Oral sex

[+ Reisr30]

I’m not the best at blowjobs but I have been doing my best to improve. I just don’t get the sense people enjoy how I give them and I have never been able to make anyone cum. Any suggestions on how to be better at it?

 

To be honest I’m a bit embarrassed to ask but since bottoming is not possible for me anymore I’d like to find other ways to please my guy.

[Kinky Boyfriend]

I’m not the best at blowjobs but I have been doing my best to improve. I just don’t get the sense people enjoy how I give them and I have never been able to make anyone cum. Any suggestions on how to be better at it?

 

To be honest I’m a bit embarrassed to ask but since bottoming is not possible for me anymore I’d like to find other ways to please my guy.

 

Due to the very individualized nature of this question, it sounds like something to ask your favorite/regular hire during a session or even book someone who does Skype sessions to talk about techniques

[cany10011]

Giving a good bj starts with mentally getting in the mood for it, think of that big juicy cock as a delicious 5 course meal. Start off by licking the shaft and balls for a bit, then work on the cock and get it nice and wet, slurp that cock, the more wet it is the better, work down to the base of the cock, lots of guys like deepthroat, but if u can't go all the way down, go down as far as u can before gagging. As your sucking also use your hands and do this twisting motion at the same time, do that somewhat fast and it helps a guy to cum

 

Also, periodically look up at your partner so he can gaze into your cocksucking eyes. Also, use your free hand to play with his balls or tweak his nipples...

 

Also, a twisting motion with your mouth from tip to shaft really gets my guys going...

[+ bashful]

get it nice and wet, slurp that cock, the more wet it is the better

 

Unfortunately, sometimes meds give me dry mouth. I compensate by drinking something beforehand, but tough to produce the slurp.

[LivingnLA]

I’m not the best at blowjobs but I have been doing my best to improve. I just don’t get the sense people enjoy how I give them and I have never been able to make anyone cum. Any suggestions on how to be better at it?

 

To be honest I’m a bit embarrassed to ask but since bottoming is not possible for me anymore I’d like to find other ways to please my guy.

 

I haven't sucked hundreds of guys, but over the years I've explored this interest, I've noticed that each guy is pretty unique.

 

Some guys love hard suction. Some like soft licks. A few guys really like a "soft" suction. Some like making you gag. Some enjoy facefucking. Some want to see your eyes or watch as their dick penetrates your mouth. Some don't want to look at your at all. Some like wet sloppy head and others want it fast and rough.

 

If you want to become a better cocksucker, learn to be a better observer. Learn to tell when a guy is excited and when he isn't. If you want, ask your top for tips, coaching, or advice, but understand that once you become a master cocksucker for that top, you will have to repeat the process for the next top. All that changes, is you'll get better and better and faster at observing what works for the guy you're sucking at the time.

 

I agree with [uSER=12155]@Dominiking[/uSER], enthusiasm is a big factor because many people suck cock like it's an obligation. To me, it's a privilege or honor. A guy is allowing you to touch the most sensitive part of his body and place it in your mouth, which is dangerous, teeth are sharp after all.

Edited September 3, 2018 by LivingnLA

[big-n-tall]

First... don't be down on yourself if you can't make someone cum from oral. Some people aren't wired that way. Only 3 men I've ever encountered have made me orgasm orally. Although I like the feeling, most times it's not enough.

 

As mentioned above everyone is different. Talk to your fav provider or providers. Ask them directly about your skills and what they think you are doing right or wrong. When you are performing oral pay attention to the guy and his body (i.e. does he quiver a little or makes sounds when you do a certain thing). You could practice and work out the issue together... it would be a sexy teaching experience for sure. You could even role play a teacher-student scenario.

[+ freecahill1965]

Giving a good bj starts with mentally getting in the mood for it, think of that big juicy cock as a delicious 5 course meal. Start off by licking the shaft and balls for a bit, then work on the cock and get it nice and wet, slurp that cock, the more wet it is the better, work down to the base of the cock, lots of guys like deepthroat, but if u can't go all the way down, go down as far as u can before gagging. As your sucking also use your hands and do this twisting motion at the same time, do that somewhat fast and it helps a guy to cum

 

Wow, sounds yummy.

[+ StLouisOct]

Before meeting with your favorite or any escort, tell him that it really turns you on to make him cum. If that’s of no interest to him or he can’t guarantee such a result, a good guy will tell you. Then, when you’re kissing and engaged in foreplay, look him in the eye and ask him what really turns him on - what can you do to help make a memorable cumming experience for him? You may be surprised to hear that he may like his nipple licked, or his balls sucked, or your finger up his ass. That’s the approach I’ve taken and I think for the most part escorts have appreciated my interest in them, rather than entirely about myself. This is best for more than a one hour session.

[liubit]

You got excellent advice, @Reisr30, there is indeed a wealth of experience on cocksucking here. I will simply stress that making the cock wet and keeping it wet is essential. One trick that one of the boys taught me to achieve this is to try not to swallow your own saliva while you are sucking: it keeps your mouth wet and the cock slides effortlessly in and out. Use your tongue to tease the shaft and head to increases the pleasure. Yummy.

