Jamie21

Well at the moment the bidding starts at a Gulfstream650 by @Oaktown. ?

You should be clear with clients about your role though. I think they’ll be reluctant to book if you say you’re a bottom but will top. Be a clear bottom or clear top. If you’re uncertain about whether you can top in a professional capacity maybe try it with non client partners first. I’d say also that ideally you need to be above average size if you’re going to top. Most clients go for big boys lol.

I never wear cockrings with clients. I wear one sometimes doing yoga but that’s a different story!! I don’t have a problem getting hard or staying hard but if I’m doing a filming session (I make massage porn) and I know I’ll need to be hard for 3 sessions (we tend to film a few massage videos in a day) then I’ll take half a viagra pill just to be sure. But generally I don’t like to use it. I think if you wear a cockring it can help to keep you hard but don’t wear it for too long. In my experience if you get anxious about staying hard then you’re likely to struggle to stay hard...it’s often all in the mind. I’d suggest having a dildo available. It will give you confidence that if you didn’t stay hard you can use the dildo on your client until you are hard again. Just by having the dildo there it will reduce your anxiety and therefore you’ll stay hard...see what I mean? Find ways to reduce the anxiety about going soft and you’ll discover that the problem goes away. It’s better than using viagra or cockrings.

I think this is true. Many guys advertising as versatile are bottoms who only top on the third Wednesday in a month without an R in it. In my experience tops are rare, and hung tops especially rare. Which is good for me as a hung top lol.

Ah well then if you’re from Brazil then you know. My club is QPR...who are not in the Champions League!!!

Yes but it’s called football.....just sayin’ :-)

Maybe, it’s under the blog. Click on blog, and then Z to A of sensual massage. Here https://sensualtouchco.com/?p=433 cheers Jamie

Checks passport...starts packing.

Thank you! Please send first class tickets on BA (I only fly BA) and I’ll make a visit to the US. It is one of my top favourite places to visit. I’ve been many times. There’s more stories about sensual massage on my blog on my website sensualtouchco.com All of them from my experience working as a masseur and in the sex industry. I hope you like them.

I can’t remember!! I think the worry of his daughter walking in just made me forget his cock.

That reminds of a time I visited a client on an outcall. He’d told me he had mild Parkinson’s and a massage helped him with the condition. He seemed a really nice guy. I made sure he knew what style of massage I did (sensual/erotic) and he confirmed that this is what he wanted. So I arrive at his place and he shows me to the room. As I went into the room a small girl, about age 10 was in there doing what looked like her homework. My client was Russian I think and he spoke to her in Russian, I assume to ask her to leave because she packed up and left the room. This was a little disconcerting for me but I started to set up my table. I asked him if he’d had a sensual massage before because I wanted to make absolutely sure he knew it was a naked massage and included happy ending etc. He confirmed he knew and was happy. I assumed the girl was his daughter and that maybe he couldn’t sort out childcare. So as I set up and stripped down to my pants I asked him if we’d be disturbed atall (I really didn’t want any kids coming in) because he hadn’t locked the door. He said no it’s fine. So we started. He’d booked 90 minutes and for the first half hour I kept my pants on just in case someone came in. I could hear talking and walking around coming from upstairs. After half hour I took off my pants because he was starting to touch my cock. So the massage progresses and he seems to enjoy me paying attention to his hole etc. He turns over and I see he’s hard. He asks me to cum on his chest so I shoot and then suck him off to finish. Fortunately without any interruptions. He then pays, puts his clothes back on (I didn’t even clean off the cum) and I start to pack up. He tells me it was great and he really enjoyed it. As I’m leaving via the hallway a woman comes down the stairs with the daughter, who says “mummy what is that?” as she points at the massage table I’m carrying out. The woman says “it’s a massage table, the man has been massaging daddy”. I just couldn’t get away fast enough...I’ve never been back.

Yes they are. What I mean is, not attracted to a client because they’re not the type of guy you’d hookup with in a non work situation but you find something you really like about the client (there’s always something, his cock, smile, nipples, voice etc) and give him a great time as if he’s your most attractive date. They’d not know that in a non work situation you probably wouldn’t have hooked up. It’s a good thing to do generally actually because it opens your mind (in a non escort situation) to the innate sexuality and attraction of all sorts of different guys. I’ve had clients who if I saw them in a bar I wouldn’t be attracted but then during the client’s session it turned out they were fantastic and the session was explosive.

Dame Vigorous Fluffing, mistress of the bell end.

Yes, a lot of restaurants automatically include a service charge as part of the bill, which is usually 10% so you don’t need to add a tip as well unless you’re being extra generous. If you’re in London in summer and you happen to visit a certain masseur...ahem...then the tip can be considerably more than 10% though. Just saying

Any amount is welcome and there’s no expectation. But even more welcome is booking again, recommendations and gifts. A client once sent me a couple of pairs of expensive sexy pants (underwear for Americans here) because he knew I liked them. That was fantastic. Another client invited me to his club which was interesting. In the UK tipping is much less prevalent than the US and is usually around 10%.

