JB_Studio38

As someone mentioned, it’s good to mention this. Even if it’s just paid for time, you could mention in your “private life” you enjoy etc etc in your etc etc. Requests for “massage” are at an all time high. I think 90% of my bookings ask for that, but I been doing this long enough to know it’s best to have more than 1 rate for the sessions I do. I’ve even written to RM themselves and mentioned we need more options for rates. But of course they are limited in what they can safely offer. This is why I’ve come out with my own website. And it’s meant to be somewhat obscure. Can’t speak on their behalf but yes: I’m finding especially in the big cities, business has been periodically quite dry. I even noticed in my current area of Kansas City, many guys don’t have Gold Ads since I’ve come back from off tour. I think it’s just too many guys advertising these days, and not enough reliable sites. You can’t have dozens of guys in a city where many of the gay culture is on hookup apps and the price of apartments are more than a home mortgage. It’s like sitting around waiting for someone to book, and to book at the rate you want, in the limited span of time they have to meet. It’s a lot. I’m grateful I can still get by doing this exclusively because I enjoy the bookings and the freedom, but…I can only do it because I’m switching cities every couple weeks. I’m basically like a trucker/flight attendant on the go. However, it’s come at the cost of giving up a full time incall location, something that…I’m now wanting to return back to. But have to know it’s going to be a reliable market.

Well I beg to differ on the “be able to host at any moment”. That’s just not realistic. And clients have to understand, when you’re dealing with providers online, it’s likely not realistic in every scenario. Think of it this way: it’s not so much a problem that I am not willing to host. But, it’s just common courtesy to ask. Find out what is going on in that person’s situation. And I know clients aren’t dumb. Many seem to play dumb for reasons I can’t fathom. If I were to flip the tables, which I always end up doing: 99.9% of clients would never, ever, hardly ever ever ever…ever ever ever…ever ever ever… …Be able to host on a moments notice. Even when I sent out my “hey I’m in town/available” message to clients who CAN host, Most always have reason about family, dog, work, neighbor, alien visit, etc etc and are never ready to host. They say: “next time give me a little more notice.” So do we not deserve the same consideration? Yes. I know that goes against stereotypes and expectations. But like someone said: it’s not always to be assumed 24/7 written in stone that hosting is going to be readily available at all times, just because my ad is up. that’s true but, there’s a difference between paid client wanting fulfillment, and selfish inconsiderate clients who want to barge into someone’s private location at the last minute. Not saying this guy did that, but many do. And my blocked client list is chock FULL of numbers who had no decency or respect to book a session, instead of texting, “U avail now, to host?” Then they either don’t show up, or flake, or some other crap which is the reason I don’t like to gamble on hosting in the first place. That’s a good start. In fact, just yesterday I had a client who booked a 4 star hotel for us, even let me arrive early to freshen up and workout while he handled his affairs of the day. It was…everything done right for once this month 😂 originally I was going to host him, but he settled on hotel instead…It was very convenient because whenever I get a hotel to host in my home town, I stay there myself for the night. Which often means foregoing any plans at home I may need to catch up on. In this case, I was able to take care of errands in downtown and do outcall to his hotel, then head home at night. And the next day, got to work on projects. I’m not going to elaborate on my situation and why hosting isn’t necessarily always available 24/7, 365 days a year, like a red light district. But as I said above: it’s more to it. It’s not about NOT having funds to have a place. It’s moreso: I’m not going to be spending money recklessly if I’m in a different area, if I can instead save until I have a serious inquiry. Or at the very least: even if I’m not booking a room for 1 client, the industry has a way of going good or going slow all at once. If I’m having more than 1 or 2 clients booking steadily, I know I’m in a good flow. But if it’s just dead, and I booked a room the past couple days and nobody hasn’t even reached out to me by noon on day 3: I’m not going to keep throwing more money away on a hotel. I’m going to reach out to friends and see if I can be a guest. Those guys who be waiting around for clients and hosting, be scamming them half the time. I know for a fact because I hear it from my new clients all the time. And I seen these guys personally do it. They go to the “available now” guy who’s hosting, right now, and get ripped off. Because they couldn’t tell a Dick from their ass, metaphorically speaking lol. And when I was in San Francisco last year: I hosted the entire Thursday thru Tuesday I stayed there. But I only had clients come to my hotel ONE DAY: that was Sunday. But Thursday, Friday, Saturday, and Monday were either outcalls or nobody showed up serious. In fact Saturday night, I was out with friends and slept in Berkeley, and had to call my hotel to charge my card because I wasn’t going to be back before checkout time 😂 Funny now but, looking back that was a waste of money. I should only have to spend on hotels as needed…granted: I don’t like to stay with people or feel obligated to stay with friends. I honestly hate that. I like my privacy, cleanliness and independence AND…The ability to see clients. The only reason I wasn’t able to in the original post: it was Nashville: it’s overpriced for hotels and business there is trash 🚮. The scene has become flooded with sex workers in the past years and it’s no longer a market to expect steady business flow. Exactly, communication is key. Not: assumption is key ☝ That does not apply to every day, week or city. And: just to be clear, I DID offer to meet this client on an incall BUT… #1: He didn’t want to send deposit #2: He wanted to be on my standby list, which is basically IF another client books me and I’m already hosting #3: When I tried to offer to meet him, I did inform him the motel wouldn’t be upscale because the prices and availability in the area, he got an attitude and said he “wasn’t comfortable”. That’s when I said…well you’re welcome to get a room, if that’s the case. I didn’t post that text… And then when I informed id be able to host in a better area because the availability of rooms changed a couple days later, he was busy/didn’t reply back. So…I’m just like fuck the bullshit games. Nobody, especially me, has time for that. Bingo!

