CuriousByNature

And spinach

I know this probably seems weird, but instead of thinking "why is this happening to me?", I TRY to approach it as, "why not me?" Why am I so special that I would expect this challenge to pass me by, when others have also had to deal with it?

You know what it's like to be a caregiver - you know the fatigue, the worry, the loneliness of it. In your kindness it's clear that you do not want to be a 'burden' on anyone, but in a sense, you're generosity of heart may inadvertently stand in the way of allowing others to extend graciousness towards you. I mean this in the best possible way and I apologize in advance if anything comes across as judgemental. It can be easy for caregivers, especially those who may not have an avenue for venting their own pain and frustrations, to want to protect others from a similar caregiving situation when it comes to needing care yourself. It isn' easy. But I would only hope that your spouse's family loves you, and would want to see you safe and secure in your later years. If that isn't practical for whatever reason, I would suggest speaking with a social worker sooner than later. Let them know your situation and your concerns - they have seen it all. It's invaluable having an advocate who knows the ins and outs of the system and has the resources and time to be of assistance. In Canada we have tiered senior's care at some residences, with sections for those who essentially live independently, and other sections for those who need to transition into supportive living (often with a bug bump in monthly fees, of course). More and more jurisdictions are coming to realize the importance of aging in place, and the 'continuum of care' approach to elder care. There may also be other resources available through local churches or senior centres. In any case, I know you are not seeking praise, but as a dedicated care giver, you are an unsung hero, and I sincerely hope everything works out well for you and your spouse.

One of the best photos you've posted, IMHO.

I thought in the context of this forum it was "in my horny opinion"

I do not really enjoy my work... but at least I have a job that supports me, while many people do not. I sometimes struggle with being 50 years old... but I know there are many people who don't live to see this age. I see others who have much nicer clothes... but at least I've never had to go without shoes, pants or a warm winter coat. I'd like to live in a nice house like other people I know... but at least my modest apartment provides a safe, secure roof over my head, while many others face living in shelters, or on the streets. I do not possess a face that makes hearts flutter... but I am blessed with eyes that work, ears that hear, a nose that can smell, and a tongue that can speak. I often see people driving in cars worth more than $100K... but at least I have a vehicle that gets me safely from point A to point B, while many others must rely on public transit. I don't have a body that would make anyone horny... but at least my body functions properly, while many people struggle to live with illnesses and disability. I would love to eat lobster or filet mignon regularly... but at least I always get three square meals a day, while many others have to rely on food banks and soup kitchens. There is always something we can be thankful for. Always.

Foggy Bottomland?

I'm surprised by the assertion that she was black. I understand that Nubia had ruled Egypt for around a century, and about 600 years before Cleopatra. But I thought she was a Ptolemy, and descended from a Macedonian companion of Alexander the Great? Contemporary representations of her and her immediate ancestors give no indication of a sub-Saharan genetic connection. That said, I think it is ridiculous for a country to sue a production company over how an ancient figure is portrayed.

Not sure what the obvious would be, but regardless, what's written in an advertisement cannot be guaranteed to be 100% truthful. Ultimately a client needs to protect themselves according to the level of risk they are willing to assume, and not based on what a stranger says about their health status or medications.

Final season? That's too bad.

I suppose it could be helpful to those who may have an addiction to pornography, though therapy is likely more effective than guilt.

100% And if the style is attractive to you, that's the icing on the cake.

I visited her house where she hid Jewish refugees in WWII, before she and her family were taken to the concentration camps as well. A real hero.

How terribly sad that he felt suicide was the only alternative. RIP

And because the Mayflower was a month late arriving at Plymouth Rock, having spent October in Nova Scotia eating lobster suppers.

I hope he has good medical insurance.

Who is the mystery man?

Maybe send him a telegram?

The chocolate cakes with the creamy filling, or something else with a creamy filling?

I think the difference between living happily and living joyfully comes down to whether or not we strive to be grateful in the circumstances we find ourselves in. The important distinction is being thankful IN a given situation, not necessarily FOR a particular situation. We all face many things in our lives that we would not wish on our worst enemies, and while we may not be thankful for those things, we can still try to remember things to be grateful for despite our present circumstances. When the world seems to be swallowing me up for whatever reason, I have found that recounting various blessings I have experienced over the years to be an anchor that stops me from drifting further into despair. It's easy to compare ourselves to those who seem to have everything we would want for ourselves, but it's more difficult to think of those people who have things much worse than what we have ever suffered. I believe perspective is really important. And as cliche as it may sound, loving others is also key. Not simply loving someone because they have deserved or somehow earned our love, or loving them because we want something from them. But instead, loving others simply because you want the very best for the other person - no strings attached - even if they could never hope to deserve it. Love as a proactive extension of yourself in creating good, not as a reactive response to something good you have benefitted from.