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I got diagnosed back in 2001 when I fell asleep at the wheel and ran off the road. Woke up in time to stop the car, fortunately. the machines have gotten a lot better and smaller through the years. The masks haven’t caught up. I use a nasal mask. It’s not a big deal unless you make it one. NOTHING beats the feeling of getting a good nights sleep with a well fitted CPAP

Make sure you also make it clear whether you want him to shower before showing up post pump.

On Rentmen, what do you consider the difference to be when guys label themselves as “defined” vs “athletic?” And how muscular should one really be to label themselves as such? How average is average? Ive hired a few “Defined” guys who were definitely a bit “doughy” so maybe my personal calibration is a bit off. Likewise I’ve hired some “muscular” guys who had abs in photos that were generally lacking in real life. Sometimes I can grant a flyer to that (it’s hard to stay shredded year round) but sometimes I’m really in to mood to feel some washboard. What are your standards for these categories, if you have any?

Sounds more like your friend is secretly jealous of you, if he found you on RM. You do you… Congrads on taking control of your own life.

Don’t go fishing off the company dock. You’ll both wind up getting fired. Even if you broach the topic at work, you will wind up getting screwed and not in a pleasurable way. Keep it to yourself.

I also recall using him as an escort in DC sometime back about 5 years ago. It was rather unmemorable

I would suggest starting out small- a one hour meet up with someone local who has a bunch of good reviews. Ideally incall so you have the easy option of leaving if something seems amiss. A Multi day affair in Istanbul smells to me like trouble.

Last summer in Boston I had one really good massage with him. In two subsequent bookings he canceled on me at the last minute, both times for the same excuse (sick dog). Not likely to try again

Usually all publicity is good. Probably drives more people to his only fans stuff. perhaps he’s trying something new because he’s maxed out his current offering

Recently I had a provider cum on my stomach. I must have had an allergic reaction to his cum because it started itching like crazy. Never had that happen before. Now I’m more careful with guys I’ve not been with before

If they happen to say that they are running late with another client, that’s an automatic cancel. Any delay for any reason with someone I’ve never seen before is also an automatic cancel. An escort I’ve already got a track record of on time performance- if they are running late I can normally forgive up to an hour

IME a lot of higher priced guys don’t respond immediately with pricing. If I encounter this I move on. There are plenty of guys out there who are more responsive.

If all of the reviews are for an hour, that’s usually a “tell” that the provider is pricier than average

You are making an assumption that he ghosted you for reasons that have to do with you. It’s also possible that he ghosted you for his own personal situation- like maybe he’s sick, depressed, fueling an addiction, dealing with family issues etc. I would not take it personally. Shake it off and go elsewhere

Look at it this way- he was an asshole and he saved you the time and money to find that out first hand.

Some providers who are just going thru the motions will often take extra time to get hard. This may be a problem if you are expecting them to top. It’s often a good “tell” that they’re engaged when they are completely hard almost immediately

It would be a red flag for me if all of the reviews were for one hour…. I like to see a healthy mix of time durations. If there are multiple reviews from the same person I look to see if the dwell time is increasing with more recent reviews

Some escorts are just going through the motions and that’s ok if you as the client are enjoying the interaction. Others seem to genuinely enjoy the experience and the chemistry really works. It’s usually pretty easy to distinguish the difference.

I think he’s expired past his Warhol 15 minutes of fame

I’ve noticed that in general, people who live alone have a whole lot more ajita about everything and bring that bandwidth with them when visiting others. Partnered people are more used to toning their excesses. The Celiac thing is her way of expressing her specialness. It’s not you…in the future keep the visits short.

Why are you willingly subjecting yourself to family on an expensive retreat? That’s not a vacation by any definition. Sounds like it’s time for some new family rules . If you have to do family dwell time, do it somewhere more pedestrian, like a city where you can more easily find ways to separate…like NYC or DC.

You did a good deed. It will someday come back to you in delayed karma, but not from your provider. Stop banging your head against a fake wall on this one. Give up trying to contact him and move on. He defines “ingratitude “ and doesn’t deserve your further attention.

I might have responded…”No, just looking for a different kind of asshole.”

Ask him to bring condoms that he is comfortable with. Some people have strong brand and size preferences, especially if he has latex allergy issues

Sounds like you are a victim of sampling error. I’ve met plenty of gay guys who suck at kissing…and plenty of bi guys who were definitely up to code