But if I had a friend who’s like: you can stay at my apartment, but just don’t have company, do outcalls: my choice would be that over getting a room unless I had assurance with a deposit, that I’d be getting some clients. Now sometimes: I don’t have a choice and I have spent a fortune on hotels if I’m traveling between cities and don’t know anyone. For example last year, I did a big loop from Denver (where I had a friend’s place to stay) to Seattle, down to Portland and San Francisco and then back to Denver. That entire time was hotels and air bnb. Fortunately I was getting the bookings I needed to eat the costs most of the trip, however on my final week: I had about 5 nights of hotel costs where I didn’t have any bookings. I think it was around tax season: but it was unreal and was a big loss. Stuff like that is the reason why I may not always be just hanging out in a hotel, if I can avoid it.

Speculatively…if that actually happened it would be great. But in the case of the city I was, that was not happening. Considering I didn’t have any deposits or confirmed serious bookings received, getting a hotel waiting for potential clients would have been a waiting game at my expense. I wasn’t trying to do that. If and when I had an incall client, was when I’d arrange a room for the day/night. I have done tours where I didn’t have to pay for a hotel majority of the time, either because all the clients hosted or I had friends in the area who I could stay with, and only do Outcalls. I know it sounds petty but, the host/can’t host issue can be a challenge. Sometimes I’ll get invited on trips by friends but someone will say, “you can’t host in the air bnb but you can do outcalls”. I tell them: that’s not going to work because majority of clients are going to need me to host. My whole thing: yes I know typically escorts are going to be in hotels hosting. But, people assume things that were never stated. When I went to New Orleans couple months ago, I didn’t get a hotel until the day I had a client. Before that, I was at friend’s air bnb. If someone reached out and asked if I could host prior to the confirmed client I had, I would have had to say no. But even with the client mentioned: I offered to host him 2 additional days, and he couldn’t follow thru. Almost seemed like he got an attitude just because I couldn’t readily host. That’s why I said: if he wants to pay for a room, by all means. But if it’s on my dime, it’s going to be the place I want to stay when it’s available. I’ve played the “stay in a hotel and be available” game more than enough times. I did that in Houston not long ago, was a complete waste. 2 days of hotel and nobody showed up. Luckily I paid with points but, that could have been used elsewhere. Some people just need to be educated and stop living in a false reality stereotype of Rent guys and what they “THINK” we are doing. No bro, you don’t know nothing about me. Why the f**k would I spend $100-$200 a night on a room, waiting around for nobody, when I had a nice townhouse apartment of a friend to stay at? And just like the client has reasons he may can’t host, I may have reasons I may can’t host in that particular moment.