 

Enjoy!

[Bargara Leatherboy]

Practice on a Popsicle or ice cream cone

[+ freecahill1965]

Practice on a Popsicle or ice cream cone

Hey Dr. RUTH Westheimer use to say that in her radio talk show.

[Bargara Leatherboy]

Never heard of her but it's a good way to practice.

[Guest]

Never heard of her but it's a good way to practice.

Consider yourself informed

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_xOMwINl-5c

[+ Reisr30]

Thanks for all the responses. Gives me a lot to try

 

One other question, I’ve notice that while giving a bj some guys lube themselves up and then after a while push me down on them. Any dangers of giving head on a lubed cock (water based or silicone) other than the taste?

[TruthBTold]

Thanks to everyone, there is a lot of good advice here. I always figure I have more to learn in this area. I have also tried to watch what guys do in the more authentic porn vids because they provide some tips. The highest compliment I think I ever got after giving a blow job was when at the end the guy told me that "it was like I was making love to [his] cock."

[Rudynate]

Giving a good bj starts with mentally getting in the mood for it, think of that big juicy cock as a delicious 5 course meal. Start off by licking the shaft and balls for a bit, then work on the cock and get it nice and wet, slurp that cock, the more wet it is the better, work down to the base of the cock, lots of guys like deepthroat, but if u can't go all the way down, go down as far as u can before gagging. As your sucking also use your hands and do this twisting motion at the same time, do that somewhat fast and it helps a guy to cum

 

 

There's no substitute for really enjoying having a hard dick in your mouth. As a young man, I didn't really like sucking dick. I did it, but not with great enthusiasm. I don't really remember when I learned to enjoy it, but now I think it's sublime. Since I'm really into it, I'm much better at it.

[liubit]

There's no substitute for really enjoying having a hard dick in your mouth. As a young man, I didn't really like sucking dick. I did it, but not with great enthusiasm. I don't really remember when I learned to enjoy it, but now I think it's sublime. Since I'm really into it, I'm much better at it.

Yes, practice makes perfect, @Rudynate

[+ ButchAtl]

Delta Air Lines used to have a slogan, "We love to fly, and it shows."

 

Just paraphrase that a bit and you get the idea.

[+ JEC]

Try wrapping your thumb and index finger around the cock and slide up and down along with your lips. This magic trick is sure to seal the deal. Once you are comfortable with that try sliding your tongue up and down between the shaft and your fingers while going up and down. Guaranteed succsss :D:rolleyes:

Edited September 2, 2018 by JEC

[Bearofdistinction]

Practice on a Popsicle or ice cream cone

 

Practice on door-to-door visiting Jehovah's Witnesses or Mormon Missionaries

[Zapped]

I am competent but not brilliant at giving blow jobs. The best ones I’ve received have been from guys who absolutely LOVE sucking cock, and are really tuned into the response of the guy they are sucking. I had a boyfriend years ago who seemed to be psychic; he could sense my response to the slightest, most subtle change in what he was going with his hands, lips, or tongue. I’m just a bit too narcissistic for that.

[LivingnLA]

Thanks for all the responses. Gives me a lot to try

 

One other question, I’ve notice that while giving a bj some guys lube themselves up and then after a while push me down on them. Any dangers of giving head on a lubed cock (water based or silicone) other than the taste?

 

Lubes are generally safe for oral sex. Please check the bottle if he's using some exotic special lube to make sure it's safe. If you're worried, use something like coconut or olive oil. They're completely safe unless you or the top are allergic to them.

 

If you have a favorite flavor, there are many different flavored lubes that might help you learn to enjoy cock sucking. Here's a useful site for some ideas: http://www.holisticwisdom.com/flavored-lubricants.htm

 

I enjoy sucking cock with or without lube, though I like my top to be freshly showered or clean sweaty. I'm not a fan of intense funk. If a guy says he likes it wet and sloppy, I make sure not to swallow my spit or the precum he produces as a I work. Instead, I let it fill my mouth, slide down his shaft, and generally make a mess.

[FTM Zachary Prince]

Practice makes perfect! Blow a lot of different guys and pay attention to their reactions. You’ll learn... Also, don’t be afraid to ask what someone likes if they’re difficult... most guys can tell ya!

[LivingnLA]

I'm in agreement with @FTM Zachary Prince, but I do encourage safer sex. If you're going to "blow a lot of different guys" to learn, please use condoms. Yes, I know they don't taste great--this is where flavored lube can be useful--but a little condom taste is much better than catching any of the many easily transmittable STDs/STIs that are out there, especially as treatment-resistant strains keep spreading.

[+ FrankR]

Practice on door-to-door visiting Jehovah's Witnesses or Mormon Missionaries

You are incorrigible! When I grow up, I want to be just like you!!