The_Impeccable_G

Men come and go... But what happened to the dog?? ?
 

In the last decade of my working life I got a dog and was living in the house I had bought twenty years earlier. For most of that time I had lived alone but on getting the dog I felt I needed a roommate to have someone around when I wasn’t there. So I offered a room to rent. This was shortly after I had given a room to a dancer I met at a strip club who said he knew my nephew and was looking for a temporary place to stay. This arrangement only lasted a couple of months as there was no sex after the first night and I started to feel like his uncle. One night he borrowed my best sweater without asking me, got something on it and washed in and then threw it in the dryer. This was a Shetland wool sweater from Harrod’s in London. Needless to say when I found it it would have fit a doll. I gave him bus money the next day to return to Toronto, his home town. The roommates I rented my spare room to turned out to be fine. One was an escort (he came in my room one night early on but I told him I didn’t want to alter our relationship) and the others were young guys with jobs (all gay). I on;y had sex with one of them (sort of a spontaneous thing) since he had a boyfriend. The last roommate was learning to be a masseur and would practice on me which was nice as he was the cutest of all. After I retired I sold the house and moved away so no more roommates.

I have had similar house-guests in the past @The_Impeccable_G I had great experiences with various young Brazilian models coming to Europe for the first time. Also, I’ve had young Australian, American, Italian, Slovak and Polish house-guests.
 
As @FrankR noted above, it pays to be clear (but not crass) about your expectations. And of course, it’s costly - young men eat lots of good food - and I’d have to buy 2 tickets for trips, concerts etc but I enjoyed their company.
 
I have no problem in being clear and open, but I always resist labels. I was surprised at first at just how readily - without my asking - fit young men (often with girlfriends back home) would join me in bed to express their gratitude for my hospitality in London and Spain.
 
The only times I had problems is when I hadn’t thought to institute a “house-rule” on certain behaviors. I spelled out “no drugs in my house” but I was relaxed about most things. I had to institute a rule of “no female guests overnight” after I encountered one at breakfast. She was the friend of the hot young Brazilian I had staying with me, and after she’d left, I said to him that her presence overnight made me uncomfortable and that he should go to her place for sex in future. He was a thoroughly nice guy and apologized immediately for not asking me first...and that evening as I was reading a book, he came into my room in just his briefs to make sure I was happy with him.

The one time I did this it did not work out well. Mainly my fault as I did not outline clear expectations and I failed to communicate on an ongoing basis. ? Set up clear ground rules. Adjust or add to those ground rules as needed - he must be willing to work with you as long as you are being reasonable.
 
As an example, we agreed to split the chores around the house but we were not specific about what they were and who should take care of them and when. The kitchen floors should be mopped every other day or when you make a mess.
 
Then there were things that came to light as time progressed. It irritated me to walk into the kitchen in the morning to find dirty dishes on the counter - they should be in the dish washer!
 
Be very clear on how long he can stay and if you decide he has to go, what are the terms? Will you give him a week to find a new place?
 
Also make sure you understand the personal cost. Not just the expense of having him live with you, food can be expensive if he is bulking and utilities for two can also be more expensive - but also you will have far less privacy, he may want to have friends over when you need peace and quiet.
 
I don’t regret having the fella stay with me at all - I do regret not managing his stay better. There is a saying in the military: amateurs talk about strategy - professionals talk about logistics. I should have spent more time on logistics. ?

I hosted a former dancer from the club for a few years, he was on the streets, seemed to have a lot of potential, and my goal was to give him a stable place while he found his bearings. I didn't ask for rent, I supplied food & paid our bar tab, and helped him out with various expenses. It was a good experience overall but we clashed on a handful of things: like others, guests in the house (first friends over to play video games, then girlfriends), and his general tendency to leave a job because it wasn't fulfilling without having something else lined up. Unlike some others, I got no reciprocation of joining me in bed or barely even hanging around in underwear.

You are a clever professional. Always give the answers your clients want to hear.

Once again... You do not compare apples to apples. I do not need to be sexually attracted to my doctor, so I do not care if he is black or asian (not that there are many in my city ? ). But I have to be sexually attracted to my sexual partners and I am not sexually attracted to blacks and asians, so my sexual partners cannot be blacks and asians, therefore my sexual partners have to be caucasians. Pure logic.
 
Furthermore my sexual partners have to have many other attributes so I can be attracted to them. They have to be young, smooth, charming, witty, cultured, refined, polished, well mannered and the list goes on and on. So what I am trying to reiterate here is that race is a pixel of the whole picture of sexual attractiveness.

The Role of Cognitive Dissonance in the Pandemic

Once again... You do not compare apples to apples. I do not need to be sexually attracted to my doctor, so I do not care if he is black or asian (not that there are many in my city ? ). But I have to be sexually attracted to my sexual partners and I am not sexually attracted to blacks and asians, so my sexual partners cannot be blacks and asians, therefore my sexual partners have to be caucasians. Pure logic.
 
Furthermore my sexual partners have to have many other attributes so I can be attracted to them. They have to be young, smooth, charming, witty, cultured, refined, polished, well mannered and the list goes on and on. So what I am trying to reiterate here is that race is a pixel of the whole picture of sexual attractiveness.

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Go to your local shelter & get a rescue dog. It will end up being the best thing you can do for yourself & you will be helping out a dog that has been abandoned for one reason or another.

just vomit ?

I am easily satisfied with the very best.

just vomit ?

I had chest hair and lasered it years ago. I am glad I did before it turned grey. I now have grey hair on my head that I love and hate. I am contemplating turning it to a darker shade of grey.

From what I remember it is normal that some of it regrows. They told me from the start that I should expect some regrowth and that I would have to do it a few times. I had to do it 4 or 5 times over the course of about two years. Now I am totally smooth. Maybe you need to try another place. By the way I did it at a plastic surgeon, not spa beauticians etc.

I am easily satisfied with the very best.

I sympathize @Enronnja and you have good advice in the above posts.
 
I’m an old man now and hiring was long ago, but something you wrote resonated with me.

I was always very particular. I wanted men who were especially desirable. I see nothing wrong with being picky and having standards. It seems to me that if you were to lower your standards, the date would not be as satisfying and you would not feel fulfilled. Good luck with your quest.

I had chest hair and lasered it years ago. I am glad I did before it turned grey. I now have grey hair on my head that I love and hate. I am contemplating turning it to a darker shade of grey.

Ask him if he has done any modelling... This always works for the guys I want to pick up ?

Start a casual chat catching up with an old friend and drive the conversation to what you want. Tell him he is better looking than hs, ask him how is work, money etc. I would bring up the ad as a last resort.

Start a casual chat catching up with an old friend and drive the conversation to what you want. Tell him he is better looking than hs, ask him how is work, money etc. I would bring up the ad as a last resort.

You are lucky. Just go for it. Don't overanalyse. Message him on insta/fb and see what happens. Be polite but direct. This is my advice.