I’m just wondering because I’ve had a handful of clients recently (despite the ones who have done my listed rates) assume this. I’m just like where is it written that our rates are capped at $200 because I’m missing out on something 😂 I went ahead and clarified on all my ads that I have 3 levels of services with 3 different rates. Not every client wants the same thing. It would be unfair to them to charge $400 and unfair to me to charge $200 for everything. Unless this is just becoming a standard 🤔

I can’t speak for anyone else, but all my new clients I ask to send deposits. People can say no all they want, but like I said in another thread: many clients either want us to host or even if we go to them: I have outlined on my site the deposit is to cover the time/expense to set up accommodations or travel for an outcall. Non of that is without upfront cost for me. I’m glad more providers are asking for deposits. I hope everyone starts asking for one. Uber drivers don’t go anywhere with a payment. Amazon don’t send out products without payment. Verizon doesn’t mail out phones without payment. Movie theaters collect their payment before you get to see it. Why should we shoulder the burden of booking hotel rooms and driving across town with no guarantee? And for every client that has been “scammed”, I can multiple 20-30X that amount that it’s happened to me. That would be foolish to NOT take a deposit. Granted: I have different options for deposits from $25 up to $100.

Where does this notion come from? I had to explain to someone yesterday after he got all flustered that if I hosted, he would need to meet me out front of the hotel before I book it, if he’s going to want to meet without a deposit AND at my base rate: It’s like no…and I was using a hypothetical worst case scenario statement if I were to book a hotel that’s at least half decent for hosting this one client. Another scenario last week was the same where I was posting in a nearby town about a hour away, that I could offer appointments to. Client reaches out to me, calls me, leaves voicemail, texting he wants to meet: but then upon further discussion, even though he’s apparently hosting, he doesn’t want to because his “dog doesn’t like strangers”. It’s like, what the hell? So I would be driving that distance but I must also get a room to host? And on same day notice without a deposit at that (because some people love to tell me they’ve never had to pay one before…which I find is pointless to bring up because: if there’s only 1 or 2 ads in a small town, of course they wouldn’t. Those 1 or 2 you might of reached out to, don’t speak for every escort in the country) It’s not like I am hosting by default at all times. I also don’t want to imply I can’t host by saying no incalls or that I don’t host. But even if I say “hosting not always available” there’s always people who don’t read the ads and assume I am when I’m not.

