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I really appreciate the kind replies with helpful and hopeful information.

To the hateful, "drama queen," replies, I'd be justified in responding with a vile reply, but I am bigger than that. I just wish you could be happy as to not spew hatred to someone who is already feeling down about something.

"drama queen" was not meant to be an insult. I said it in a light humorous way. Maybe because I have been listening to the Drama Queen album in Spotify with Maria Callas the one and only drama queen.

I think what we don’t understand is how someone can be so myopic and pompous – or so vociferously discriminatory, in the strictest sense of the word as well as the broader sense.

Try harder and you might understand ?

By the way, I corrected my short sightedness years ago, so I am not myopic. And I had to lookup "vociferously" - thank you for a new word. ?

We get it. You discriminate on the basis of race in the selection of your sexual partners. You also seem to really like doing that, since you've gleefully joked about basking in your privilege. Some of us think that racial discrimination is a generally bad thing that should never be done intentionally, and that if we find ourselves unconsciously practicing it, this should, at a minimum, be cause for introspection. You think that racial discrimination is perfectly fine, at least in the context of personal relationships (presumably sexual and romantic ones, although you've never explicitly stated such a limit). So, you let yourself off the hook for engaging in this practice because, per your reasoning, it's either not a big deal or it's not something that we can change. I'd argue that most reasonable, compassionate, and fair-minded people think that those last two assumptions are B.S. excuses, but whatever ...

 

All of the above was really collateral, though, because this thread was started by a client of color, who wondered if he should disclose his race upfront in order to soften the blow of rejection from escorts who incorporate racial discrimination into their business models. Since the longstanding mantra on this forum has been that any escort worth a damn is a professional, this thread was supposed to be about discrimination in the provision of sex worker services. You're the one who made it all about yourself in an attempt to justify the supposedly "pure logic" of why your sexual partners "have to be caucasians" and "cannot be blacks and Asians." As if that somehow excuses escorts who categorically refuse to provide services to entire groups of people. Based on how you've explained your prejudices here, I think that most reasonable readers of this thread would conclude that it's for the best that black men and Asian men don't have to worry about being the objects of your affection.

My sexual partners have to be white, young, very good looking, smart, and so on and so forth because I am not attracted to others. What do you not understand?

@Bearman out of curiosity what did you find insulting in my post?

 

ALL RELATIONSHIPS imply some sort of transaction (with providers is just more explicit)

 

???

It may be time to stop the escort hobby..

 

Every time I finish with a visit or a weekend - like a trip I took with an escort this weekend – i feel empty. It just makes me feel like 'I am only good enough, worthy enough, because I am paying...not even worth affection without it being bought."

 

Just makes me feel EMPTY and it depresses me...

 

Anyone else?

Don't be such a drama queen. We pay for everything including love and affection. Since the problem is how you feel when you finish the session, why don't you find a permanent sugar boy?

I guess I’d have to die. I mean, I’m entitled to my preferences, right?

 

I’m trying to point out how absurd the idea of “preferences should go unchallenged” is…argumentum ad absurdum – you’re right. It’s lunacy to categorically discount an entitle swath of the population for superficial reasons. We have our attractions, yes, but preferences are different. And acting like preferences don’t necessarily need examination or come with some level of inherited discrimination, in some circumstances, is myopic. Not all preferences are racism, but all racism is rooted in preferences.

Once again... You do not compare apples to apples. I do not need to be sexually attracted to my doctor, so I do not care if he is black or asian (not that there are many in my city ? ). But I have to be sexually attracted to my sexual partners and I am not sexually attracted to blacks and asians, so my sexual partners cannot be blacks and asians, therefore my sexual partners have to be caucasians. Pure logic.

Furthermore my sexual partners have to have many other attributes so I can be attracted to them. They have to be young, smooth, charming, witty, cultured, refined, polished, well mannered and the list goes on and on. So what I am trying to reiterate here is that race is a pixel of the whole picture of sexual attractiveness.

Couldn't agree more, there. Either naturally smooth or fuzzy, but stubble is the worst!

