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I'm one of those gays where my environment and surroundings are very important to me, which is why I tend have guys come to me. But if I have a connection / relationship with someone already pre established - then it supersedes my environmental concerns. Its all about context . I recently went from staying at a very very nice hotel in Chelsea in London that cost a lot of money, then on the same trip went to staying at a Premier inn on the side a road ( cost around £30 a night - the UK equivalent of a Super8 motel ) on the same trip. The room had no air conditioning ( as an American it baffles me that Europeans don't understand air conditioning) , the hot water shower thing didn't work so well, breakfast was awful but the room was clean ( there was daily housekeeping on request) , it did the job. What made the difference was the people I was with mattered to me, so, the fact that was in a not so great hotel didn't matter. Didn't care - the awfulness of the breakfast in itself became an inside joke / topic of conversation That said, if the providers work space bothers you and causes you anxiety, have him come to you. Once you are comfortable - than I guess go to him, is what I would do.

I've been to Dubai and Abu Dhabi probably 20 + times in the last 10 years. 🙄 to this entire thread, and the OP that created it. Do @Big Don Weho - take on extra work, sock money away, get your passport. Come back and update us on your thoughts. Emirates flies non stop from LAX. I've taken that flight before - its long, 17 hours but at least you don't have to change planes. No shortage of talent, as long as you have the cash. If you don't want to hire, the world's fair is going on right now, good time to visit. My first trip to Dubai, I think 2011. 17 hours !!! United used to fly there ( they don't anymore) to Dulles Airport. Dubai is a major hub for the world. No shortage of ways to get to Dubai from just about anywhere on earth. I have racier photos which I WONT BE POSTING. I suggest November to April, DO NOT go in the summer. Its over > 100F every day, and like inside an oven. Unless the heat makes you horny……in which case there may be no better place. The sheiks live VERY VERY WELL - I'm jealous too.

Its sort of like New York. You can get just about anything - it just takes money.

Masks not widely worn - even indoors. Not required. Fair warning. Masks worn on the tube / Tfl trains though from my observation, though not on the inner city trains. I took Avanti West Coast. Most people in the UK seem to have conveniently forgotten how to use them ( and this was from my visit back in September) Coming from the US I found this strange. I had just been in Brazil a month prior in early August and I walked out on the street without a mask ( forgot) and EVERYONE gave me an evil eye, had to go back to my hotel to get one. Different place different rules different norms. Its a personal risk assessment you need to make, depending on the circumstances, your risk , age and health status. 3X myself also.

I usually like meeting a guy downstairs first to access the following 1) Do the pictures match 2) Is he on drugs 3) Should I cancel this appointment. I tend to be a bit loose about number 2 - the last bad appointment I had the guy was clearly on something, later I found out a coke which he was using to nurse a GHB comedown, and I came to regret the actual appointment. Its harder to turn someone away once they are in the room. I like hotels with security.

I've been to Russia more times than I can count. . When I first went 10 years ago, the signs in Moscow were all in cyrillic - I actually learned Russian so I could move about, read street signs, order food etc. The visa is a pain, but one of the benefits of living in New York is that you have the embassy of every country in the world at your doorstep ( thanks to the United Nations) . I would say the same thing exists in Washington DC also. If you love Slavic men, there is no better place. I also love Rachmaninov and Tchaikovsky…. Love is love. Lately my tastes have have diverged into Brazilian + Latino + Western Europeans of all sorts ( English / French / Italian). Love is love and there is beauty in all of that. If you get a Russian visa its possible for Americans to get the 3 year multiple entry one - at the same cost at the single entry one . Its not cheap, i think it runs around 300-500 US. That will deter some people I'm sure. Its very much worth visiting. Please respect local laws, even though you may not agree with them ( and you'll be fine).

I would apply this to much of the state of Florida in general ( excluding Fort Lauderdale)

That’s a historical account !

Have you been to Dubai? I have been countless times - you should visit before you judge. PM if you need travel advice.

New York city is no joke. We can be mean son of bitches, with no apologies. I offered to actually coach a UK based provider on what to do ( i.e how much to charge, how it works here - its a little different compared to the UK and EU). I have no interest in hiring him anymore - just wanted to do something nice for someone I thought needed some help. But as the saying goes, "if you can make it here, you can make it anywhere"

I think this comes from a culture of beauty being disposable in LA especially . But San Diego ? I wonder it this is a Southern California thing because I have not yet seen San Francisco mentioned . I am very much a so cal person - even though I live on the east coast

This is common especially in places like Russia where gays aren't exactly thrown a red carpet. A safety lookout is part of the hiring process….

