CuriousByNature

Completely off topic, but when I quickly glanced at your name I thought it was 'Osteoporosisboy'... there are meds that can help with that. LOL

That would be terrifying...

Very true. And it can be scary. I think in my 40s I reached the point where my indignation about the state of the world and my defiance cancelled out the fear I may have had. And now that I am within weeks of turning 50, I feel even more emboldened by realizing I probably only have another 60 or 70 years left.

There's a difference between a phobia or irrational fear and trying to constantly protect oneself. I stopped worrying about 'what might happen' when traveling because I realized when your time is up, your time is up. Everything we do has some level of risk attached - even staying at home. So I would rather travel and potentially live a shorter life if an accident were to happen, than stay at home 'safe and sound' and regret all the things I sacrificed along the way. For me it would be a sacrifice, but for others, perhaps not.

Those sound like some pretty serious injuries for someone that age. Did the report mention anything about racing near train tracks and getting hit by the train?

So.... what did you end up doing?

Some attachments can be pretty scary... and others are less serious but still hard to shake.

I would recommend posting those everywhere - each forum and all of our personal inboxes But in all seriousness, perhaps in either The Lounge, Questions About Hiring, Public Galleries or here in the Deli? Maybe the Deli would provide the most exposure and opportunities for feedback.... just a thought.

I could only hope someone would be that interested! Not even by my cat... LOL

Cancer sucks. I don't know what type of brain cancer he has, but I have known a few people who had glioblastomas and didn't make it through one year after diagnosis. It's been more that 3 years for Jessie, and I really hope his outcome is different, whatever type of cancer it is. So young and seemingly so healthy - we shouldn't take our time for granted.

This guy may disagree...

Hello all, I'm not sure if this is the correct forum for this question, but does anyone have an update on Jessie and his health situation? I think it was about three years ago that he posted on social media that he was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer, and there was a GoFundMe to help cover his medical expenses. I have never met him but I reached out at the time through his RM ad to see how he was holding up, and he was incredibly kind and seemed to appreciate the care people had been showing him. I reached out again several months ago to see how his treatment was progressing, but have never heard back. His RM ad is still active though, and the last review was October 2022. Does anyone know how he might be faring? Here is a link to the ad: Jessiecolter - Pornstar Performer, Rentboy, Gay Massage in St. Petersburg, FL | RentMen RENTMEN.EU Pornstar Performer & Rentboy in St. Petersburg, FL - Jessiecolter: Jessie Colter *CONTACT DIRECTLY BY TEXT ONLY*

Sadly, Canada is really on fire this year. Every province and territory has been affected, and I read that the total area burned so far is close to the size of Illinois (150,000 square kilometers).

In most of Canada the winters are very harsh compared to many parts of the USA. But perhaps more than the temperatures, the short hours of daylight north of the 49th parallel can wreak havoc on those with seasonal affective disorder. The west coast is pretty mild, but I remember living there and seeing the entire city of Vancouver paralyzed when two inches of snow would fall. And summers out there can start in May and last through September, so not short at all. But you still have to deal with gloomy rainy skies for days on end during fall, winter and spring, and that can get depressing. That is a good time of year to escape for a couple of weeks now and then - assuming one can afford to travel after paying the ridiculous cost of housing in Greater Vancouver!

Yes, I have waited almost 18 months for a specialist appointment myself, and I know people who have waited almost 2 years for a consult regarding hip surgery. In one case the poor guy was diagnosed with terminal and aggressive pancreatic cancer after waiting a year to see the hip surgeon, and he was taken off the wait list because he wouldn't live long enough to have the hip surgery itself. Others have died after waiting 20+ hours to see a doctor in hospital ERs, and I know of at least one person who had a suspected stroke in a care facility and waited several hours at the ER before being seen. This is why numerous people from Canada go to other countries for elective treatment in Asia, Eastern Europe, and Latin America. Any attempts at providing alternatives for those with the means to pay privately here in Canada are almost always quashed, because there is nothing holier in Canada than universal health care, even if that means universal suffering with wait times and inefficiencies. If you have decent health insurance and live in the USA, I think you are far better off than many Canadians - and particularly those with complex care needs.

Here in Canada our medical system is in a sorry state. While we don't face financial ruin if we become ill, it's nearly impossible to find a family doctor or GP, let alone get regular physical exams that are anything but superficial. In my case I was very lucky. But first I had to broaden my horizons with respect to healthcare, which led to me visiting a clinic down the street from me. The doctor is competent and friendly and even rubs my head playfully when I walk in. And the big bonus is the new flea collar I'm given after each visit.

I know it has been mentioned frequently in other threads, and this comment is not to refute or challenge your post/opinion in any way, but there is a risk in assuming that a provider's written status is accurate. But I get your point

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Exactly - age is in the mindset, not the label.

Any time that heavy rain is forecast in Vancouver, my aunt calls and tells me they're expecting an 'atmospheric river'. When I was a kid, we had light rain, moderate rain, and heavy rain. The media likes to make things much more dramatic, and I'm waiting for the day that she calls and tells me that a 'climate tsunami' is on its way. She also calls any two days in a row with temps above 25C (78F) a 'heat dome'... lol.

In Canada, 65 is when the majority of people start to collect their 'old age' pensions, and I think traditionally 65 was considered 'elderly'. And for a long time there wasn't much of a stigma attached to it. Now it seems nobody wants to be considered elderly, as if it's a bad thing - it doesn't have to have a negative connotation attached. I would be happy to be considered elderly at 65, as long as I am a healthy and active elderly person. Ultimately it's just a word, and people give it the weight they want to according to their own feelings and biases. I read somewhere that 65 is being called 'late-middle age', which kind of made me laugh. 70 was pre-senior, 75 was senior, 80 was late senior, 85 was pre-elderly, 90 was elderly, and 95+ was late elderly. LOL. Its just a bunch of words to help us all deny the fact that we age... though sadly, some never get that chance, and knowing this has helped me be thankful for each additional year.

As someone who can be very directionally challenged (I have sometimes been unable to find my car in an almost empty parking lot), I know first hand that people can get lost or misguided. For that reason I try to give myself an extra 15 minutes anytime I am going somewhere unfamiliar, and prior to GPS, I would try to drive there a day or two ahead of time to check the route and make sure I could find the place on the appropriate day. Even those of us who have issues with getting lost have little excuse to do so if we take other people's time seriously, and take the onus to be on time.

So just like J.S. Bach, your personal experience is that Jesu is the joy of man's desiring?