Alex93108

I am down to two meals a day, a small light breakfast, and lean dinner. Happy to do the excursive too. Just need a point in the right direction.

I am having a sort of mid life crisis if you will ( mid 40s) and I would like to drop down to 15-18% body fat. I am currently at 28%. I am have big frame, broad shouldered. I don't mind doing the work, changing my habits. If you be nice if members could provide me with some direction. I could hire a trainer for this but prefer to do my research and get this done right. I live in NYC, though I travel at lot ( the UK and California primarily). Lead a very active lifestyle, I walk, climb mountains, and have access to places like the Equinox for workouts, and I also have a job that's is flexible. I know a lot of OF models have been using apps like Fitbod to design their workouts, which I am doing. Any guidance would be appreciated. thanks.

I think we should not delude ourselves in thinking that this could turn out to be just like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman . That only happens in the movies . My line in the sand is : At best it’s lovely but for me personally I would not want it to turn into a seeking arrangement situation, which some people might be open to , I’m in my mid 40s i might think differently about this when I am older. I think everyone ( if presented with this situation) should figure out before hand what their boundaries are and not be deluded that it could turn into Pretty Woman . I am super comfortable with this now

With inflation at 10% and gas/petrol at 1.89/1.99 a liter, Try £250. The rates tend to vary I have noticed only if 1) You have +44 number 2) You are attractive. Not all punters/johns are ugly btw. Provider might ask for a pic or find out what you look like from WhatsApp profile etc. If you are handsome / younger, expect a lower rate. £200 is the low end now. The lower end rates tend to be outside London ( Bham and Manc is £150), on Sleepyboy or hunqs. Some of those guys are not attractive, well to me at least. I haven't hired in London in a while, but this is from my collective for the last 2 years. I am there quite often.

Bank branches are useless. The best place, if you can make it there is the Bank of England in the city of London. Tube stop : Bank There's a lovely museum there too. They will take anything - they have to, except Scottish Pound notes. You need to go back to Edinburgh for that if you have any. I go back and forth almost every other month, so I got rid of mine last year actually. But to be honest, I hardly ever use cash, except to pay providers.

Best explanation I have heard so far. Spot on

Good point with "shopping". I'll be leaving my credit cards in the hotel then, and carrying limited cash on me. Apple pay can be turned off

I do strongly suspect there may a sugar daddy element to this. . And I suspect he has other clients he does this with also, sort of a "courtesy promotional time" to build a bond, loyalty and repeat business with clients he likes. It works. Or maybe he just enjoys my company? I don't know. He's not overly flirty and fake, interactions with him are, for the most part I can tell, genuine. I try not to appear to be grand or wealthy ( but I do like nice stuff) and I go out of my way not to put on airs. Though I am US based, a large part of my family lives in the UK and we have adopted English habits of not standing out, being humble etc, which doesn't always work in places like Miami or LA, but that's how I was raised. When I was with him, I stayed at a 4 star place, but you can easily tell how much a person is worth by their clothes and processions. In my case, the things I had in my room would probably tell him I was someone who was at least, while not necessarily wealthy, certainly comfortable.

There should be a comp make up session based on terms and conditions suited to you, including flying to your town, if appropriate, plus an upgrade or gift of some sort. A handwritten note to you apologizing, bordering on a love letter. If the Four Seasons ran an escort business, that's how it would be done

@Jamie21- is this UK based and by phone number? I wish I could check my rating

I thought I would post this to the forum, just to make sure I am handling this correctly. There's a provider ( who does not live in my home city) but rather a city I plan to be travelling to soon who I have met before for a long session. We got on well together immensely, and since he enjoys my company, he offered to spend time with me ( off the clock) , beyond our session. He just wants to hang out, talk to me, and be in my presence, and spend a leisurely day in his town doing activities we both enjoy. It's incredibly flattering that this beautiful boy, 15 years younger than me, wants to do this. 1) My first reaction was to confirm that this offer was indeed "off the clock". It was. I even went on to define when the clock starts and when its off 2) I assume there would be a general expectation that I would pay for meals etc, and purchases made while we were together off the clock which I am fine with. I don't anticipate anything bad to happen. 3) I have suspicion a larger tip than normal is expected of from me, which I don't mind. For a guy that hardly tips, the last time I met him, he actually told me "Jetlow - you gave me too much money". I never thought I would hear a provider tell me that. I actually enjoyed my time with him as well, we had such great chemistry, but I am all to conscious that this is a provider / client relationship. I just want to make sure I am being fair to him. If anyone has pointers of how to best handle off the clock situations, I would appreciate it. I think I am being fair and proper to him, which is what I would like to do.

