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I want to speak that by faith and into existence, but hopefully it happens soon. This run up to Christmas has been tragic, clients either canceling everyday or half ass confirming sessions. People getting blacklisted or being seen with blacklist reports almost everyday. It doesn’t help that my 2 markets have been on a steady decline for business before this. Times like this takes brut strength and hope to get thru. And if you don’t have that, having at least 1 trusty reliable regular is paramount. And I mean, someone who will give you money even when you’re not participating in actual sex.

I don’t blame you. I was just talking to someone that I often end up wishing I could take the after part of Thanksgiving November and December off because it’s almost no real profit. And with this new variant going, things have gotten very dismal…ready to throw in the 🧺 That’s said: the 1,000 sounds nice but I’ll vote 🗳 for the $200 each.

That’s easy to say on paper, but without knowing what your business is…it’s kind of hard to compare it in the same way. I don’t have an issue with being kind and taking care of people. But I’m not going to be a door mat. They need to EARN that. And they are not going to earn that simply by sending me a few round of texts with no real intent to follow thru on a session. Also our ratio of time wasters=real clients are likely different than what you experience.

Yeah, but at the same time: it’s like how do you really know? Like I say, it’s not as simple as “shopping at men’s warehouse”. It’s not always the escort’s fault in such situations. I can give a little thought, but that is not extended forever. For example, here’s a post from a client who been contacting me since 2020, and would fake out everytime. Then he hits me up this morning, and I see he never replied to 3 texts I sent him back in October. I never thought to look him up, and here’s what I found:

You would think so right, but I’m noticing a higher number of flakes seem to be coming from massage based sites, in my area. You say you’ve been able to navigate that in a healthy way, please share… I guess it wouldn’t be so noticeable if there was still a good number of folks showing up, but that’s not quite been the case. It seems like with massage bookings, you have to always be there and be Square when they contact. They don’t always give much notice or seem able to schedule in advance. On top of that, the vast majority especially in “smaller” markets like Kansas City, almost never able to host. I can host, but the times I’m available to, they aren’t. Or something comes up. I’d get a consistent incall spot, but if guys are flaking the way they’ve been, I have little confidence that it would change if I were to get one. I don’t want to be in anymore situations where I’m paying for an apartment in a city I’m barely getting any serious clients in.

And here’s something I should add too that’s a little less transparent: We’re in different times right now. I remember the days when I started, and I used to never really worry about these things. But now, with Covid STILL not going away, I think it continues to affect things in ways we may not even understand on the surface. That’s why when times change, It calls for doing things a bit differently. To have this many fakes is beyond normal. Like I say, some cities pride themselves on being horrible for escorts, and clients manage to perpetuate the idea by showing their asses, but it’s so much bigger than that. In every city, in every state, there’s flakes. There’s a difference between being a “shy client working up confidence”, to just being an inconsiderate pest. The game has changed, and now I have to change. All that BS is so 2021. In 2022, I’m stepping the game up. It’s already started actually.

Okay, even though I answered that 1 time…this thread is not about “shopping at retail stores and how it is similar to contacting an escort”. You can definitely make another topic on that, if you choose to. Could be interesting to see how many other providers agree with your concept. This is more about situations where the person isn’t considerate of the escort’s time, and thus come off as “fake”. Faking like they want to arrange a visit, but really either too chicken shit or too pre-occupied to really make it happen. Or just being a plain dick. I googled an article on this yesterday, and one line in particular made a lot of sense to me: Meet the Fakes First of all, it’s important to understand who it is that is likely to waste your time without turning into a paying client. Let’s meet the fakes. You’ll hear from many different types of tire kickers, but the most common one are: Cheapskates. They want your work for next to nothing and are hopeful they can talk you down from your rates. They have no intention of paying you what you are worth and are likely to complain a lot if you do happen to work for them. Your competition. They want to know what you charge for your projects so that they can set their own prices. They’re hoping you’ll share your complete price list with them. Idea thieves. They want to get the details of how you do your work so that they can steal your ideas and do the work themselves. Or they may be planning to hire someone else to carry out your ideas. The lonely. They just want attention. They’ll take as much time from you as you’ll give them. They may even pay you a token amount, but they don’t need a freelancer. They probably need to join a social club. The angry (many of the types of clients contacting escorts). They haven’t paid you a dime and already they’re mistreating you. They may use a disrespectful tone or simply show a lack of respect. The sampler. This fake claims that your portfolio isn’t enough. He or she has to see a free sample of your work (to his or her specification) before hiring you for a project. http://freelancem.ag/how-to-keep-fake-clients-from-stealing-your-time-and-sapping-your-energy/ Fortunently, I’ve been having a fun time with the Mr. Number app. Just been Blacklisting idiots almost every other day. And many of those people have bad reports already posted.

