CuriousByNature

She did quite a bit in her life. I would hardly call her a lazy B.

Not a good couple of weeks for elderly, prominent Americans. Rosalynn Carter gone at 96, Henry Kissinger at 100, and now Sandra Day O'Connor at 93...

If hiring a legal professional seems beyond affordability, you might want to contact a local law school and see if any law student organizations provide legal assistance as low/no fee services. Also, don't rule out contacting social workers who can put you in touch with appropriate advisors and support networks.

Maybe it comes with $109,900 inside it.

If you feel you have a calling for politics or public service, try not to let your past choices determine your future possibilities. While I imagine the road could be very difficult, if you have the inner strength to navigate the public criticisms and judgements, then I would encourage you to follow your dreams. And if holding public office does not become a reality, your lived experiences could probably help you become very successful in advocacy work.

I would only buy a $300K car if I was able to to drive it through the poorest part of town and not feel incredibly guilty for spending that kind of money on a vehicle - when in reality I could have spent less than $50K on a new car AND used the balance to help a lot of people in challenging situations.

Hmmm... wasn't that one of Dame Vera Lynn's big hits? Or maybe I'm thinking of, "There'll be blue balls over the white cliffs of Dover" and "We'll beat again, don't know where, don't know when"?

But his early ancestors likely made barrels.

I like the idea of a handwritten note, but I know it would sit on my counter for weeks waiting to be mailed. So I use email most of the time.

So you've never seen a sexy spleen, or a gorgeous gall bladder? I've been told I have a medulla oblongata that could stop traffic. And don't get me started about the lower lobe of my left lung.

Did you arrive by Tardis?

Beautiful on the outside, and even more beautiful on the inside. And I don't mean her pancreas.

So... the most endowed

Those guys also do your windows

Yakuza beads? Geesh, they implant tiny Japanese gangsters under the skin? What a way to go...

I was on a ship that was moving from the Caribbean to the Med for summer, and another time on one that was going from the Med to the Caribbean for the winter season. You can get good deals on these cruises, and the transatlantic ones are usually 12-15 days long because you normally stop for a day in either the Azores or Madeira, sometimes the Canary Islands, and then a few ports in Europe. As for my position at the end of the cruise, I was clinging to the balcony rail because I didn't want to leave the ship and have the trip come to an end.

I imagine the northern route could be like that, weather wise. I've done crossings from Florida to the Med on other lines, and surprisingly, the oceans have always been pretty smooth and the weather has been warm enough to sit out on the balcony in shorts. These were repositioning cruises in the mid spring and mid fall.

Wondering why ghee would not be appropriate in this recipe? Is it a taste issue?

And spinach

I know this probably seems weird, but instead of thinking "why is this happening to me?", I TRY to approach it as, "why not me?" Why am I so special that I would expect this challenge to pass me by, when others have also had to deal with it?

You know what it's like to be a caregiver - you know the fatigue, the worry, the loneliness of it. In your kindness it's clear that you do not want to be a 'burden' on anyone, but in a sense, you're generosity of heart may inadvertently stand in the way of allowing others to extend graciousness towards you. I mean this in the best possible way and I apologize in advance if anything comes across as judgemental. It can be easy for caregivers, especially those who may not have an avenue for venting their own pain and frustrations, to want to protect others from a similar caregiving situation when it comes to needing care yourself. It isn' easy. But I would only hope that your spouse's family loves you, and would want to see you safe and secure in your later years. If that isn't practical for whatever reason, I would suggest speaking with a social worker sooner than later. Let them know your situation and your concerns - they have seen it all. It's invaluable having an advocate who knows the ins and outs of the system and has the resources and time to be of assistance. In Canada we have tiered senior's care at some residences, with sections for those who essentially live independently, and other sections for those who need to transition into supportive living (often with a bug bump in monthly fees, of course). More and more jurisdictions are coming to realize the importance of aging in place, and the 'continuum of care' approach to elder care. There may also be other resources available through local churches or senior centres. In any case, I know you are not seeking praise, but as a dedicated care giver, you are an unsung hero, and I sincerely hope everything works out well for you and your spouse.

One of the best photos you've posted, IMHO.