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It looks like RM is continuing to use Visa cards that are on file with an account, but is not taking me cards or refreshing expired cards.

People are probably visiting the ads the same way you are. They either have them bookmarked or saved in their buddy lists, or are they're coming up by means of some other search. If you have an ad in your buddy list, they are still listed there even if they're expired or frozen. Also, if they're linked in a thread here or on some other forum, you can still visit their ad that way.

Profile is less than a month old, if he's really that new (not a name changer) it's unlikely anyone's met him yet. Definitely proceed with caution. I'd wait a bit, personally, to see if he sticks around. If you do reach out to him, you might want to keep the contact through RM and see how he responds.

It depends on the escort and how much you communicate what you're looking for, and how much time you allow for the session. A BFE type session can range from doing typical date type activities such as dinner, movies, a show, etc, along with time spent in the bedroom. Or it might be just the sex, but is paced more intimately and less like an anonymous hookup. Every guy is going to be a bit different, so you really have to ask them ahead of the engagement about what they normally do in a BFE meeting and discuss what you're looking to get out of it. Normally, however, a BFE is beyond the scope of most massage providers, unless they are advertising about intimacy sessions. You'd probably do well to scan the ads for masseurs first before looking at escorts (though many advertise as both as you're probably aware). Many escorts will list BFE in their descriptions and it is normally assumed that sex will be part of the plan. If you're looking for a session that is intimacy short of sex, you should discuss that up front. I imagine many escorts would readily agree to it, but many will still expect their full fee (under the "payments are for time only" theory). Be sure to be clear about their rates ahead of agreeing to meet.

Vague post is vague.

A question as old as time itself... Yes, there are providers who are slow to respond or who never do. Whether it's because they're busy with other clients, or have other outside obligations, or just are not wanting to chase inquiries that day, you just don't know why they might be not answering quickly. Also, just because you text doesn't mean they can respond quickly. People complain about providers who won't put their phones down, yet expect they will answer texts within minutes. Here's a question though, how are you approaching these guys? Are you starting by sending a message that's just asking questions or are you making it clear you are looking for an appointment that day? Starting out with a reasonably detailed message that makes it clear you're serious is more likely to get a response than a generic "Hi, I like your ad" type message. Also, if you're waiting until late in the afternoon, a lot of providers may already be getting regulars booking for appointments during the after work commute, or taking time for gym time or other personal needs. If your work schedule doesn't allow planning even a day in advance, then you probably need to find a regular provider (or two) who advertises that they are ok with same day appointments. Once you're established as a repeat and reliable client they'll have you in their contacts and be more likely to prioritize responding to you when you're looking.

The real question we all want to know is if the masseur looked like Danny Devito....

Can a slave determine when it's time for his superior to do a task? That seems back asswards... The master deigns to do something when the slave has earned the privilege.

There's another side to the cashless trend that also penalizes lower income people who don't have access to banking. Many employers have adopted payroll systems that issue debit cards for employees that don't have a banking account for direct deposit. The debit cards usually have high transaction fees and prevent the holder from taking the cash out in a lump sum. It's one step removed from using company store scrip. There's other challenges that unbanked people face, but forcing poor people to pay fees to access money they've earned is immoral and should be illegal.

I can't believe GenXers are complaining in significant numbers about Target not accepting checks. I stopped writing checks years ago and don't know anyone in my age group who hasn't switched to other payment methods. Checks are not the same as cash, however. Retailers certainly don't consider checks as good as cash, they are the riskiest payment method. I still see customers paying with cash, but less frequently since retail prices have soared in recent years. It's less convenient to pay with cash when getting a few things at the supermarket now routinely exceeds $100. People have to remember to hit the ATM more frequently before shopping and using a debit or credit card is perceived as more convenient. As for Zoomers having worse credit than older cohorts, that's easily attributed to many of them having less consistent incomes and lower paying jobs (i.e. shiftwork or gigwork) since many are still getting established. They're using credit cards the same way older people used "float" years ago, deferring payments until they have been paid, and sometimes finding themselves short when the bills are due. Also splitting a restaurant tab is less hassle when everyone can settle up using Venmo than pooling cash and trying to make change when almost everyone has 20s and no smaller bills. In short, cash usage has declined as even small trips to the store are more expensive, but I don't see it going away any time soon. Generational trends are more attributable to where people are at economically, and their comfort level with newer payment methods. Checks will become a niche reserved for mostly business payments and slowly disappear as the boomers shuffle off the mortal coil.

Anyone have experience with these guys? Looks like they're touring the Midwest.

Thanks, @SpaceCityBoy. I'm not sure why the OP thought Detroit was enthralled with this one. Here he's promising Sexual Healing, but the rest of us are thinking Whats Goin' On? It turns out he's just a Trouble Man.

He's cute, hope he comes out my way sometime.

It really depends where you are. If you're in the US especially, RentMen is the most useful option. It has the most listings and very granular search capabilities. Hunqz is another option, but it's exposure in the US is more limited than in Europe (though that seems to be changing over time) Friendboy and Mintboys are also well known sites, but suffer from poor search and lots of poor quality ads (providers that are no longer available, etc). Adam4Adam also has listings for "Pros", but it seems to be pretty sketchy in most cities. Beyond that, some people have had success contacting performers (OF/JFF) through Instagram or Twitter, and there is Seeking.com (formerly seekingarrangements.com) which focuses more on guys looking for a sugardaddy.

This is not the version of "playing hide the pickle" I wanted to see.

I don't know why, but I read the thread title as "Which escorts have the best ass in prison". Changes things a little bit ...

Whew, I've heard of age shaving, but this one is leaping from a Boomer straight into a Millennial. Once again Gen X was forgotten....

So many missing, do your Peruvian brothers not merit consideration?

I prefer an all natural pearl necklace...

Consensual Non-Consensual, i.e. r*pe play.

I didn't mind tattoos believe the neck within reason, but I'll try to check for any symbols that have known associations. There was a guy in a nearby city to me a while back that had a "88" on his forearm. Thankfully his ass disappeared pretty quickly.

Personally I don't give tattoos much thought, but I will avoid guys with tattoos above the neck line or has certain artwork with known associations

Sadly, it's not even bots usually. The scams like this are often being run by criminal orgs operating in Southeast Asia that use people trafficked and held in remote compounds and forced to run the scam scripts against their Western targets. Pig butchering is a cruel scam that devastates lives, and it's even worse to realize the criminals are using slaves to do the work for them.

In my experience, few successful escorts look down on their clients or see them as ATMs. Most that do have that attitude flush out pretty quickly. The relationship is transactional, to be sure, but the successful guys tend to respect their clients so long as the respect is mutual. Honestly, I'd say that statement says far more about you and your perception of sex workers.