I was at a restaurant yesterday and the tactic used here in serbia ( as soon as they hear my accent is ) service is not included . whatever . It’s been used twice with me . I tipped in one occasion but not the other. on the low end Im inclined to ignore that speech again. Neededless to say , providers did not get tipped but I did my rounding up , which is what I do outside the US

speaking as an american who travels a lot , i’m often embarrassed at my fellow country men , not only in terms of dress in places like Paris and Milan , but also demeanor and ignorance . The blame most certainly goes both ways

As as rule, I adhere to the following. 1) I only ever tip in the United States, because not to tip is considered rude, and a wages of service providers is built into the American tipping culture. For "providers" - I round up. So if the festivities are 250, I might give 300, only if it was "good and exemplary". If it was just ok, the dude is getting 250. 2) In the UK, almost all restaurants now will include a discretionary service charge. It used to be 5%. I've seen it as high as 12.5%. If it was high and I thought total bollocks ( to steal their phrase) I have asked them to remove it. I do not tip in the UK. I may round up, but to smaller amount. This applies to hires. What I did learn from friends from smart circles in England is one should always tip with paper notes as opposed to coins. Either give paper notes or give nothing at all. So the bellman that fetched my suitcase would get a £5 at least, but never a £2 in coins ever. 3) In mainland Europe, as soon as they hear me speak, or worse, the machine picks up that I have an American / US dollar credit card, I'm expected to tip. I do no tip in France either, or Italy for that matter, and never in Germany. In Paris, I might leave a euro or two for good service at the cafe. I follow the UK rule, never tip only if its good. In france, a euro or two euro coin is acceptable at the cafe. 4) Latin America has been ruined by the American tipping culture. I generally try avoid tipping in Brazil, but in Mexico as soon as they see me they almost expect it. I don't tip in Latin America. I only ever tipped once in Latin America, a provider I thought was phenomenal, the rest got their quoted rates, rounded up slightly. 5). Tipping in Japan is rude, and some professionals ( including creatures of the night) might consider it insulting. You can give your entertainer/companion/host/urisen a drink or gift. I never ever tip in Japan. If you liked the service, consider upgrading - i.e turning a 1 hour into a 3 hour or buying an expensive drink, rather than a tip. 6) I don't tip in Asia either or Africa. Though in Kenya - again because of Americans they expect it as soon as they see me. Don't tip here either. I don't care how big it was. 7) I also don't tip in the middle east. Just because I'm from the US, doesn't make me a tipping machine, people should not expect it. If you read this far, I only tip in the United states, not anywhere else. I consider myself well travelled, and culturally aware, rather than cheap

From the OF era Paul Wagner . [ Such a beautiful man - I would be so nervous) Rhyheim Shabazz. [ I have had BWC, I think it would only be fair for me to have BBC. And if you are going to have BBC, why not have the Best BC that is also a Big BC ] Disco Dick ( he was working for a while but stopped). Naughty and yum at the same time. I wish I caught him in his early days

I don't know what it is. Looks too rocky to be coke ( which I have seen before) and from movies. This was rocky. Who knows. Back to regular scheduled programming.

By contrast I had another overnight ( probably my worst) , in Brazil that went something like this. We agreed to meet around 10pm. He texts me the day of to tells me that he is going to a birthday party and that he can arrive only at 1am. * THIS IS A HUGE RED FLAG* -. If anyone changes the time on me, I will cancel ( and you should too) because either you're the second act, and he's spent, or something else is going on. In this case it was the latter. He arrives a 1:30am. Now I was staying the nicest hotel in a major Brazilian city, ( when I mean nice, its the best hotel in the city I was staying at). Most 5 star hotels in Brazilcan be had for around $100-250 US, this was multiple more than that. It was a treat to myself and my travel agent managed to get 1 night free out of multi night stay. So the effective rate for was less. So the dude shows up at this classy joint, all jumpy. After some chit chat, he tells me he worked in London for 6-8 months, then asked to do "chems" [ gee, i wonder where he got that habit from] . I said, I don't mind if you do - as long as it doesn't interfere with my enjoyment. For a Brazilian, his English was ok, I guessed he picked it up from London, along with other bad habits. Since I am in the UK frequently, we chat about that for a while. For those of you familiar with nice hotels - there is no bloody microwave in the room. What was I supposed to do? Call the concierge and ask for one? "Hi - this is Mr. Jetlow. My hooker needs to cook his meth, can you send a microwave or heating plate to my room please? " . I don't think so. So he then snorts the thing. and festivities begin - except its evident that he can't get hard, hes not into the appointment or into me at all. What a turn off. He tires for an hour - asks for a drink ( which I provided) , then asked to leave. But not before asking for his fee, prorated of course. A real hustler. I just wanted him gone It was supposed to be an overnight - it turned out to be an hour plus. Win some lose some. I was surprised, normally Brazilians are rather professional practitioners. What I learned from this is : The next time I'm in Brazil , I am going to ask the guys if they have EVER worked in London, because if they have and they are now back in Brazil, chances are they are RUINED. My best Brazil hires in Brazil are the ones who have never seen Vauxhall or Soho. Because once they have its DONE, because they have probably done that scene for 6-8 months, on chems, and totally SPENT. The best ones are the ones who aspire to go to London and are 1 or 2 years into the art, and have yet to hit the British isles or places like Paris. I have more than once instance to prove this theory to be true.