I don’t disagree with you at all, and I’m glad you’re able to see both sides and relate. In the case of that particular person, I admit: I started off wrong from the get go by not following my own rules. A typical text goes something like this (and I don’t mind sharing game because the more people who adopt it, I think it will normalize conversations beyond “hi” and “yes I’m available ” and “rate?” and “400” which ultimately leads to: “that’s too much“.) How can they or I know what is too much, when nothing has been assessed? You want my rate for? An hour, 2 hours, overnight? Why not start the conversation by giving me something to work with: “Hi and welcome, I’m Jarrod. For your 1st contact, can you include some more details: Name/Age: City You’re In: Yours or My Place: Website Seen On: Also please confirm you have visited my site rates and details: www.xxx.com/appointments” Now I don’t normally go the route I did, but he came at me sideways and that created the fallout. All I asked is whether he read the ad. To get an attitude and make it seem like referring him to a menu is hard work, was uncalled for. A couple days after that message (this was like last month but I saved it to send to RentMen and tell them why it’s still a problem that they aren’t allowing us to put any sort of rate structure up, even if it’s something innocuous like “porn star travel fee”.), I had an epiphany: anybody who sits around and argues or demeans an escort online just because they don’t get it “their way”, is sad. And I feel bad for them that they have to do that to make themselves feel good. It’s not worth the time or energy. And I had like 2 clients do that around that time. Telling me I’m making it “too hard” to book. Meanwhile, clients all around are doing it with no trouble. So what’s the issue? It takes 5 minutes to answer a couple questions and send a deposit, 15 minutes if need to look at reviews and website. So yeah, I just had a moment in that instance and popped off. I shouldn’t have even responded considering it annoyed me from the get go. However, I found from an old number that I met with this person before, and I was holding his hand back then and he came at me. Sideways. So it’s like, some people don’t ever change… As much as I understand valuing clients: some people don’t need to be allowed additional chances to be an asshole. I’ve had this issue with clients in my area, regulars who give good money, but then show their asses every other time it’s time to book an appointment. It’s too much emotional labor dealing with them. Booking appointment doesn’t need to be a power struggle. You’re walking into someone’s (hypothetical) office, and trying to boss them around is not going to earn points. And I’ve learned that as a customer myself. Especially as a customer of color. People have talked rudely towards me more times than I can count. They’ll get attitude that I ask a question, or have a need, or especially if I ever say, “I’m going out of town tomorrow” like many clients do when trying to book a same day appointment. if they say, “come back tomorrow and we’ll help you out”. One employee I said that to, and he’s like: well why don’t you go to any of the other stores down the street and see if they can help you” in an annoyed tone. Even the client who contacted you: I wouldn’t deal with him again and I probably would have said something, or nothing. That’s an unreliable client who will keep doing the same shit until you pop off 🌋 on him.

Fact check: this is inaccurate. “Many clients” do not find payment in advance or a deposit to be considered awkward. I’ve been doing it for years, and to this day. Even the first time newbie clients have no issue and understand it. Clients have even said they agree with the concept of deposit also. The only ones I find who have an issue with deposit, are the hires who troll provider’s ads expecting it to be easy peasy to book. They enjoy making a provider feel as small as possible by doing as little as possible. They don’t want to put any effort: they don’t want to read, or share any info, or do anything constructive to ensure that there’s going to be compatibility. They just ask questions, without providing any sort of answer of their own. And last time I checked: that’s a one-sided conversation. And no, timewasters are not just people who ask 1 or 2 questions. Fact check again. Point in case: look at this idiot, my website is right in his face, all he has to do is click a couple things. It takes 0 physical exertion. You’ll spend less time reading my ad and website than browsing the entire listing in a particular city. So I told him: Funny how he refers to me as a hooker, the very thing he contacted for to begin with. More of a reflection on him than me🤦🏾‍♂️

What does this thread have to do with me? I appreciate the mention, but not sure why my name has to be brought up here. I left the forum weeks ago to focus on my business, so talking smack behind my back is uncalled for. That said, for as much as I bring up topics to discussion, I am also doing stuff about it and being pro-active: I get in contact with RentMen about my concerns, I write FAQS on my website, I direct clients to reviews, I actually get in the trenches and TALK to clients directly who may be in miscommunication (actually spent days back and forth with a potential client last month, he was being very hard to schedule, blaming me for miscommunication, etc.) now he’s a regular and we have so much fun. And that’s after I told him he owed me a cancellation fee, after he flaked even after sending me a deposit. He said once I said that, he started taking me seriously. And that’s the issue: many of these RentMen men don’t take us serious. Lot of this stuff we do gets psychological and I understand that. It’s not just about money, it’s about cracking heads open (figuratively) and getting people to understand each other’s view. Like one client was like, “I been scammed sending money upfront”. And I say: “and I get scammed every time a client says they’re going to pay me and then flakes out, which happens more than the 2 or 3 times it’s happened to you”. Hell…I just had a guy pose as a gay couple, saying he was going to book me: turns out it was some straight guy with a wife playing games. How can you be sure of that? What if legalization happens, and prices are driven down or regulated? Can you really predict the future? You’re getting too far ahead of things. You can’t assume an upward trend 📈 based on all things in general. And the real truth has been stated: sex worker incomes go up the slowest amongst industries. I can’t recall the exact resource, but it was mentioned that rates have mostly stagnates over the past 10-20 years. I know this for a fact because I been doing $150-$250 tiers since way back in 2018. My first booking on rentboy was $220. 2008. Fast forward: there are still some out there who feel anything over $200-$250 is too expensive. Meanwhile: I had someone tell me the other day I should be charging no less than $400. I decided that I want my full service sessions to be in the $275-$350 range. $200 and $250 doesn’t always cut the cost for overheads. I used to do that, and by the time I got the hotel in the city that I drove to see them: I’d only have $120-$200 actually made, unless I had someone else booked that day.