Haha. I know you think that’s funny, but you really just came off sounding like a jerk. If being entertained by someone’s misery actually is entertaining (and who told you I was miserable in the first place, I’m just addressing an issue), maybe you should see a psychologist. So, jokes on you 👌🏾

They can shop. I’m not stopping them from shopping. Looking at RentMen and RentMasseur is shopping. Where shopping ends, is taking a $200/$300 item up to the register, and then leaving it there, and walking away. Right In the cashier’s face. That’s what these fraudulent clients are doing essentially.

The other thing I’m finding also: majority of these are coming fro RentMasseur where I post in addition to RentMen. But some may have seen me on both. But just today, I got another one: this guy contacted me Tuesday around noon and I sent a couple of messages including my rate and availability. No response all the way until Thursday, today. Citing that he was busy. Tells me he’s available “all day” but when I ask him to specify…says he’s only free until 5. So…basically he waited almost 48 hours to inform me that he can meet today, but can only meet until 5. And wants me to host, which requires an additional level of planning on my part. A regular client has also requested to see me this afternoon, so I can’t accommodate before 5. Once again, another case of “revolve around them because you have nothing better than to sit and wait on my important ass for infinity” attitude. Like I say, once I get this new platform up and going…I’ll only be communicating with paid clients. That way, maybe if they spend something to speak to me, they’ll value it a little more. Versus me just answering texts from randos around the clock and not seeing anything from it.

And by fake, I don’t mean “not real” but rather “not serious”. I’ve just been having a hell of a week. This ties right along with my other post about holiday nonsense. But this is a bit more tailored to the real nitty gritty. Since about Monday, I’ve had about 6 to 7 clients reach out to me…and not a single one has ended up making it to book. I don’t get why some clients; especially in class-segregated/small minded markets, can’t seem to fucking get their shit together EVER, and go through with an appointment. When I let them know I’m available now, they can’t meet now. When I try to tell them I need advance notice, they agree but then always have some excuse why they can’t do it. On top of that, there’s been 2 clients the last few days, who have been texting me since 2020 OF LAST YEAR, where they have contacted me about a session, and then they STILL aren’t ready when they contact me. STILL can’t get their schedule in line with mine, and STILL want to operate on their time, instead of taking the time to figure out a mutually agreeable time. Then they want to act passive aggressive and either stop responding or block me, when I allude to them: dude, you’ve contacted me several times for the last 2 years!! Why can’t you get your shit together TODAY! How hard can it really be? I don’t know what part of their brain cells misses the simple concept that MAYBE, MAYBE, just MAYBE, if you call a provider out the blue after you haven’t contacted them in months and didn’t book them the last time, perhaps they won’t be able to accommodate YOU in exactly the way YOU need it to be. Maybe they should have kept in contact, and made a little more effort to arrange something. Instead of going ghost for 5 months and then texting out the blue as if I’ve got no other purpose in the world, but to wait on them for all infinity to make up their minds and figure out when the hell they want to book a session. That's 1 thing I can't understand. Too many out here think they’re time is more important. I shouldn’t have to yield to their schedule, if they contact ME and want to see ME, they need to yield to my availability. I didn’t call them. They called me, how do they call me and expect me to dance around them? If I tell them I’m available today, they need to do whatever it takes to come TODAY. Why can't they meet today, if they have enough time to cruise Ads, find my number and text me? If I say I need advanced notice, they should be able figure that out as well. Because again, was I expecting you? No. But if I say I can accommodate the same day you contact me, have the fucking decency to make it happen. It’s like again: if he contacted me, courtesy has it that HE should be willing to accommodate my availability. Not the other way around. Sometimes I think they intentionally fuck with us out of low self-esteem, and likely because trying to compensate for that. But that shouldn’t be my problem. Nor is their busyness or inability to keep up with their impulsive desires my issue either. I'm about ready to start figuring ways out to meet better clientele. And I know it's likely going to start with a change of location and my new separate platform that will stop a lot of the flaky fakes in their tracks...All I'll be asking is, "thankyou for your payment, how can I help you?"

That’s good. But for me I still wasn’t even really finding it easy to try and get clients/people to sign up. What I’m aiming for now is going to be something where people will be REQUIRED to sign up, in order to book me. This way, even if they don’t book me, and they just want to chit chat, I’ll still get paid and they can still get some type of viewing capabilities. So that way I actually have a bit more use out of it. Also the issue with JFF is they auto-bill clients, and don’t give much flexibility in how to control the payouts/platform. Maybe I don’t want to sell a whole month of membership. Maybe I just want to sell it 1 time, for a week or 2. And if they wish to come back later they can use it again.