I think I’ll be strict now: If they flake on me once, I give them a second chance. If they flake twice then it’s either no more bookings or they pay full price up front. And flaking is cancelling on the day or just no showing. Cancelling the day before is ok, things happen.

You’re so right, it’s always worth reminding myself that visiting me or any other provider must be pretty daunting for someone who’s never done anything like it before. For me seeing clients is fairly routine but I guess from their perspective it’s a big thing and takes a lot of courage. It’s good to be reminded of their perspective - thanks!!

I’m a masseur. I ask my clients if they want music. It can help drown out any street noises and add to the ambience. I sometimes pace my routine by the music. When I do outcalls I take a Bluetooth speaker and have a playlist but the client can play his list if he wants. I agree with Wanderoz about no sound allowing you to synchronise breathing. I try to get my clients breathing synchronised with mine and obviously can watch their diaphragm raise and fall so silence isn’t needed. But it’s really important for connection to synchronise a slow deep breathing pattern especially at the start. Great observation by Wanderoz. I remember a lovely US client saw me at his hotel when he was visiting London. He always liked to leave the TV on with news playing. It didn’t distract me but was unusual. That’s an issue with hotel visits; noise from the corridor or other rooms. When I see female clients in hotels though it can be the opposite problem. Females can get very noisy when close to orgasm. I’ve had some knowing looks from hotel staff in the corridor when leaving my clients room because of the noise that was being made during the session. Often the client is unaware she was making loud noises. So now I try to play louder music for these sessions.

Yes I agree, I try to understand the nervous guys and to reassure them. I forget how difficult it can be making an exploration of your sexual desires. But I wish they’d only book once they’re sure!

Definitely agree with Jarrod. I never understand it. I’ll get a text asking if I’m available for a massage on x date /time. I reply quickly with details of my availability and then.....nothing. No response not even a message saying “I changed my mind”. Why do that?? I’m professional, I have a website, I take my work seriously, I prepare for clients, I make myself available, I cancel personal appointments all to accommodate a client’s request....then as happened today my client who booked yesterday messaged an hour before the time to cancel. I understand things happen, but an hour before the time? I believe in a lot of these situations the client has just changed their mind or got cold feet. It’s very disappointing. Other times I’ve had a client book a couple of weeks in advance. Lots of messages went back and forth to make the booking. Including details of what he wanted. I messaged him the day before to confirm (as I always do) and he replies by saying “oh sorry I forgot mate, I’ve got something else booked now”. So I guess had I not checked he’d have just not turned up and I’d be waiting with everything ready. Why book it if you then aren’t so interested that you even note it in your diary? Even worse, I had a request for a 4 hands with a masseuse and me. The client had specific requests which I was able to meet by contacting one of the masseuses I work with. She made arrangements for the date, so did I. It took a lot of time to schedule it and find the right masseuse. Then, the day before the client cancelled because of “issues at home”. Fortunately he did agree to pay to cover the costs my masseuse incurred (she was travelling a long way for the session) which was decent of him. But the worse thing is all the time wasted. I think there’s an attitude that sex workers time is unimportant and we can be treated with disregard. If something better comes up they choose to either cancel at short notice or just not turn up. I definitely value my clients who book and do turn up, they get great service. I’ve learned the signs that indicate whether someone is unlikely to turn up. If they book and don’t show up I’ll never book them again. If they cancel last minute without genuine reason they’ll also never get a booking again.

Yes indeed words matter. He’d send messages using words like “love” and “we are brothers”. I couldn’t respond in the same terms. Very difficult indeed to let him down without hurting his feelings.

Yes I think some might do that. I got the impression my guy wasn’t wealthy and he was younger than me. It wasn’t a retirement opportunity and to be honest I don’t think I could have kept up with him. He’d usually cum three times in a session. That’s no retirement!

I had a client fall in love with me, well I say love but I think he was just infatuated. I was the first guy he ever had sex with and I think after about 5 visits I could tell he was becoming obsessed and it wasn’t a healthy provider / client relationship. I’d get lots of messages from him saying how much I meant to him etc. It became really difficult to manage and I think I should have been a bit more blunt at the beginning to say I didn’t feel the same way but he was really nice and I didn’t want to hurt his feelings. I couldn’t say “look this is a transaction, I like you but I only have sex with you because you’re paying me” which is of course true but very difficult to say when someone is infatuated and reads the passionate sex for more than it is. I started to distance myself by being unavailable when he wanted to book, and not engaging much with his messages. Eventually the contact reduced and fortunately he moved abroad but I still get the occasional message. Since I started doing sex work it’s the single most difficult thing I had to deal with and I really don’t think I know how to deal with a similar situation if it happens again. We all want clients to feel attractive and desired but it’s so easy for a client who may be looking for a relationship to confuse that professional response for genuine attraction and a willingness to start a relationship.

If my client is horny it makes me horny.

Bring it on!!