The problem with this is: guys have said $400 is too much and $300 is too much and $250 is too much and $150 is too much and anything that’s not free is too much. I am at the point to stop basing my rates on what guys think is “expensive”. I tell them yes, it’s expensive when I have to spend $350+deposit on a hotel to fuck in for a couple days. Like I did when I was in New Orleans last month. And FWIW, had a hot guy tell me I should be charging $400 minimum. And the week prior had another hot guy actually PAY ME $400. So yeah…life happens 🤷🏾‍♂️ However, $400 isn’t my rate or base rate. It’s great to have, but I’m from the old school 20 teens where $250 was porn star rates on RentBoy. So…I still feel $250-300 is a reasonable. HOWEVER #2: I have decided it’s time to start ADDING my deposit into “available now” bookings. So my session may be $400+ depending on the visit they go for. Getting ready and doing a booking short notice I feel deserves me a bit extra onto my rate.

I can’t speak on anyone in particular but: “sort of looks like photos” sounds very suspect. It reminds me years ago I was in Sarasota and a client had another escort to join. I was looking at the pics but the guy who came in was not it! The session went on anyway, but I just remember even I felt so awkward. How can somebody use someone else’s pics and just show up being someone else? Also seen ads run from a guy I knew personally from Washington DC, in San Jose California. And it’s been running for months. Probably still is. But I just notice though, the advertised guy seems to pop up in my market regularly. Idk why there’s so many coming into KC area but, there’s nothing here. Majority of the inquiries in the KC area are flakes or phonies, last minute cancel or just turn out to be impossible to schedule. That’s why I had to turn to deposits and screening, otherwise I would just sit around and have my time wasted round the clock.

One thing that’s hard currently: is pricing expectations to the rentmen, RentMasseur and adam4adam market. I find A4A clients can either be generous or WAAAY out of tune to prices. As in, they think $200 is enough for a massage, bareback *** and…get this: 2 HOURS. And then gaslight me if I ask for anything different. Like in the past week: one client was able to do $300 and another only $150. Yet the 150 guy wanted more than the 300 one. However I was able to come up with a compromise for both, which worked out. I also have to adjust my rates on A4A just a tad, because I been finding people don’t respond more than $200. I almost feel A4A is the “Groupon” of services in a way. Not verbatim but just many guys not attune to pricing. However, I won’t call them cheap or the site not worth it, because in some cities A4A outperforms RentMen and RentMasseur. It also seems the site was dying but, it seems to have made a rebound now that everyone has gotten used to their new platform. Initially I didn’t like it either, but now I really like it because it’s easy and efficient. But, people tend to get frustrated of website changes. Thats where I feel RentMen is now. I’m barely getting any clients from there lately. People couldn’t figure out the new version, and now it’s slowed down a lot. I tried the new version and it isn’t bad, it’s just not as laid out as the regular one. Then again, RentMen has always had a quirky layout that differed from others. But, they’re doing their best and are top right now; however I feel it’s experiencing it’s own “recession” because now I’m just getting spam and scam texts round the clock, and not many clients are contacting me from there lately in my home market (it’s only good when I use it for traveling). I put on my auto reply that I’m no longer responding to RM messenger inquiries or RM emails because I got sick and tired of people bullshitting me and playing games on email and messenger.