Idk man…it sounds optimistic but I still lean towards the other end. Seems clients get off on blocking escorts. Like sir, you contacted me 1st. They should block themselves. There’s some “clients” out here who have come to me, BSing around like they normally do: and then I’ll notice the messages go from Blue to Green during a chat, especially when I go about explaining how to schedule things without showing inconsideration in the process. That’s why I am rushing to finalize this new breakthru plan I have been working on. I’m not dealing with the games and BS anymore going into 2022. I even invested my first $50 in Euro I earned from dancing, into it. I just wish I would have done it sooner.

Well…I can tell you just the other week when I was in an area of Florida that is very under-served by providers, a client did book me from there. I personally been using it on and off for many years and it has its place. Sometimes it’s necessary to tap into that “unintended market”. Even though RentMen is top of line, reality is…it’s not really even giving me all that much “more” business than even adam4adam. I’ve had this discussion before. And truth be told: RentMen has become a little more than a high end hookup site. That’s why I don’t bother unlocking private pics anymore, and took down most of my videos. I see people from Grindr, hitting me up cruising RM, knowing damn well they’re not paying anybody. Just voyeuring around. I also use A4A because majority of the other escort and massage sites don’t really work in very small markets. For example: Overland Park Kansas which is a sleepy suburb yet business hub of Kansas City has like no providers that list on either RM site. A4A on the other hand has about 50-60 members in the area. But for the most part, A4A continues to underperform more and more each year, as far as getting bookings. I pretty much just have a pre template set up and send it out. All the round the clock chit chat, I stopped doing way back last year.

I’m intrigued by this question. Why are some people fascinated about the idea of a sex worker hiring a client??? Lol. There is no alternate universe or “other life”. Things are the way they are. Now you can ask, if sex worker and said client ever decided to form a “non-clock” relationship, and yes that happens. I won’t go into the pros and cons of such arrangements, but yes it can and does happen. Once it does, it can be subject to the same pitfalls as any traditionally started relationship. But the fantasy of an escort hiring a client: kill that. Clients aren’t going to earn money by becoming SuperSexman 🦸🏻‍♂️

And to mention: prep doesn’t protect against syphilis. I’ve had a couple clients contact me over the past year (one more recently), and inform me that they tested positive and I should get tested. I’ve come back negative, but it’s still worth realizing that as a BB bottom, your chances are higher of contracting something, even if it’s just Tops you’re fucking with. Nothing wrong with BB, but might want to inquire about your partner’s(s) cumings and going’s when not together. And be sure to get anal swabs and not just pee tests.

This isn’t exactly like this post, but I have a client who I enjoyed meeting with once and he’s fucking hot 🔥. But he’s also (straight) married. He’s annoyed me a couple of times hitting me up when I’m in his city. Or we’ve tried to plan. But then he’s not able to meet for whatever reason. I’ve noticed on a couple occasions he’s blocked MY number (iMessages go from blue to green) and then seen me in town and maybe unblocked me and reached out to me. But it’ll still just be to fantasize and see about me versus booking.

I just did this today: a recall a hot client I met with over Labor Day. I reached out but he said he was low on funds. I offered a promotion if he books in the next couple weeks (and not because he’s hot, but because he’s nearby and biz has been slow all week)…but with the holidays looming, idk if it’ll happen.

That sounds tedious. Especially considering “the next client” could be the next day or later in day. I try to find ways to keep myself entertained. On my last tour, there was only 1 point in the trip where I was “waiting” for the next client. And I was not thrilled. City to city touring is hard to do depending how long it is. I often find it’s harder to be away from home much longer than a couple of weeks. It’s almost annoying because there’s always something “back home” that needs to be done. I wish I could “easily” travel city to city for like 2-3 months at a time. Especially considering my current markets of Kansas City and Saint Louis are depressingly slow majority of the time, with the exception of a couple occasional serious booking clients. I think the longest consecutive time I’ve been away was from the day after Thanksgiving to middle of January 2018-2019. But after that, I didn’t travel anywhere else for like 5 months. I was beat and exhausted.

