

more questions are a just waste of my time.

[Trick]

One question I usually ask goes like this: “Your ad states that you’re into Anal, Kissing, and Cum. Is that information accurate?” Then I follow up with “I’m a bottom who likes kissing and taking cum in my mouth, are you ok with that?”

 

If something I’m looking for is not on the ad, I would ask, “You have not listed Kissing in your “into” section, what can you say about that?”

 

I’ve mostly gotten satisfactory answers from such line of inquiring.

[jawjateck]

After describing myself and proposing a meeting scenario, I ask 3 questions. Enthusiastic replies always increase the likelihood of a meeting, but the probability of a session is zero if those 3 questions are not answered clearly.

[+ Keith30309]

Question 1: hello... are you available date x/time y or date x2/time y2 for a 2/3-hour in/out call. Also please read my profile and let me know if you think we are a good match (my RM profile has everything a companion needs to know)

Question 2: great, I’m glad your available. Approximately where are you hosting (if an incall) and what is your 2/3-hour rate? I will confirm with you the day before our meeting. Have a great evening/weekend/trip.

 

Additional questions follow if question 1 & 2 aren’t answered - which is surprisingly often (“yes, I understand you are in <city> but in what area”, “No, I meant PM, not AM” and the most common is “please look at my profile and let me know if you think we are a match”.)

 

 

One comment... I’ve not hired a handful of guys, more recently than in the past, because I’ve gotten really terse, minimalist responses, especially to this last question. Not long ago I had a pretty negative experience where I cancelled an appointment made weeks in advance because he was simply unresponsive. The most words I ever received from him were in his angry rant after that. My view is that I’m not making a dental appointment - I’m making an appointment to spend quality time with someone that’s really personal (not to mention several hundred dollars) and if we’ve never met then it’s reasonable to expect someone to take the time to send a full sentence and read a profile.

Edited September 15, 2018 by Keith30309

[N13]

The only questions I ask are to double check. Do you kiss? Or for a masseur, Do you work in the nude? and Is touching allowed? Otherwise I see no need for question after question. If they are not reviewed here I usually pass. If their profile and pics turn me on and there is no negative thread on them here I will go for it if they answer my question(s) in the affirmative. Yes, I have had some clunkers, but more often, good experiences.