It varies. I’ve had many first timer overnights and long evenings. I find many gay guys (and not using that in a stereotypical or generalizing manner) tend to enjoy overnight and morning company. But certain clients also welcome a longer session. It just depends on the vibe and personality of the person. Some of my best encounters start as an evening or overnight.

https://www.jarrodbrandon.com/about

My website is connected to my Ads. Once they see that, the website is just an extension of what I offer. I don’t want to be 100% explicit about my services, because it’s a website. One has to get in touch with me and let me walk them thru. My business card is the same way. I don’t list rates, my face or descriptive service. It’s that way by design. I’m not trying to be explicit, rather: informative. These are my rates and levels: but it’s not going to necessarily be in your face descriptions.

Did I ask a question though? No: I just stated a comment. As I’ve said before: you don’t have to like what I post. In case you’re wondering, or if there’s any doubt in your mind: I’m not posting to appease to your tastes or say what you want to hear. There’s plenty other threads here to read. Why you feel a need to keep coming around to what I say, and trying to gaslight me into believing I have no reason to expect, ask or suggest better from people: is very narrow minded on your part. See your way out, please. Block me if you need to. I’m done talking with you.

Have you actually read my website? The stuff you’re talking about tier level service is offered there…

First of all: I wouldn’t be hitting anyone up on Grindr asking to pay me. That’s not even my style. I was posting a profile of someone who hit me up, first. I can’t continue arguing and explaining how hookup apps affect the industry indirectly, but I do understand the potential effects it has on business. I feel it’s most noticeable in smaller markets. In bigger cities, there’s usually enough diversity of men to offset that, but it’s not so much the case in certain markets. And in those areas, sometimes hookup apps is the only way to connect with men looking for sex. So, in those cases, it’s not out of the question to just post up and BE AVAILABLE to the POSSIBILITY of meeting a POTENTIAL client from that Avenue. I’ve done it before, many times. And I don’t hit them up, I wait for them to hit me up. That’s all I’m saying. No deep philosophical dissertation or debate needed. Just stating simple fact and observations.

I understand there are guys out there who may charge $250-$300 for a rub and tug. I’m not one of them. In fact my website on my signature lists 3 different sessions clients are able to choose from. I am able to decipher the difference between a rip off service and getting ones money worth. Someone may say I’m expensive, but when I’m spending minimum $300 for gas, hotel, etc etc on a trip (and let’s face it, that’s just doing the minimum, I know many client’s hotels cost that much per night) if I only get 1 client at my base session of $175-$200: that’s barely EVEN breaking even. And if were to charge say: $100: that would assume I would get at least 3 clients to show up to equal $300. I can tell you right now, as I’ve said to the above poster: I’ve offered clients sessions like this and they still don’t show up. So, lowering the price just because someone else thinks I should, is not a solution. And you can’t necessarily say to me: if someone thinks it’s too expensive it is. In case there’s any doubt: I get plenty of clients booking at my prices. It just varies based on location, website and individual preferences. Hell, one of my clients told me about a guy he hired for $60. But he still pays me $300. So…what’s the compromise here? There is non. I’ve said it previously: answering questions isn’t an issue. It’s how someone chooses to ask them. It can be done without putting someone down or devaluing their service.

I understand that. I’ll be the first to admit: I engage in non hired sex from time to time. For me, I need that to balance the dichotomy between the 2. I’ve said that before. In fact, just did it yesterday. But, it wasn’t as candid as just coming over to somebody with nothing more than sex as the purpose. It’s somebody who’s also open to chat, watch TV, spend the night, cuddle, etc. I’m not putting everybody under an umbrella saying that if they don’t pay, they’re cheap. I’m talking specially about general hooking up. There are guys out there looking for free sex: but their parameters are alongside something you’d seek an escort for. Like in the example I posted: he goes from saying he likes hung men, to he’s not going to give dollars. That’s CHEAP. He’s not saying, “I like guys who enjoy watching tv and are interested in a boyfriend”. He went straight to describing a person’s endowment, and then adding in his profile that he’s not going to pay for it. That’s a cheapskate. PERIOD. Nothing you can say to change that. I didn’t ask him for money, he volunteered on his profile not to pay money. He could have said all that and left that out, and I would have said: “he knows what he wants”.