I like stubble further down in a nicely manscaped pube

It is addictive.

A few years ago I met this much younger guy in the apps, asked me if I am generous, we hooked up a few times, then lost track of each other. Fast forward, a few months ago I get in fb after years that I have not logged in and I see him in the people you may know... big brother at its best... ? So I message him, at his real life profile from my real life profile. I see all about him, he sees all about me. I invite him home and give him the same amount as previously. No discretion hang ups. Thats one of the many reasons I like the young generation. We still see each other periodically. Thinking of it, I will invite him for an aperitivo this week.

How about this guy.

just vomit ?

I don’t think of escorts as sexual partners. Maybe friends, if we get on well over time, but that’s a stretch too.

So you hire escorts to play bridge? That will be an expensive game.

I did that too. It all grew back.

From what I remember it is normal that some of it regrows. They told me from the start that I should expect some regrowth and that I would have to do it a few times. I had to do it 4 or 5 times over the course of about two years. Now I am totally smooth. Maybe you need to try another place. By the way I did it at a plastic surgeon, not spa beauticians etc.

I sympathize @Enronnja and you have good advice in the above posts.

 

I’m an old man now and hiring was long ago, but something you wrote resonated with me.

 

I was always very particular. I wanted men who were especially desirable. I see nothing wrong with being picky and having standards. It seems to me that if you were to lower your standards, the date would not be as satisfying and you would not feel fulfilled. Good luck with your quest.

I am easily satisfied with the very best.

Oh, he’s lovely. After seeing that gentleman, I understand your disappointment with Seattle offerings. I’m in San Diego, and it’s normally slim pickings here as well. Good luck with your travel plans and maybe finding someone local in time.

I don't find him attractive at all. Too short and dull face. If you think he is good, Seattle must be really bad. My sympathies and good luck.

At last some good-looking guys in this forum ?

Both. But If I had to choose between two almost identical twins, and the only thing that makes them not identical is that one has a hairy chest. I'm picking the one with the hairy chest. Unless it's gray chest hair, I don't like that, shave that. Ironically I like guys with dyed gray hair on their head, I think it's just sexy. I've always wanted to dye my hair gray too.

I had chest hair and lasered it years ago. I am glad I did before it turned grey. I now have grey hair on my head that I love and hate. I am contemplating turning it to a darker shade of grey.

His physique is a total turn off for me. But if you like him, go ahead, he has good reviews.

I like smooth with very few exceptions - I wouldn't say no to Jon Kortajarena

Overall, I probably have preferred smooth. I think it is because it is for the most part opposite of what I am. However, there are times that if I am going on vacation I will have some parts of myself waxed. At first it was painful, then I go to like it. Also, once it is done it is cleaner (particularly when I want to do particular acts.). But in the end, if the person has other qualities, the non-hairy mandate may get thrown out.

Try laser for permanent results. I had hair on my chest and did it years ago.

What do you like about him? He is a typical example of a fat guy who thinks he is muscled.

Acting is a profession that you can't enter into because you expect to make a living. It is a profession you enter into because you are driven by a passion for the craft.... ....Maybe your boys luck will change. Best not kill their dreams with advice who knows they may make it after all.

My thoughts exactly. I admire them for their passion, focus and determination.

My only input would be to suggest ultra-discreetness. Should success happen down the road, it could be marred by past "employment" revelations.

Correct. One of them had a profile in Hunqz years ago for a few months (this is how I met him) and then deleted it. The others never advertised. Actually I remember in one of the very first chats I had with one of them, he was concerned that I will talk about him. To calm him down I sent him my LinkedIn profile and said I have more to lose. Not true but it worked

I think most people don't want unsolicited advice on their careers, particularly not from people outside the field they have chosen to pursue, so you are wise not to offer advice.

Plus I do not want to give advice. These are life decisions. Too much responsibility.

Start a casual chat catching up with an old friend and drive the conversation to what you want. Tell him he is better looking than hs, ask him how is work, money etc. I would bring up the ad as a last resort.

Ask him if he has done any modelling... This always works for the guys I want to pick up ?