As a long time New Yorker , I will agree that we do have a wider variety of tastes . I remember when the Abercrombie boys = beauty , (in much of america actually ) funny how that changed. Even in that era when beauty was so singularly defined so widely , in New York what passed as hot was way more varied . There was just so much to choose from , and speaking for myself I found beauty in all shapes and colors , and was open to experimenting .

Absolutely. I can usually tell if someone is on something ( often coke ) but I'm too much of a gentleman to send them back. In my mind, you can send back a steak, ( if its undercooked etc) but not a human being. I don't think that's proper, especially if the dude is already there. I have later come to regret it though. I wish there was a nice way to do this. I would say respectfully decline, but offer the guy 50% of the agreed donation amount

The flexibility goes both ways - I have done this to an escort too, largely because I was at dinner and the dinner went over. He's human too.

Would be interesting if someone could recommend a testing place at the airport for Day 2 that they have tried. . I hate US flag carriers with a passion ( so Delta, United , American ugh….) and living in New York we have choices of the worlds best to anywhere - so very often its BA ( Terminal 5) for me. I was just there in September and had to do a very expensive PCR test at this place in Notting Hill that charged me £90 for it. Cutting into my hiring budget ! The at home tests are fine - I use it to come back to the US, but I suspect most people here are not the most tech savvy - I work in tech.

there are very few with dry saunas - I’m guessing Equinox Columbus Circle or perhaps Hudson Yards

I am fine with these suggestions as long as RM has some form of data protection/ anonymity for its audience who may be located in places where auditioning pornstars maybe problematic. It would not surprise me that this place may also be a large market.

Best thing I have heard in this forum since i joined a few months ago

Different rules. Masks not required in England if you are vaccinated . I believe the rules are different in Scotland and Wales.

I was balking at 400. 600 dollars! I know its New York but you people have way too much money.

@josh282282 I agree with you completely . I too run a business and there are certain standards for operating. However I assume you are US based, a lot of this is cultural . I tend to hire overseas, and when I do I all the US cultural norms go out the door - this includes tipping , unless it’s really good . ( and I mean really good ) . I adapt to the local hiring practices . That said i’ll be dammed if a London boy added on a 5% discretionary service charge which has now become the norm in London . I don’t mind paying if it’s good . What i have noticed over the years is that things that start out in London eventually makes it way to New York and vice versa . In the US we have a culture of self reliance, taking personal responsibility and being independent are all treasured traits . Overseas , there is sort of an expectation that if you are the employer - you are expected to provide . I remember years ago working in the Netherlands , and during lunch hour - they provided us lunch. I thought it was just for us as the visitors, it turns out it was for the whole company! later I found out it’s part of the employment law there . Every day. Can you imagine such a thing in the US? The only companies i know do this are google, facebook etc . I do this once a month pre covid because thats what I was comfortable with , a treat to my employees. But doing this every day is a bit rich . So this extra spoon feeding is expected in Europe and drumroll please - Brazil 🇧🇷 , adjust accordingly. They got used to it , they expect it . Now American / US based guys pulling asking for the same stuff in LA, NY, SF = well no . In fact I offered to coach a UK based provider who expressed interest in coming to New York , the first thing i told him was don’t ask for cab money because the folks stateside don’t like it . At the end of the day , I believe in paying fairly . Should i ask for cab money for an in call appointment? I would love to see the look a guys face when I suggest that . There are circumstances where cab to from is warranted- this has been discussed previously - that I think is ok I have also offered to pay for parking when I am at a nice place and it costs $20 just to enter , but not gas , even in southern california where gas is not what it used to be . That’s the cost of doing business I can see both sides of the coin here . My motto is adopt local practices. I have disappointed many people worldwide - because as soon as they hear me speak they all expect a 20% tip . I only do that stateside

For our european friends , is there a UK equivalent of this ? I know there is a german one

When they let you out of oz, and if you can make it to London , you’re in for a rude shock.

Mister Number. there are a few services that do this for less . US / North american numbers only . Does not work in Europe