It is a thrift store. People are looking for free sex. I see it all the time. The ads are all about not wanting to pay. It’s a gay flea market. What’s offensive about that? Lol. Now, if people were actually looking to date and find romance…no sex expected, I could see how that would be offensive. But majority on there are not: they are looking for quick, cheap, easy flings. Without any money involved. Not because they are trying to save money like Dollar Tree or GoodWill, but because they are cheap. Mind you: I’m not trying to say every guy on the apps is that mindset. But majority are. I’m actually trying to understand your point. You just mentioned a situation about guys hooking up for free multiple times a week. What does that have to do with me? If that’s what you want to do…go ahead and do it. I’m not necessarily comparing Grindr guy to Grindr guy. I’m moreso saying in a bigger scheme of things: Grindr is doing a better job attracting freebie hookups, than RentMen is attracting paying customers. It’s just a fact. I know this because I work in the big markets and the small markets. I’ll sit at a hotel and have nothing all day long waiting for RM clients, but will get on Grindr and my messages are filled to the brim (granted with majority flakes and freebies). I’m just making a statement. I’m not in any way condoning or suggesting hookup apps are better source for escorting or clients. I’m just saying what the traffic is like.

I get that…but again I’m talking in general, not just one person. When I look at the bigger picture, I believe hookup apps still play a partial role in the level of biz. I get what you’re saying, but I’m just going based on facts and what I see. I could easily say: “I’ll never go on those apps”. But it’s better to be in the know, than to not know at all. And I know for a fact, a lot of potential, past and current clients have used or are using those apps. I would be lying if I said, “no client has ever mentioned Grindr to me before”. They have. They aren’t ignorant. I’m not saying it’s dooms day, but I am saying: it has an EFFECT to a DEGREE on the level of business. I should be very busy with lots of calls in Kansas City. Heck, I went out to the store yesterday and got 2 compliments on my beard, and it wasn’t from gay men. I know it’s not necessarily something “wrong” with me, but instead: a bigger force that I can’t always compete against. Not to mention, the already increasing “competition” on the rent websites. It’s only so many times I can sit and blame myself, and take other people’s advice: before realizing and understanding sometimes the issue is bigger than me. I can go on Grindr and get dozens of hookup offers, and they’ll wait to book me in advance: long as it’s free. I can find them in big cities and small towns. My “complaints” (as some people like to lower them to) on the forum are not about a lack of sex. It’s the system. I feel like there was a sweet spot in the number of booking I was getting during the heights of Covid, and now it’s fizzled out. I have heard other sex workers say the same, that they were busier during Covid than they are now.

The “gripe” that I have isn’t with the advice given: it’s the presentation. I’ve said this before. Ask yourself: are you really invested in helping, or do you just want to nitpick and see me shut up? That’s the thing. You aren’t coming to me in a helpful or constructive manner, you’re using demeaning, belittling, and condescending tone to get me to submit and scare me off from sharing the truth. That’s the problem, and that’s why we don’t see eye to eye. You also keep using general language and answers that is incorrect. Such as: “that’s why I don’t get any clients, or claiming I reject everyone’s advice”. You rarely come to me with respect and understanding, you come at me throwing flares: and that’s why I will never agree to your assessments. You come with a bitchy, sarcastic tone in every reply…and I can’t respect you for that. I know I’m spending way more time than any escort would arguing with you, but part of my duty to create a better hiring space, is talking to people like you: who can’t aren’t cognitive to the behavior and treatment of sex workers that doesn’t better the industry. Do you ever just agree with anything I post? You always have to come trying to prove me wrong or correct me. Everything you saying I do, you are doing exactly that. You literally make an argument out of everything I post.

This is a great strategy. I always feel a day or 2 isn’t too far in advance but, it also gives enough time to “catch them while they’re still horny”.