He's based in Panama City, Panama. PM for details.

My last overnight went like this: Meet at 10pm. Sex Round 1 Sex Round 2 Talk + Sleep 12am-1am at this point. Wake up 7am-8am Sex Round 3 Sex Round 4 Sex Round 5 930am. Breakfast - which he asked for, I provided 1030 - Chit chat back in the room. He leaves, with thanks. Yes - he slept naked with me. Yes we cuddled. And yes, I'd probably hire him again - dependent on my urge, opportunity and what my budget is like

I can indeed confirm in London they do. They see my +1 number on WhatsApp and suddenly the lads are asking £250-300. When I got a local +44 0777 🙂 number ( not for this, but for other more personal reasons) I noticed it started at £200. Anyway - this was probably 2-3 months ago. I haven't hired in Europe in a while. And when they ask me where I'm staying I get generic - i.e near Kings Cross lol . Or republique in Paris etc by the Gare - until interest has been confirmed and the rate agreed. Always. Saying "meet me at Le Meurice" is probably going to cost you. Duh I believe in paying fairly, but no one wants to be taken for a ride - even if a ride is involved.

Since I travel a lot of I have something to say - its quite simple. It boils down to basic economics Americans ( in general ) , especially those in New York / Los Angeles / San Francisco earn more money than Europeans, and take home more. It's that simple, and thus are willing to pay more. We are also taxed less. Coupled with demand and supply, rates are lower in most of Europe, London and Paris included, compared to what is asked in New York / Los Angeles/ San Francisco / Miami. Its even lower in Spain, where supply is much more abundant, far greater than demand. Lowest rates in Europe I think in Spain. I always believe the most simple explanation is the best one. Basic economics. .

Touché

Picking up mail at the Amex office? Wow, I didn't realize that was a service. If you ask a millennial or younger ( and we do have members who are that age) who hire they would be like American Express has an office? I'm learning quite a bit, the fact that y'all are rather old not withstanding! I'll add another once that I remember and miss. -Diners Club Charge Card. The statement balance was due in 60 days, as opposed less than 30 for American Express. it was a handy float while I waited for reimbursement. Citigroup got rid of Diner Club Cards in the United States after 2008, and sold the business to Bank of Montreal. The card still exists, but the 60 day float is gone, and they are not accepting new applications.

Since I travel a lot - my memory of travel from years gone by -Since I go to London a lot, I remember when phone numbers in London was 01-XXX XXXX Today its 020- XXXX XXXX, or something else if its a cellphone/mobile -I also remember "British Rail" - and those orange train tickets. -I also remember when the Concorde was still around. I was a poor student back then. -I remember a time before TSA existed in the US. What I used to do in those days is check in at the lounge - or sometimes at the gate. You did not need a ticket to enter the terminal. You could send people off at the gate or receive them at the gate. -I remember when Frequent Flyer programs were worth something ( more) -I remember a time before flat bed seats - Those loungers were quite comfortable, and I slept well on them. Even had someone jerk me off under the blankets once - I remember when people used to smoke on airplanes,, at the back of the airplane. - I remember when people used to argue about who got the movie seat on the plane. - I remember when people dressed well to get on an airplane. - I remember when people used flip phone ( a Motorola Startac) and palm pilots ( later blackberries ) to exist - I remember when people sent a TELEX - I remember when United used to serve a semi decent steak dinner between New York and Chicago ( a 2 hour flight) at dinner time, complete with drinks! . . You got a choice of an Eli Cheesecake or Cookie for dessert - with coffee/tea. -Oh I remember…..

To each his own. As a New Yorker, I quite like Sao Paolo, the men and the city. I feel quite at home there - and very safe. Rio is another story. It has a its charms - but Sao Paolo is not all bad - its just a big city.