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I met him once and he wasn't great, he was definitely rude at that time. This was yeeears ago but he reached out to me about 6 months ago saying he was visiting town and when I gave him the feedback he apologized and said he now knows better and if I could give him a chance. I did and we had a lot of good fun.

I did ask him several times and told him that I understood if he was going through something or using a new medication or whatever. He never really shared anything else other than "It's just difficult for me to cum".

I mean the D was good so is not like I was suffering haha I was getting off. But BFE with no cum isn't BFE.

We did an overnight where he didn't cum, so I mentioned it to him and he said that was the goal but couldn't. OK that's fine it happens. Next time we saw each other we had another overnight where it didn't happen and that's when he apologized again. I didn't book an overnight again, I did 3hrs next time I was in town and he didn't either. That's when I stopped things.

He didn't say. I have two suspicions: one, him using Trimix or similar ED meds that make cumming hard and/or 2) Maybe he's on SSRIs or similar that prevent it. Regardless, if he knew he had issues with it, he should've told me upfront before any booking.

This happened to me last year. Met a fantastic provider, and told him my expectations. He was delivering those expectations... until he started slipping. We would meet for 2-3 hours usually and would have overnights once a month or every other month. After about 5 months he just... started doing the bare minimum. He didn't cum anymore (on 2-3 hour meets AND overnights). I told him that I expected it, he said that was the goal but sometimes he couldn't which I understood once, or twice but after 4-5 meets and him not delivering, I told him that I appreciated our time together but if he wasn't able to cum I understood but it wasn't going to work for me. I told him if anything were to change on his side to let me know but I wasn't going to book again. He understood but don't think he took it well. You stop booking, that's what you do. You tell them you expect X. If they don't deliver X then you don't book again.

If they're someone I see regularly (2x a month) and ESPECIALLY if we do something like overnights or 3+ hour meets... I would expect them to reach out to me randomly in between meets with sexy /erotic messages. A once or twice a week "can't wait to get in that ass again" "I'm so hard remembering you sucking my cock" things that make me go "fuckkkkk" and keep me wanting to add more time or more bookings.

Lets see https://rentmen.eu/Rainer https://rentmen.eu/TheLawsonGraves

Yup that's him

I'll arrive late to PS around 9pm or so but will happily meet folks along Arenas

I think when people, especially people here, refer to "drugs" as bad we're talking about the big offenders of badness: Meth, GHB, fent/morphine/opiods like cocaine. These are the ones that'll most likely cause sudden erratic behavior. Alcohol takes time, weed doesn't, aspirin??caffeine? nobody is referring to those.

Sensual usually means "the least amount of things I need to do to get this client off the table while having them paying the most".

I recently had a massage guy in LA who would charge escort rates and we did some side play at the end of the massage, all good no problem. Until one time there was no side play after and I still paid escort rate and left... a week later he texts me asking if I wanted to book and I told him that while enjoy the massage the previous time there was no side play and... he went off on me saying that he brings ENERGY and his SELF to the whole session and he shouldn't feel PRESSURED to do things he didn't want to do. I said "OK Understood" and didn't book again.

In the gay community mostly Meth and GHB. Cocaine too. I don't book anyone with PNP on their profile.

If I see someone with 'PNP' on their profile I won't book. When I've asked about this they either refer to Meth, or GHB. The whole "I have PNP in case my clients use, but I don't" is... sus.

Check their ads for any keywords. PNP, Party, random G or K capital letters, clouds, smoke, crystal emojis or party hat emojis. “Long sessions” can also mean drug usage

I mean you're literally being rude and offensive to all Jewish people. I think he might've dodged a bullet there.

TBH I would prefer if they're that direct that they wouldn't be able to perform. Whether that's an age, weight, disability thing I rather they tell me so we don't waste each other's time.

A second phone always for initial contact. Remember that providers can rate you using Mr Number.

and others will take advantage of that so they don't have to do the work.

Nope. In LA.

I remember telling him that I understood and if he wasn’t feeling it it wasn’t a problem I can pay for a therapeutic rate and he doubled down “I am also bringing my ENERGY to this and my ENERGY is what you’re paying. You are being reductionist by making it about sex and money” I had never met a worker in this business that wasn’t comfortable talking about business like him.

All the time:

Depends on what are you talking about "extras": If it's side play during a massage (e.g oral and/or jo) it should be part of the 'Erotic' massage rate. You should've asked if they provide an erotic massage. If you're wanting full on escort/sex, you ask them if they provide "full service". Nobody should be getting offended by being asked this, especially if it's someone you met on say rentmasseur. I can share that I had an awful interaction with a massage guy who had a great massage technique and we would have some side play to finish. He was charging escort rates but I didn't mind much because it was a good massage/side play and I'd see him every weekend for about 2 months UNTIL one day he didn't engage on the erotic side nor he say anything about why was it missing so I paid and left. A week later he asked me if I wanted to book and I said that I would, but for his rate I would always expect erotic play. He then went off on me saying that if he wasn't feeling it he wasn't feeling it and that I shouldn't be coercing him to do any thing, because it's his body and what not. I said it wasn't gonna work for me because at that rate I'm not going to be for 40 minutes on that table wondering if it's gonna happen or not that time, the whole point is for me to relax. I thanked him and he blocked me 🤷‍♂️ If you're a provider and you're not feeling it I totally get it, you should set your ad to 'not available' until you're feeling it, otherwise is just scamming people.

The majority of my people don't take it as a job or business where you have to be professional so they care little if they scam you or fuck you over because there'll be plenty of others. I do know one in NY (that advertises as Colombian) and one in LA (that says they're Latino but not Venezuelan) that do take it seriously and are good, but I would AVOID any Venezuelan twink/twunk like guy.