Yeah, I tried it out and it was useful for what it was…but it’s just not congruent with the new model I’m trying to come out with. I also don’t really have time or privacy to constantly dish out new material. Even when I’m on tour and staying in hotels everyday, last thing I want to do is waste my juice making videos and “cum shots” for 19.99 when I may have a 300 booking instead. I prefer real sex and erotic pictures moreso. I feel it would suit someone who only does selfie content, or has a regular partner to take and/or do content with. That said, I did run into a couple unexpected bumps right off the bat, so the initial idea I decided to dump. But, I’m still going to go with the new plan idea but just continue to do it similar to the way I was already doing it so far, but this time with greater incentive for the client. Idk if I’ll be able to get everyone on board, but I predict it’ll cut down the BS 99%. Someone said my reaction may be making things worse, but…all I can do IS react. How many more days and weeks and months am I going to keep dealing with the same ole timewasters and gamers? Who wants to deal with that forever? Something has to give.

https://rentmen.eu/Jarrod_Brandon Presents 🎁 always welcome 🤗

Update: I just had a break Thru. I was at the gym and it hit me what I need to do going forward and into 2022. I can’t share the details because I need to get it in motion, but I’m starting on it TONIGHT. First thing I’ve decided that needs to change: no more justfor/only fans. That is becoming played out. More power to the guys making millions on it, but I don’t have the time and energy or porn studio backdrop to turn it into an actual living. I just contacted my subscribers and told them not to rebill further. I don’t want to be a part of anything that’s going to feel like a rat race. I’m changing the game up, and it starts today.

That might have worked out even better: if the newbie didn’t show up, you could just travel out versus expecting someone to show at the same time. But it’s easy to get sidetracked and do what you “think” is the right move. But when some idiot messes you about, it throws logic all off. That said, the only industry we can be compared to, is a nightclub that charges $20 cover to get into. Yes, there’s a cover charge before you even walk into the door. Sure, tons of other places maybe don’t charge a cover, but I’m sure nightclubs don’t go around deciding based on other nightclubs (or in my case, escorts) charging a cover or not 😆

See, I woulda made him send me cancel fee. I already have a client sent me one in the mail (doesn’t have pay apps). That is so unfair to you. I probably would have still booked the regular at the same time, and waited to see if the new guy would show. But this is also why I ask for deposits. They want to get mad and don’t respond, that’s a dodged bullet. I even put in my ad verbatim: I can’t make exceptions based on other guys you contacted, not showing. They always want to pull the “I’ve been ripped off before” card, not realizing that one experience happens to us on the regular. There you go Daddy’s Reviews forum naysayers. Real life testimony of the ACTUAL stuff that happens. So don’t be surprised that I take the appropriate courses of action. It’s not even to be evil or vindictive. It’s just the course of biz. I’m not asking for $50,000 upfront. A measly $25-50, people spend BILLIONS on the lottery, and never see that money back (I should probably start using that line too). And the other thing, I wish people would stop comparing us to other industries. This is, hasn’t, and will never be similar to other industries. You can cancel on your insurance agent, he/she probably has someone else in the office waiting. I see it all the time. People walking in at the same time as my appointment.

“In financial domination the submissive has no expectation of sexual contact in return for the money, and often there is no physical contact of any kind between the two parties.[4]” lol had to look that one up. Though not quite what I’m aiming for. I’m not really going at it with the sole purpose of getting something for nothing (like some of the ones who waste our time do). 2 things I wanted to address though: I’m not stopping anyone from “window shopping”. I know some probably feel it’s “cruel” to ask for money before meeting. Poor them. But here’s the reality: I have enough content and info on my page (besides rates which, is still an on-going cause and effect for a lot of the shit I have to contend with. Only RentMasseur allows rates, but it’s not really much except “incall/outcall). I already did the work AND paid in advance via pictures, membership payment, etc etc. Secondly, this is more directed at @jtwalker, don’t tell me to “talk to other escorts” as if they are going to be some kind of mentor. I’m tired of people saying that. I have no issue with, and in fact have at times discussed things with other escorts. But besides a bit of camaraderie and sharing, every escort is going to do things differently. I did a 3som with an escort last week, and he had 0 nude pics in his profile. But yet, the client hired both him and I. I can go ask another escort in another city who has every picture nude in his profile, and get a completely different perspective. On top of that, and I’ll even bring it up again: I had a forum member here tell me a couple or so years ago, “you should reach out to so and so and get some advice from him”. I took his advice, and when I did…the guy replied once, but then never bothered to respond to the question I had. Just completely blew me off. So don’t try to drag me into this trap of “hearing what other escorts have to say”. If it’s not on this forum where they can openly share it, or PM me directly like @TylerGrovesNYCdid that actually HAD some useful tips, I’m not interested. I been in the game since 2008. I’ve seen it all, and pretty much done it all. This perception that every escort should be flying high and have no problems, everything successful and laid out, otherwise they aren’t doing “well” and need to “talk to other guys more successful than them”…is a myth. I’ve said it earlier: if a guy has more or less problems than someone else, then it may not have anything to do with what that guy is doing. It could be the area, their ethnicity, the websites, different levels of tolerance, the season, the city, etc.